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Ami Anne
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posted March 10, 2012 07:56 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
So— You Want to Be “Just Friends”?
By amiann | Published: March 9, 2012

How did it happen that we were falling in love and suddenly he wants to be friends?The chart tells all. When this happens, it could be a number of factors . Usually, there were strong attraction aspects in synastry involving Uranus. Strong Uranus relationships may end as rapidly as they begin. They may end by seemingly falling of the face of the earth . One got hit by Uranus’ thunderbolt. One is dazed as if by an actual electrical shock. Uranus rules all shocks, electrical and emotional.The shock of falling in love fast and it’s ending fast is as real a shock as any. Passion has a shelf life. Afterwards, one needs a heart and soul connection. Hence, in the aforementioned situation there may have been attraction aspects only. In this case, if one would have spent the time getting to know a person rather than following passion, one would have figured out that there were not sustaining aspects .One would not have to have suffered the pains of becoming lovers and then having to go to friends.

If Pluto touches Venus or the Moon in synastry, one will have more than Uranus type of attraction. One will be bowled over by a wave of passion. If Uranus is a lightning bolt. Pluto is a tidal wave. Pluto may last longer than Uranus. A Pluto relationship could last a long time just on pure passion as there is pure, animal passion. However, even the greatest passion eventually passes. Hence, this relationship may be resigned to just friends too. I suppose all roads to lead to the moon. Moon in an easy aspect to Moon in synastry would provide the best friend aspect. Being best friends will sustain you when the passion wanes. My single vote for a relationship is Moon trine Moon. If one has the passion AND the Moons, consider oneself a very fortunate soul.

I wanted to add some other findings I have seen in charts that denote platonic friendships. There may be a strong emphasis on Mercury. Mercury is the mind. I have seen this many times in synastry that never gets off the ground romantically. Jupiter may also be highlighted in a platonic synastry. Jupiter is the feel good planet.Our friends bring us good feelings or they would not be our friends. Also, in platonic relationships, certain houses seem emphasized.This would be the science of House Overlays. In synastry, the houses of one chart intersect the houses of the other. In platonic relationships, the impersonal houses intersect rather than the personal ones. In platonic relationships, the 2nd house(house of money), the sixth house(house of service), the 9th house(house of the intellect) and the eleventh house(house of groups and of charity) may be involved. The personal houses touch in a romantic relationship. These are the first house(house of self), the fifth house(house of romance), the seventh house(house of marriage), the eight house(house of sex and soul mate emotions) and the twelfth house( the house of mysticism and spirituality)

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Ami Anne
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posted March 10, 2012 09:43 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I would love your opinions on this.

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Ami Anne
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posted March 10, 2012 09:49 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I have really noticed that my male platonic friends will have a heavy mercury and Jupiter in synastry with me. Now, my one friend who has more of a spiritual/creative relationship with me has a heavy Neptune synastry. I just realized that lol

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posted March 10, 2012 09:50 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for ariesdragon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
That was beautiful ami
I once had sun conjunct moon in synastry
It was very nice

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posted March 10, 2012 10:20 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by ariesdragon:
That was beautiful ami
I once had sun conjunct moon in synastry
It was very nice

Ariesdragon You have a gift as an encourager

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posted March 10, 2012 10:21 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
In a platonic relationship, I had a man's moon conjunct my sun.It was really nice, Ariesdragon!

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posted March 10, 2012 10:28 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for YoursTrulyAlways     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I suppose I have a strong awkward opinion about this given my Venus in 12th aspect.

My response would be I don't need a friend and it's wasting my time. If I want a friend, I'll look to my dog, and she's far more loyal as a friend than any girl.

Au revoir mon ami!

Same attitude with the "take it slow" and I "can't commit" strategies.

I view relationships the same way I view business partnerships. It's a Memorandum of Understanding, Letter of Intent and Exclusivity Agreement, and then Term Sheet for a Merger. Expiration of Negotiation Phase has a Date Certain, after which I walk away.

I don't like men and I don't like platonic relationships. Do I suppose I'm a truly one-woman man.

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posted March 10, 2012 10:38 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for ariesdragon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I think this is one of my favorite articles ami wrote because I can relate to being in a platonic friendship
With ladies. I've also had relationships to where it just turned into friendships and there was no hard feelings.

