|
Author
|
Topic: Why Cancer men always come back?
|
its_aqua
Knowflake Posts: 836
From: Mars
Registered: Nov 2012
|
posted June 29, 2013 06:38 PM
  
I have noticed this pattern with Cancer men.
Whether it was a serious relationship, a fling or just casual sex, they will always come back and re-appear at some point, even if much time has passed (speaking for months etc)Is it a typical Cancer-ish behaviour?
Or is it something that depends entirely on synastry aspects and not in the specific person? Which placements/ aspects in natal or synastry would make somebody come back again and again ? IP: Logged |
Doux Rêve
Knowflake Posts: 9926
From:
Registered: Dec 2010
|
posted June 29, 2013 06:53 PM
Cause they tend to look back at the past and remember the good times you had.
And sometimes they miss that, so they pop up in your life again, hoping to revive that sweet memory.IP: Logged |
starmoon
Knowflake Posts: 1828
From:
Registered: Sep 2011
|
posted June 29, 2013 06:54 PM
quote:
Originally posted by its_aqua:
I have noticed this pattern with Cancer men.
Whether it was a serious relationship, a fling or just casual sex, they will always come back and re-appear at some point, even if much time has passed (speaking for months etc)Is it a typical Cancer-ish behaviour?
Or is it something that depends entirely on synastry aspects and not in the specific person? Which placements/ aspects in natal or synastry would make somebody come back again and again ?
the natal aspect is that they are born a man... most guys will come back if you wait long enough the trick is really to just wait it out. men get into 'remembering mode' a few weeks or months down the line, recall how awesome you were as a gf/SO and then come looking to see if you'll give them another chance. in my years of dating i found it really applied to all sun signs, not just cancer men. although how they come around may be different - call, email, text, show up unexpectedly, etc. IP: Logged |
Doux Rêve
Knowflake Posts: 9926
From:
Registered: Dec 2010
|
posted June 29, 2013 07:00 PM
^ Makes sense.IP: Logged |
its_aqua
Knowflake Posts: 836
From: Mars
Registered: Nov 2012
|
posted June 29, 2013 07:21 PM
quote:
Originally posted by starmoon:
the natal aspect is that they are born a man... most guys will come back if you wait long enough the trick is really to just wait it out. men get into 'remembering mode' a few weeks or months down the line, recall how awesome you were as a gf/SO and then come looking to see if you'll give them another chance. in my years of dating i found it really applied to all sun signs, not just cancer men. although how they come around may be different - call, email, text, show up unexpectedly, etc.
The question is if they appear because they truly understood how great you were or because they just want some fun around ?!? Its true that it can happen with most guys but Ive noticed it very much with Cancers, I mean I broke up with a Virgo recently and he hasnt even called me once. IP: Logged |
charlie
Knowflake Posts: 4585
From:
Registered: Jun 2012
|
posted June 29, 2013 07:45 PM
quote:
Originally posted by its_aqua:
The question is if they appear because they truly understood how great you were or because they just want some fun around ?!? Its true that it can happen with most guys but Ive noticed it very much with Cancers, I mean I broke up with a Virgo recently and he hasnt even called me once.
When Virgos are done they are usually DONE-DONE. Cancer guys can come and go for years if you let them, it won't mean much to them. IP: Logged |
its_aqua
Knowflake Posts: 836
From: Mars
Registered: Nov 2012
|
posted June 29, 2013 08:05 PM
quote:
Originally posted by charlie:
When Virgos are done they are usually DONE-DONE. Cancer guys can come and go for years if you let them, it won't mean much to them.
How can Virgos be like that ?? I mean who cant they forget so easily all the good stuff? I think its a trait of mutable signs definitely!
IP: Logged |
starrystratosphere
Knowflake Posts: 348
From:
Registered: May 2013
|
posted June 29, 2013 09:05 PM
havent you ever heard the saying "if you make a friend of a cancer, you made a friend for life."it really is like that with most. there are a few signs that are very very generous with their hearts and cancer is one of them. if they care for you, they will always tend to if you ever need anything. IP: Logged |
Aries Eagle
Moderator Posts: 1252
From: Λ Ἄρης Λ
Registered: Jan 2013
|
posted June 29, 2013 09:10 PM
quote:
Originally posted by starrystratosphere:
havent you ever heard the saying "if you make a friend of a cancer, you made a friend for life."it really is like that with most. there are a few signs that are very very generous with their hearts and cancer is one of them. if they care for you, they will always tend to if you ever need anything.
