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Topic: Is there a chance for me to go back to my ex Scorpio?
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cherryblossom
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posted June 12, 2012 05:46 AM
  
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posted June 12, 2012 05:52 AM
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Dreaming111
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posted June 12, 2012 12:55 PM
He's jealous. He hates that you ignore him. He would like you to make more effort and seem like he's the best things since sliced bread. Having said that, I would simple tell him again how you do love him and want to work things out. I would also explain to him about that "talking" "flirting" confusion, just like you did here.
He wants you to be his without having to worry about it.I get that way too. I think he feels insecure about his place in your life. Right now about the whole not replying is well because he genuinely is busy moving.
Maybe you can ask to help him set his place up. I don't know. If he's ignoring you now just go with it. He wants to see if you pursue him, because that is a signal to him that you really do want to be with him and care for him. Be persistent. Trust me he'll give in. hehe But don't use other men to make him jealous again, even in the slightest. I'm not sure you would be happy if he flaunted other women around you- friends or otherwise and you had no idea how close they were or what they were up to. Build trust; don't build hatred.
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NickiG
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posted June 12, 2012 12:56 PM
i dont even need to read all of it....i read through the first half paragraph and can tell you, if scorpio suspects you of cheating, it would take years to never for him to ever trust you would never cheat------------------
I once saw a sign that said "sin is death" but if "all deaths are suicide (linda goodman)" and suicide is sin, then shouldnt "death is sin" be more appropriate? when organic is used to describe food then you know we have come to a dark age in history IP: Logged |
cherryblossom
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posted June 12, 2012 01:15 PM
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FireMoon
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posted June 12, 2012 03:35 PM
Ok, I obviously don’t know your whole situation but the mind games and the passive aggressive ways of getting you to come to him but then with no follow through on his part remind me of a situation I’ve been going through with a Cancer guy… My honest advice is that if you feel that there are still things that are unsaid or unresolved on your part of the situation, then make a last attempt to explain your feelings to him without drawing attention to who’s to blame for the problems. But then just leave it at that. (And you might as well just skip over the small talk, he probably sees your interest in his life as power he has over you which could make him avoid wanting to even talk about the relationship- since that's where he's vulnerable) If he’s not willing to give it another chance right now, he may not say it directly because he’ll enjoy watching you pine after him (especially if he thinks whether its justified or not that you’ve hurt him) so just don’t let that drag on because it will only make things worse. My guess is that if part of him believes you didn’t cheat and he still has feelings for you, and you back off he’ll still try to maintain contact, you just have to decide how much uncertainty you’re willing to tolerate from him and for how long…
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VenusDiSirius
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posted June 12, 2012 03:56 PM
I just want to point out that 10 minute convo over phone is not a short convo. It is just about right,the shorter,the better - that's what phones are for. How about you posting synastry? Or composite? The man is a massive Scorp. While you can be secretive with a Scorp : a multilayered personality,you can't really act secretive : dubiously.
I can see why he could find that so annoying,people often lead double life over texting. (not that I am saying you'd done something wrong) Sure,he should trust you. But,really,texting? Why not emailing ? (write longer mails,from time to time to your friends) I am offering a solution,since you are willing to do something to bring him back.(I can tell from the way you remembered the dates)  IP: Logged |
cherryblossom
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posted June 12, 2012 04:52 PM
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posted June 12, 2012 05:06 PM
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FireMoon
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posted June 12, 2012 05:41 PM
I’m sorry you’re going through this cherryblossom, I understand how frustrating those kinds of situations can be  . I think if you’re going to bring all that up with him you should just be honest and explain whatever else was going on in your life at the time, and how things are right now… As far as the jealousy/suspision goes, of course you should acknowledge that he was hurt, but if he’s not able to forgive you and you try to make things work anyway this will make things pretty difficult… just let him know where your boundaries are, and that you’re willing to talk about it and work on things like that together but that he still needs to respect and trust you for the relationship to have worked in the first place or for it to move forward… I’m sure it’s not too late to have that conversation and be honest with each other so don’t be so hard on yourself  Also, if you have both of your charts on astro.com, you can go into “extended chart selections” and click where it says Natal Chart Wheel and you’ll be able to select your synastry and composite charts. Sysnastry shows the aspects your charts make with each other, and the composite is a chart made from the midpoints of both of your natals… To upload them you have to save the images to your computer, then upload them to an image sharing site like photobucket (which is free), then click on “share” and copy and paste the link it gives you here…. Kind of complicated to figure out at first lol but it’s not as difficult as it sounds…
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VenusDiSirius
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posted June 12, 2012 07:22 PM
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Originally posted by cherryblossom:
What is synastry or composite? is it the same with astro chart? I do have his astro chart, but i don't know how to post it here... Rising Sign is in 20 Degrees Sagittarius.
