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Topic: Virgo - Scorpio Break Up
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StarlightSmileSupreme
Knowflake Posts: 2449
From: neptune
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted July 06, 2013 11:21 AM
  
I actually prefer people with lower IQs, sometimes. They are more straightforward and easier to understand. Sometimes, people with higher IQs are so convinced they know everything and are so much smarter than everyone else and are always judging, ironically, the ones with lower IQs appear more intelligent and flexible in their thinking even though their vocabulary isn't as high and they don't have complicated social agendas.IP: Logged |
EmpressMendez
Knowflake Posts: 4112
From:
Registered: May 2012
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posted July 06, 2013 03:00 PM
Lmao, that IS a Virgo insult! I should know :P quote:
Originally posted by Kerosene:
low IQ...That's such a virgo insult....
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liquido
Newflake Posts: 19
From: UK
Registered: Jun 2013
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posted July 06, 2013 03:50 PM
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Originally posted by Emsie:
To me this "smells" like kind of playing around with this girl. You should've been more distinct right at the beginning by saying NO to a relationship with her.Are you sure you really REALLY wanted this relationship so much, or just couldn't say no to sex with her? Or did you have pity on her? I think you wasted her time and not her wasting yours, because you weren't frank with her earlier when you really had so much grief going on in your life. I have the feeling you only used her for sex and this is not a nice thing. So to speak. So please, don't speak about her supposedly "low IQ level". You should accept her decision and move on with your life by cutting contact and not playing around by USING HER. (Now you waste your own time as well.) Have a little emotional intelligence, please.
I wrote on my first post that i kept saying NO for months but she insisted and was fighting for it. With time i got in love with her, it wasn't just sex.. I just needed time!! She knew from the start that i was very frank with her and appreciated it. I explained her from the first moment why i couldn't start a proper relationship and she knew the state i'm in.
In fact i am a very straight person and she knows it very well. I don't play games.
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Emsie
Knowflake Posts: 360
From: Budapest
Registered: Jul 2012
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posted July 06, 2013 09:22 PM
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Originally posted by liquido:
she attempted to get in touch a few times but i ignored her.. this week i called her just to check up on her. A bit later she txted me that she would like to see me.. I told her that we'll arrange it.
Then i call her again two days later and after a short conversation she txted me again that she wants to meet up. So i went to her place that night and we had maybe the most intense night since we met... Passion was on red line!!
We had deep flaming sex for all night. I don't know what to do.. We are so messed up. I think i will keep having just sex with her and get rid any other feelings.
She told me she's gonna call me next weekend when she's gonna be in town.
And she's still with that guy which looks horrible but does whatever she asks him. He even got her a dog!! He must be a big victim..
"I think i will keep having just sex with her and get rid any other feelings." This exactly sounds like playing around and using her... for sex...  IP: Logged |
Geeky
Knowflake Posts: 472
From:
Registered: Dec 2012
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posted July 06, 2013 10:18 PM
Yeah this irritates me to no end.You can't tell a girl you are not interested and then continue having sex with her if she's made it obvious she has feelings for you. IP: Logged |
liquido
Newflake Posts: 19
From: UK
Registered: Jun 2013
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posted July 07, 2013 12:32 PM
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Originally posted by Geeky:
Yeah this irritates me to no end.You can't tell a girl you are not interested and then continue having sex with her if she's made it obvious she has feelings for you.
I'm not going to tell her i'm not interested. Actually i want to be back with her and i know it is almost certain to have the perfect relationship together if i sort out my issues soon. Under good circumstances we were flying so high. Even the last time we met we couldn't let go each other even after all the things that happened lately. I thing she still really loves me but i don't know what to do to make her come back now that she is with that guy. I will try to get myself together and sort everything out while seeing her, and i hope when she sees that i am capable to make things work she changes her mind so we can be happier than ever together. IP: Logged |
liquido
Newflake Posts: 19
From: UK
Registered: Jun 2013
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posted July 07, 2013 12:46 PM
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Originally posted by Emsie:
"I think i will keep having just sex with her and get rid any other feelings."This exactly sounds like playing around and using her... for sex...
I would do that because i don't want to hurt anymore in case she doesn't want things to work out.
