posted February 29, 2012 01:14 PM            

i just get really enthusiastic (in general) and i'm goofy, easily excitable, etc. sag rising exaggeration and all, if i gave the impression i'm in love with him or something. i'm not.

i'm in love with someone else anyway and i keep trying to repress it or deny it but it never goes away.

i really was just curious what astrologically would account for our dynamic and this situation and was trying to give context. i think everything happens for a reason and this has given me a little more faith in loveability. pretty cheeseball but true. also for whatever reason the realization (again) that a woman's mars, at least in my case, is so relevant. i think i got excited cuz his sun and merc are on my mars and in *theoretically* imagining a relationship based in isolating that particular feeling.. maybe it's especially strong in my case since the ruler of my DC is exactly conjunct my mars..

i have a massive crush on an aquarian that feels *similar* to this particular energy whose sun is also on my mars.

i write a lot -and try to hone it down believe it or not!- because i am a gem DC (probably). the area of relating always gives me much to ponder and 'think through'.

i totally get where the cautioning tones are coming from and i was feeling exasperated last night since off the bat my intentions seemed to be misinterpreted (and a similar thing was happening on another thread too and i'm pretty empathic so was already feeling that) but believe me that this isn't an issue. i am the MOST LOYAL person i know. half my chart is fixed and taurus moon is immovable.

but yeah, i'm sort of fascinated by all things neptune probably because my SN is pisces and neptune is on my AC in my twelfth.. i've never experienced mars/neptune and it seemed really odd that he has these super strong feelings when i just feel/felt a general ambivalence and sense of reservation around him (although we did also have a ton of fun, but that didn't really change my vague hesitance).

also, ftr, i don't mind having my brain or intentions challenged, but i hope no one else will feel the need to either assume my intentions are bad or assert that thoughts in and of themselves are immoral. i believe in thoroughly considering *why* things happen and all pertinent emotions and thoughts around the things that effect us and that is what works for me. i also believe that things happen for a reason and that allowing one's mind and emotions to stretch in such ways assists in growth. maybe that is because i'm super fixed so stagnancy is my default in many areas of my life, and/or maybe it's my sag rising which always needs to explore and learn. regardless i'm not sorry i'm contemplating this entire situation.

posted February 29, 2012 05:05 PM            

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it's kind of almost a repulsion or something (that is not really physical per se but is not really grounded in much cuz he's a really good guy), but i'm not sure why. maybe that has more to do with our venus pluto square.

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That makes sense. Actually the only time in my life when I was in a similar situation - he had his Venus exactly conjunct my Pluto.
I was with my ex at the time and the Venus guy ^ told me he had been in love with me for the past 5 yrs (which was since he had met me). As much as I cared about him as a friend - I just didn't see him the same way & my ex was in the picture. He became depressed, after I rejected him, and other sad things happened. He wasn't eating, sleeping - didn't want to go out, threatened suicide. So basically I was always with him - even if we weren't together and even if I wasn't in love with him.. because I was so worried about him. His behaviour was at least partially manipulative. I hope your guy won't do anything 'crazy' like that.

posted February 29, 2012 05:06 PM            

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Taken is taken is taken.

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posted February 29, 2012 05:07 PM            

But I have to say - you social-sign people take this 'social norm' business a bit too seriously sometimes.

posted February 29, 2012 06:33 PM            

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Originally posted by Betty Boop:
If he is truly in love with someone else.. emotionally he has already left.

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posted February 29, 2012 06:45 PM            

Are you telling me that if you had a guy frd who you find is in love with you and you whom you have feelings for, you would consider getting involved even if the guy's not single? I would never. Getting cheated on is really damaging and I wouldn't want to be partially responsible for inflicting that onto anyone.

posted February 29, 2012 06:56 PM            

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Originally posted by mintgirl123:
Regardless of sb's feelings for their partner, if they haven't broken it off, they are still in a relationship. -_-

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posted February 29, 2012 06:56 PM            

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Originally posted by Betty Boop:
I love social signs - because I lack them in my chart so I do attract them a lot!

But I have to say - you social-sign people take this 'social norm' business a bit too seriously sometimes.

Disclaimer:
I am not saying 'cheating is ok'. I am just saying - things happen in life.. many many different things. If this guy is already unhappy with his partner, he'll probably break up anyway.
'Taken' is only taken until one person leaves. If he is truly in love with someone else.. emotionally he has already left.

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posted February 29, 2012 07:09 PM            

If you post any topic in a public place you can expect to see people forming judgements [good and bad] and expressing their opinions.

You can't tell people to not have an opinion, there's no rule here that says you have to agree all the time.

posted February 29, 2012 07:17 PM            

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Originally posted by VenusDiSirius:
The problem is that ethnics demand one solution.

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posted February 29, 2012 07:17 PM            

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if you had a guy frd who you find is in love with you and you whom you have feelings for, you would consider getting involved even if the guy's not single?

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I would want him to tell her that he is in love with someone else.. so they can either choose to get counselling or sort things out in some way (if they still want to try to make it work).... or - He can decide to be with me.

But if he chose to continue his relationship, pretending it is 'all good' with his gf, whilst claiming to be in love with *me*... and possibly lying to both of us - I'd be strongly put off. I'd fall out of love at that point.

Anyway - this is not woah's situation.. because she does not love him back. I feel like this is his own problem. If he is in a relationship that is not working, and he is in love with another person... then he really shouldn't go on with it.

posted February 29, 2012 07:25 PM            

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Do the respectable thing and talk to the person you're with first, separate if the feelings are that strong.

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This would've been a better way to handle things. But I don't want to judge as I don't know them personally or the overall situation.

posted February 29, 2012 07:25 PM            

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Originally posted by dysfunctionalmystic:
Freudian slip?

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posted February 29, 2012 07:28 PM            

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Originally posted by teasel:
I feel the same way as mintgirl, and I'm neither a Republican nor a Democrat.

Oh. you edited as I was posting!

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I shouldn't have said anything political. That was unnecessary.

I'm not saying mintgirl or anybody's opinions are wrong. I'm not mad at their opinions directly. I know that. I'm simply highly frustrated that someone doesn't have the freedom of asking what was (originally) an astrological question without needing to repeat and explain her intentions over and over. I don't understand why a bunch of strangers care so much to give their unsolicited opinion (about the frickin' "taken" business) other than to reliving their own past where they were the mistress and it turned out badly, or they got cheated on, or whatever. There's no need to remind someone of what she obviously already knows. She flat out said it in the original post. He's taken. Big whoopty do. And? There's a war in Syria too. Repeating it and giving your two cents on what to do and "how to cope" with a taken man is helping absolutely nobody other than whomever feels the need to beat a dead horse in order to feel like Dudley Do Right or something.