posted December 16, 2012 08:46 PM            

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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
I know, I'm just disappointed in myself for it bothering me. And I can't be in the middle of their getting to know each other for long, so I've stopped asking "Oh! What did he say?" and am now left with my imagination. It's not that I didn't like him or he didn't like me but our second date just went sooooooo bad due to external factors.

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I don't think it's Aries thing to act that way. Taurus Pluto...

posted December 17, 2012 01:25 AM            

So no it's not a Aries thing, it's a disrespectful thing what she's doing and it's hurting your pride cause he used to be all yours. It's natural.

posted December 17, 2012 01:49 AM            

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Originally posted by JLyn ~:
She manipulated you by coming across as respectful and you said yes so it's to late now.

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posted December 17, 2012 02:08 AM            

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Her energy is more Gemini than anything I think. She's a Taurus w/ Pisces moon, Merc in Gemini, Venus in Gemini, and Mars in Aquarius. And I already knew she was thinking of him, just 'cause I know her. I truly didn't think I would care. I think I just care because it's my friend and I don't like the idea of one of my friends getting something that was "mine." But like some have said there's nothing I can really do about it now. I'm just thankful ya'll made me feel less crazy by giving me some feedback. I appreciate it.

If you want to talk body language and non-verbal codes however, we were driving in my car and I said "If you want to start talking to him, you can." I knew eventually it was going to lead up to that so I said it to open the door and get it out of the way. And she goes "Are you sure?" I said "Yeah," and she asked me four more times if I was sure. So I think she had an idea it might bother me, but because I was so emphatic it wouldn't she believed me. My own fault... won't do it next time, that's for sure!

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posted December 17, 2012 03:12 AM            

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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
I didn't know 11H Suns did that! I have an 11H Sun, and you're right! I ALWAYS put my friends before everything! We're saints!

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posted December 17, 2012 03:35 AM            

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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
Her energy is more Gemini than anything I think. She's a Taurus w/ Pisces moon, Merc in Gemini, Venus in Gemini, and Mars in Aquarius. And I already knew she was thinking of him, just 'cause I know her. I truly didn't think I would care. I think I just care because it's my friend and I don't like the idea of one of my friends getting something that was "mine." But like some have said there's nothing I can really do about it now. I'm just thankful ya'll made me feel less crazy by giving me some feedback. I appreciate it.

If you want to talk body language and non-verbal codes however, we were driving in my car and I said "If you want to start talking to him, you can." I knew eventually it was going to lead up to that so I said it to open the door and get it out of the way. And she goes "Are you sure?" I said "Yeah," and she asked me four more times if I was sure. So I think she had an idea it might bother me, but because I was so emphatic it wouldn't she believed me. My own fault... won't do it next time, that's for sure!

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See you had a feeling she would anyways, Aquarius Mars people from my expereince get around not saying she's a wh•re but they like to expereince this and that more than the usual. I still feel she manipulated you because she gave you thoughts, ideas, signals that had you "knowing" what she wants, she was asking are you sure many times to make sure you won't end you and her friendship but that's the twist you see? Point is, if my friend that used to bond with a guy that she still talks to and she said I could have him sexually? I would feel like she's testing our relationship. Your not crazy, you were just in a generous mood at the moment. I know Pisces moons can be the most kind hearted souls but also has the ability of being the masters of manipulation

posted December 17, 2012 11:23 AM            

I'll tell you whats happening.

A this point in time u had to adjust to external changed(your friend with mr x physical world)

U thought u had it fixed, ye u had...in your mind(mental world)..

So u just get used to the change..and thats it..maybe u have problems with being flexible..life test u then.

Now u just need to put in in right perspective in your emotions by thinkin it trough, why this is happening to you and how u should act.

Easiest way is pretending someone else in your situation, and u copy their choice of path(try to be humanitair ty). then u only got to get rid of the frustration, because u already secured u choose the right path.

And u gonna need wisdom for this one.
And i assume life will test u once more on the ground LOVE / DETACHMENT(Freedom) / RESPONSIBILITY

So u prolly know this is not love, then u wonder what the heck i'm feeling like this.

Answer is inside of u ^^ u conquer this one...i promise u..u learn more about u in depth and height. u gonna love this one.

For He who craves True love, should He also not be able to offer it in return? How can one recognize what he craves but never have seen? Can u dream about chocolate? when u have never heard of it?

Define Love once more again and again like u once did, but how many times have u not died and returned? only a little bit different.

And the fools who say she has never died..truly they are wise not knowing they are on paradise.For slowly civilization is decaying,all that once was noble,righteous and to be trusted slowly is fading...

posted December 18, 2012 06:26 PM            

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She manipulated you by coming across as respectful and you said yes so it's to late now. But if she was your real friend she would know you and him still never cut ties completely, that would **** me like girl really!!!!!!!!!

So no it's not a Aries thing, it's a disrespectful thing what she's doing and it's hurting your pride cause he used to be all yours. It's natural.

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posted December 18, 2012 09:44 PM            

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Is this just my Aries competitiveness?

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Yes. I've seen Aries get like this around someone they're not "finished with". Even with friends, I've seen them elbow out the competition.

You're jealous of him stealing her away from you. And you're jealous of her succeeding where you didn't.

posted December 18, 2012 10:08 PM            

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And you're jealous of her succeeding where you didn't.

Unless you have a rule saying friends are forbidden from dating ex's, I think she was very straight forward and not manipulative at all. That said, I think it's natural to feel the way you do. When put on the spot in future stall for time before giving an answer.

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posted December 18, 2012 10:35 PM            

Obviously you and that guy can finished because he obviously seems to be more into her. And I bet anything you resent her more for that than anything else. It's jealousy plain and simply.

Her placements don't really matter. She told you and left the ball in your court and you gave it back to her. Maybe you wanted to see her fail so it would prove your own worthiness as a woman. You lost and now you are bitter because things seem to be working out for them so far. But you are just valuing yourself in one man's eyes and that is pretty ridiculous.

posted December 18, 2012 10:59 PM            

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How is she being manipulative by being straight up with you? She asked you. You said it didn't bother you. Maybe instead of blaming her you should realize that everything is your fault because you could have just as easily said no.

Obviously you and that guy can finished because he obviously seems to be more into her. And I bet anything you resent her more for that than anything else. It's jealousy plain and simply.

Her placements don't really matter. She told you and left the ball in your court and you gave it back to her. Maybe you wanted to see her fail so it would prove your own worthiness as a woman. You lost and now you are bitter because things seem to be working out for them so far. But you are just valuing yourself in one man's eyes and that is pretty ridiculous.

Its time to move on. Whatever will happen will happen and it's not in your control anymore and trying to put it back in your control is the really manipulative thing to do in this situation.

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