posted October 01, 2012 08:15 AM            

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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
One guy I know is in his early 60s and has a taste for 20-somethings. So he keeps goomahs on the side like Tony Soprano. I ask him how long he has been doing this. He said over 30 years. He tells me that his wife can't remain in her 20s forever. This guy has grand kids! He has a 41 year old daughter!

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posted October 01, 2012 08:17 AM            

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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
I also hear sh1t from married men that they seek pros on the side because their wives refuse to give blows or take it in the back. Yeah. Like you guys were so goody two shoes that you didn't know that before getting married. Or I get crap like she doesn't know how to cook. The fault there lies in all that eating out fantasy sh1t. That's why i hate dating so much. It's as fake as a three dollar bill. Now, baby, why don't you come over here and sit on my lap. Lol.

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that last sentence--are you saying that's how they think/act?

posted October 01, 2012 08:34 AM            

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Originally posted by RegardesPlatero:
that last sentence--are you saying that's how they think/act?

if you're saying that to me, even in joking, it makes me uncomfortable and I'd prefer that you didn't, but I didn't want to lash out at you if you were just "speaking like they would" and it wasn't aimed at me, so I wanted to be sure that I understood you correctly/read that right, as it wasn't clear--didn't want to read it wrong or misunderstand

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That is how they think!

Come on, I just went through a whole treatise of not cheating on spouses.

I edited out my other remarks out of making peace, but this is a joke not directed at you. Stuff like this makes me grossly upset.

posted October 01, 2012 11:25 PM            

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Apparently, in this day and age, wedding ring means nothing to a lot of women, including those with wedding rings and diamond solitaires.

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YTA- I totally agree with you. It doesn't mean much to the men either. In the last couple of months I've had a few married men hitting on me (LIKE I DON'T EVEN SEE THEIR RING) and I just roll my eyes and walk away. So many people these days don't seem to understand what words like 'character' and 'integrity' mean.

Anyway...

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That's true.. I feel sorry for the less unfortunate and try to include them and help them... but it sometimes leads to something obsessive...

Can you post your chart?

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Well, for me it's not usually problems with 'the less fortunate' so much as it is problems with attracting people who have major hang ups who like the fact that I am open and inclusive and make them feel comfortable. That's where I get myself in trouble, because, at the end of the day, I don't want to be EVERYONE'S counselor.

posted October 01, 2012 11:32 PM            

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Originally posted by Starish:
Now... I have something I've wondered about for a long time: How can you see what kind of people you [b]attract?

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posted October 02, 2012 04:02 AM            

Other things have an affect, too. For example, I'm a blue-eyed blonde with a Texas accent and when I lived in a California neighborhood in which whites were very much a minority another blue-eyed blonde with a TN accent gravitated to me and I to her. But then Tennesseans & Texans sometimes don't get along at all (this ranges from different styles of country music to the fight over who "owns" Davy Crockett) and this did flare up between us a couple of times so I do believe that were we in our states of birth that we would NOT have gravitated to one another, but given that we were Southerners in California we most certainly did (I hear Muslims from the Middle East who tend to disdain the Eastern Orthodox will be friendly with the Orthodox when meeting them in America, too, as they feel less alone in a strange land, and I think that was why she & I got along when in the South we wouldn't have).

posted October 02, 2012 05:02 AM            

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Originally posted by Lonake:
They have similar chart patterns to mine, esp Venus/Pluto aspects in their natal which I have. This brings attraction even if the actual synastry looks bland and you wouldn't think we'd be attracted to each other. .

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posted October 02, 2012 08:04 AM            

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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
[b]That is how they think!

Come on, I just went through a whole treatise of not cheating on spouses.

I edited out my other remarks out of making peace, but this is a joke not directed at you. Stuff like this makes me grossly upset.

Given that I'm writing out of care for your feelings, would appreciate if you cared about my feelings as well.[/B]

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I didn't mean to be hurtful--maybe it came out wrong.

Basically, I did not want to accuse you of making a joke/remark to me if it was not aimed at me, and I was asking to be sure that I understood you. I didn't want to lash out or fly off the handle, only to find out that I had falsely accused someone of something. So, I just wanted to be sure and ask; the wording was a bit unclear and I wasn't sure if you were making a joke or if you were saying how some people approach things. I hope that clarifies things.

I was actually trying to care about people's feelings by asking rather than making an assumption, and was trying to make sure I understood in my asking for clarification, so I'm sorry if that wasn't clear or my wording didn't give that message: sometimes, it is hard to get the meaning of something online because unlike in real life, you don't have facial expressions, inflection/tone, etc. to help give you clues.