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Topic: People who attract relationships to them easily vs those who don't: aspects ?
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iliketurtles
Knowflake Posts: 111
From: 2099
Registered: Nov 2010
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posted November 09, 2012 03:18 AM
  
i haven't had a proper boyfriend in fifteen years. i had some "flings". had one very important relationship with a friend/sling. i never let it develop into something more (he never pushed for a relationship either. i think we were both pretty terrified of each other..) but i loved him dearly. i was scared of being in a relationship (my dad was terrible husband. i believe that affected my view of relationships and question my own capabilities as a romantic partner). i spent probably a good ten years trying to forget about him and stop "what if"-ing. i didn't want to be in a relationship with anyone else either. i got over him a few years ago and changed my mind about falling in love...in the past three and a half years i've just had terrible luck where attraction is concerned. almost every single guy that has tried to get near me or worse approached me was a complete ******* who had not heard of the concept of personal boundaries. i wrote a list of personal qualities that i would like in a potential partner. but i've just been an ******* magnet for over three years now. i dont know what to do anymore. things are alot better now than year before last. it was a very intense time. almost all of the men just made me want to puke. i'm not sure i'm capable of attracting a decent, admirable, attractive man. i might be. there was one person but he turned out the same as all the others, only better looking. hes getting married. he f***** me over a good one. his fiancee has been married and has two children plus one with handsome a******. disappointment after dissapointment. my saturn return sucked. used and abused but i got through it. capricorn rising
sun in the 8th
moon in the 3rd. i read somewhere this placement make it difficult to hold onto people/relationships 
venus in the 9th
mars in 6th
jupiter/saturn/uranus/pluto in the 10th
neptune in 12th moon = 7H ruler, square neptune
venus = ruler of my fifth opposed moon
mars = 4H ruler conjunct desc/square pluto
unaspected NN in 7th. whats the point of having a nn in the 7th with no aspects? lol
*shrug*
easy relationships and awesome men attractor not really in my astro-makeup  haha. i live in a very small town. in two years time i want to move to london. and then i can spread my wings. i'll find him. he's out there somewhere i know it 
(ps: sorry for ranting) IP: Logged |
Odette
Knowflake Posts: 941
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Registered: May 2012
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posted November 09, 2012 04:13 AM
I always attract people who want to have a relationship.
These guys are incredibly serious about the whole thing.
I don't like their attitude overall - I'd prefer something more fun and light hearted. I have no desire to be in a relationship most of the time. There's only really been one man who I fell in love with and who I wanted to be with. It's so difficult for me to meet someone I really like & feel I can connect with. Maybe that's the case for everyone. The other thing that bothers me is that many of these guys who wanted a relationship - didn't know how to be friends.
From my perspective FIRST you have to be friends. If there is something I really cannot stand - it's men approaching me in a purely romantic way when they do not know me at all.. or asking me out on a date - or worse - asking for something more serious. It's like DUDE! I do NOT know you! First you have to hang out with someone... -facepalm- At a party I went to a couple of weeks ago, this guy I didn't know started telling me he is in love with me and following me around. It's like SERIOUSLY??? You're in "love"? No sh*t!
Maybe some people would find this flattering.. but I have to say from a Cap Moon person's perspective - it is so frustrating to be followed around by a delusional person.. & I really think men who approach me in this way are completely delusional. The latest guy in my life - is very serious and black and white about relationships.. just like the others - either we are nothing OR we are together in a serious rel. The idea we could be just friends for a while.. is beyond him. All this crap about guys complaining due to being friend-zoned and so on... really gets to me. I care about my friends.. and I want to be friends. I don't just jump into romantic things.
If you cannot be a REAL friend to me - then we will be nothing at all. Some men do not understand this. My relationshipy placements are: Taurus Venus (11th) conj NN
Capricorn Mars (7th) trine Venus ^
My Venus is also opp Pluto & SN
Pluto is in the 5th
My Moon is in the 7th IP: Logged |
astrofan123
Knowflake Posts: 111
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Registered: Oct 2012
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posted November 09, 2012 04:27 AM
some people don't mean it when they say Love or Relationship. what they mean with that is really just Regular/routine Sex lol they just use those words because they know women like to hear that. very rare they mean it, or even know the true meaning of it.
I'm just glad I finally attracted just the person that truly knows and truly means it. for the 13 yrs I know him, he is still the same person I married 12 yrs ago.
Would be interested to hear from people with Vertex H7. see if what I read about vertex/destiny gate so far is true. that they form partnership/marriage more often than others.IP: Logged |
Odette
Knowflake Posts: 941
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Registered: May 2012
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posted November 09, 2012 05:27 AM
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what they mean with that is really just Regular/routine Sex
Well I'd much prefer to be friends with benefits than have a relationship, but it's impossible with most.. because they don't know *how to* be a friend to someone of the opposite sex.
