posted March 10, 2012 05:59 AM            

Can you maybe build a bridge and get over it?
(Prolly PMS talking... but still ^ I think I have a point)

Go out and meet more people..
You know- If you don't like them young - date an older girl.

If they don't like that you are detached in the beginning and then intense... then CHANGE... be more level overall. I'm sure you can make it, if you try harder. It is not so difficult to *change* - actually. It's not like your detachment is a permanent ailment.

I'm just tired of people complaining....

I always hear girls say this sort of thing as well... "guys my age bla bla" and "guys my age la dee daaaa" and "men never grow up" - whatever else! "men are pigs"..
And then some Tom Dick or Harry like yourself decides to say the same thing about women.

And I'm just sitting here wondering - REALLY? Is this really the problem? Are we all fu-ked up deep down?

posted March 10, 2012 03:37 PM            

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Originally posted by carl:
I will be just myself. Thanks. I still can not believe I have NO aqua in my chart because I love the obscure, different, the taboo, weird and social justice. Hmmm.

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posted March 11, 2012 10:25 AM            

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Originally posted by Yin:
Srsly, carl. Why be a certain way just to please her and appeal to her "Aqua"-ness? BE YOURSELF, show some manners, of course, but the most important part is to be who you are so she likes you for who you are not some twisted version of yourself.

It will help you in the long run, trust me.

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Love this post. It's hard to read so many articles about romance and see posts like this... insinuating that you have to approach a relationship or someone you care about as if he/she is a field of landmines! Don't be too clingy, you'll scare her off. Don't be too emotional, you'll overwhelm her. Don't be too romantic, she might think it's too soon. As if there's strategy to emotions or chemistry! LOL

Speaking as an aqua female (but really just a female), I'd suggest you show her you care about her, you listen to her and you want her to be in your life. For an aqua, I think the friend zone is a good place to get her to let her guard down a little and allow her to be "silly" or "weird"... once you've seen that side it might be easier for her to move to romance, knowing that you except her "quirkiness". Just a thought!

Not to disrespect any other advice you've been given, but just as a woman - the flowers and heavy emotional talks can come across insincere if it's very early. Flowers are the "easy" romantic gesture, in my opinion... esp for an aqua who craves the unique, flowers are so standard (they are pretty!). But I'd encourage you to think outside the box here... thoughtful over romance. I remember a guy who stocked his apartment refrigerator with the fancy sparkling water that I mentioned in passing that I liked... it showed he was listening AND he intended for me to spend time at his place. Another guy got his entire football team (I was a big fan of the team) to sign my birthday card, this was when we were strictly platonic friends and I had no clue of his feelings. That gesture made me see him in a new light, he went out of his way to do something special for me and I still have that card - 6 yrs later! But this isn't strictly aqua speaking, I believe a lot of women are similiar. My one friend who has a very "romantic" husband (flowers, etc) always comments how her favorite thing he does for her is fill up her car's gas tank every Sunday so she doesn't have to stop on the way to work! It really is the little things.

Good luck & don't worry about appealing to her her sign, just be confident & thoughtful!