posted September 30, 2013 12:34 PM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
I'm currently conversing with an Aquarian who has Asc in Virgo, Moon in Virgo, Mercury in Aquarius and Venus is in Pisces

In our conversations, he avoids talking about feelings and will let me take centre stage.

The other day he said that I am "devoid of emotions" and is always trying to get me to open up and be more emotional with him.

Problem is, I get the impression that he is just interested in "cracking the code" so to speak. Once that is done, he'll simply move on.

I don't mean to play on this Aquarian-Sagittarian game that many sites mention; where both signs avoid being emotionally vulnerable with each other.

But it just happens that with Aquarians, more than any other signs, I can just be an a** and stone cold.I think they prefer friendship to all-consuming, passionate love.

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posted September 30, 2013 12:48 PM            

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Originally posted by freebrainstorms:

YES!

it's definitely fear, especially fear of losing ourselves and independence and becoming their attached at the hip couple or something. I'm definitely scared of love, it's the excess of emotion, i mean what the hell do we do with that? It's too much and what if i change my mind and hurt you? what if i loose everything i know myself to be by becoming one with you? how can i dedicate myself towards one individual when there's so many possibilities out there? Myself at least it makes me feel a little self-conscious and almost undeserving to have somebody be that infatuated me, it almost creeps me out...it's like whoa dude, look around there's beautiful people everywhere, don't be in love with me...be in love with humanity and the whole world....then again i could just have a lot of issues lol

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posted September 30, 2013 12:57 PM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:

Problem is, I get the impression that he is just interested in "cracking the code" so to speak. Once that is done, he'll simply move on.

But it just happens that with Aquarians, more than any other signs, I can just be an a** and stone cold.I think they prefer friendship to all-consuming, passionate love.

If you are to say you love them, don't mention the actual "L" word itself , just be quirky by saying stuff like " You know that the depths of my affections run as deep as a bathroom sink"

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**waves my church fan**

You stole the words right out of my mouth! This was an absolute ROBBERY you just pulled!!

I mean every single thing you just said is why I've avoided Aquarians until recently.

The "cracking the code" mentality.
The fear of "Love".
The friendship over "passionate love".

I, like you, am an Aries. I have definitely given them the *cold shoulder* because of all this. I've noticed a HUGE pattern on this board w/ Aries folks complaining about Aquarius.

So WHY exactly do people assume we'd be the perfect match for them then??

posted September 30, 2013 01:37 PM            

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Originally posted by LovelyAries86:

I have to be honest. This totally *disturbs* me. No offense lol. I just don't understand all the paranoia of everything related to FEELING. Life without emotion is quite bland...horrid, even. Lord knows Aquarians claim to hate anything becoming "dull" around them! Living life "on the surface" 24/7 is the dullest thing I could think of. Seriously!!

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posted October 01, 2013 01:30 AM            

like i'm going so far deep into my emotions it rarely shows externally because it's all an internal struggle. I often have to really struggle to force myself to recognize my emotions rather than just analyze them until i understand where the context they came from and what caused them to arise and then move on.

Why the over-analyses? What are you afraid of?

I think, in his case, he is equally fascinated as he is perplexed by emotions.

posted October 01, 2013 01:41 AM            

Aries23Degrees is actually my Asc and Degree orb. My Sun sign is Sagittarius.

And to answer your question on compatibility between Aries and Aquarius? Well, if his Ascendant was also in Aquarius, I'd be able to answer.

I actually know someone at the office who has their Asc in 24 Degrees of Aquarius and,although we get on on the whole,I find him annoying.

I think Aquarius likes the open nature of Aries and Aries gets thrilled with the unconventional quirks of Aquarius.

And Aries emotional nature is not too overwhelming for Aquarius' more "seasoned" intellectual approach.

posted October 01, 2013 09:54 AM            

@Aries23 I do agree with the above statement. I also know that both Arians & Aquarians can be REBELS together! I do think there are some cool similarities.

posted October 01, 2013 04:47 PM            

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[b]freebrainstorms

i have ALL of those placements except the ascendant, mine is opposite in pisces. i think we just have a different idea of what love is. as far as opening up emotionally, myself i've noticed that i have a hard time sitting in my own emotion so when i feel

like i'm going so far deep into my emotions it rarely shows externally because it's all an internal struggle. I often have to really struggle to force myself to recognize my emotions rather than just analyze them until i understand where the context they came from and what caused them to arise and then move on.

Why the over-analyses? What are you afraid of?