My intentions are to try my best and make everything right. IP: Logged |
Emsie
Knowflake Posts: 360
From: Budapest
Registered: Jul 2012
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posted July 07, 2013 01:35 PM
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Originally posted by liquido:
I would do that because i don't want to hurt anymore in case she doesn't want things to work out.
My intentions are to try my best and make everything right.
This sounds... Selfish. I won't tell you what to do, but I feel at the end you'll be 'that' huge a-hole if you continue with this sh*tty nonsense attitude. You're either in or out with Scorpios, and there's NO middle ground. Don't forget this. So I'd truly recommend some VERY straight talk, not this 'messing around more', analyzing and 'in your head, but not on your mouth' thingy... But first, you should DECIDE what you really want. Because I don't really get this when you say one thing (you'd continue to use her), then in the other moment you say another thing (you want to continue the relationship with her.) Somehow I just don't think you can separate love and lust from each other. These are completely different things. You wouldn't use someone you really love. Nor throwing your feelings away just because you don't want to feel the pain (now we know it's way too uncomfortable for you...) IP: Logged |
liquido
Newflake Posts: 19
From: UK
Registered: Jun 2013
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posted July 07, 2013 02:43 PM
I said that i may keep having just sex with her because i was thinking that if she continues having a relationship with somebody else and at the same time doing all these things with me it may look like she's using me.She has said that we can't be together again etc.. but she keeps coming closer to me the last few days and wants to see me again and again. Maybe she tries to be hard on me and wants me to fight for her and try harder to change myself. IP: Logged |
Emsie
Knowflake Posts: 360
From: Budapest
Registered: Jul 2012
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posted July 07, 2013 05:03 PM
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Originally posted by liquido:
I said that i may keep having just sex with her because i was thinking that if she continues having a relationship with somebody else and at the same time doing all these things with me it may look like she's using me.She has said that we can't be together again etc.. but she keeps coming closer to me the last few days and wants to see me again and again. Maybe she tries to be hard on me and wants me to fight for her and try harder to change myself.
You should stand up for yourself and talk to her. It will be much worse if you don't do anything (and you might end up more broken hearted, even cold hearted at the end if you choose to suppress your feelings.) I'm not supposed to give tips to anyone, but in my opinion your case screams for serious help. I'm pretty much sure you're older than me regarding age, but love is quite alien for you - no surprise. This isn't a 'healthy' situation. So, it turned out that you're eager to surrender to her, but this is another wrong attitude. A few questions to you:
- If you consider her as a person with 'low IQ level', then why do you want to be with her?
- If you feel that what she does now is bad, then why are you clinging to her?
- Don't you think you deserve better than her? (Someone who truly cares and only about you.)
- If you get back with her what guarantees that she/you won't mess up again? If I was you then I'd ask her straight to leave the other man or it's over (no sex, no meetings, so on.)
But it's your call how you behave and what you actually do. Nobody can learn your lessons for you. IP: Logged |
Emsie
Knowflake Posts: 360
From: Budapest
Registered: Jul 2012
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posted July 07, 2013 05:13 PM
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Originally posted by liquido:
I said that i may keep having just sex with her because i was thinking that if she continues having a relationship with somebody else and at the same time doing all these things with me it may look like she's using me.
You want to be the victim? If don't want to be 'used' then what's the point of continuing surrendering to her? IP: Logged |
liquido
Newflake Posts: 19
From: UK
Registered: Jun 2013
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posted July 08, 2013 12:19 PM
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Originally posted by Emsie:
You should stand up for yourself and talk to her. It will be much worse if you don't do anything (and you might end up more broken hearted, even cold hearted at the end if you choose to suppress your feelings.)I'm not supposed to give tips to anyone, but in my opinion your case screams for serious help. I'm pretty much sure you're older than me regarding age, but love is quite alien for you - no surprise. This isn't a 'healthy' situation. So, it turned out that you're eager to surrender to her, but this is another wrong attitude. A few questions to you:
- If you consider her as a person with 'low IQ level', then why do you want to be with her?
- If you feel that what she does now is bad, then why are you clinging to her?
- Don't you think you deserve better than her? (Someone who truly cares and only about you.)
- If you get back with her what guarantees that she/you won't mess up again? If I was you then I'd ask her straight to leave the other man or it's over (no sex, no meetings, so on.)
But it's your call how you behave and what you actually do. Nobody can learn your lessons for you.
Emsie you are spot on on everything.
