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posted September 29, 2012 08:00 AM            

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Hi guys,

Through astrology I finally figured why I seem drawn to air signs (=I am almost void of air in my chart.. except for my moon).

Now... I have something I've wondered about for a long time: How can you see what kind of people you attract?

I am asking, because I seem to attract people that are loners, stalkerish, disabled, "special needs" and autistic. I have been tested in several tests to have an IQ (and numerical+logical aptitude test results) quite above average and am described as bubbly and social..

Example 1: I worked in a "welcoming new students"-comittee, where I helped a guy who came to the country to study the same as I. As he seemed utterly help-less I told him "I am heading in the same direction, so I can show you your dormitory"... and this was the start of him calling me "a true angel", "I have fallen in love with you", writing me songs, letters, messages etc etc.. even after I moved out of the country for my own stay abroad, he told me he was thinking of extending his stay in my country, but only if I'd come back. He is hyper-intelligent, but weird.

^^^^ I have other examples of this...

Example 2: Where I work there is a woman in my department, but a complete other building, who is "socially and a little mentally disabled" (Of lack of better English words) and has some degree of autism. She's worked there for 20 years whereas I was completely new.. she started coming to my table for lunch and trying to be around me whenever possible.

It seems like these people expect me to help them with something, but I can't see what?

Is it my chiron in 12th house Cancer? My Cancer ascendant? My "have all types of friends" Sagittarius sun.. what is it?

And now to you: what kinds of people .. and why do you think you do so (Astrologically) ?

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posted September 29, 2012 08:22 AM            

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I think a good way of determining what kind of people you attract is to look at your first house.

I have Jupiter, Saturn, and Pluto in my 1st. My Asc conjuncts both Jupiter and Saturn. I attract generous and serious types of guys- so a lot of Aquarius and Capricorns. Actually, TOO many Capricorns. I don't mind the generous part but I don't care for the seriousness. Also, most of the time it seems like I attract psychos, weirdos, creepos, and just plain YUCK so I know it's the work of Pluto magnetizing those fools towards me. The creepos tend to be Cancer and Libra. NO BUENO

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posted September 29, 2012 08:38 AM            

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edit; forget it; no point in talking about it

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posted September 29, 2012 09:26 AM            

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I attract intellectuals, hipsters, some professionals med students, and artists. Everyone a attracts a degree of weirdos, creeps and freaks.
I have a lot of water and air in my chart. Aldo my moon in Gemini is conjunct my asc in Taurus, my sun is sextile my Asc, Eros and Psyche.

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posted September 29, 2012 09:42 AM            

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Power, Fashion, Genius, Darling.

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posted September 29, 2012 10:04 AM            

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With so much Scorpattarius in my chart I tend to attract a wide swath of people.

From weirdos, to cops, to professionals to the abused and wishing to be abused.

Rather odd really, for me there is no one "type" just seem to have people drawn to me.

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posted September 29, 2012 10:14 AM            

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outgoing hyperactive people, i think. Who are still sensitive and thoughtful on the inside

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posted September 29, 2012 10:27 AM            

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I don't knowthing about planets etc..but I welcome everyone as a friend for starters untill they end up being a lousy person. Then I don't speak to them, I never meet a "stranger" never did like that word...strangers are friends you havnt met yet.

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posted September 29, 2012 11:04 AM            

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Originally posted by RegardesPlatero:
Perverts, filth, creeps, people that freak me out and make me big-time uncomfortable--likely very bad people.

Suffice to say that I try to avoid them like the plague.

Then again, it seems, from what straight men themselves have told me (including several here), that men really don't care about women unless it's for sex or their families--and again, that's from the horse's mouth. From what I understand, they won't be nice to a girl unless they have the possibility of sex. So, after learning this, I'm pretty much wary of any man, unless I know he's gay or if he's taken and very much in love w/his partner (I wouldn't be friends with someone who would cheat or cross boundaries; they wouldn't be good enough to be my friend or be trusted, so I'm only friends with people who are taken if I know they would not violate their partner's trust or my own boundaries).

