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Topic: Scorpio men on and off?!
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Padre35
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From: Asheville, NC, US
Registered: Jul 2012
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posted August 18, 2012 02:15 PM
  
Sometimes we do not want to become buggaboos so we sort of avoid being overly around or you may get tired of us being around so to speak.IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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From: Wankety Wankerson
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posted August 18, 2012 03:27 PM
so ya'll are involved but you don't know if he's attracted? that could be kind of a problem....IP: Logged |
Emsie
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From: Budapest
Registered: Jul 2012
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posted August 18, 2012 04:15 PM
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Originally posted by Capricorn Sun:
Dontcha just luv that gaze? 
I always feel I am being gazed at when he's around! Feels so good and scary at the same time! But I can't say I don't like it to say the least...  By the way... This "cold" behaviour always appears after he "reveals a little bit too much"! IP: Logged |
Emsie
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From: Budapest
Registered: Jul 2012
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posted August 18, 2012 04:18 PM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
so ya'll are involved but you don't know if he's attracted? that could be kind of a problem....
I know he is, his eyes, bodylanguage and the little details of his life he tells me about - definitely showing his attraction, but his behaviour became so strange... IP: Logged |
Swift Freeze
Moderator Posts: 715
From: Dreams
Registered: Nov 2009
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posted August 18, 2012 04:48 PM
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Originally posted by Capricorn Sun:
What's wrong with y'all? lol Does that brooding get you anywhere? It seems like some sort of reverse psychology. Urgh!
I can only speak for myself but its not that I want to brood. I just have a hard time stopping myself. I care about someone so much and love them so much that sometimes I don't think I will ever be able to express just how much I love them. I just feel like, if I could take that little ball of what I feel and expand it to fill the universe and wrap them up in it, then maybe they'd start to get an idea. It is kind of ridiculous because you never know, they might have the same feeling. I know 'brooding' does not help but "I love you" just is not descriptive enough for me. Usually when people retreat it is because they are not interested or playing games. It could also just as likely be that they are unsure of how you feel about them and are testing the waters before they plunge on in. I know I would be extremely hesitant and reticent about jumping into something if I wasn't sure how they felt about me. ------------------
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Capricorn Sun
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From: Planet Saturn
Registered: Aug 2012
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posted August 18, 2012 05:05 PM
Sometimes they just don't know what they want either. I suppose in my situation neither of us know anything really. He finds me fascinating that's why he's always "gazing" at me, and is extremely friendly, but then he retreats. I am the exact same way. I give him so much and then I back off. I have showed plenty good behavior oh yes and plenty of rotten behavior as well, so we're even. Yet neither of us have told the other to fly a kite to the moon. My moon is in his sun, so it's the same behavior. ------------------
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Emsie
Knowflake Posts: 652
From: Budapest
Registered: Jul 2012
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posted August 18, 2012 05:40 PM
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Usually when people retreat it is because they are not interested or playing games. It could also just as likely be that they are unsure of how you feel about them and are testing the waters before they plunge on in. I know I would be extremely hesitant and reticent about jumping into something if I wasn't sure how they felt about me.[/B]
I have to admit that I gave mixed signals, I wanted to hide any feelings - here comes my Scorp ASC and Venus... But there were some that I couldn't, because then I was so open - that's my Sag Sun... So, I think the same, I don't dare to make a move if I'm not sure whether he really likes me or not! Intuition says he does, but sometimes he also gives kind of mixed signals! Sometimes I have the feeling if we're maybe in some ways alike... We both have Aqua Moon and Sag Mars! My Venus is in Scorpio, his in Libra... IP: Logged |
Capricorn Sun
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From: Planet Saturn
Registered: Aug 2012
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posted August 18, 2012 05:52 PM
The mixed signal thing is all part of their ritual. I get that all the time too so I ask myself what is the deal. My intuition says yeah it's all there and then sometimes reality will strike me, hey he's not doing much to show actual interest. So maybe they're only interested when they see us. Out of sight, out of mind. ------------------
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scorpy_oh
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posted August 19, 2012 05:18 AM
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Originally posted by Odette:
For anyone who mentioned being hot & cold towards their love interest...
Have you ever had a long term relationship - that began with this kind of behaviour... and lasted for at least a couple of years?