 They are such a lovely people im surronded by Cancer Suns in my family I know them very well lol. ------------------
Sometimes, truth isn't good enough, sometimes people deserve more. Sometimes people deserve to have their faith rewarded.
“For all those who believe, expect a miracle.” -Linda Goodman IP: Logged |
I'm so cappy
Knowflake Posts: 9778
From: Death Star
Registered: Nov 2012
|
posted June 29, 2013 09:12 PM
quote:
Originally posted by its_aqua:
How can Virgos be like that ?? I mean who cant they forget so easily all the good stuff? I think its a trait of mutable signs definitely!
Or maybe it's just pride.
------------------
I'm sooo happy! I mean, cappy. IP: Logged |
starrystratosphere
Knowflake Posts: 348
From:
Registered: May 2013
|
posted June 29, 2013 09:22 PM
quote:
Originally posted by Aries Eagle:
They are such a lovely people im surronded by Cancer Suns in my family I know them very well lol.
yeah just a while back ago my cancer brother actually drove half the province away to bail some guy out of jail he knew like so long ago. Also, have a cancer cousin whos just so good to me , we live in different countries but he's never failed to look out for me. lol he always checks up on me every now and then with "how r u?".."anyone bothering you?" LOL. i am like a baby to him but my brother is like a baby to me. love them both so so much.  IP: Logged |
LovelyKitty
Knowflake Posts: 617
From: ~*Cosmic Wanderer *~
Registered: Jun 2012
|
posted June 29, 2013 09:37 PM
quote:
Originally posted by charlie:
When Virgos are done they are usually DONE-DONE. Cancer guys can come and go for years if you let them, it won't mean much to them.
Yes ..one guy I know is stellium Virgo but moon/mars in cancer , he is DONE-UNDONE-DONE-UNDONE  ...so on.. It's not like another female stellium virgo ,only moon in scorpio. With her moon in scorpio ,before the broke-up it's really hard for her to let someone gone . But when it's over , there will be no return. I'm also has a cancer moon and water mars .Although my sun is air sign , that couldn't help much . I always look to the past-future , not the present . Looking back to the past to see how thing was great and compare to the relationship right now and worried about the future. I'm now living with the Saggi moon , he said "when it's Done , then it's Done" (although he is pisces sun  ) I admire /thanksful him very much and everytime I try to think about my past ,I 'll think about how great we overcome all of the hardest time to be together right here . quote:
Originally posted by its_aqua:
How can Virgos be like that ?? I mean who cant they forget so easily all the good stuff? I think its a trait of mutable signs definitely!
I use to ask this question often when I see friends that can easily forget . After I talk to them about this , I think their brain operate differently , think differently than the other cancer folks.
IP: Logged |
StarlightSmileSupreme
Knowflake Posts: 9169
From: neptune
Registered: Nov 2012
|
posted June 29, 2013 09:58 PM
Maybe Cancer just likes to hang on, not letting go with those little pinchers? IP: Logged |
Textbook
unregistered
|
posted June 30, 2013 06:31 PM
quote:
Originally posted by its_aqua:
I have noticed this pattern with Cancer men.
Whether it was a serious relationship, a fling or just casual sex, they will always come back and re-appear at some point, even if much time has passed (speaking for months etc)Is it a typical Cancer-ish behaviour?
Or is it something that depends entirely on synastry aspects and not in the specific person? Which placements/ aspects in natal or synastry would make somebody come back again and again ?
Sentimentality. Plus Cancer is insurance-minded, so when they find someone that feels good and right to them they're gonna keep wanting to go back to what they know is good and "safe". My Mars is in the sign and I do the same thing actually. I've even just flat out stated to exes like, "Look, I come back. That's what I do. Expect me to come back" lmao. IP: Logged |
Textbook
unregistered
|
posted June 30, 2013 09:03 PM
quote:
Originally posted by StarlightSmileSupreme:
Maybe Cancer just likes to hang on, not letting go with those little pinchers?