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i assume this was partly directed at me because i have made it very clear that i look for girls for dating/relationships only. so i feel the need to clarify that it has little to do with sex,lets just be honest here, there are lots of women nowadays who are down for one night stands, so i could find a girl for meaningless sex if i really wanted to, but thats just not my thing. the reason i'm opposed to female friends is that when i approach a girl and start making concrete efforts to spend time with her i have romantic intentions in mind and make my intentions uncommonly clear. usually they seem interested and then drop the " i only see you as a friend" bomb on me later on after i have already become emotionally invested. in the past i accepted and tried to be friends with the girls but i was only a convenience. they wanted me around as a surrogate boyfriend when their boyfriends were out screwing around on them, they only saw me as a utility, not as a real friend. if things were going well with their relationships i didnt hear from them, however this wasnt really an issue as every single one of them chose real winners(sarcasm). the guys they dated were verbally abusive and controlling and cheated on them and they would always come crying to me and ask"what should i do dusty?" and my response was always dump their a** and they would never take my advice,that was another thing that ****** me off. these experiences were incredibly emotionally draining for me and i vowed to never do it again. now,can you understand why i want no part of this ? or do you still think i'm an a**hole, either ways fine with me i dont care. i dont think wanting a girl who actually appreciates me makes me a bad person, neither does declining to spend time with a girl who doesnt appreciate me but worships the ground losers walk on, sorry no thanks!

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posted September 29, 2012 11:37 AM            

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Stand down. Please! It's a ridiculous debate of the sexes that will never end in any amicable resolution. There is no need for either of you to justify your positions, and honestly we've heard them enough.

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posted September 29, 2012 11:40 AM            

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^ i am just saying it like it is yta, i am not being unreasonable.

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posted September 29, 2012 11:46 AM            

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Well, you've said what you needed to say. Now, make your peace and move on. In other words, STFU

I'm not walking into this minefield!

I'm equal opportunity. I don't give a f about anybody.

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posted September 29, 2012 11:59 AM            

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i agree that it is pointless to bring up this issue in the first place, and i will refrain from doing it from now on. however, i refuse to stand by while my integrity is questioned, i will always defend it without fail, this is something i will not compromise on. but i do promise to do so in a respectable manner. btw sry for derailing your thread starish

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posted September 29, 2012 12:00 PM            

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Originally posted by a_may_gemini:
I think a good way of determining what kind of people you attract is to look at your first house.

I have Jupiter, Saturn, and Pluto in my 1st. My Asc conjuncts both Jupiter and Saturn. I attract generous and serious types of guys- so a lot of Aquarius and Capricorns. Actually, TOO many Capricorns. I don't mind the generous part but I don't care for the seriousness. Also, most of the time it seems like I attract psychos, weirdos, creepos, and just plain YUCK so I know it's the work of Pluto magnetizing those fools towards me. The creepos tend to be Cancer and Libra. NO BUENO

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Might be.. however I got to planets in my first house, only a strongly aspected Ascendant. Do you think that could be it? I tried to edit my first post, so a image is inserted instead - hope it works

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posted September 29, 2012 12:02 PM            

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actually, aquaguy, it had nothing to do with you

there are a lot of people who get on my nerves

for the last three weeks, it's been pretty much everyone in my life, plus humanity in general, except like a small handful/percentage

it's like someone scheduled Drive-Platero-Crazy Month and forgot to tell me

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posted September 29, 2012 12:05 PM            

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Originally posted by RegardesPlatero:
actually, aquaguy, it had nothing to do with you

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i wasnt referring to that. i was referring to the part where you said guys on here have pretty much stated they dont care about girls unless sex is involved, and you had implied that i was like that once before.so i was just clearing things up just in case.

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posted September 29, 2012 12:38 PM            

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Originally posted by RegardesPlatero:
Perverts, filth, creeps, people that freak me out and make me big-time uncomfortable--likely very bad people.

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What is it in your chart, do you think, is the reason behind that? Please keep this thread free of personal drama between the users, it was not my intention to stir anything like this up.

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posted September 29, 2012 12:40 PM            

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What is it in your chart, do you think, is the reason behind that? Please keep this thread free of personal drama between the users, it was not my intention to stir anything like this up.

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It's the full moon.