& I am not one to throw the word "friend" around. Many people don't seem to understand the meaning of connecting with someone else and genuinely being friends.
This is just my perspective.
Maybe I am too Neptunian so the level of closeness I want to be at with ppl - is too much for them.. or they are unable to meet me there. SOME can though ^ I've also known guys who were exactly my type.. but it's rarer.. and I was only ever in love with one - as I was saying. IP: Logged |
AcousticGod
Knowflake Posts: 7012
From: Pleasanton, CA
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted November 09, 2012 12:54 PM
There are probably too many factors to measure here. The things that potentially add up to relationships include:Fortunate Genetics
Courage
Sensitivity
Imagination (or conversely being realistic)
Humor
Being trusting
Ability to compromise
Loyalty
Being Aloof (or conversely being Clingy)
Being Cool (or a Nerd, or a Musician, or a Jock, etc.) There's so many combinations for how a person could be successful or unsuccessful in a relationship. The person successful in entering relationships is experimental in some way. They're willing to try out relationships to see how they work. The person successful in keeping a relationship has to have a combination of traits that satisfy the minimum requirements of the person they're with. People that are unsuccessful could be: Not experimental enough
Untrusting
Offensive in some way
Content in being single during the times that they are single
Boring
Have an unfortunate appearance in some way IP: Logged |
Rosalind
Knowflake Posts: 1955
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Registered: Mar 2011
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posted November 09, 2012 01:19 PM
quote:
Originally posted by AcousticGod:
There are probably too many factors to measure here. The things that potentially add up to relationships include:Fortunate Genetics
Courage
Sensitivity
Imagination (or conversely being realistic)
Humor
Being trusting
Ability to compromise
Loyalty
Being Aloof (or conversely being Clingy)
Being Cool (or a Nerd, or a Musician, or a Jock, etc.) There's so many combinations for how a person could be successful or unsuccessful in a relationship. The person successful in entering relationships is experimental in some way. They're willing to try out relationships to see how they work. The person successful in keeping a relationship has to have a combination of traits that satisfy the minimum requirements of the person they're with. People that are unsuccessful could be: Not experimental enough
Untrusting
Offensive in some way
Content in being single during the times that they are single
Boring
Have an unfortunate appearance in some way
What a load of BS.
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RedScorp
Knowflake Posts: 4006
From: GMT-5
Registered: Jul 2011
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posted November 09, 2012 01:28 PM
I haveeee...ruler of the Descendant in the Fifth, Venus and Jupiter parallel, S-turn in the Seventh.It's really easy to attract people and wherever I go, there's always someone who's crushing on me...like not to sound vain or anything, but it happens!  It goes the other way too! I crush on people all the time. I'm not really relationship-y, though - I've only been in three so far.  IP: Logged |
astrofan123
Knowflake Posts: 111
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Registered: Oct 2012
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posted November 09, 2012 04:20 PM
quote:
Originally posted by AcousticGod:
The person successful in entering relationships is experimental in some way. They're willing to try out relationships to see how they work.
People that are unsuccessful could be:
Not experimental enough
Untrusting
Offensive in some way
Content in being single during the times that they are single
Boring
Have an unfortunate appearance in some way
I can relate to the trust and experimental.
I was untrusting when I met husband. but he was more open to understanding. I guess if he wasn't like that, we wouldn't have got this far together. The few experimental relationships I had in the past didn't work partly due to trust issue.
Curious where in astrology shows trust and how transits affect it. It's vital in starting and maintaining relationship. IP: Logged |
Aquacheeka
Knowflake Posts: 2007
From: Toronto
Registered: Mar 2012
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posted November 09, 2012 04:30 PM
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Originally posted by astrofan123:
I can relate to the trust and experimental.
I was untrusting when I met husband. but he was more open to understanding. I guess if he wasn't like that, we wouldn't have got this far together. The few experimental relationships I had in the past didn't work partly due to trust issue.
Curious where in astrology shows trust and how transits affect it. It's vital in starting and maintaining relationship.
Neptune and Uranus produce naivete.
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Mandy pie
Newflake Posts: 22
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Registered: Nov 2012
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posted November 12, 2012 03:00 AM
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Originally posted by Rosalind:
LOL! Then in my case Saturn has been in 12th house since I was born instead of 1st house. Either house its the same thing. Not only in love matters also in friendship matters or any other kind of relationships. For some people loneliness is their destiny.
Well I DID say I wasn't sure about the Saturn one. And yes I actually agree with you. I believe in destiny and some people are simply meant to live out this lifetime alone or just feeling alone. IP: Logged |
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