Sun is in 02 Degrees Scorpio.
Moon is in 01 Degrees Virgo
Mercury is in 19 Degrees Scorpio.
Venus is in 21 Degrees Scorpio
Mars is in 25 Degrees Scorpio
Uranus is in 15 Degrees Scorpio
Jupiter is in 07 Degrees Leo.
Saturn is in 10 Degrees Virgo.
Neptune is in 16 Degrees Sagittarius.
Pluto is in 17 Degrees Libra
N. Node is in 26 Degrees Virgo. Do you think i should just email him regarding my feelings towards him and the things that we could do about our relationship? You're right i'm willing to do it to bring him back just hope it's not too late..
Composite speaks about potential of your relationship. You go to astro.com and instead of natal chart you chose composite chart,midpoints method,from drop down meny. You need both yours and his exacts data. You save the chart and upload it to a photo sharing sites,like imageshack or photobucket. Once uploaded you copy direct url of the image,and paste it here with this code code:
[img]your url[/img]
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No,I am saying that you should email other people,out of your man's sight,until he gets his jealousy in check. (as crappy as this advice may be)
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cherryblossom
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posted June 13, 2012 04:32 AM
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cherryblossom
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cherryblossom
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prettywords
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posted June 13, 2012 06:12 AM
The real question you should be.asking is.whether you can deal with out of control jealously, bc he.won't change. He's so heavy scorpio and he places a high amount of energy on loyalty, perceived betrayal and ferreting out deceit.IP: Logged |
VenusDiSirius
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posted June 13, 2012 07:22 AM
The composite isn't strong. I wouldn't consider Venus/Mars conjunction,but it stands for passion,and great sexual chemisty,so if you can relate to that,it could be that 4 degree works. (I use 3 degree in composites) No time of birth,so we don't know his exact position of the Moon - you may have Saturn/Moon in square,and many people confess to not being able to persevere,you are drawn to each other (Saturn is karmic in its working) but the amount of hurt feelings is overwhelming,so you end up giving up,which is never good with any type of Saturn connection. Moon person doesn't share their feeling of pain,and start to emotionally distance themselves,while still coming to Saturn person. Saturn is coarse,Moon sensitive,even a slightest action from Saturn is a sore,as if Saturn person is flogging Moon person's heart til it bleeds. IP: Logged |
cherryblossom
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posted June 13, 2012 07:33 AM
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cherryblossom
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posted June 13, 2012 07:44 AM
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VenusDiSirius
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posted June 13, 2012 08:02 AM
Your Saturn squares his Moon,and I tried to explain how it usually manifests.So you are Saturn person,he is Moon person.IP: Logged |
cherryblossom
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posted June 13, 2012 08:16 AM
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Dreaming111
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posted June 13, 2012 11:42 AM
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Originally posted by cherryblossom:
I feel hesitant to initiate the contact all the time, cause I'm not sure a scorpio likes being pursued.. I've heard they like woman who plays hard to get. I really do wanna be with him and i told him that, but i just get the feeling that he's avoiding me now. At the same time i'm thinking is this one of his mind games testing me to see if i really do wanna be with him by pulling himself away and being passive in convo when i did make contact on saturday and sunday, right after i told him i still wanna be with him... Where should i go from here? Should i contact him tom? We didn't talk all day today.