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posted March 10, 2012 10:43 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for ariesdragon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Of course there was a couple relationships that turned into "let's just be friends" and it hurt @ first but then it was for the best because we grew apart and wanted different things in life but at the end of the day I don't hate anybody lol I just move on

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posted March 10, 2012 10:44 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Jounia     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Ami, thanks for this. I have checked all of those aspects in my current relationship where we have pluto aspects and moon trine moon. We feel like we are the best of friends - even soul mates - but yet there is immense passion. Therefore sounds about right to me!

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posted March 10, 2012 10:46 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Jounia:
Ami, thanks for this. I have checked all of those aspects in my current relationship where we have pluto aspects and moon trine moon. We feel like we are the best of friends - even soul mates - but yet there is immense passion. Therefore sounds about right to me!

Thanks Journia!

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posted March 10, 2012 10:54 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by ariesdragon:
Of course there was a couple relationships that turned into "let's just be friends" and it hurt @ first but then it was for the best because we grew apart and wanted different things in life but at the end of the day I don't hate anybody lol I just move on

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posted March 10, 2012 10:56 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for ariesdragon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I loves you ami

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posted March 10, 2012 10:56 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ceridwen     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I like it, too.

(for me MErcury aspects are not totally platonic though; but the reason for this is that Mercury is my DESC-ruler - in cases where Mercury is not the ruler of 5th, 7th or 8th house I definitely would agree)

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posted March 10, 2012 10:57 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by ariesdragon:
I loves you ami

BUT don't stop!

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posted March 10, 2012 10:59 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for ariesdragon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Ami Anne:
BUT don't stop!



Never gonna stop loving you my beautiful angel
Smile always xx

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posted March 10, 2012 11:55 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for inthemisosoup     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Yeah Mercury is the ruler of my fifth and I've found it to be important in every one of my relationships so far. I find Jupiter and house overlays much more telling. Uranus is my chart ruler so it is important in any relationship. Personal planets squaring my Uranus is what has caused a relationship to sizzle quickly.

Moon trine moon I have with a friend and and it is wonderful for platonic relationships. I have never had it with a boyfriend or lover so I cannot comment on that. But it is like we just got along very naturally and emotionally clicked right away. I think we've gotten if anything too comfortable too quickly, people think it's weird we are so close already after being friends only 6 months or so. My moon is also conjunct his NN.

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posted March 10, 2012 11:58 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for ariesdragon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by inthemisosoup:
Yeah Mercury is the ruler of my fifth and I've found it to be important in every one of my relationships so far. I find Jupiter and house overlays much more telling. Uranus is my chart ruler so it is important in any relationship. Personal planets squaring my Uranus is what has caused a relationship to sizzle quickly.

Same thing that happened to me ITMS

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posted March 10, 2012 12:01 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by inthemisosoup:
Yeah Mercury is the ruler of my fifth and I've found it to be important in every one of my relationships so far. I find Jupiter and house overlays much more telling. Uranus is my chart ruler so it is important in any relationship. Personal planets squaring my Uranus is what has caused a relationship to sizzle quickly.

Moon trine moon I have with a friend and and it is wonderful for platonic relationships. I have never had it with a boyfriend or lover so I cannot comment on that. But it is like we just got along very naturally and emotionally clicked right away. I think we've gotten if anything too comfortable too quickly, people think it's weird we are so close already after being friends only 6 months or so. My moon is also conjunct his NN.



Yes you get close really fast with moon trine moon. This is a different subject but have you ever noticed string Chiron relationships. They are so weird imo
You get really close and get in to some little fight and never talk again

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posted March 10, 2012 12:04 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ariesdragon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Ami Anne:

Yes you get close really fast with moon trine moon. This is a different subject but have you ever noticed string Chiron relationships. They are so weird imo
You get really close and get in to some little fight and never talk again



Why do we always think of the same thing?!
I'm sorry but I was just thinking about Chiron! Lmao

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posted March 10, 2012 01:52 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for freebrainstorms     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
i love the way you explain things, they're always clear, short and interesting to read.

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posted March 10, 2012 02:13 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by ariesdragon:
Why do we always think of the same thing?!
I'm sorry but I was just thinking about Chiron! Lmao


You guys have the best vibe!

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posted March 10, 2012 02:14 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by freebrainstorms:
i love the way you explain things, they're always clear, short and interesting to read.


Freebrainstorms
You and Ariesdragon are vibing me

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posted March 10, 2012 02:17 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Taineberry     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Yeah, you do explain it so well, Ami. I can completely relate to what you said in your fist post.

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posted March 10, 2012 05:49 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Taineberry:
Yeah, you do explain it so well, Ami. I can completely relate to what you said in your fist post.

Thanks Taine Sweetie!

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