posted January 23, 2013 03:09 PM            

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Originally posted by PixieJane:
I think those of us who aren't obsessed with sex see friendship is natural and understand that people have a lot more to offer than sex, and so we can and do have platonic relationships. If a guy has a relationship with another woman then he doesn't need me for that and I have more to offer than what's between my legs, as shocking as that claim may seem. And perhaps it also helps to know that I come from an extended family so I'm used to dealing with males in which any sexual connection just isn't going to happen (in addition to all the other reasons we mention).

That said, I know I've been harassed a lot and had guys only pretend to be friendly try to get into my pants, so I know many choose not to. OTOH, many find other ways to relate to me. One guy I was friends with got divorced and suddenly showed interest in me, but I turned him down. He's now married to someone else and we remain friends, and I'm also friends with his wife who is not the least bit threatened by me (or if she is then she hides it well and has always welcomed me).

But if you find yourself unable to look at a guy without his penis becoming all important to you then people like us would seem strange & alien to you who are in denial, and of course your subjective reality would seem natural & obvious. But understand, we're not all like you, men (well, a few at least) are more than their penises, and there is more to life than sex.

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Agreed...