posted August 07, 2012 12:46 PM            

A slight update on the PDA prediction from him... It's classic PDA. We kiss/light make out, hold hands or if we are sitting together in public he will sometimes rest his hand on my thigh or play with my hair/hands. For me that's normal as Iam not into big showcasing PDA either as I too have natally Venus in Aries 12H.

Other than clearing that little detail you as always cut out the B.S. And zero'd in on the important details

In the past loving him unconditionally without ego is what binded him to me. I admit this time around has been difficult putting my ego aside. Iam stuck on the fact that we are 30 now and not in our early 20's. He should know by now to not be afraid of me. Why does a man turn around to his past after 4 yrs if he is not serious to put in the time and effort?! Iam really stuck on that but I will like suggested cast that wall/ego of mine aside and just love and enjoy him. It's time to try a diff approach, cuz me being a bit harsh on him isn't working to my benefit. It's only pushed him away.

In the past his friends played a huge influenced on us. They don't like/approve of me altho they don't know me, I guess it's the superficial fluff that gets in the way. We are an odd couple an stick out lol. By no means am I unattractive or have a physical setback. Just different. I guess classic love problem. We come from two different worlds but raised/grew up along similar lines. He is trendy fashionable and the big top guy who charms people with his people skills and Iam quiet/low key/simple/demure in my ways. Publically I prefer to be in the background. It works dandy for us but others see it as a bit strange I guess.

I dunno if he would elope, he is kinda stuck on others people opinion/point of view but I can see it for it happening to me at the same time lol quick and easy before anyone changes their mind lol

Yes communication is hard and our karma. We both have issues with expressing ourselves verbally. I think because we both have Venus in 12H. We keep our deep dark fears pretty hidden but they do manifest in passive/aggressive behaviors. We've both acknowledge it but haven't delved too much into it. It's unnerving exposing your true vulnerabilities. To allow the depths of your soul to stand completely naked. Heart and soul in front of the one who has the power to destroy you. It's very scary because that person broke your heart once, can they do it again?

Would you mind elaborating on pas fortune 4H good home life? And building/renovating/upgrading pur future house would be the perfect project for us.

With the moon over the 8h you mentioned it's hard work to open it up... Any more insight into that? I thought it meant deep feelings of being connected.

Again thank you!!! Your straight to the key points chart interps put me at ease and give me a lot to think about.

All the best

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Originally posted by Rosalind:
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Venus in 1st house. You two love each other very much. Ruler goes in 10th were Lilith is. I dare to say that he fears about what others may think about your relationship when you two are in public. I also dare to say that he might like to be seen as friends in public and not as lovers. Venus is also at 0 degrees. Don't worry. The love is kinda forever. Its like the love begun but wont end soon because there is a karmic tie that glues you. Chiron is in 3rd. You two may have some communication problems and because the ruler of this house is Venus in 1st, I have an advice for you two: if you two want to end up married and so on, don't make use of your pride and ego in this relationship. Simply LOVE. Words spoken may hurt deeply if they are told in the wrong moment. Part of Fortune in 4th house is good. Moon in 5th house shows romance and CHILDREN. In Gemini... you can have twins. Ruler of 5th house is in 7th. The relationship clearly can end up in something legal. Marriage. NN is in 6th house. Ruler goes in 5th house. Develop an artistic project together. Something that can make you both happy. You decide what. 7th house is full with rulers in the same house. Yes, the relationship is marriage prone but you need to overcome Mars effects. In Virgo those conflicts are more passive agressive but you need to overcome them anyway. 8th house shows that sex is passionate, very good even with Saturn there. Together you can make great money. Ruler goes in 1st. Be careful and don't become selfish regarding 8th house matters. Share everything. Leaving a bit behind Uranus and Lilith, Juno shows that you two might marry somewhere in public enviroment. During a travel or something like that. Las Vegas maybe? Neptune in 11th house shows that your friendship is clearly more open when you two are in public than love. Again no 12th house karma whatsoever. A great composite chart. Just leave ego and selfishness alone and you two can be very happy together.

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posted August 07, 2012 01:27 PM            

Natally he has his juno in Scorpio 12H and the most common take online is that The native can be done in by the first marriage/business association it would be a first marriage for both of us... Would you mind giving me your professional Astro take/advice/tips on that placement of his?

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Natally he has lilith scorpio 12H @29'30'59"
Mine is in sag 8H @27'4'52"

Aside from love/ego how can i harness a harmonious energy combo from lilith?

posted August 07, 2012 02:53 PM            

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Originally posted by Sunsh!ne:
... However, his incessant need to hyper analyze and catalogue every statement, phrase, word, or gesture is maddening. Some of his remarks have a controlling or possessive tone, even if it's subconscious on his part. I've had to assert my dominant side with this one repeatedly.

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Sunshine I agree and resonate with this statement!!! OMG!! Yes you nailed it and your guy doesn't even have Scorpio Asc/Venus like mine lol it's a double whammy in my guy

posted August 07, 2012 03:47 PM            

I dont know if its past baggage per se.. From my point of view i have never broken his heart or anything like that. The general distrustfulness has always been part of his nature. He can smell a rat a mile away and he doesnt make "new" friends easily if anything its rare, very rare. Most everyone in his inner circle are people he has grown up with or and have been in his life for many many years.

Thats my argument, despite being seperated for a few years, we have known each other for about six years. He knows me. I guess cause iam just too genuine, wonderful, sweet and very unlike any of the woman in his inner environment there must be something wrong with me. A hidden agenda, as i guess in his experience, he knows woman want something from him or have a hidden agenda ie: money hungry i guess. Which in my ooinion is pretty dumb because one, altho he has gone on and had gfs and lived with them, he and i have never done that. I actually refuse to live with him unless we are ready to start the path to marriage. I have my house, he has his, its all good for me just like that until we are ready. He thinks thats odd. Whatever. I want us to live together because he chooses to committ to me and not because he doesnt like being alone. Thats my difference... Plus a few other things but that example is to give you a general idea. I work, i have always supported myself financially. I have my own savings. Iam doing ok. Back in our early 20's he knows i worked while going to university... What more proof does he need!!! He loves and distrust that because as i understand it... Its intimidating?! What?! Lol

So i think its easier for him to believe the worst and that its all a sham than to give in... Because i guess this is the romantic version, if he gives in and he is proven right he will feel like the biggest idiot because he knew better lol

Why does a man come back to his past, four years later if he isnt ready and can drop the ball and run? Why ask me if i love him? Why say to me we will get married and have 2 kids one day... Even say the number of guest from his side that includes his family and friends....in fact he is ready just being a big pansy!!!

Example:

Me: why didnt you tell me you went furniture shopping, i would have gone with you and helped you picked out stuff...
He replies: why, you have no influence on my choices.

Me: why didnt you tell me you went away...
Him: what... Now i have to tell you everything...