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Jlate77
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posted November 29, 2012 11:38 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Jlate77     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Having trouble with an Aries female ..we started talking and everything was good and seems to still be good but I need to see if I can get to that next level. I mean we have alot in common, talk on fb and the phone for hours but I get a hot and cold feel. Her bday is april 8th. Need some assistance with this and how to deal with your typical Aries girl. I feel that sometimes she pulls away when I put my feelings out there but im not sure if I take the aloof approach would work any better. Help???? Anyone, lol?? If you were wondering about my chart I am a Sag sun, moon in Cap rising sign is Taurus. Help???

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posted November 29, 2012 11:44 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for paulflo     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
i understand mate i dated an aries girl for 10 months she went hot and cold often..

make her chase you,aries girls like a challenge and don't come across as being to wet and needy..

if that don't work make your move if she rejects you find someone else!

ahh aquarius wisdom.

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posted November 29, 2012 11:47 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Jlate77     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Yea thats the current course of action.Lol, see where that goes. Thanks mate.

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posted November 29, 2012 11:49 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Jlate77
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posted November 29, 2012 11:53 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Jlate77     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thanks, this is my first post and this issue is confusing the hell out of me. *shakes head*..I mean if I am too aloof she will find someone else but the too "there" approach isn't working either or at least it is met with hot and cold..she pulls away when I try to get close. But I knnow there's something there because no female talks to a guy that much. Lol.

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posted November 29, 2012 06:42 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Odette     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Welcome to LL!

I've actually heard similar stories from Sagittarian men about Aries women..

I'm an Aries myself....

I'm just wondering - is there a reason she wouldn't trust you?
Have you done anything to seem shifty or not completely reliable?
That's the main Aries-Sag complaint.

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posted November 29, 2012 06:45 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Odette     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Also please - for the love of GOD, bunnies, chocolate, fairy floss and all things nice.... DO NOT play any kind of game or try to get her to chase you.
You play a game - you're dead. She'll be out.

It's true that Aries like a challenge but only when it is an honest and real challenge.. for example, if you were overseas and it wasn't easy to move to her city - that would be a genuine challenge... or if you were married and unable to get a divorce just yet - that would be an *honest* problem.. to be overcome.

BUT - playing a game is not honest. Aries has good instincts - they have a huge ego... and they do not like someone intentionally playing with them. She will take this as an 'attack'.. and respond by harming you or leaving you for good.

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posted November 29, 2012 07:27 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for teasel     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
She might not be ready to hear how you're feeling, but I don't know how to say what I want to say. I'll have to come back later.

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posted November 29, 2012 10:06 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for AriesKat     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I get hot and cold when I feel like the other person isnt really being consistent or I am unsure of how they feel for me.

also what is it about Aries woman that make men want to play games...I have been met with nothing but games from theses dudes out here.

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posted November 30, 2012 12:13 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Jlate77     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
No im not playing games, trust me im as honest as they come but I get the cold shoulder every time I say someting sweet. I dont get it. I am letting her just hang out for a bit while I think ofr my next move. I hate doing this btw...ugh. But she left me hanging for days until I finally heard back. Thanks for the info though. I will respond to this cute Aries female very soon but I don't really know what to say...I feel like she is pulling away when I am getting close. This may be a dead end, I sure don't want it to be. I really like her alot! Tell me what to do??? Or suggest something please...!!!

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posted November 30, 2012 04:14 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for lalalinda     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hello Jlate1977! Welcome to LL

You being a Sag Sun, there should be no question about compatibility, this is a good match but...
Whatever you do, Don't talk about commitment
she'll wonder what's the matter with you
(because you're still single)

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posted November 30, 2012 04:26 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Odette     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Jlate - could you post the synastry? that would make it easier to give good advice!

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posted November 30, 2012 07:39 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Jlate77     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
All I know on her so far is bday is 4/8/82 and mine is 12/11/77 I will put a link of my exact chart on here as well. http://www.astro.com/cgi/chart.cgi?cid=;lang=e;gm=a1;nho2=;btyp=2;mth=gw;sday=11;smon=12;syr=1977;hsy=2;zod=;orbp=;rs=0;ast=&nhor=2

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posted November 30, 2012 07:47 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Jlate77     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
My big question how much space should I give this girl? And if I do decide to take it to the next level..how should I approach this with an Aries female? We have been talking and getting close since late june of this year...too soon?

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posted November 30, 2012 10:24 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Faith     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi, nice to meet you!

Third decan Sadge can sometimes be a little too "big" for second decan Aries, who might feel controlled or overwhelmed and start itching for their independence. Expect some tension as you work out the power dynamic; pay attention to areas where she wants to lead and concede that to her. (Just IMHO, take with grain of salt. )

Best wishes.


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posted November 30, 2012 10:34 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Jlate77     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thanks Faith, and yea I still have "faith"..as you can see if you look at my chart im not a typical Sadge so I don't mind conceding control on alot of different things but the real quesdtions are should I give her space? This girl is not a very sweet talking kinda girl and usually im not a sweet talker either but the feelings I have kinda bring that out a bit. Another question is how to approach the next level with a level headed Aries girl w/o scaring her off completely? Thanks.

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posted November 30, 2012 10:51 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Jlate77     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Right now I got the cold shoulder and I am returning the favor, not sure how well that will go over with an Aries or how long I should keep this up..I really don't want to but I also feel like I really don't want to make myself too available since that seemed like a slow process, but I don't know if I should go back to taking it slow or just playing hard to get/find. Very confusing these girls, my last relationship was with a Leo..8/8 ..this one is 4/8..that seems odd, wonder if there's anything to that? Any suggestions or comments?

