posted August 19, 2012 06:34 PM            

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Originally posted by awakemer:
I've had that with libra men as well.. to be honest I don't feel Libra's have a lot of substance and can't handle my depthness. I really like them thought it will only work if they have some water or fire in them.

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Personally, I would say that we do have depth.

However, whether we show it or not is something else.

Libras want to be loved. Being loved often means hiding yourself. It is very difficult for most Libras to just "let it all hang out", like other signs expect us to do.

posted August 19, 2012 06:40 PM            

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Originally posted by RegardesPlatero:
Personally, I would say that we do have depth.

However, whether we show it or not is something else.

Libras want to be loved. Being loved often means hiding yourself. It is very difficult for most Libras to just "let it all hang out", like other signs expect us to do.

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posted August 19, 2012 07:29 PM            

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Originally posted by awakemer:
Hmmm this is what i find with Libra men. I'm on a dating site so i talk to many many men. I find the libra's will like me RIGHT AWAY.. without knowing too much about me.. and they say i'm pretty,nice and kind etc... they don't look DEEPER in to me to see if i have anything other than superficial qualities.. and the conversations lack substance. It's an air quality. I love Libras! don't get me wrong. but they aren't into having deep conversations and don't look deeper than the surface (unless they have other influences in their chart). I have not had one with any. EVERYTHING is all about relationships.. nothing about psychology, spirituality etc...

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posted August 19, 2012 07:41 PM            

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Originally posted by awakemer:
Hmmm this is what i find with Libra men. I'm on a dating site so i talk to many many men. I find the libra's will like me RIGHT AWAY.. without knowing too much about me.. and they say i'm pretty,nice and kind etc... they don't look DEEPER in to me to see if i have anything other than superficial qualities.. and the conversations lack substance. It's an air quality. I love Libras! don't get me wrong. but they aren't into having deep conversations and don't look deeper than the surface (unless they have other influences in their chart). I have not had one with any. EVERYTHING is all about relationships.. nothing about psychology, spirituality etc...

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Maybe it's the men who go to dating sites. I tried it once and will never do it again. I talked to men of most of the zodiac and they were all the same. They would initiate contact and I quickly became bored with them because the conversations were superficial.

I'm a Libra who needs deep conversations and will walk away from men who choose to linger too long on the surface. There were a few times that I have given the cold shoulder to guys, but it was because they showed no sign of interest. Funnily, they were offended. The conversations were usually one-sided and I got tired of making them laugh. If we don't feel that things are equal then we're done. I think this is usually more of the case when Mercury is also in Libra.

posted August 19, 2012 07:48 PM            

But this is all about the Sun sign. Other factors should be considered.

posted August 19, 2012 07:53 PM            

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Originally posted by Delilah:
Also, people tend to mistake our kindness for flirting. Sometimes we just want to talk without things going further and when someone we're not interested in makes a move or comes on too strong then we figure that it's better to walk away without saying much.

But this is all about the Sun sign. Other factors should be considered.

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This is my experience but from the other side, either a Libra will like you, or not.

But what I've found that makes that not such a dealbreaker is if the Libra female is not interested, don't bring it back up and then they are fine being their Libra selves and chatting and just being who they are so to speak.

posted August 19, 2012 07:55 PM            

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Originally posted by Delilah:
Also, people tend to mistake our kindness for flirting. Sometimes we just want to talk without things going further and when someone we're not interested in makes a move or comes on too strong then we figure that it's better to walk away without saying much.

But this is all about the Sun sign. Other factors should be considered.

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posted August 19, 2012 09:47 PM            

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Originally posted by Delilah:
Also, people tend to mistake our kindness for flirting. Sometimes we just want to talk without things going further and when someone we're not interested in makes a move or comes on too strong then we figure that it's better to walk away without saying much.

But this is all about the Sun sign. Other factors should be considered.

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posted August 20, 2012 12:25 AM            

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Originally posted by Padre35:
This is my experience but from the other side, either a Libra will like you, or not.

But what I've found that makes that not such a dealbreaker is if the Libra female is not interested, don't bring it back up and then they are fine being their Libra selves and chatting and just being who they are so to speak.

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Exactly. We don't want to be uncomfortable and feel that things are off for either person. It's not that we don't notice the change. We do, but are appreciative that you've taken our confortability into consideration by backing off.

Speaking for myself, a guy would have to prove his intentions aren't fly-by-night. Being an ally or friend for a long time will make me reconsider and then there's no running or cold shoulder. At least this is where I'm now headed.

posted August 20, 2012 12:25 AM            

It really isn't just the woman's Sun sign that influences this. You have to take into consideration her rising sign (how she's seen), its aspects, Venus' placement, sign, and aspects. I imagine if there's a lot of air in her chart then she's a huge flirt and doesn't know if she wants something stable or something new all of the time.

posted August 20, 2012 01:03 AM            

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Originally posted by RegardesPlatero:
Guys tend to think that any contact is automatically interest, and it just is not that way.

