posted August 21, 2012 05:35 AM
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Originally posted by Delilah:
Maybe it's the men who go to dating sites. I tried it once and will never do it again. I talked to men of most of the zodiac and they were all the same. They would initiate contact and I quickly became bored with them because the conversations were superficial. I'm a Libra who needs deep conversations and will walk away from men who choose to linger too long on the surface. There were a few times that I have given the cold shoulder to guys, but it was because they showed no sign of interest. Funnily, they were offended. The conversations were usually one-sided and I got tired of making them laugh. If we don't feel that things are equal then we're done. I think this is usually more of the case when Mercury is also in Libra.
I think that sometimes men might pursue Libras/people who have traditional Libra qualities (beauty, intelligence, taste, etc.) in order to feel good about themselves. Those types don't have Libran qualities themselves. I think that they seek them out to add to their own status and reputation. I think that they see Libra-influenced women/non-Libras who have some typically Libran qualities as some kind of prize to be won instead of an actual person, and that the Libra will make a nice little arm accessory to enhance their image: as though the good traits of the Libra will make people think, "wow, he must be something to be with her." Moreover, those types feel as though they somehow are owed or deserve a "prize" woman. They get mad when they find out that woman is a real, living, breathing creature with a mind of her own who isn't just there to entertain. Types like that also expect Libras to be entertained by them or interested in them when they have little to nothing in common and don't engage Libra's mind.
I think that sometimes people often forget about the intellectual side of Libras. Linda Goodman used to refer to us as "the iron fist in a velvet glove" and said that a Libra "has a mind like a steel trap" (I believe this was in "Sun Signs"; I've lost my copy so I apologize for not being able to give a page number).
Some men, too, seem to have this mentality that the women that they like should be interested in them no matter what, and get angry if a woman isn't into them. Those types seem to believe that a woman can't be charming or delightful without having interest, and get angry with the woman when they are the ones who've read interest into things when it was never there. Those types are arrogant and refuse to see their own faults, believing that people should "accept them as they are" and then whining when some women refuse.
There are also some men also seem to resent or get jealous of Libra women because of the attention that they get. A woman shouldn't have to put out her light and deny herself the right to shine in her full glory just because it makes a man feel insecure. A woman in that situation, Libran or not, will be very unhappy.
Really, guys like that remind me a lot of Gaston from "Beauty and the Beast". A Libra will not be happy with any of the kinds of guys that I described. She will be miserable. That behavior would cause a Libra to go cold, at least one with self-esteem/one who expects a healthy relationship.
Libras get bored with people like that, and we definitely pick up on it. We are not objects. Yes, we like to be pleasing, but we are not dolls that exist just to amuse other people. We may be publicly charming, but our intellectual side will come out with those we trust and in private, one-on-one/in small groups.
A Libra can only be happy with a true equal, and with someone who allows her to be radiant without resentment, bitterness, jealousy, insecurity, or darker attitudes/behaviors. A Libra can only be happy with someone who appreciates her beauty and grace, but sees the other good qualities that there.
Lindaland
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posted August 21, 2012 03:49 AM