posted December 02, 2012 02:12 PM            

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Originally posted by Jlate77:
Ok Stawr, I am not just trying to get laid..and I think or hope she would know that. Why on earth would I continue to try so hard and still hang around if that were the case. We do talk at least a bit each day, and I have talked on the phone with her for as much as 10 hours...pretty much the whole night. The conversation has become very comfortable. Very comfortable,I get a sense that she feels at ease talking to me about almost anything. This isn't just a one time thing for me at all. If this girl is in my life from here on out, I would be very happy! So from all that tell me your thoughts? And thanks for the response.

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I agree it's very obvious that you like her and care about her. If you where in it just for the psychical you would already be "on to the next".

Hmmm also with the becoming cold, when you put your feelings out there. I'm sure the feelings are mutual. But maybe she just feels vulnerable expressing her mushy feelings back. Wanting to be tough. I'm sure in the past she has heard guys say how much they cared...and where all talk.

It's usually a red flag for me if I only know a guy for a week and he is already saying stuff like "I really like you" I'm thinking you have only seen my good side...if you're still there after you see my other side...and really get to know me, then you say that you really like me. haha

But yeah I see you have been seeing her since June. So you should be able to talk mushy once in a while. haha

I notice that I'm more likely to spill my guts to my guy if I've been drinking. Stuff I would be horrified to say if I'm sober.

Yeah I feel vulnerable telling him how much he means to me. I know that he knows...but flat out saying it, is scary.

Like yesterday he spilled his guts to me, about how all my texts helped him get though his day...and that he just wants to put his arms around me and go to sleep.

And he was VERY tired last night and before I got off the phone with him he told me that he was going to pretend I was sleeping next to him.

I do that every night! Am I gonna tell him that!? NO WAY!! LOL

posted December 02, 2012 02:30 PM            

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Originally posted by Stawr:
I agree it's very obvious that you like her and care about her. If you where in it just for the psychical you would already be "on to the next".

Hmmm also with the becoming cold, when you put your feelings out there. I'm sure the feelings are mutual. But maybe she just feels vulnerable expressing her mushy feelings back. Wanting to be tough. I'm sure in the past she has heard guys say how much they cared...and where all talk.

It's usually a red flag for me if I only know a guy for a week and he is already saying stuff like "I really like you" I'm thinking you have only seen my good side...if you're still there after you see my other side...and really get to know me, then you say that you really like me. haha

But yeah I see you have been seeing her since June. So you should be able to talk mushy once in a while. haha

I notice that I'm more likely to spill my guts to my guy if I've been drinking. Stuff I would be horrified to say if I'm sober.

Yeah I feel vulnerable telling him how much he means to me. I know that he knows...but flat out saying it, is scary.

Like yesterday he spilled his guts to me, about how all my texts helped him get though his day...and that he just wants to put his arms around me and go to sleep.

And he was VERY tired last night and before I got off the phone with him he told me that he was going to pretend I was sleeping next to him.

I do that every night! Am I gonna tell him that!? NO WAY!! LOL

I also have a Scorpio moon so I am a huge fan over actions rather words...I also like being able to read between the lines of what people say. Like a guy saying something not mushy...but still am able to tell that he really likes me.

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posted December 02, 2012 03:45 PM            

Reading what you have said so far it sounds as though you have met online and you have not yet met in RL.
Is this the case? I wasn't sure..

If this *is* the case.. then there are other reasons why she might be reluctant. Some people have issues with meeting others they have only known online...
I find these people exaggerated and paranoid ^ personally.
I think it's stupid to be scared of such things.
But many are scared..

I would like to think an Aries person would not be cowardly for this reason... but who knows?

posted December 02, 2012 03:53 PM            

I have had this happen by pure accident (it was not intentional on his part) with a Sag guy - we were JUST friends.
The first time he tried rock climbing he posted an event on FB inviting like 10 people to go with him and didn't invite me.
I was really upset that I wasn't invited because that was something I wanted to try as well.
I was actually angry with him for about two days but I didn't say anything... and eventually he added me - and apologised about accidentally leaving me out.
AfterwardsI was really excited about going & happy that he invited me.

But come to think of it - if he had called me up every day and asked me to go - I might've felt he was pushy and not have wanted to go at all.

posted December 02, 2012 03:54 PM            

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Originally posted by Odette:
Ok so the problem is that she will not GO out with you - literally.

Reading what you have said so far it sounds as though you have met online and you have not yet met in RL.
Is this the case? I wasn't sure..

If this *is* the case.. then there are other reasons why she might be reluctant. Some people have issues with meeting others they have only known online...
I find these people exaggerated and paranoid ^ personally.
I think it's stupid to be scared of such things.
But many are scared..

I would like to think an Aries person would not be cowardly for this reason... but who knows?

If you have never met - she could also have hang ups due to possible things she had hidden from you - or a fear that you have hidden things from her - or purely a fear that everything will change once you do meet.

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posted December 02, 2012 04:00 PM            

Maybe she is avoiding everyone, not just you.

It's kind of strange that you've only hung out AT her place - and she will not go out anywhere else with you.
This is def. not normal behaviour for an Aries with Libra in her chart - She should really LIKE to go out!!

posted December 02, 2012 04:06 PM            

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Originally posted by Odette:
Could she be depressed about her health problems?
Does she usually go out a lot with other people?

Maybe she is avoiding everyone, not just you.

It's kind of strange that you've only hung out AT her place - and she will not go out anywhere else with you.
This is def. not normal behaviour for an Aries with Libra in her chart - She should really LIKE to go out!!

I'm worried she might be depressed..

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posted December 02, 2012 04:08 PM            

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Originally posted by paulflo:
find an aquarian girl.

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posted December 02, 2012 04:34 PM            

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Originally posted by Odette:
lol that's funny. When you asked me earlier - who your perfect match would be.. I was going to say an Aquarian girl with Capricorn in her chart

That is really sad about this Aries girl. This is not normal for an Aries, as I was saying.
She must be really down to have become such a homebody.
Maybe she's lost hope....
hmmm
I don't think she needs someone to just be with her... I think she needs someone to wake her up and get her moving again.
Does she work? study?

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posted December 02, 2012 05:02 PM            

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Originally posted by Jlate77:
Not to get into this too much but she does have a few health problems.
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I see.

posted December 02, 2012 10:48 PM            

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Originally posted by Odette:
lol that's funny. When you asked me earlier - who your perfect match would be.. I was going to say an Aquarian girl with Capricorn in her chart

That is really sad about this Aries girl. This is not normal for an Aries, as I was saying.
She must be really down to have become such a homebody.
Maybe she's lost hope....
hmmm
I don't think she needs someone to just be with her... I think she needs someone to wake her up and get her moving again.
Does she work? study?

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