posted June 18, 2013 07:02 PM            

We met and start dating 1.5 year ago. That was a bad time for me because i had lost my mother 3 months before we met. Initially i only went with her just for sex. I didn't want anything more at that time and i couldn't feel anything more. So i was distant and didn't talk much with her, just having sex.

Two weeks later she started asking me for relationship but i kept my distance and told her that i couldn't do it. She was already deeply in love... This kept going for two months which i was cold and distant and i think she was in pain but i was not really feeling that or caring because i had my issues with the loss of my mother. I also ignored her sometimes when met her out in the bar...and she got mad.

Then she told me that if we won't move on to a proper relationship she will cut off, and she kept pushing. It was very hard for me to decide but after a lot of thinking i told her yes. Then i call her the next day and i tell her sorry i can't do it. She got mad at me and told me not to call her again. But she started texting me a few days later when she saw me out. She found very quickly another guy and started going out. She even went straightaway with the guy to the bar i go mostly.... Revenge from Scorpio maybe??

Then she started coming again to my place (while she had an affair) because she wanted to see me but we were not doing anything more. After a while we started having sex again almost every day for 3-4 months.

So with time i started having feelings for her and there was something very strong between us. I told her i wanted to be with her and so it happened.

Two months later she moved in a nearby town about 20-30 miles away because she found a job. She was worried about the distance and that we won't be able to see each other often. She wanted to see me almost every day!! I promise her that i would go there almost everyday, something that i could not do later because i was nearly broke.

While we were together she told me she wanted to marry me, that i am the one for her, and that she wants me to make her a kid.
Also that all her ex's wanted to marry her but she wanted me! She was also very caring and from start told me that we can get over all the problems, because she knew i wasn't at my best.

A lot of times i couldn't visit her very often as i should and she was getting upset because she wanted me there.. She asked many times if things are going to change and i told her to be patient and that im doing my best. And so she did.

But the last two months things became a lot worst. We were not seeing each other frequently because i only went there once and she came a few times. I was in a difficult financial situation. I knew i had lost the game and i was expecting her to brake up. I also became a little cold because of the situation. I didn't want to dump her so i won't look bad, hence i let her do it.

When she broke up for all these reasons... i told her she's right and accepted it. I didn't even negotiated for it or try to change her mind. She told me also that we don't have to stop talking.

A week later she changes her relationship status in fbook to "in a relationship with .....". She had never set the status before... it was always blank and she was not exposing that king of info. There was also activity on her profile from that guy. I didn't liked that at all. It was very immature for a 30 yr old.
I send her a message and told her she's weak because she had to find someone first and then tell me to break up.

She has initiated contact 2-3 times since we broke up but im starting to ignoring her.

Why she acts like that with that stupid manner?? Does she seeks revenge because i hurt her on the past or try to get over me using someone else??

Shall i completely ignore her??

Do you think she wants to keep contact just in case things change later and want to get back with me??

posted June 18, 2013 07:47 PM            

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Originally posted by Geeky:
As a girl with a Scorpio heart (Scorpio Venus), I can tell you that she feels like you've strung her along and she's making it a point to move on. It has nothing to do with revenge, when we're done, we're done.

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my virgo ex did the same thing...
didnt want a relationship at first....then, yes...then started developing feelings
when things were bad, i always tried to make things work...i never gave up...
then, we broke up, he initiated the breakup....
but then, twisted things as if i was the one who wanted out...and how awful everything was...and how i should have known....

and then, after the breakup, he tells me that he was surprised as to how hurt he felt...he even said that some of his friends started telling him that maybe i did some witchcraft because he was feeling like a wretch.....seriously?
me: isnt it normal to feel sad after a breakup?
me: im moving on...
him: oh....

posted June 18, 2013 07:49 PM            

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Originally posted by liquido:
i have N.Node in Leo if i know what that means..
I agree that probably my ego is hurt but i don't know if she moved on or she wants to look like that. Why did she made all that buzz in facebook?? She was never into it..
I think she wanted to be seen. She's done it before(not in fbook). I am talking about a woman with a low IQ.

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posted June 18, 2013 07:51 PM            

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Originally posted by liquido:
why does she want to have contact if she has moved on??

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posted June 18, 2013 07:55 PM            

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Originally posted by liquido:
I am talking about a woman with a low IQ.

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posted June 19, 2013 03:27 AM            

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Originally posted by charlie:
*fights the temptation*....*starts whistling and walks on to next thread*

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posted June 19, 2013 03:54 AM            

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Originally posted by Doux Rêve:

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I love this place!

posted June 19, 2013 06:12 AM            

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Originally posted by charlie:
*fights the temptation*....*starts whistling and walks on to next thread*

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posted June 19, 2013 07:21 AM            

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Originally posted by Geeky:
As a girl with a Scorpio heart (Scorpio Venus), I can tell you that she feels like you've strung her along and she's making it a point to move on. It has nothing to do with revenge, when we're done, we're done.