I think, in his case, he is equally fascinated as he is perplexed by emotions.

Are you fascinated by Cancerians? He is currently dating a Cancerian and I think that Aquarians tend to be fascinated by water signs(especially Cancer)the most.[/B]

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What am I scared of? Mostly it's of feeling too deeply and then being hurt, and what i said in my earlier posts. Not sitting within your feelings is a way of detaching yourself from the situation to avoid being emotionally hurt. I agree with the fascination and feeling perplexed in terms of your own emotions, but I have a lot of pisces placements so that tends me make me more emotional than other Aquas.
Why do i over-analyze? because i'm a virgo moon, it's my way of life lol

posted October 01, 2013 08:56 PM            

We know once we commit we will probably NEVER leave so we are very careful about committing and we have no problem being alone so it's nbd for us to leave before we commit.

We' re afraid of committing and getting stuck with someone awful bc we know we won't leave.

This is all hidden under a facade of flightiness so people don't know we're dissecting them and we rarely give the real reason we leave.

posted October 02, 2013 01:08 AM            

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Originally posted by Lily:
We're not scared of love. We probe people and test them and if they come up lacking we bolt. Trust is big for us and if they fail our tests we leave.

We know once we commit we will probably NEVER leave so we are very careful about committing and we have no problem being alone so it's nbd for us to leave before we commit.

We' re afraid of committing and getting stuck with someone awful bc we know we won't leave.

This is all hidden under a facade of flightiness so people don't know we're dissecting them and we rarely give the real reason we leave.

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yeah hey! i second all that actually.

posted October 02, 2013 01:41 AM            

I get that. I get the Aquarian distate for getting "lost" in emotional realms(where few return completely unscathed)

I think another Aquarian friend of mine and I reached a point where something had to give.

He has Pisces in his personal planets(mercury, moon and Mars) whilst I have cardinal energy planets(Cancer Moon, Cap Mercury and Mars in Libra).

Though we have been friends for years, we simply can't do the whole "I love you bro" thang. It's just not us. We both think its too mushy.

But, in quiet rare moments, where he is overcome by Uranus' erratic energy and I am entrenched in Jupiter's "feel good" vibes, we utter "You know I got yo back right?" at the same time.

Then, before the second is over, we are back to worrying about the state of the world and how foolish human beings can be.

I think that's the best that either of us can do. Really.

posted October 02, 2013 01:51 AM            

I think everyone builds a shield around themselves to prevent themesleves getting hurt. Too bad that Aquarians are judged for it when Sagittarius does the same(with their reluctance to commit).

Aries may dive right-so to speak- but we must also remember that, to Aries, the "getting over it" happens just as quickly.

I think it may be harder for Aquarius to get over a heartbreak. Being a fixed sign (like Leo, Scorpio, and Taurus)means that you get used to a certain state of living(being with your lover etc) and when that is pulled from under ya, it can be devastating.

But aren't you scared of never saying that you've experienced that "all consuming" love? Of having only given yourself mentally to something and not your heart?

I think,as a Sagittarian, I'm more terrified of never feeling genuine, real affection for another other than my passion for personal freedom and humanity.

How can I have so much love and compassion for the world and people in it,but become tense for the man who tells me "I want to marry you"?

posted October 02, 2013 02:15 AM              

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Originally posted by DialecticLady:
I think it's fear of get too attached and suffer. Aqua people in general don't know very well what to do with feelings, at least aquarian people I know.

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posted October 02, 2013 09:40 AM            

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Originally posted by Lily:
We're not scared of love. We probe people and test them and if they come up lacking we bolt. Trust is big for us and if they fail our tests we leave.

We know once we commit we will probably NEVER leave so we are very careful about committing and we have no problem being alone so it's nbd for us to leave before we commit.

We' re afraid of committing and getting stuck with someone awful bc we know we won't leave.

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^^Now this...

I truly relate to and I have ZERO planets in Aquarius!! Completely how I operate, there. If Aquarians would communicate this better, I'd be much more open to getting "serious" with them.

posted October 02, 2013 09:41 AM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:

I think that's the best that either of us can do. Really.

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Pretty much!!

You have quality posts, Aries.

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How can I have so much love and compassion for the world and people in it, but become tense for the man who tells me "I want to marry you"?

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^^THIS!!!! *applause*

That is my biggest issue w/ Aquas and to some extent, Sags. Which is why I refrain from falling for them.