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posted November 30, 2012 11:22 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for paulflo     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
i used to give the aries girl i was dating lots of space (as she would me)i would give it 3-4 days then ring/text to see if she was free (hope she was) for something fun and adventurous and let cupid fire his arrows.

space went out the window in the end once love blossomed. a date used to turn into 3 days of fun and adventure.(having compatible moon signs helped).

i miss her now..thanks!..good luck.

we were aqua/aries.

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posted November 30, 2012 11:26 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Jlate77     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Yea thats what I am doing now, I really don't know how to feel..I hate this b/c being a Sadge this isn't me but I have put myself out there and it hasn't worked so I am about to just really give up. *sigh*

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posted November 30, 2012 11:29 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Jlate77     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
To: AriesKat...she knows how I feel, theres no way she doesn't at this point I have been very upfront without coming out completely and saying the actual words. So on my end there was no games whatsoever, on her end im not so sure...ugh.

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posted November 30, 2012 04:47 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Odette     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Jlate -
She is not the typical Aries because she is very airy and has a pretty strong Libran influence. For an Aries she can actually be very Venusian. She has an exalted Pisces Venus as well which means she is quite likely beautiful & feminine-looking. (She does have an Aries Mercury though, so her views and the way she expresses herself can still make her seem a bit like a tom-boy, at times).

Because she has these Aries-Libra oppositions happening she would be a VERY indecisive person. Libra is notorious for their inability to make a decision.

Unfortunately you are not the 'decisive' type either.
Although - you are slightly *more* mature than she is, more reliable and more decisive. This is probably a strange thing for me to say, since Sagittarius is a mutable sign.
BUT - you do have a Capricorn Mercury (as well as Cap Moon).. so you have a mature side.. to you, that she lacks.
She actually lacks earth completely & often she can feel completely 'lost' - like she is being pulled in opposite directions with nothing to hang on to.

In a serious relationship, she might prefer a guy who is very grounded and stable (like a fixed-sign: taurus, leo or scorpio.. or maybe even aquarius)..... because that would give her something to hang on to.

Although you are not a fixed-sign .... there is definitely something very sweet, fun and also deep to your interaction.
You have nice Venus/Mars aspects and your Pluto is conj her Moon. She feels like you are very open, friendly and loving and she likes the fact that she can trust you.

I don't think this will ever be a very conventional relationship.
I would see it working best as a - friends with benefits thing - to be honest. This is purely because neither of you is very sure... that you want something more serious, and you may never be sure.
It would be extremely easy for you to have sex... because things just flow in that direction.. It's also easy for you to be friends....
But.... I don't know about formalising it.

Based on the charts though - I would say she definitely DOES like you.. I'm not sure where the miscommunications are coming in - but it could be because your Mercury signs are square (although NOT in aspect).
This can mean you sometimes talk past each other... but it shouldn't be such a major problem considering the rest of your synastry.
She likes you AS YOU ARE. It's not like you have to change anything.
Be yourself!!!

My only advice would be to try to express yourself more like Sagittarius than Capricorn... with her.
Your natural instinct - having a Capricorn Mercury is to be pretty cold and polite - whenever you SAY something out loud.
Try to be more warm - verbally.... because having an Aries Merc... she would prefer someone who is more direct and fiery - verbally --- rather than 'proper' and 'respectful' (as Capricorn Mercury can come across).

There's no reason for you to give up on her... If anything it could be a life-long friendship!

Also, I do believe people have free-will... so if you are absolutely sure you DO want a more serious relationship, you could make it happen. It wouldn't be easy... but it's possible. This definitely will not happen unless you are *positive* that you want this & you really *try* to make it work... (because she will not be sure).

Or, as I was saying before.... you can just have a more non-traditional thing with her.... like FWB..... This wouldn't be so difficult - because the more you hang out as friends.. the more things can drift that way, and she's likely to make a move sexually since her Mars is in aspect to your Venus.
As much as she would be indecisive about a serious long-term rel.... she will not be as indecisive about JUST *being* with you physically.

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posted November 30, 2012 04:57 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Jlate77     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Wow!! So you are saying that there is little hope for a long term relationship? Thats a drag. However you are saying that there is a strong attraction? That helps alot though. She is tomboyish type too. So basically I should try an act more Sadge than Cappy with this Aries girl is that right?

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posted November 30, 2012 05:23 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Jlate77     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
So Odette based on my chart and everything you know what sign combo female would be a good match for a Sadge like me?

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Jlate77
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posted December 01, 2012 04:17 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Jlate77     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
So should the Aries girl always make the first move or would that not be wise to wait? Suggestions?

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posted December 01, 2012 05:26 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for NowOrNever     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
My gf is an Aries. We've been together for 4 years now.
This was what I had observed when I was pursuing her. She is HOT at night but COLD during the day.
She is like a warrior during the DAY doing battles here and there. Then at night that is the time she will drop her sword to rest. Like you, I have also complained about that HOT and COLD treatment. Don't expect that an Aries will tell you the exact time they are dropping their sword. You just got to be there and ask her How her day has been and go from there. Be original. I remember the first gift that I gave to my Aries was a stuff toy and she said YUCK. My pride was hurt but what can I do she is really not into stuff toy. I did things I've never done in my life just to win her. Like singing a song and record it and send it to her.

Be 10 steps ahead you are dealing with a Military.


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