posted January 09, 2013 07:17 PM            

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Originally posted by sand:
Tell ur sister/ brother/ aunt/ uncle.. Have them do it lol!

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posted January 09, 2013 08:57 PM            

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Originally posted by goatcat:
My nature is passive-aggressive and I wish to change it.

I also have a Mars-Neptune opposition that interprets that I have difficulty going after what I want. I don't like this aspect because my Mars is in in the 10th house which I believe is the house of career.

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It's not Mars in Cancer causing the passive-aggression.

Aspects, aspects, aspects. It's the Mars-Neputne doing it.

I'm directly aggressive (when provoked), and I have Mars in Cancer. Difference is, my Mars squares :

Pluto
Jupiter
Saturn

posted January 09, 2013 09:10 PM              

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Originally posted by StacyLewis:
I'm not sure I really believe in the concepts of planets 'in fall' anymore, either.

Simply because, think about it...how is actually not being all that aggressive (Mars) in general, unless you're out to protect (Cancer) someone or something, really a bad thing?

When I sat down and thought about it I went, "How is that negative? If anything, that's how everyone should be, not willing to fight over anything unless it's something that matters, instead of always wanting to get into it over bulls**t."

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posted January 09, 2013 09:13 PM            

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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
Doesn't the sign placement in Mars aid in what the person think is necessary fighting over though?

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Yeah, I already went into that in one of my earlier posts.

Cancer fights to protect other people or itself. It's defensive, not offensive.

posted January 09, 2013 09:16 PM            

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Originally posted by StacyLewis:
It's not Mars in Cancer causing the passive-aggression.

Aspects, aspects, aspects. It's the Mars-Neputne doing it.

I'm directly aggressive (when provoked), and I have Mars in Cancer. Difference is, my Mars squares :

Pluto
Jupiter
Saturn

And is conjunct either Zeus or Vulkanus?

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posted January 09, 2013 09:18 PM            

I feel that sometimes you can wait forever and never be comfortable. This is my problem.

posted January 09, 2013 09:57 PM            

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Originally posted by StacyLewis:
Yeah, I already went into that in one of my earlier posts.

Cancer fights to protect other people or itself. It's defensive, not offensive.

The aspects explain HOW you go about that defensive fighting. Some aspects will make it more direct than others.

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I was just about to make the same point.

Mars = a bunch of things but most evidently what you fight for.Cancer= gaurding or protecting what you hold dear before anything else. Mars in Cancer is the ultimate at fighting for what we believe in.

Mars in Cancer has the most devotion from what I seen even in others. It is a Cardinal Mars and so it is a direct Mars.

With ANY mars sign is the house it is placed in and aspects are very important.

I am a Mars in Cancer and very direct. People must not confuse "what were looking for in a partner" with how we function ourselves.

I equally love Males just as much with Mars in Cancer as well. In fact, I have mentioned many times before it is my favorite Mars placement for men.

I would suggest you try and be more direct with your family members and be more open with them. I dont know the rest of your chart to comment on what holds you back exactly.

posted January 09, 2013 10:46 PM            

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Originally posted by violet7887:

I would suggest you try and be more direct with your family members and be more open with them. I dont know the rest of your chart to comment on what holds you back exactly.

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posted January 09, 2013 11:05 PM            

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Originally posted by goatcat:
I'm going to try, but it's soooo hard.
I can be blunt with everyone BUT my mother. Our communication sucks.

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Yes, try, you might just find being a little more direct helps you see things though better, regardless of the outcome. Atleast that is the way I look at life anyway.

I am a Cancer Moon Mercury and Mars and I love my mommy to death but when she is does not understand something about me, I help her in trying and if she still doesnt budge( which is often as shes a Taurus) I ususally just tell her shes wrong and do what I want ...and hey sometimes I'm right, sometimes she is...point is you got to go along with what you feel and try.

posted January 09, 2013 11:16 PM              

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Yeah, I already went into that in one of my earlier posts.

Cancer fights to protect other people or itself. It's defensive, not offensive.

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posted January 09, 2013 11:59 PM            

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I'm going to try, but it's soooo hard.
I can be blunt with everyone BUT my mother. Our communication sucks.

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I promise you, as a sag mars person - confrontations are better when you just go for them. The longer you think about them, let them build up, practice what to say, etc. the worse they are. Now what was a small event (despite your mother's reaction - i'm assuming you're legally old enough to move out) has become this massive thing that's grown in your head. Your mother probably knows something's up since it's been building and right now she's probably fearing the worst...so rip that bandaid off slowly and carefully and just talk to her calmly, and be open to what she has to say.

posted January 10, 2013 12:12 AM            

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Originally posted by freebrainstorms:
I promise you, as a sag mars person - confrontations are better when you just go for them. The longer you think about them, let them build up, practice what to say, etc. the worse they are. Now what was a small event (despite your mother's reaction - i'm assuming you're legally old enough to move out) has become this massive thing that's grown in your head. Your mother probably knows something's up since it's been building and right now she's probably fearing the worst...so rip that bandaid off slowly and carefully and just talk to her calmly, and be open to what she has to say.

