posted May 12, 2012 07:12 AM            

This was my ex husband's best friend and I fell head over heals for him... and told him, with absolutely no response from him. v.v I don't want to give up, but I need to stick to my plan. I've been trying for years to no avail, and have a month left before I give it up for good and just leave to try and live my life and repair somewhere far far away from this situation.

I'm at the point where I want something so much that I'm absolutely frozen as to what to do. Not because I don't have any ideas, but because I have too many and I just don't know what is the correct path and what will just screw things up beyond recognition.

Yes, I know... we don't have great synastry and after years of trying I should probably just give up anyway. BUT if there is anything you know about any of these placements, aspects, or whatever that would help a chick out in the correct approach to the guy... let me know, and let me know why.

This is our synastry, I'm on the inside, he's on the outside.

posted May 12, 2012 08:39 AM            

If I were single I would never get involved with a friend's ex if there were any unresolved feelings making my friend disapprove.

posted May 12, 2012 09:10 AM            

Your Venus is feeling his Eros but his Saturn is playing spoilsport by hurting your Mars, Pluto and Venus super-sexuality. Your JUNO squaring his Mars-Pluto is additional cold water.

It is like chasing a man you think to be virile but who is unfortunately impotent.

You deserve a lot better.

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posted May 12, 2012 06:07 PM            

It's possible that he's still loyal to my ex, which is why him and I (my ex) broke things off really nicely. Friends who agreed that we just don't work, that kind of thing.

Thank you IQ. I hope you're wrong, but you're pretty good at reading these types of things... so, it's doubtful.

Was hoping there was a trick or secret or something based on his placements that I could use. You know, really underhanded like... because I *want* and that doesn't happen very often to the point that it's made me a little desperate.

le sigh, oh well. Didn't hurt to try. Would have posted in personal reading but I sorta already posted there a while back on a similar topic regarding him and well, I only have a month. Thanks! =D

posted May 12, 2012 06:22 PM            

He seems very attached to you since he is the Saturn in a very close (exact!) Saturn-Venus conjunction.
For better or worse - he does not want to let you go.
He is kind of vulnerable here since he sees you as extremely beautiful and Venusian... He is insecure about you.

You also make him happy & brighten up his day since your Jupiter is conj his Sun/Mercury in Cancer. This is a friendship aspect.

My guess is that once he realises that you are literally leaving for good - to start a new life elsewhere.. he will absolutely go into a HUGE panic.

This is based on your synastry coupled with the clinginess of Cancer.

posted May 12, 2012 06:27 PM            

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by hurting your Mars, Pluto and Venus super-sexuality.

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But he also has Mars/Pluto conjunct so he understands her own drive - even if they are not conj hers by degree.
He wouldn't hurt her sexuality. He is fatherly and protective - being Saturn.
So if anything he would give her sexuality stable ground.
I think this is more healing than hurtful.

posted May 12, 2012 06:31 PM            

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Originally posted by Odette:
But he also has Mars/Pluto conjunct so he understands her own drive - even if they are not conj hers by degree.
He wouldn't hurt her sexuality. He is fatherly and protective - being Saturn.
So if anything he would give her sexuality stable ground.
I think this is more healing than hurtful.

I like Saturn aspects.

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posted May 12, 2012 06:35 PM            

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haha i'm still trying to catch you :P

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LMAO

I'm waaaaaay too shifty this morning haha

posted May 12, 2012 06:38 PM            

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Originally posted by Odette:
LMAO

I'm waaaaaay too shifty this morning haha

I'm actually about to go and have breakfast with someone, so I'll be back on LL later

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posted May 12, 2012 07:30 PM            

I think he might care for your and might like you (your ASC-rulers in conjunction; his Sun conjunct your Jupiter), but he might see you more as a friend (his 11th houseruler conjunct your ASC-ruler).

I donīt see much in terms of romantic or erotic attraction, though due to the Venus-Saturn-aspect there is probably some karmic tie there.
And his Mars/Pluto understands your Venus/Mars/Pluto, but there are no interaspect to manifest the intensity you both have in an interaction with each other.

Also the ruler of his 5th house seems to be unaspected by your planets.

posted May 12, 2012 07:33 PM            

Look out for
conjunctions and trines (Sometimes oppositions) between

Sun-Venus
Sun-DESC
Venus-Mars
Venus-Venus
Venus-ASC
Mars-DESC

and if thre is a Venus-progression, also look out for Sun-Mars.

posted May 13, 2012 09:31 AM            

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posted May 14, 2012 01:13 AM            

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Originally posted by Doreen:
... Oh no his Mars is in Libra anyways Maybe he is gay let it go and move on is my advice

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Seriously?

Revisit:

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Originally posted by Sashar:

This was my ex husband's best friend.

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posted May 14, 2012 02:31 AM            

I'm sorry Sashar I didn't know that he was your ex husbands best buddy maybe it's nothing to do with synastry maybe he has morals and wants to do the right thing

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posted May 14, 2012 08:16 AM            

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Originally posted by Doreen:
I didn't mean that men with Mars in Libra are gay but they do tend to be indecisive and you have to take control or they get nothing done

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We're both Libra Mars. XD lol

But really, even with the bad synastry... is there no area that I could lean on to sort of give myself an edge. I don't really mind that I'm running full speed at a brick wall, I just wouldn't mind some advice on which direction the brick walls sits. lol (Hmmm, me thinks this is my Pluto talking in this thread).

posted May 14, 2012 09:55 AM            

But he proposed after our first date, before the second.

posted May 14, 2012 01:40 PM            

I personally won't go near that with a 39-1/2 foot pole.

posted May 14, 2012 01:56 PM            

Sure, Saturn's involved, but you need some Saturn.

I get the moralism, but it also seems to me that there IS some stuff really going on here. Leading me to agree that it's not the synastry as much as the situation.

In which case, don't you have to ask: why was this situation chosen?

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posted May 14, 2012 07:16 PM            

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In which case, don't you have to ask: why was this situation chosen?

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Because his mother left him and his siblings with his dad when he was a kid one night and ran off with his dad's friend. Disappeared for about three years before coming back to take care of the kids.

He never understood how/why someone would do that, and even had to have a talk with her to try and understand that issue.

Even if him and I never end up together... he at least has part of his answer (maybe not the leaving the kids part but the other).

For me? psh... don't have a clue.

I kind of feel bad though, because of this issue he's completely cut my ex out of his life. Hoping that if I go away, then maybe he'll come back. Because as much as I *want*... if I can't have, I at least want both to be happy.

posted May 15, 2012 01:04 AM            

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I'm seeing some very GOOD aspects

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Exactly!