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posted August 20, 2012 01:13 AM            

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Originally posted by RegardesPlatero:
Personally, I would say that we do have depth.

However, whether we show it or not is something else.

Libras want to be loved. Being loved often means hiding yourself. It is very difficult for most Libras to just "let it all hang out", like other signs expect us to do.

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posted August 20, 2012 03:33 AM            

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Originally posted by sand:
i don't mind this. i mask myself too in a lot of shallowness and superficiality. but that is a part of me too which happens to be what i prefer to project instead of darkness and depth. just not on the first date darling.

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posted August 20, 2012 05:06 AM            

Having Pluto opposed ASC/ASC in Aries, Mars in Leo, Sun in Sag. I tend toward things like sarcasm, rough housing, and crass humor in the company of close friends. I leave social politics on the coat rack by the front door, and generally avoid wearing my coat in the house.

It seems at a specific point I go too far and the connection begins to dwindle. Whenever I feel it happening, I make an attempt to soften my intensity a bit around them, but it comes off as disingenuous (because I am just a naturally intense and playful person). I think it translates as if I am trying to chase them or change myself to fit their interests (which tends to be a turn off in the Libra guys I have attracted).

By that point I sorta just give up. I can apologize for offending someone, but none of them will confess to a reason for "gracefully bowing out". Which leaves me in a position that I can't remedy. At that point I just shrug it off, they usually end up a random friend on my facebook friends list.

I did date one Libra with whom I related amazingly well, but I was young. He was a college rower, with a down to earth personality, studying bio-chem, and it was therefor incumbent upon me to sabotage the relationship. He's now a doctor FML.

/sadface

posted August 20, 2012 05:29 AM            

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Originally posted by sand:
i don't mind this. i mask myself too in a lot of shallowness and superficiality. but that is a part of me too which happens to be what i prefer to project instead of darkness and depth. just not on the first date darling.

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It is important to be socially appropriate, and you're definite right that you shouldn't project doom and gloom on the first date.

When you first get to know someone, it's really not appropriate to get into heavy stuff until you've had time to get to know each other and build trust. It's also important to reveal yourself slowly over time. If you just dump everything on a person at once, they will overwhelmed and freaked out. Now, important things should be revealed up front, but a lot of other things should come up only after you've established a sturdy foundation and have the proper level of closeness to discuss those things.

posted August 20, 2012 05:31 AM            

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Originally posted by sand:
learn to read cues/ signals better. i think sociable is their normal state and then if you initiate something more romantic while they were being just sociable then of course you will get the cold shoulder because they do not want to send the wrong signals of which they may have been unaware at first.

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--amen, hallelujah

posted August 20, 2012 10:33 AM            

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Originally posted by RegardesPlatero:
And, too, I think that some people feel that they have a right to just "be themselves", even when their self is nasty, vulgar, inappropriate, rude, disgusting, and otherwise unpleasant. No. Being yourself means striving to be the best of yourself, not settling for the lowest. It means working on your faults, and loving yourself while you do, but not embracing them to the point of letting them remain untamed or uncontrolled.

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posted August 20, 2012 11:35 PM            

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Originally posted by RegardesPlatero:
It is important to be socially appropriate, and you're definite right that you shouldn't project doom and gloom on the first date.

When you first get to know someone, it's really not appropriate to get into heavy stuff until you've had time to get to know each other and build trust. It's also important to reveal yourself slowly over time. If you just dump everything on a person at once, they will overwhelmed and freaked out. Now, important things should be revealed up front, but a lot of other things should come up only after you've established a sturdy foundation and have the proper level of closeness to discuss those things.

And, too, I think that some people feel that they have a right to just "be themselves", even when their self is nasty, vulgar, inappropriate, rude, disgusting, and otherwise unpleasant. No. Being yourself means striving to be the best of yourself, not settling for the lowest. It means working on your faults, and loving yourself while you do, but not embracing them to the point of letting them remain untamed or uncontrolled.

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posted August 20, 2012 11:45 PM            

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Originally posted by bambam:
HAHA! My roommate does this (sun in libra moon in libra). She claims that she is just a very social person, not fliratious (yeah right). Libras seem to go after a love interest only if the love interest appealed to the Libra at first glance. I think it has to do with their ideals of beauty.

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posted August 21, 2012 12:52 AM            

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Originally posted by bambam:
She claims that she is just a very social person, not fliratious (yeah right). Libras seem to go after a love interest only if the love interest appealed to the Libra at first glance. I think it has to do with their ideals of beauty.

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