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Junethird
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posted August 04, 2012 06:11 PM
  
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ail221
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posted August 04, 2012 06:13 PM
Be completely comfortable with who you are both physical and sexually. IP: Logged |
Junethird
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posted August 04, 2012 06:14 PM
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Be completely comfortable with who you are both physical and sexually.
Ail, Good point!!! But that darn suspicious scorpio ways of his lol. Thanks for the feedback IP: Logged |
ail221
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posted August 04, 2012 06:21 PM
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Ail,Good point!!! But that darn suspicious scorpio ways of his lol. Thanks for the feedback
He's a scorpio moon? From my experience Virgo men can have two completely different personalities; if they suspect your hesitant in expressing another side of you they will hiding their other side or sides as well. With Scorpios its more like "ok if your not comfortable with this I'll transform you" with Virgos its more like "I expect you to have transformed already, I am not here to coddle you, I expect you to be the most perfect version of yourself for you". IP: Logged |
Junethird
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posted August 04, 2012 06:25 PM
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He's a scorpio moon? From my experience Virgo men can have two completely different personalities; if they suspect your hesitant in expressing another side of you they will hiding their other side or sides as well. With Scorpios its more like "ok if your not comfortable with this I'll transform you" with Virgos its more like "I expect you to have transformed already, I am not here to coddle you, I expect you to be the most perfect version of yourself for you".
He has gemini moon in the 7H
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MadameButterfly
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posted August 04, 2012 08:16 PM
If you can work through your issues with each other, and if he's willing to open his heart to trust, I don't see why you both can't have a solid relationship. We all need to make compromises with the ones we love. I see this as a possible time of growth for both of you.. There is a reason why he is still in your life. IP: Logged |
Junethird
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posted August 05, 2012 02:10 AM
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Originally posted by MadameButterfly:
If you can work through your issues with each other, and if he's willing to open his heart to trust, I don't see why you both can't have a solid relationship. We all need to make compromises with the ones we love. I see this as a possible time of growth for both of you.. There is a reason why he is still in your life.
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frankie2912
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posted August 05, 2012 03:57 AM
Well...I believe I have won over a Virgo man with very little effort lolHe's a good long-time friend that I used to make out with all the time, but we had sex once (last year, after knowing each other for 6 years already) and after we did the deed, he really started to show his more caring and emotional side to me. Quite a shock for a Virgo man with Aquarius moon! I think what really got him hooked on me was the fact that I DIDN'T sleep with him for such a long time. I bet he didn't think it was ever going to happen. I remained a friend, talked a lot when we hung out..I think he gained a lot of respect for me because I didn't "put out" and proved that I was a cool chick who was interested in just hanging out and talking and having a laugh and a few beers. I think that after having sex, it just made him like me more. "Wow, a girl who's cool to hang with and not throwing herself at me or letting me take advantage of her!" Must have meant a lot to him. IP: Logged |
Junethird
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posted August 05, 2012 11:08 AM
Frankie,Yes. I agree that withholding jumping between the sheets early on is a very good idea. Friendship and love go hand in hand. Thanks for your advice and GOODLUCK with your Virgo guy What are his moon/Venus/mars/Asc? IP: Logged |
hippichick
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posted August 05, 2012 02:10 PM
I can't wait to get back to this when I am not at work on my iPad!Pisces female totally befuddled by a Virgo male for 18 months now~ much to contribute. IP: Logged |
Junethird
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posted August 05, 2012 03:29 PM
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Originally posted by hippichick:
I can't wait to get back to this when I am not at work on my iPad!Pisces female totally befuddled by a Virgo male for 18 months now~ much to contribute.