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posted September 29, 2012 12:42 PM            

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starish ,after looking at your chart i believe that mars square neptune is contributing to this. btw i apologize for momentarily hijacking your thread

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posted September 29, 2012 12:46 PM            

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^ mars and neptune don't do that. It's her chiron and it being in the twelfth. People with that placement just seem to absorb any cr*p that may not even exist, somewhere and they always have a habit of dealing with those "less off" and try to better them in some way.

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posted September 29, 2012 12:51 PM            

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^ mars and neptune don't do that. It's her chiron and it being in the twelfth. People with that placement just seem to absorb any cr*p that may not even exist, somewhere and they always have a habit of dealing with those "less off" and try to better them in some way.

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i disagree, mars in a womans chart can represent the kind of men she meets, neptune rules mental illness,so it explains her experiences with guys with special needs. she also has neptune exactly conjunct the descendant which is another factor. add the mars quincunx to pluto which explains the stalking behavior.

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posted September 29, 2012 12:54 PM            

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i have a heavily afflicted venus, it squares: mars, the moon,and pluto. it also exactly semisquares uranus and quincunxes chiron. i tend to attract girls with serious issues. lol i know thats a very general term, but its fitting, when i say issues i mean i have seen it all: girls with self esteem issues, manipulative girls, emotionally unstable girls,mentally unstable girls, girls with commitment issues etc.

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posted September 29, 2012 12:57 PM            

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Hmmm...

I think that sometimes you have some control over who you attract into your life. I've gotten to the point where I can see the little signs of a person who is a super egotistical user (who are often the types that I attract due to my naturally helpful open nature) and I am able to avoid them like the plague. It has made my life much more happy, I'll say that. I also tend to attract people with mental problems, mostly because I am actually a trained counselor and people seem to sense this. And finally, for the oddest of reasons, I attract engineers/computer programmers/economists- usually men, which I think has to do with the fact that I have that fire grand trine which includes Mars and Uranus.

The other weird thing that I seem to attract, and I have been pondering this one for awhile... Is that I attract people who seem to want to add me on as a third wheel in their relationships. I have absolutely no idea why this would be. Either a woman who wants to 'compete' against me for the attention of another guy because they are the jealous/insecure type (and I am NOT the type to compete, I just walk away) OR the guy who wants to have his ego stroked by trying to entice me into the middle of that kind of a situation (and again, I always just walk away). It's absolutely infuriating for me in relationships because I really just want a nice, boring, monogamous relationship, but everyone else always seems to want to pull me in to their drama. I end up wasting my time with people who I didn't realize were attached. I'm wondering if it's due to my Uranus/Jupiter conjunction squaring my Venus, but I don't know...

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posted September 29, 2012 01:15 PM            

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I believe that the answer to your question of why you attract that type of person lies in your seventh house. The first house is YOU, your personality, your appearance, your relationship with yourself. The seventh house rules your relationship with other people, the kinds of people you attract into relationships (friendships, business partnerships, romance, enemies, whatever). But mostly your projections on other people.
Your Neptune conjunct Mercury (within two degrees) indicates that, among other things, you tend to attract people with mental disabilities. In Capricorn, these people do not have the knowledge of how to nurture themselves. They feel alone and their minds hang out in far away and fantastical places. Socially, they seem very quirky and eccentric. They communicate in a very different way because their minds process information from a place that seems so out of this world. There is a deep need to either be saved or to save someone else, thus they fall in love quickly. They see their savior.
Your Cancer rising with Moon in Gemini tells me that you deeply care for others, but you tend to intellectualize your emotions as a way to escape dealing with them. You feel more detached from them, and thus safter in a way. Thus the exaggeration of attracting people who become attached really quickly and deeply, which is the opposite side of the coin of not knowing how to deal with and express your emotions in a healthy way. Since it's looked like no one is there to save you, and you can't save yourself, YOU become the savior.

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posted September 29, 2012 01:25 PM            

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i disagree, mars in a womans chart can represent the kind of men she meets, neptune rules mental illness,so it explains her experiences with guys with special needs. she also has neptune exactly conjunct the descendant which is another factor. add the mars quincunx to pluto which explains the stalking behavior.

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Well, o0-k, then...

Neptune will give her a few alcoholics and psychic vampires but no disabled people.

For topic's sake, starish, i have the mars square with neptune and i also grew up seeing first hand the effects of someone dealing with their chiron in the twelfth.

It's the basis of my comment.

Cheers.

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