posted March 01, 2012 05:36 PM            

"I really don't like these people. These people bore me. Why am I here at all? I should've gone to the other party. Those people were more fun to be with... gah...b...o..r..e..d..o..m .. Kill me now... boreeeeedommmmmm"

posted March 01, 2012 05:39 PM            

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Originally posted by Moonfish:
Hey Doux Reve while we're on the topic whats the deg of your Moon?

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posted March 01, 2012 05:41 PM            

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Originally posted by Betty Boop:
appleberry - I'm also an Aries with Pisces Mercury.. I've called myself -shy- in the past, just to be nice.. because well, it sounds nicer than the reality. But what was really going through my mind in my "shy" moments.. was more like:

"I really don't like these people. These people bore me. Why am I here at all? I should've gone to the other party. Those people were more fun to be with... gah...b...o..r..e..d..o..m .. Kill me now... boreeeeedommmmmm"

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posted March 01, 2012 05:42 PM            

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Originally posted by sand:
im too shy to reveal my age... hehe kidding im 27. iv dated the good girl type but separate from the shy lol!

1990 is a loud year. i can see why someone can be overwhelmed by peers.

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Ah ok.. well, you actually ain't old. Huh. And hey now! Haha.. MOST good girls are shy when first approached.. we don't necessarily stay that way.

posted March 01, 2012 05:44 PM            

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Originally posted by Doux Rêve:
Oh that's really sweet!
Actually if I remember correctly your Libra stellium falls right on my Venus-Jupiter teehee. (and I'm being really Venusian tonight, not like my usual self )

We should check our synastry some time!

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Wow! My stellium falling on your Venus-Jupiter?! That sounds like awesome synastry right off the bat! And you always seem Venusian to me when I read your posts.

Yeah, we should... PR, maybe?

posted March 01, 2012 05:54 PM            

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Originally posted by Moonfish:
Oh okay :]
It also conjuncts a lot of my asteroids
- Sweet
- Link
- Union
and Psyche

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Oh how cool !
Ok so we have Moon-Psyche, we should be able to talk via telepathy Send me your thoughts and I'll try to get them !

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Originally posted by Oliviaaa:
Wow! My stellium falling on your Venus-Jupiter?! That sounds like awesome synastry right off the bat! And you always seem Venusian to me when I read your posts.

Yeah, we should... PR, maybe?

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Yes, sure

posted March 02, 2012 12:34 AM            

One sure advantage to being a ‘good girl’ (which is not quite the same thing as being shy, although it is common for one to go with the other) is that guys know from the get-go that you’re to be approached with respect, and chivalry… fewer guys may approach but the ones that do usually do so because they see a potential future with you…. you’re not seen as just some lose lovely to be used up and quickly forgotten…

When a women is brazen in a sexual way (which is not the same thing as simply being a naturally outgoing, friendly person) many guys may approach her, but usually they only see her as a fling, and are biding their time until they can score…. It’s sad but true.

However, not all shy girls are ‘good’ girls, although they usually are…some just sneaky and quiet about the ‘bad’ stuff they do… and not all outgoing girls are crazy and promiscuous, they are just naturally friendly and like people.

There is a stereotype floating around in our society that you have to be super social, and aggressive, and wild and crazy to be ‘cool’ …. and I think for those who are naturally reserved and shy this may hurt their confidence. Especially when they are young and impressionable, as they may feel they are not living up to all that they ‘should’ be, and may not be considered attractive…

posted March 02, 2012 12:53 AM            

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Originally posted by sand:
shy and nervous is very cute anyway on women..

im sure some dudes can make that work in their favor as well..

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There is no cuteness involved in shyness,, the physical and emotional turmoil that a shy person undergoes cannot be measured in cuteness, it is quite debilitating and socially a handicap.

posted March 02, 2012 06:44 AM            

Shy- Yes, used to be painfully, but I think it's turning into more reserved as I get older, I now choose to be quiet a lot of the time.

Self conscious- Sometimes.

posted March 02, 2012 07:42 AM            

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Originally posted by Lotis White:
I used to be painfully shy as a young girl…. Still am a bit but not like before. I’m a Capricorn Sun with Moon in Cancer…. Chiron falls into my 5th house and squares my Moon and trines my Venus (according to the Magi astro people I’ll have a great marriage then). There’s also kind of a bubbly, goofy side to me once you get to know me real well… I have a Sag Asc, as well as Mercury, Venus, and Neptune in Sag, plus Mars in Leo… I’m the ‘good girl’ type for sure, and actually take pride in this. I stand in my truth and embrace it.
One sure advantage to being a ‘good girl’ (which is not quite the same thing as being shy, although it is common for one to go with the other) is that guys know from the get-go that you’re to be approached with respect, and chivalry… fewer guys may approach but the ones that do usually do so because they see a potential future with you…. you’re not seen as just some lose lovely to be used up and quickly forgotten..
When a women is brazen in a sexual way (which is not the same thing as simply being a naturally outgoing, friendly person) many guys may approach her, but usually they only see her as a fling, and are biding their time until they can score…. It’s sad but true.