Looking forward I reading yor thoughts Hippichick! I have cancer moon, so I can sympathesize. IP: Logged |
Dreamweaver
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posted August 05, 2012 07:59 PM
Hi Junethird,
I don't know if there's a trick but I've found that being patient in any relationship & communicating helps! I have been with a Virgo sun-venus man for 15 years. He was a lot like your guy - sweet but often full of suspicion & critical. But over the years he has gotten better. I always knew that he didn't MEAN to sound critical but he was trying to be helpful. I also always tell him when he has hurt me or upset me, and sometimes he is shocked that he did because he never meant to. The same about the grudges & suspicion (from being hurt by other women in past). It takes a long time for some people to deal with & I just tried to be patient. I thought to myself - I don't like it when he expects perfection from me, so I won't expect it from him. So some things just take time. In terms of appearance, well, I agree with redshift & others - being feminine ALL the time helps. But you have a taurus ascendant - so that's done! From what you said in your list, sounds like he is already very interested by all those sweet little things that he does for you! I say look at a man's actions and not his words!! Best of luck to you and your guy!! xIP: Logged |
Junethird
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posted August 05, 2012 08:10 PM
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Originally posted by Dreamweaver:
Hi Junethird,
I don't know if there's a trick but I've found that being patient in any relationship & communicating helps! I have been with a Virgo sun-venus man for 15 years. He was a lot like your guy - sweet but often full of suspicion & critical. But over the years he has gotten better. I always knew that he didn't MEAN to sound critical but he was trying to be helpful. I also always tell him when he has hurt me or upset me, and sometimes he is shocked that he did because he never meant to. The same about the grudges & suspicion (from being hurt by other women in past). It takes a long time for some people to deal with & I just tried to be patient. I thought to myself - I don't like it when he expects perfection from me, so I won't expect it from him. So some things just take time. In terms of appearance, well, I agree with redshift & others - being feminine ALL the time helps. But you have a taurus ascendant - so that's done! From what you said in your list, sounds like he is already very interested by all those sweet little things that he does for you! I say look at a man's actions and not his words!! Best of luck to you and your guy!! x
Dreamweaver!!! Thank you!!! Yes accepting his imperfections so he can accept mine is excellent. I will be more kind and loving... And yes a mans action speak louder than words. And thats where my problem lies... No action at all towards me. I think he must hate me  not love me anymore. He has brainwashed himself to think the worst of me and he of course is completely innocent. I think we have a moon square pluto, moon opposed neptune and sun opposite venus  IP: Logged |
hippichick
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posted August 06, 2012 10:39 AM
K, here is my take.I am 50 my guy is 45. I am a Pisces sun, he a Virgo sun and almost everything else, cept a very hot Mars in Scorpio (which is in conjunction to Neptune and his Mars conj my Asc within 1 deg) Anyway, my VERY Virgo bfriend is critical as all get out, not of me, but of himself and projects it onto me! What is good for the goose is good for the gander does not apply to this man. I will throw his critisisms back at him and he turns it, flips it, makes it go upside down and inside out and manages it to be MY issue..huh?  He is not supportive of all, pls read my thread on SU about sharing in a relationship. He is supportive on fixing things for me, for helping me, he would drive me crazy, cause I am so darn independent anyway. He is supportive on giving me unwanted advice, but emotionally supportive...NO! I am from the midwest, now in south Texas but have always wanted to return and am working to do so now to be with my aged grandpa. My bfriend came down here from Ohio on a nursing contract, we are both nurses, and just left to go back home 2 months ago. So now I am dealing with a Virgo man AND a long distance relationship. When he was here, he did everything black and white for me. Made me dinners at his place, prepared me a shower and clean clothes as our date night was often after I got off work on my last day. He would have candles burning for me, tuck me in, etc...but support me emotionally...nope! He would turn and walk away if I even tried to lean on him...he said it was too much "drama" for him. He jokes constantly at my expense. He says something, then follows with "just kidding." So I finally decided to not believe anything he says to keep my sanity. If I do the same, I get into all kinds of trouble. As a matter of fact alot of the time I feel that I am a kid and he is my dad! I am sure I have more, but this is at the top of my brain this morning...I wonder every day why I am still with this guy, but here I am! terri~ IP: Logged |
Dreamweaver
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posted August 06, 2012 07:46 PM
Hey Junethird,
I have 'challenging' aspects with my man too - my moon sq neptune, venus sq neptune (both ways) & sun opp venus (both ways). But I do believe that we meet people in order to grow & sometimes the most difficult challenges once we overcome them become the most meaningful. And, I remembered one tip that might work on a Virgo ruled man! Virgo's rule the stomach, so I took bellydancing lessons early on in our relationship & danced for him (in pvte & in full costume) as a present. He really adored that!!