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posted January 10, 2013 12:19 AM            

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Originally posted by freebrainstorms:

Question for all of you: how do you then get a passive mars in cancer to move? I'm currently chasing one and I feel like I'm very to the point, he knows i'm interested, is fully aware i'm chasing him, and he seems very interested but he NEVER does anything back - he always waits for me to come to him!! Yet he always strategically finds his way into my vicinity, flirts through body language, makes eye contact, eye-***** , etc. etc. I want him and he knows that, all he has to do is come to me because I've gone to him so many times, but he doesn't make a physical move unless i do.
i like chasing but i need more reciprocal action otherwise i start to feel like i'm going insane and this is all in my head - which i know it isn't. Seriously help me, I don't know how to be subtle....all I want to crawl onto his lap, but he always plays it so cool that even if there was an opportunity to do - he makes me really nervous by always being so passive. ARGH.

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I'm sure someone has already suggested it before but try to distance yourself a little bit and see how he reacts.

Or just jump in his lap. If he's into you, it shouldn't hurt.

posted January 10, 2013 01:50 AM            

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Originally posted by goatcat:
My nature is passive-aggressive and I wish to change it.

I also have a Mars-Neptune opposition that interprets that I have difficulty going after what I want. I don't like this aspect because my Mars is in in the 10th house which I believe is the house of career.

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I am very passive-aggressive at times which makes this complicated for me too. Sometimes however the fact that my Mars squares my Mercury means I verbally explode on my aggression. It's really hard for me to be direct in talking to people about things I want/need since my Mars opposes Neptune also.

posted January 10, 2013 01:57 AM            

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Originally posted by StacyLewis:
Mars in Cancer isn't 'weak', either. Again, it's more about the desire to not fight unless it's absolutely necessary, and something that matters. When there's something or someone Mars in Cancer has to fight on behalf of...it could probably give Mars in Scorpio or Aries a run for its money.

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posted January 10, 2013 02:28 AM            

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Originally posted by sweet-scorpion:
I am very passive-aggressive at times which makes this complicated for me too. Sometimes however the fact that my Mars squares my Mercury means I verbally explode on my aggression. It's really hard for me to be direct in talking to people about things I want/need since my Mars opposes Neptune also.

Being a Libra makes it no better actually. I always feel like I play games to get what I want but not maliciously... just like I have to be tricky and tactical to succeed. IDK. Hard to explain. Best way I can is that some people - Aries Mars' - burst right in, kick the bad guy in the teeth and go to level 2. Mars in Cancer sneaks through the air duct, slides down on a rope, tranquilizes the guy, then crawls across the walls to avoid touching the floor because they don't wanna set off security. LOLx10 so in other words the round about and paranoid actions we can take are exhaustive as hell.

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posted January 10, 2013 03:33 AM              

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Originally posted by freebrainstorms:
i don't really see him on a regular basis so distancing myself wont really have a lot of effect lol and i don't want him to think i've lost interest in him when i do get to see him. Jumping onto his lap sounds good to this fire mars sign but i don't want to scare him off...

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posted January 10, 2013 09:28 PM              

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Originally posted by freebrainstorms:
....there are so many crude answers just begging to be typed lol

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posted January 10, 2013 11:35 PM            

I'll tell you what the whole thing with Mars in Cancer is. We are attracted people who are paitent and caring. I am not saying this to turn you off in any way but if this is not like you, you will most likely have issues with a cancer mars person eventually. A cancer mars person needs someone that is just as devoted as them or they always feel very unbalanced and unhappy. An emotional understanding is vital. Both males and females prefer more traditional partners.

We move at a certain pace, not becuase were slow but because we like to see if the person is truly worth our effort. Taking risks with my feelings is something I just dont do. I am not exactly the most experimental, I just like to go with the flow when I'm comfortable with it or I dont.

This is what "compatibility" is. You might look at that as passive-aggeresive but some one that understnads that would find that fits them just perfectly.

With a cancer mars I would not suggest coming on to him too strong. Subtle undetstanding is very important to a cancer mars person. Usually people that are very fast give me an uneasy feeling. From what i know of cancer mars men, give it some time and if he likes you, he'll let you know himself.

Again, all of this is just me telling you more honestly what to expect or what this placement might suggest in him. I dont know the rest of your synastry enough to judge.

Hope it helps =]

posted January 11, 2013 12:23 AM            

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Cancer Mars= Very Protective
i have cancer mars and it is like a Mama Bear and its cub

DON'T HURT MY LOVE ONES!!

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