If you were upset and hurt, how would you want to be pursued? Like the movies right? Look he just wants to be able to trust you again. I think he's worried you might be a cheater and don't really mean what you say. Understand that scorpios don't put a lot of weight on another person's words. It's more about the actions. Don't listen to others I would say if you truly love him then pride and ego have no place, right? Try to love him and pursue him without pride and ego, be persistent. If that doesn't work after at least a decent amount of tries then give up. He's a jerk. Because even he wouldn't be able to blame you after, and you would walk away knowing you did your best. There would be no regret. If you walk away frm someone you love without fully throwing yourself in then you lead a life FULL of regret. I would say that your attempt deserves a pat on the back, but it's not enough. Honestly. IP: Logged |
cherryblossom
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posted June 13, 2012 11:49 AM
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Dreaming111
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posted June 13, 2012 11:53 AM
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Originally posted by cherryblossom:
I want to sent him this email tonight... I want him to know how i feel and all the things that's been bothering him. Also, i sure as hell don't want to send him a message i'm blaming him here or seem desperate and needy. I want it to seem mature and understanding. But does it seem desperate to you all? Is there something that i don't need to say in here? Tell me what you think! I'm afraid i'm letting my emotions went far and made me seem weak as i wrote this. Thank you! Here it goes: babe.. I’m letting my guard down to write you this. I want to let you know how I feel, how much you mean to me. I can’t be silent about how much I love you and how much I am missing you here. I’ve done lots of thinking in the past 3 weeks about our relationship and been doing lots of some self-introspection on my side as well. I knew I let my emotions took control of my actions and each one of us should be the “balance” in this relationship. We know we’re both stubborn and you can’t fight fire with fire. If one of us is fire then the other half should be the water as the “balance”. I admit, I was very opinionated on what I feel is right. I’ve learned when to lose the battle. I understand when you said I changed. I was very nurturing, patient and understanding towards you but somehow I became emotional when you pulled yourself away from me. I became emotional during the last 2 month before we broke up. I let it got the the best of me. All the reasoning why I acted like that was because I just need to feel appreciated and reassurance from you. I got all the confusion with way you’re acting towards me. I’m sure you got your reasons to behave that way as well. I should’ve been more understanding on my part. I know there were things I said or did that confuses you, that you might think I was being shady. I know you’re hurt which I never had intention to make you jealous, or to hurt you. That would be the last thing on my mind. And I am sorry if did hurt you intentionally. I was confused I admit, maybe that’s why all of these things I did, sent you the wrong message. But I was never confused about how much I do want this with you, that’s why I stayed with you. I was confused about your actions towards me, which I could understand that now you were confused as well and had lots of things going on in your mind. We both sent mixed feelings or signals to each other.
I never did keep a guy behind your back or cheat on you as I already told you from the first time we dated, i would've walked out instead of finding someone else and keep him around in case something happened to us. I do not need to hurt you by doing that. I’m not that type of person. You know I am a one-man woman and I’ve been loyal to you.
After we broke up , I became more private, that’s why I deleted all the people I don’t know from facebook and I put privacy settings to all the people on my facebook. I never really cared about my facebook image, even if you said it is important for me. I understand that, with all these people liking my photos and comments, would send you a message that I am attention seeker. I should’ve been more understanding on your jealousy about this facebook and twitter towards me. No matter how much you think I have these guys around me, the truth is, I care about you more because I was the one with you and you were with me. We have the bond together, we have each other and we both love each other. All of these random guys don’t matter to me at all. Those people are just my friends, nothing special. I’m no angel, no one is. I made mistakes, we all did. That’s why I am pouring my heart out writing this, letting you know what I have learned. I’m not here trying to blame you, even if I could. I took my own responsibility, see where things went wrong on our relationship, how we took each other for granted by sending mixed signals to each other because I want to work this out.
As I am writing this, I don’t want to put pressure on you. I am just trying to be genuine and sincere on what I feel.. I won’t pressure on you to get back with me. Although, you know that’s what I really want the most. You do what you feel is right. I’m trying to make this work for us by realizing all those things but if you’re not willing to forgive me, it’s gonna be really hard to move forward. If you can’t give us another chance again, I understand. I accept it. Even if you’re confused or hesitant, it’s alright. Take all the time you need. I understand. I know you’re hurt and I am too. And this is pretty hard for me. You are still a beautiful person in my eyes in spite of everything that happened. I love you and I really care about you.
This was really sweet.  Wish my guy had written something like this. Wait he did... bu still lied to me...lol THat is another story. But I do feel that your message is very genuine. It will make him think. IP: Logged |
Dreaming111
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posted June 13, 2012 11:54 AM
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Originally posted by cherryblossom:
What about this email i'm about to send him? Should i send it? I would say that your attempt deserves a pat on the back, but it's not enough. Honestly. -- > what would it take to make it seem enough to make him see i want him back? especially if we don't meet each other.. I wanted to ask him out. Sent him a message 2 hours ago, he didn't reply.
I didn't read your letter, when I posted that reply. I think the letter is a great start. I wish you the best. IP: Logged |
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