posted June 10, 2012 05:54 PM            

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Originally posted by Stawr:
I'm "dating" a Venus Cappy guy he is great! He is not shy at all. He's a talker. He is good around new people too. He can be pretty wild at times too.

Though he did tell me when he was younger he didn't really talk in school (I'm guessing like Elementary school.) And it caused teachers concern.

He doesn't like to be around/include everybody though. I've seen him get this way before. He doesn't sugar coat or white lie, nor go out of his way to be flat out insulting, and say low blows. He just tells the person no really.
I'm in such awe when he does this. lol
(he has 4 planets in Cap and 4 in Scorp!)

btw Trya Banks and Janis Dickinson have Venus Cap. They are more of the "I don't take crap types" and then there are the more "shy" ones like the singing artist Kerli

I can totally relate to him. I'm the exact sameway. In elementary school because I was so quiet I was constantly marked absence. Lol does he ever have the situation where because of the back he seems quiet or shy that he constantly has someone trying to befriend him? I get that sometimes. They assume I'm shy and need friends but I do love my solitude but this aqua sun/sag moon has to run here and there.

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posted June 10, 2012 08:46 PM            

And I'm never 'socially' wild in any sense of the word.

posted June 10, 2012 11:47 PM            

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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
How do you know if a Cap Venus sees you as a good friend? Maybe it's a stupid question but I thought every sign has their own style.

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posted June 10, 2012 11:59 PM            

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Originally posted by Stawr:
My educated guess is that if they didn't see you as a friend they wouldn't really want to bother. Because Cap is ruled by Saturn, and Saturn has to do with time, so I would think that is valuable to these people...wanting to spend their spare time talking and being with those who matter.

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posted June 11, 2012 12:16 AM            

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Originally posted by Chris21:
I have a Rx Venus in 1st house Capricorn. It's conjunct Mercury, Saturn, and Neptune, which are all conjunct my Ascendant in the 1st too (mars and uranus are conjunct ASC as well). venus is also sextile to pluto conj MC. I used to be really shy, i even quit my last job because i felt socially awkward there, but then i took up DJing and trying to be more open and now i enjoy meeting new people all the time, i can get carried away with keeping conversations going. I like to sacrifice my time helping others, makes them happy which makes me happy, just like DJing music, i want to see people have a good time and enjoy themselves. For having a 5 planet stellium in capricorn i'm doing good breaking my anti social habits.

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posted June 11, 2012 12:33 AM            

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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
How long did it take you to realize that though? How old were you when you quit that job?

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posted June 11, 2012 01:27 AM            

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Originally posted by Stawr:
Saturn has to do with time, so I would think that is valuable to these people...wanting to spend their spare time talking and being with those who matter.

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posted June 11, 2012 01:38 AM            

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Originally posted by Lonake:
+ aloof/distant Aqua Moon, perhaps ? ^

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posted June 11, 2012 04:33 AM            

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Remember, love can conquer the influences of the planets....It can even eliminate karma.

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posted June 11, 2012 07:24 AM            

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Originally posted by Lonake:
+ aloof/distant Aqua Moon, perhaps ? ^

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Well, I have that combo, too. And definitely yes.

posted June 11, 2012 09:31 AM            

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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
How do you know if a Cap Venus sees you as a good friend? Maybe it's a stupid question but I thought every sign has their own style.

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If we talk to you outside of work and want to hangout with you. I hate wasted time and small talk to make me have that get up and go and excitement to see you then you've got a friend in me. Oh and if I confide in you. I talk to a lot of people but very very few I truly confide in.

posted June 17, 2012 02:15 PM            

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Originally posted by Stawr:
My educated guess is that if they didn't see you as a friend they wouldn't really want to bother. Because Cap is ruled by Saturn, and Saturn has to do with time, so I would think that is valuable to these people...wanting to spend their spare time talking and being with those who matter.

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--I'm getting that impression from one Venus in Cap that I know. Being a Venus in Scorpio, coldness, unresponsiveness, and avoidance hurt me A LOT. Being shy is one thing, but acting like I just described is very rude, hateful, and hurtful.

My mother tends to get irritated by sentimentality, even though she has really traditional values. (She has a Gemini moon and is a Sag sun). She hates being bothered when she's busy and hates small talk. It gets frustrating because I love to communicate. I know that my mother cares, though.

posted June 17, 2012 02:18 PM            

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Originally posted by RegardesPlatero:

I don't understand how people can not enjoy being around others and getting to know them. I'm an introvert myself, but I'm not anti-social. I do care about people, find them fascinating, want to know who they really are behind the masks (though I don't have the wish to expose what's under the mask--I just want to know what's there). I'm a Scorpio Venus and I don't like coldness, being avoided, people not being responsive to me, and being treated wrong. It is enough to make me dislike a person. Not hate or wish harm or anything, but to not have a great opinion of them. After I reach that point, I start avoiding them and shut them out.

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I think Caps are just very focused people and just as it comes naturally to you to want to socialize, preferred isolation comes naturally to them. I think they also project their own predictability onto people and thus find a lot of people "usual." They are patient signs, but they are very, very adept at sussing out the value of someone, the value of everything; time, money, resources, people. Everything is an investment. It isn't personal. It's just how they function.

posted June 17, 2012 03:08 PM            

But it's their loss, honestly. They're the ones missing out on a potential good friend, not me. That's how I see it, anyway.

posted June 17, 2012 03:23 PM            

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Originally posted by RegardesPlatero:
Well, if that person sees me as a waste of time, I'll probably reciprocate that feeling.

But it's their loss, honestly. They're the ones missing out on a potential good friend, not me. That's how I see it, anyway.

I tried to reach out to that person, and this person is deliberately ignoring and avoiding me and being really hurtful and hateful. However, I know that I did my best and tried to be a good person. If that person is still going to treat me like that, then that says more about that person than me. I'll have to pray for that person, honestly. I feel bad for someone who has that much hate inside.

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No, no... that's the thing. They are neutral people.

posted June 17, 2012 03:26 PM            

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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
No, no... that's the thing. They are neutral people.

I also think it's probably really easy to hurt your feelings, a Capricorn might not be the best fit for you anyway.

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It really, really, really hurts me to be deliberately avoided and ignored. Again, I feel bad for that person, though. Hate just holds you back. It's one thing if someone like molested you, threatened you, or burned down your house or something, but for someone to deliberately avoid you for no reason is just outright mean and hateful.

The thing is, I haven't even done anything. I don't deserve to be treated like that.