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Dreamweaver
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posted August 06, 2012 08:07 PM
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K, here is my take.I am 50 my guy is 45. I am a Pisces sun, he a Virgo sun and almost everything else, cept a very hot Mars in Scorpio (which is in conjunction to Neptune and his Mars conj my Asc within 1 deg) Anyway, my VERY Virgo bfriend is critical as all get out, not of me, but of himself and projects it onto me! What is good for the goose is good for the gander does not apply to this man. I will throw his critisisms back at him and he turns it, flips it, makes it go upside down and inside out and manages it to be MY issue..huh? He is not supportive of all, pls read my thread on SU about sharing in a relationship. He is supportive on fixing things for me, for helping me, he would drive me crazy, cause I am so darn independent anyway. He is supportive on giving me unwanted advice, but emotionally supportive...NO! I am from the midwest, now in south Texas but have always wanted to return and am working to do so now to be with my aged grandpa. My bfriend came down here from Ohio on a nursing contract, we are both nurses, and just left to go back home 2 months ago. So now I am dealing with a Virgo man AND a long distance relationship. When he was here, he did everything black and white for me. Made me dinners at his place, prepared me a shower and clean clothes as our date night was often after I got off work on my last day. He would have candles burning for me, tuck me in, etc...but support me emotionally...nope! He would turn and walk away if I even tried to lean on him...he said it was too much "drama" for him. He jokes constantly at my expense. He says something, then follows with "just kidding." So I finally decided to not believe anything he says to keep my sanity. If I do the same, I get into all kinds of trouble. As a matter of fact alot of the time I feel that I am a kid and he is my dad! I am sure I have more, but this is at the top of my brain this morning...I wonder every day why I am still with this guy, but here I am! terri~
Hippiechick - sounds like a real Pisces-Virgo rollercoaster!! I sooo understand what you're going through! My guy is very Virgo & aquarius influenced. I am a typical Pisces gal (Sun, moon, venus & merc). Safe to say he was a workaholic with little time to spare for 'emotional drama'. Despite our differences, I truly feel that he is my soul-mate and the prospect of leaving him (I thought about it often enough!!) was never really on the agenda. The way I got through what I perceived to be his lack of emotion & understanding was to just stop focussing on him. I just focussed on myself & got back to basics with my health, nutrition, yoga & meditation. After a while I realised he was just doing the best he could. It was me who was being critical & expecting him to be more than everything to me. I had to respect that he too was on a journey of development & maybe we were at different stages or we had different issues to deal with (guess who has had to learn to be more resourceful & budget??!!). Anyway a couple of years ago,he had a life-threatening operation & was in hospital for 8 weeks. When he came out, he slowly started on his own journey of personal development & now he is soooo much more supportive - its like being with a new person!! Sometimes he jokes about the way he used to be. When I tell him stories of things he used to say to me, he cannot believe it. Then he realises that despite all that, I am still here & now it is just magical. We are both more appreciative now of each other than ever before & it is a lot easier for him to express it in ways other than physical. So, I guess there's always hope for a Virgo guy!! Maybe time is a major factor. I truly don't know. But I am sincerely hoping things do work out for you too!! See also bellydancing tip above!!