The last man that I really, REALLY liked had Moon & Venus in Aquarius and he had a bad habit of putting EVERYONE on the same level - your GF is not the same as some friendly stranger on the street! WTH?? How can you be so into people at large, then clam up when one-on-one? A huge turn-off for me!!

I'm glad that you have been honest with yourself about this, Aries23. Glsd you're working on it.

posted October 02, 2013 06:28 PM            

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Originally posted by freebrainstorms:
yeah hey! i second all that actually.

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posted October 02, 2013 06:29 PM            

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Originally posted by LovelyAries86:
^^Now this...

I truly relate to and I have ZERO planets in Aquarius!! Completely how I operate, there. If Aquarians would communicate this better, I'd be much more open to getting "serious" with them.

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What difference does it make why they're doing it? We're not going to tell you were doing it, because we want to see how you react without being in on it. Telling you would make it useless.

posted October 02, 2013 11:12 PM            

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Originally posted by Lily:
What difference does it make why they're doing it? We're not going to tell you were doing it, because we want to see how you react without being in on it. Telling you would make it useless.

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It makes a difference because many of you come across as wishy-washy, hot then cold, detached & disconnected...you should be more upfront about WHO you are and what you need. The nonchalant persona can turn people off.

You don't have to tell people that you are *scoping* them, No. I also scope people before making commitments to them. So I get that part! But you should want to show people who you are beyond the 'surface' so that they have something to relate to.

posted October 02, 2013 11:18 PM            

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Originally posted by Girl One:
From an Aries point of view, I don't think, I do or say. I don't analyse. I shoot from the hip and say what I like. If he doesn't like it - tough and if he does like it - good.

Note these type of guys - strange how they don't go for the similar attitude in girls ... probably because they realise it is all about control.

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AMEN on the initial comment about Aries!

And LMAO @ Aqua males not liking when women flip the script and give that "I don't care" attitude right back to them.

posted October 02, 2013 11:23 PM            

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Originally posted by LovelyAries86:
It makes a difference because many of you come across as wishy-washy, hot then cold, detached & disconnected...you should be more upfront about WHO you are and what you need. The nonchalant persona can turn people off.

You don't have to tell people that you are *scoping* them, No. I also scope people before making commitments to them. So I get that part! But you should want to show people who you are beyond the 'surface' so that they have something to relate to.

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We only want who we want to relate to us. If we don't allow you to its because were very choosy about that. It's nothing personal but we're just not about that unless we've decided you're in it for the long haul. Everyone else is kept at arms length. And we don't really care if people think we're wispy washy unless we really care about them. That's their problem not ours because we don't really gaf. We're friendly but impersonal with all but a few.

We think its strange that a lot of other signs are constantly telling us who they are -- or rather who they want us to *think* they are but we can see right through their talk and see who they really are. Like Aries... The sign who loves loves loves to tell who they are every second of every day whether we want to hear it or not. They ram it down everyone's throats ( hehe @ ram. That was unintentional).

They never shut up about themselves and how great they are and how everyone loves them So much...blah blah blah. We have to be detached to tune out their huge ego that won't allow us two words edgewise because they won't shut up about themselves, their problems and who they are, except its all an act because they're the biggest fake social climbers around. They tell people who they want to be, not who they really are. Such bullsh1t.

This thread is a great example. It's about Aquarius but all the Aries are taking it over talking about themselves as usual. Such a great metaphor for the Aries ego.

posted October 03, 2013 12:24 AM            

I am Aqu sun and Mercury with these planets being opposed to my Saturn in Cancer and squaring Uranus. I also has Libra Moon, Sag Venus and Jupiter in the 1st. And what does this all add up to? Someone who pairs up with loved ones and friends, who is very loyal, who is ridiculously generous and is kind and is prone to being taken advantage of. I am a very vulnerable person.

I am very scared of people. People, friends have let me down and have appeared to be my friends and they aren't or are just friendly or just there to use me in some way.

Those who don't know me say I am Saturnine - I'm judging you from a distance because I don't know you. Those who get to know me well say I am Uranian and I start showing my unique side. And this leads me to the point, I have often been rejected by others for being different - not doing what the pack sheep of and having a goal/passion/vocation at others don't adhere to. I keep my distance and let you in when I know when you accept me for who I am. And when I do keep my distance from someone, I have always been right - a hidden girlfriend, a person seeking to slander you, someone using you in some way.

Us Aquarians bond for life very often, it hurts when the other side lets you down and when they walk away, you feel you are trapped under their car and being dragged by it like a carcass.