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Capricorn Sun
Knowflake Posts: 372
From: Planet Saturn
Registered: Aug 2012
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posted August 19, 2012 12:38 PM
Some Scorpion men are scared ******** . ------------------
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Emsie
Knowflake Posts: 652
From: Budapest
Registered: Jul 2012
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posted August 20, 2012 04:42 AM
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Originally posted by Capricorn Sun:
Some Scorpion men are scared ******** .
Yeah, I witnessed it last year... It seems Scorpio men like me pretty much! He showed me typical signs, then he backed off, and instead escaped into mindless playboy life! Since then he had several girls in his life, but no long-term materials... Scaredy cat afraid of being hurt again! He hurts others... IP: Logged |
sand
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posted August 20, 2012 11:06 AM
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Originally posted by Emsie:
He showed me typical signs, then he backed off, and instead escaped into mindless playboy life! Since then he had several girls in his life, but no long-term materials...Scaredy cat afraid of being hurt again! He hurts others...
ahh yes a sea of pointless pu$$y.. "When affected by softer emotions, can deny feelings by withdrawal, by claiming boredom, or by beginning a process of self blame for past misdeeds." "Rarely allow themselves to be hurt by others. If you hurt them emotionally, they will want to manipulate circumsances in order to get back. Thoughts of revenge will forestall their feelings of vulnerability." IP: Logged |
Capricorn Sun
Knowflake Posts: 372
From: Planet Saturn
Registered: Aug 2012
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posted August 20, 2012 12:11 PM
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Originally posted by sand:
ahh yes a sea of pointless pu$$y.."When affected by softer emotions, can deny feelings by withdrawal, by claiming boredom, or by beginning a process of self blame for past misdeeds." "Rarely allow themselves to be hurt by others. If you hurt them emotionally, they will want to manipulate circumsances in order to get back. Thoughts of revenge will forestall their feelings of vulnerability."
I don't really like the ways of the scorpion behavior, show a person they are all into them and what not and then do nothing about it but toy with you for awhile like they are a cat and you are the mouse. Instead of eating the dang mouse, they dangle you on a chain and make sure you are good and dead and feel it before they decide to just leave you there to die. What kind of psychological game is this? It's either you like someone or you don't. I'm irritated in my situation, all he did was get me totally interested in who he is and now he acts as though he doesn't want to know me. He started it! Damn you Scorpio! ------------------
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YoursTrulyAlways
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posted August 20, 2012 04:18 PM
I don't know. My Capricorn side seems too practical for this. Either you want or don't want, so make up your mind and stop wasting my time and your time. I once had a Scorpion girl into the staring thing, as though I would be so mesmerized and spellbound by some stupid gaze. Guess what? My earthly tongue is much sharper and lethal than some stupid gaze. I have zero patience for mental masturbation. All cards on the table 100% if the time is my motto. I wouldn't waste a moment on someone I'm not interested, and I would walk away at the slightest hint that someone is yanking my chain. IP: Logged |
Capricorn Sun
Knowflake Posts: 372
From: Planet Saturn
Registered: Aug 2012
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posted August 21, 2012 12:55 AM
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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
I don't know. My Capricorn side seems too practical for this. Either you want or don't want, so make up your mind and stop wasting my time and your time. I once had a Scorpion girl into the staring thing, as though I would be so mesmerized and spellbound by some stupid gaze. Guess what? My earthly tongue is much sharper and lethal than some stupid gaze. I have zero patience for mental masturbation. All cards on the table 100% if the time is my motto. I wouldn't waste a moment on someone I'm not interested, and I would walk away at the slightest hint that someone is yanking my chain.
I love you, I love you, I love you!!! Yours Truly, you just made my night! Reading this is the ultimate truth. I have logical Cap in me as well that speaks louder then anything else. I love your wording for this, I'm so dumb founded as it is, and you spelled it out in simple English. Amen!
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Emsie
Knowflake Posts: 652
From: Budapest
Registered: Jul 2012
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posted August 26, 2012 01:30 PM
Okay, my Scorpio "prey" is still doing this hot and cold stuff, sometimes I see on his face that he wants to say something, be around me and he cares about me, other days he puts on an almost impenetrable mask like he doesn't care -> facts are that he had a whole pile of work to do these days...Last time when I met him I could read "telltale" body language gestures, and I feel it as well, that he likes me so much, but then why he doesn't invite me for a drink or a date?!