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Junethird
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posted August 06, 2012 10:25 PM
Hey dreamweaver aka belly dancing queen Thanx for the tips. I will look within to find inner strength to push thru his wall. I will embrace him with love and understanding  quote:
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Hey Junethird,
I have 'challenging' aspects with my man too - my moon sq neptune, venus sq neptune (both ways) & sun opp venus (both ways). But I do believe that we meet people in order to grow & sometimes the most difficult challenges once we overcome them become the most meaningful. And, I remembered one tip that might work on a Virgo ruled man! Virgo's rule the stomach, so I took bellydancing lessons early on in our relationship & danced for him (in pvte & in full costume) as a present. He really adored that!!
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Junethird
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posted August 07, 2012 01:24 AM
Hippichick,Thanks for the post!! I can symapthesize with not being able to lean on your guy... I had an ex like that, but he wasnt a virgo. My guy isnt necessarily "emotionally unavailable" he just holds grudges and he is actually a pretty good support system when he isnt holding a grudge and shutting you out... Sigh In the past when ive been upset he has held me and wiped my tears... Sweet i know. But maybe its a scorpio/virgo thing and how to break down their wall once they have gone and brainwashed themselves over a misunderstanding I hope you figure things out with your man. Stay strong and again thanx for sharing your story with me... It helped me realize a few extra things about my guy quote:
Originally posted by hippichick:
K, here is my take.I am 50 my guy is 45. I am a Pisces sun, he a Virgo sun and almost everything else, cept a very hot Mars in Scorpio (which is in conjunction to Neptune and his Mars conj my Asc within 1 deg) Anyway, my VERY Virgo bfriend is critical as all get out, not of me, but of himself and projects it onto me! What is good for the goose is good for the gander does not apply to this man. I will throw his critisisms back at him and he turns it, flips it, makes it go upside down and inside out and manages it to be MY issue..huh? He is not supportive of all, pls read my thread on SU about sharing in a relationship. He is supportive on fixing things for me, for helping me, he would drive me crazy, cause I am so darn independent anyway. He is supportive on giving me unwanted advice, but emotionally supportive...NO! I am from the midwest, now in south Texas but have always wanted to return and am working to do so now to be with my aged grandpa. My bfriend came down here from Ohio on a nursing contract, we are both nurses, and just left to go back home 2 months ago. So now I am dealing with a Virgo man AND a long distance relationship. When he was here, he did everything black and white for me. Made me dinners at his place, prepared me a shower and clean clothes as our date night was often after I got off work on my last day. He would have candles burning for me, tuck me in, etc...but support me emotionally...nope! He would turn and walk away if I even tried to lean on him...he said it was too much "drama" for him. He jokes constantly at my expense. He says something, then follows with "just kidding." So I finally decided to not believe anything he says to keep my sanity. If I do the same, I get into all kinds of trouble. As a matter of fact alot of the time I feel that I am a kid and he is my dad! I am sure I have more, but this is at the top of my brain this morning...I wonder every day why I am still with this guy, but here I am! terri~
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Junethird
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posted August 07, 2012 01:27 AM
Thank you for all the contributions. Its nice to know iam not the only one frustrated with a virgo man IP: Logged |
frankie2912
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posted August 07, 2012 01:58 AM
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Originally posted by Junethird:
Frankie,Yes. I agree that withholding jumping between the sheets early on is a very good idea. Friendship and love go hand in hand. Thanks for your advice and GOODLUCK with your Virgo guy What are his moon/Venus/mars/Asc?
even though is a total man-***** , he respects a girl who can hold out and prove she's cool and real without using the poo tang. his moon is aquarius, venus in cancer/leo (depending on birth time, which is unknown), mars in leo. IP: Logged |
Junethird
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posted August 07, 2012 02:04 AM
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even though is a total man-***** , he respects a girl who can hold out and prove she's cool and real without using the poo tang.his moon is aquarius, venus in cancer/leo (depending on birth time, which is unknown), mars in leo.