I talked to her before we met and explained her everything and why i was acting the way i did during the last period of our relationship. I didn't ask her to get back with me off course. I know i should have talk a lot earlier and not loosing communication during the last stages of the relationship.. It was just after that conversation that she asked to see me. The answers:
- Despite that we were very compatible i think i could accept it because it wasn't such a big turn off for me and nobody is perfect, but i thing it can affect some of her reactions.
-I think i partly justify this behavior because she was burned badly from me and her mind and soul were so messed up. She tried to move on and possibly hurt me at the same time but i'm not sure she can move easily.
- Off course i do! What kills me is that she used to be like that and gave me everything but i messed it up.
- That's the most important thing that worries me most. Can i trust her again?? Some of my mates tell me that it doesn't worth it to be with her again because they didn't like the way she acted just after the break up, and that it was childish (making all this noise on fbook and finding that ridiculous guy). But they don't really know how we used to be when we were together and how she treated me. A girlfriend of me told me that what she did was 'panic moves' trying to get away from our situation and there no way she likes that guy. Also that i don't have to listen a lot my mates because they don't really know what was going on between us and how we feel and that i have to decide. Off course she didn't like her actions and finds them very childish.
What i know is that when were together she was all over me and treated me like a king and invested in me. It was months that i became distant and she did what she did. It didn't happen in a day. Actually we 'separated' months before the official break up.
Now even if we can fix things i don't know if it's going to be right to be with her again. Because what she did at the end i'm almost sure she did it to hurt me too and not just to rebound. I'll have to think about it more... IP: Logged |
beckylee
Knowflake Posts: 118
From: japan
Registered: Jun 2012
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posted July 08, 2013 12:47 PM
I'm a Scorpio girl and I recently sort of broke up with a Virgo.All I want to say is, she is probably crazy about you. She could be secretly crying in the bathroom, missing you. And thinking about you most of the time. She seems to be going through exactly what I'm going through 
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beckylee
Knowflake Posts: 118
From: japan
Registered: Jun 2012
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posted July 08, 2013 12:52 PM
Do you still love her ? Why don't you tell her that, if that's how you feel. Maybe she thought you were already seeing other people. Scorpio women have a very pessimistic imagination. They always assume the worst and it kills them.IP: Logged |
liquido
Newflake Posts: 19
From: UK
Registered: Jun 2013
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posted July 08, 2013 01:12 PM
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Originally posted by beckylee:
Do you still love her ? Why don't you tell her that, if that's how you feel. Maybe she thought you were already seeing other people. Scorpio women have a very pessimistic imagination. They always assume the worst and it kills them.
Yes i do! When we met that night which was the greatest we ever had i told she was one of the greater love of my life.She asked if i have find someone else and when was the last time i had sex. She checked my cell phone while i was sleeping. She also told me with a subtle way that because we had sex again she doesnt want me to have sex with another woman and that it's been two weeks since she had sex. I didn't say anything but i was thinking what the hell is she talking about?? She has a boyfriend and she's not going to have sex with him?? Actually he's living in a place 3 hours away and they meet rarely. When i asked her why she started a long distance relationship (that's used to be a thing she hates) she said that the guy is going to move to her town in two months and now he's there because of his job. Also on a conversation we had a few days after the break up she asked me if i was still in love with her.
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beckylee
Knowflake Posts: 118
From: japan
Registered: Jun 2012
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posted July 08, 2013 01:31 PM
Well clearly she doesn't want to have sex with him because she wants you ! She is forcing herself to get over you but she can't. I went through something very similar and acted almost the same way she did. It simply means, I love you and not him, and not any other person. And no, I'm not just in love with you, but obsessed with you. Why don't you have a serious talk with her ? About getting back together ? IP: Logged |
liquido
Newflake Posts: 19
From: UK
Registered: Jun 2013
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posted July 08, 2013 01:54 PM
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Originally posted by beckylee:
Well clearly she doesn't want to have sex with him because she wants you ! She is forcing herself to get over you but she can't. I went through something very similar and acted almost the same way she did. It simply means, I love you and not him, and not any other person. And no, I'm not just in love with you, but obsessed with you. Why don't you have a serious talk with her ? About getting back together ?
I think you are right!!
We'll have to sort things out. And you know why??
I think it will be a shame to let go such a big and wonderful thing that is happening to us...
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