However, not all shy girls are ‘good’ girls, although they usually are…some just sneaky and quiet about the ‘bad’ stuff they do… and not all outgoing girls are crazy and promiscuous, they are just naturally friendly and like people.
There is a stereotype floating around in our society that you have to be super social, and aggressive, and wild and crazy to be ‘cool’ …. and I think for those who are naturally reserved and shy this may hurt their confidence. Especially when they are young and impressionable, as they may feel they are not living up to all that they ‘should’ be, and may not be considered
attractive…

The truth is that everybody has different taste when it to the opposite sex… some like outgoing, some prefer the more reserved type. Some like edge, some like sweet… for every type of person there is out there, the is a certain section of the population that’s attracted to what you have to offer, and see the value in you…

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This is nicely though out, thanks for sharing and being positive

posted March 02, 2012 09:17 AM            

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Originally posted by appleberry:
What could you find in a chart which would indicate shyness?

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Anything major (asc, moon, mer, venus, mars) in Virgo, Pisces and or Cancer

posted March 02, 2012 09:21 AM            

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Originally posted by Betty Boop:
The shyest person I have ever known was a Cancer man.. but I don't have his chart. He was painfully shy. Every time I spoke to him, he'd get this nervous tick and bat his eyelashes really quickly. And he always went bright red as well.

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lol aww how cute

posted March 02, 2012 11:19 AM              

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Originally posted by Moonfish:
Yea that always confused me too :]

Interesting I [b]read that neptune septiles my sun as well, still not sure what that means. Maybe it's the house system. Though the Koch/Equal/Placidus systems don't change, except my sun would be in the 8H/9H. However the whole sign system would change everything putting my saturn in the 12H x.x .. haha no thanks XD [/B]

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nothing much, it's a *minor* aspects, which I don't bother using....

Quintiles and bi quintiles are also minor aspects, but can show hidden talent, but nothing you are not already aware of within yourself..

an excellent thread here http://www.astrologyweekly.com/forum/showthread.php?t=13644&highlight=quintiles

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Originally posted by Moonfish:
hmm not sure. I think it is in the Northern hemisphere?
I guess what helps is my Sun-Mars-Pluto conjunction, trines Ascendant.

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actually, the compass points are *reversed* in astrology, so YOURS are in SOUTH hemisphere..

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Originally posted by sand:
scorp rising. saturn in h1. not shy.

but i don't want people knowing my bzns..

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typical scorpio resonse. Perhaps not if saturn is well aspected. But you evolved and grown more confident with age??

posted March 02, 2012 01:12 PM            

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Originally posted by TrueTaurus:
Tofu addict,
that wasn't a nice thing to say. As a girl who wishes she wasn't so shy, that makes me feel pretty bad that I am the way I am. I've always been very shy and painfully shy as a kid. I should have no reason to be but I cannot help myself...Some people are born shy as some people are born social. Genetics has to play a role in this. I hope you understand that many of us don't choose to be shy. We just are.

Taurus Sun/12th/Scorpio Moon/6th, Cancer Rising

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posted March 02, 2012 07:39 PM            

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typical scorpio resonse. Perhaps not if saturn is well aspected. But you evolved and grown more confident with age??

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posted March 03, 2012 01:55 AM            

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Originally posted by Betty Boop:
As far as I can see - you are only advocating on the side of those shy people who don’t want their shyness to be attractive to the opposite sex... and who take their shyness very seriously to the point of calling it a debilitating disease.

So probably a small percentage.

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Betty Boop,

Maybe you should start reading my post properly, i did not call it a disease, and people that think it is cute to be shy, or act to be shy like yourself, don't know anything about the reality of being shy, I cannot think of genuine shy people that would 'Play Cute' they are not shy in my eyes, but manipulating and calculating. Shyness is socially very debilitating, it stops people from going out there and feeling relaxed and doing normal things, it goes with a lot of physical responses, which can include blushing, sweating, shaking etc. I fail to see how people can see this as CUTE?????

posted March 04, 2012 03:18 AM            

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Interesting

"This is a rather sober aspect. Those born under a Sun conjunct Saturn aspect, in their youth, are humbled in some way such that they do not feel free to express their will in an outgoing and direct manner. As children, their expressions of their ego were thwarted, which led to some self-consciousness regarding self-expression. They were painfully aware that what they wanted, they didn't always get. As adults, they do not feel comfortable as the center of attention. For whatever reason, people with this aspect in their natal charts feel the need to control their impulses. It is easy for them to assume responsibility for more than most."

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posted March 04, 2012 06:50 AM            

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Originally posted by Tofu addict:
Betty Boop,

Maybe you should start reading my post properly, i did not call it a disease, and people that think it is cute to be shy, or act to be shy like yourself, don't know anything about the reality of being shy, I cannot think of genuine shy people that would 'Play Cute' they are not shy in my eyes, but manipulating and calculating. Shyness is socially very debilitating, it stops people from going out there and feeling relaxed and doing normal things, it goes with a lot of physical responses, which can include blushing, sweating, shaking etc. I fail to see how people can see this as CUTE?????

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I agree. Might not be a disease or disability but can feel like one to the sufferer. It can also feel rather patronising to be called cute by someone who doesn't know you. And there is a lot of difference between being "shy" and being "COY".