Frankie, Oh wow. Thats pretty compatible with my guy. He has moon gemini/venus scorpio/mars leo/ASC scorpio  But its a little too late to hold out for me... But he isnt a new love of mine... But i do see the parallels now... He is always suspicious about how much i dig him sexually... cant help it venus/juno fall over my dc lol iam head over heals over him... Just not too sure about his feelings about me now IP: Logged |
frankie2912
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posted August 07, 2012 02:09 AM
don't worry...putting sex on hold isn't going to affect every virgo guy the same way. i'm sure if i would have had sex with my virgo guy earlier, he would still feel the same.i noticed the similarities between our virgos...interesting. mars in leo LOVES to know how you feel about him, sexually. if you think he deserves to feel good about himself, let him know you enjoy him in that way but don't be too blatant. IP: Logged |
Junethird
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posted August 07, 2012 02:13 AM
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don't worry...putting sex on hold isn't going to affect every virgo guy the same way. i'm sure if i would have had sex with my virgo guy earlier, he would still feel the same.i noticed the similarities between our virgos...interesting. mars in leo LOVES to know how you feel about him, sexually. if you think he deserves to feel good about himself, let him know you enjoy him in that way but don't be too blatant.
Lol yesss correct. Not being too vulgar but some sweet double entendres he lovesss... Sparks naughty fun ideas  ... But that pesky scorpio and its suspicious ways!!! Does your guys mars in leo make him pro active in "chasing" you? IP: Logged |
Rosalind
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posted August 07, 2012 02:33 AM
Dunno with whom is this synastry is this (to be honest I forgot what I have told you regarding the synastry with your guy, so I apologize for that) but just looking at this chart, I can tell you: this man loves you DEEPLY and wants to have a relationship with you than can lead to marriage BUT that Moon over his 8th makes him very reserved in his feelings. You will have to work a LOT to make him open his heart. I don't like that Lilith over his 1st house. Its like he is afraid of you. Yet, Uranus and Neptune, Rx though, makes him feel free and dreamy when he is with you. He is at his best when he is with you. Venus over his 5th house is super good but because your Venus natally is placed in 12th house makes him be a bit shy and private. I don't think he likes PDA. Mercury and Sun over his 7th house are also good for a strong relationship and marriage. With Saturn over his 11th, he takes your friendship very serious and he sees you as the most optimistic and benefic friend he ever had. No 12th karma whatsoever. I like this synastry. At least from his point of view... things are clear. His feelings are clear but he need to overcome that Lilith and Moon effects. I have no idea if you two are soulmates or twinsouls but believe me... this synastry is very good. Composite? I would like to give my second opinion about that if I did it already.IP: Logged |
Junethird
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posted August 07, 2012 02:46 AM
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Originally posted by Rosalind:
Dunno with whom is this synastry is this (to be honest I forgot what I have told you regarding the synastry with your guy, so I apologize for that) but just looking at this chart, I can tell you: this man loves you DEEPLY and wants to have a relationship with you than can lead to marriage BUT that Moon over his 8th makes him very reserved in his feelings. You will have to work a LOT to make him open his heart. I don't like that Lilith over his 1st house. Its like he is afraid of you. Yet, Uranus and Neptune, Rx though, makes him feel free and dreamy when he is with you. He is at his best when he is with you. Venus over his 5th house is super good but because your Venus natally is placed in 12th house makes him be a bit shy and private. I don't think he likes PDA. Mercury and Sun over his 7th house are also good for a strong relationship and marriage. With Saturn over his 11th, he takes your friendship very serious and he sees you as the most optimistic and benefic friend he ever had. No 12th karma whatsoever. I like this synastry. At least from his point of view... things are clear. His feelings are clear but he need to overcome that Lilith and Moon effects. I have no idea if you two are soulmates or twinsouls but believe me... this synastry is very good. Composite? I would like to give my second opinion about that if I did it already.
Oh wow thanks alot Rosalind. As always pretty much on point... I liked what i read I will look into how to overcome the lillith energy... Any suggestions? Whats his big fear with me? IP: Logged | |
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