Afraid of rejection or maybe uncertainty?! IP: Logged |
asclibrasagsun
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Registered: Aug 2012
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posted August 26, 2012 01:33 PM
Yes I agree that they are on and off, or just plain old annoying - at least to me they are, I don't mean to offend everyone. I dated one - glad I broke up with him. He never helped when I needed help but always wanted for me to be at his service when he needed something! Ridiculous. Another Scorpio trait I found to be interesting was the inherent possessiveness that was absolutely out of place. But this is probably my freedom-loving Sag. Sun speaking for itself.IP: Logged |
Capricorn Sun
Knowflake Posts: 372
From: Planet Saturn
Registered: Aug 2012
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posted August 26, 2012 02:36 PM
According to the Scorpio experts on here, the guy doesn't like you. Take it and eat it. lolMy suggestion as in dealing with the Scorpions myself, just let it go. They just play with your head until it hurts. Find a real man who doesn't act like a pussy cat. The "Experts" drove this notion into my head. ------------------
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Elysia
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posted October 30, 2015 02:59 PM
In my experience, this happens/has happened when -a. Their emotions overwhelmed them and they needed to step back to process them for a bit. But they come back to you full swing and surer than ever. If you have any Scorpio in your chart, you probably already know the need to withdraw into oneself to ponder the deep mysteries of our inner selves and the universe. b. When they're going through their 'low' phase. Cut off all contact with the world, appear angry and/or aloof. Distant. But again, in this case, they'll be back once they've regained their emotional footing (so to speak). Though the reasons may differ from time to time (and Scorp to Scorp) - in any case, it gives them an opportunity to test whether you'll stick around through their emotional storms or bolt like any other ordinary person. I'm not saying you should allow yourself to get manipulated, but if what you feel for him is real, have faith and patience. He'll come around. Here's another thread that talks about a similar issue - http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum24/HTML/231490.html
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missblyss
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From: san diego, ca, USA
Registered: Oct 2015
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posted October 31, 2015 02:44 AM
He could definitely be playing games, but of course, who's to say if you guys were REALLY soulmates.. then he might be so compelled to man up and stop playing these games!I have a scorpion man that I've been hooking up with. Day one he was telling me things like "you're mine.." yadda yadda. I'm not really looking for a relationship, and don't necessarily think he is "the one" either.... So I can't imagine he thinks I am... But I liked the little thing we had going. He now is SO on and off, not texting me back, but then calling me saying h was depressed.. then posting loads of pics with other girls. I can definitely see some game playing going on.. So, yes I think he does want you. But, at the same time, if he REALLY wanted you to the point where he couldn't live without you- I think he'd man up IP: Logged |
wheresthemoon
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From: Texas
Registered: Aug 2014
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posted October 31, 2015 10:08 AM
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Originally posted by Odette:
In my opinion people (male or female) of ANY sign only act on and off... when they are unsure they like someone.
When there is a strong connection and it feels *right* - then nobody behaves on&off. http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum27/HTML/000028.html
I disagree with this to some extent. I could really be interested in someone, but if I feel like they might hurt me, I'll pretend to be somewhat indifferent. It's because I don't like the power they have over me and I'm kind of playing games. If I really like someone I try my hardest not to text them first - never to say "I love you" first - never to make myself vulnerable in any way shape or form. Healthy, right? Lol I have Venus opposite Pluto and I think this is a Scorpio/Pluto thing. I was talking to a Scorpio guy recently who was literally obsessed with me - and when I say obsessed, I mean obsessed. Even he would pull back and play indifferent when he started to feel that I wasn't interested, which I wasn't. It's part of a strategy. Another Scorpio guy I was SUPER into acted like he really liked me and then pulled back suddenly and told me he couldn't go there with me and actually explained that he was afraid to get involved because I was still technically married. He then explained that his parents were divorced when he was young and got back together a few years later. It made him fearful that if I was still tied to my ex I could easily go back to him. I do think most of the time you're right. If someone's acting like they're not into you they probably aren't l. But with Scorpio it's hard to tell. Actually with any water sign it's hard to tell. They are very self-protective. IP: Logged |
theunknown
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posted October 31, 2015 10:57 AM
^^^^also a Scorpio can say things to just provoke  Though they usually express their intention through body languages IP: Logged |
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