No. I have Mars in Cancer so I understand this a bit. Cancer is all about security, sentimentality, and that emotional need to feel safe and like they're around what they "know". If the times were good and there was a lot of shared history there, that type of thing is a big deal to a Cancerian person and we'll pretty much keep coming back cuz that's where we were happy and felt "at home". Seems common-sense to me, but I know not everybody has placements in Cancer so it probably will go over some people's heads. IP: Logged |
AriesKat
Knowflake Posts: 817
From: Brooklyn, NY USA
Registered: May 2011
|
posted July 01, 2013 11:57 AM
becuz they cling for dear life IP: Logged |
StarlightSmileSupreme
Knowflake Posts: 9169
From: neptune
Registered: Nov 2012
|
posted July 01, 2013 12:00 PM
quote:
Originally posted by Textbook:
No.I have Mars in Cancer so I understand this a bit. Cancer is all about security, sentimentality, and that emotional need to feel safe and like they're around what they "know". If the times were good and there was a lot of shared history there, that type of thing is a big deal to a Cancerian person and we'll pretty much keep coming back cuz that's where we were happy and felt "at home". Seems common-sense to me, but I know not everybody has placements in Cancer so it probably will go over some people's heads.
Textbook, my post was tongue-in-cheek, was meant to be humorous. Cancer's sign is the crab and the crab does have pinchers. Cancers are known for their tenacity, it's supposed to be a trait of the sign.I like Cancer placements.
IP: Logged |
its_aqua
Knowflake Posts: 836
From: Mars
Registered: Nov 2012
|
posted July 01, 2013 12:20 PM
quote:
Originally posted by AriesKat:
becuz they cling for dear life
But why would you cling of someone you didnt want to have a proper relationship in the first place? Thats what doesnt make sense. Cancers have aflong and come back? Why? It didnt even seem important to them in the first place! IP: Logged |
StarlightSmileSupreme
Knowflake Posts: 9169
From: neptune
Registered: Nov 2012
|
posted July 01, 2013 12:23 PM
Tenacity, Aqua. It's a Cancerian trait. They are tenacious. It's part of their character.IP: Logged |
its_aqua
Knowflake Posts: 836
From: Mars
Registered: Nov 2012
|
posted July 01, 2013 12:34 PM
Hehe I have to look up my dictionary StraightSmile 
Have no idea what tenacious means
IP: Logged |
its_aqua
Knowflake Posts: 836
From: Mars
Registered: Nov 2012
|
posted July 01, 2013 12:41 PM
quote:
Originally posted by StarlightSmileSupreme:
Tenacity, Aqua. It's a Cancerian trait. They are tenacious. It's part of their character.
Okay so tenacious apparently means somebody who insists.
I dont get what they dont insist and they let you go in the first place. And then at they point you ve finally mended your pieces they are back. Doesnt make any sense at all IP: Logged |
StarlightSmileSupreme
Knowflake Posts: 9169
From: neptune
Registered: Nov 2012
|
posted July 01, 2013 12:41 PM
quote:
Originally posted by its_aqua:
Hehe I have to look up my dictionary StraightSmile
Have no idea what tenacious means
Judging by what you posted, I think you know exactly what tenacity is
You've experienced it first hand!
IP: Logged |
its_aqua
Knowflake Posts: 836
From: Mars
Registered: Nov 2012
|
posted July 01, 2013 12:46 PM
quote:
Originally posted by StarlightSmileSupreme:
Judging by what you posted, I think you know exactly what tenacity is
You've experienced it first hand!
I just dont get why they are tenacious at the wrong time. Why the heck if you didnt even care enough in the beginning and acted like you didnt care, why you have to re-appear? Cant they find someone new? Its not like they want anything meaningfull anyways IP: Logged |
StarlightSmileSupreme
Knowflake Posts: 9169
From: neptune
Registered: Nov 2012
|
posted July 01, 2013 12:48 PM
It could just be they are motivated by boredom. Never know. You could always ask them, just say to them what you are saying here, "tell me why you decided to show up just now?"IP: Logged |
its_aqua
Knowflake Posts: 836
From: Mars
Registered: Nov 2012
|
posted July 01, 2013 12:51 PM
quote:
Originally posted by StarlightSmileSupreme:
It could just be they are motivated by boredom. Never know. You could always ask them, just say to them what you are saying here, "tell me why you decided to show up just now?"
Nah, I would never make it obvious to them that I feel discomfort from them appearing again, Im too proud to do that
I hate it how I have to act all cool around when I just want to scream, hehe.
Ugh, those Cancer guys, they should come alond with Terms of Agreement and a box to tick before you get into trouble IP: Logged |
Lindaland
UBBFriend: Email This Page to Someone! 