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posted June 19, 2013 07:25 AM            

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Originally posted by liquido:
I am talking about a woman with a low IQ.

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posted June 19, 2013 08:22 AM            

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Originally posted by acousticbob:

As a Scorpio sun and Venus guy I'm not so sure that it has nothing to do with revenge. It's feasible that she has moved on and found a new relationship but publishing it so quickly on Facebook is certainly insensitive, not a common trait from a Scorpio.

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i think moon, mars, neptune would have more to do with this, no? esp. if it is in a fire or air sign...

wow....a scorpio sun/venus guy...never met one.
note to self: hope to meet a scorpio sun/venus guy in real life, at least, scorpio venus.

posted June 19, 2013 08:32 AM            

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Originally posted by liquido:
what i have noticed in most Scorpios is that they always need to be with someone even if they don't really like him. they can't be alone.

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that actually sounds more like libra....

posted June 19, 2013 08:43 AM            

I'm sorry but two weeks sounds like too short a time to actually get over your (ex) boyfriend and find someone else..

So, either she wants to get a reaction out of you, or she's in a rebound relationship.

And some Scorpios actually are always in a relationship, just for the sake of being with someone.
So it's not that far from the truth (even though we're not all this way, obviously).

Point is, liquido, you don't want to be with her anymore, right?
So why don't you just tell her.

posted June 19, 2013 09:07 AM            

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Originally posted by hikoro:
i think moon, mars, neptune would have more to do with this, no? esp. if it is in a fire or air sign...

wow....a scorpio sun/venus guy...never met one.
note to self: hope to meet a scorpio sun/venus guy in real life, at least, scorpio venus.

i cant help but laugh as to how all of her reactions were deemed as 'scorpio revenge' by op, it is as if her sudden detachment must have some ulterior motive....
hence, she is being typecast.
it must be scorpio revenge/possessiveness, etc
when if other signs do the same, it is ok and normal...

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Yes I'm sure that the rest of her chart does play a big part. Air signs in particular may find it easier to move on quickly through detachment and fire signs may like to show 'defiance' with quickly moving on. In my experience Scorpio's find it hard to detach quickly.

What makes you want to meet a Scorp Sun&Venus?
In everyday life I don;t think I seem very Scorpionic. My Virgo Asc comes through and maybe my Taurus moon. But relationships are intense and deep for me- probably due to my Scorp Sun&Venus.

posted June 19, 2013 09:11 AM            

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Originally posted by liquido:
what i have noticed in most Scorpios is that they always need to be with someone even if they don't really like him. they can't be alone.

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posted June 19, 2013 09:59 AM            

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Originally posted by Doux Rêve:
Guys, calm down; for all we know she actually did do it for revenge.

I'm sorry but two weeks sounds like too short a time to actually get over your (ex) boyfriend and find someone else..

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doux, op implied that she has been impulsive...she seems like someone who gets with people very easily, so...we cant say that for her especially, it would be bizarre at all....

i mean, according to the op, she is an immature woman with a low iq, the woman is not here to defend herself...
we just dont know.

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So, either she wants to get a reaction out of you, or she's in a rebound relationship.

And some Scorpios actually are always in a relationship, just for the sake of being with someone.
So it's not that far from the truth (even though we're not all this way, obviously).

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yes, some scorpios but, i think you're missing the context.

maybe im the only one here who got this impression...
but op keeps throwing these stereotypical statements and cheap shots surrounding this woman instead of getting to the point.

he is hurt...
since he is hurt, he has to attack in order to gain some leverage...
he didnt seem to be coming from a place of wanting to understand but more along the lines of: how come she moved on so fast?
in other words, 'what about me?'

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Point is, liquido, you don't want to be with her anymore, right?
So why don't you just tell her.

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they're not together anymore...
he just needs to continue ignoring her or tell her he doesnt want to remain in contact with her.

there is nothing in the op that implies she is trying to get back with him, im sure that, had that been the case, op would have mentioned it.

posted June 19, 2013 10:01 AM            

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Originally posted by acousticbob:

What makes you want to meet a Scorp Sun&Venus?
In everyday life I don;t think I seem very Scorpionic. My Virgo Asc comes through and maybe my Taurus moon. But relationships are intense and deep for me- probably due to my Scorp Sun&Venus.

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posted June 19, 2013 12:15 PM            

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Originally posted by acousticbob:
I'm the opposite of that tbh. What are her other placements?

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i have no idea! i said that from general experience and also for her. Because in the past she was with another guy trying to get over me and not to be alone. But she was in love with me for all that time hoping one day we could be together.