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posted October 21, 2013 03:19 PM            

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Originally posted by DaniPepper87:
How about a BIG HUG among all Venus/Saturn people here??

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I would love that, but we are all probably afraid of eachother for rejection reasons :P

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posted October 21, 2013 03:21 PM            

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Dani, welcome to the club I've gravitated towards older men since I remember.

Girls, don't be afraid to be single. It's not a disease. And it's better than being stuck in a medicore relationship.

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posted October 21, 2013 03:23 PM            

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4th house ^^ i think it's a difficult house for saturn, i never feel secure.

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I agree! My mother has this one, and only married my father because he could make her secure, not much love between them!

Saturn in the 1st house makes my appearance older than I'm really. I'm not secure with appearance, but I'm working hard to overcome this!

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posted October 21, 2013 03:26 PM            

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Ouch...My condolences.

Don't worry. I'm over 20, a virgin and forever alone So it could've been worse.

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Do you (and the other poster you replied to, I didn't get a chance to catch their name) live in the US? I only ask because Western society has always been over invested in the outcomes of social traditions. I'm 24 and a virgin and have never had a committed boyfriend, but there's so much more to experience in life. Love is nice, but it's not the end all and it's not like it is in the movies. Besides, even without someone adoring on you I"m sure you're both loved by people who know you. I know I am and for now that's great.

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I have Sun, Mercury, Venus square Saturn. It inhibits me, but doesn't slow me down. It's just something I'm always having to consciously remind myself. Once I push through the initial anxiety, I'm okay.

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posted October 21, 2013 03:28 PM            

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Originally posted by I'm so cappy:
Dani, welcome to the club I've gravitated towards older men since I remember.

Girls, don't be afraid to be single. It's not a disease. And it's better than being stuck in a medicore relationship.

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Thanks Cappy! Yes, I agree. Last relationship was awful, he didn't respect me as I deserve. I think with this aspect, we need to love ourselves before any long-term commitment. He's luck because I don't have Mars in Scorpio or Aries (maybe I'd killed him before he notice...) .

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posted October 21, 2013 03:41 PM            

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A kick in the balls would be enough. I'm glad you realized you deserve respect. Screw him.

Hanna, I'm from Europe. And it's not free from the pressure of pairing up either. I guess that's just human

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posted October 21, 2013 03:45 PM            

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I have the trine of Venus trine Saturn.

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posted October 21, 2013 03:47 PM            

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it seems like people with Venus in aspect to Saturn really do suffer in the romance department :/
and are kind of lonely and depressed.

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posted October 21, 2013 03:48 PM            

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Lol in asia they pressure you to get married.... to someone you don't even know!!!!!

be happy we're in the west.

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posted October 21, 2013 03:48 PM            

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Originally posted by Kerosene:
Lol in asia they pressure you to get married!!!!!

be happy were in the west.

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Some people crave being in a partnership and those are the ones Venus/Saturn hits especially hard.

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posted October 21, 2013 03:51 PM            

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Originally posted by StarlightSmileSupreme:
it seems like people with Venus in aspect to Saturn really do suffer in the romance department :/
and are kind of lonely and depressed.

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I think we suffer because we want something more than fun. We need to be safe, to be into a commitment that fullfill us. And what I see around is just people playing with others feelings. I just hate that! I never played with my own feelings either with the other guys.

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posted October 21, 2013 03:54 PM            

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Originally posted by DaniPepper87:
I think we suffer because we want something more than fun. We need to be safe, to be into a commitment that fullfill us. And what I see around is just people playing with others feelings. I just hate that! I never played with my own feelings either with the other guys.

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Everyone with this does seem really serious and a bit sensitive, too, expecting a lot and feeling somewhat undervalued. I know I expect a lot.

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posted October 21, 2013 04:00 PM            

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[QUOTE]Originally posted by DaniPepper87:
[b] I think we suffer because we want something more than fun. We need to be safe, to be into a commitment that fullfill us. And what I see around is just people playing with others feelings. I just hate that! I never played with my own feelings either with the other guys.

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Everyone with this does seem really serious and a bit sensitive, too, expecting a lot and feeling somewhat undervalued. I know I expect a lot.

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So true, try having some hard neptune aspects aswell, ultra sensitive and serious i am. It's very hard to chill out around people, scared of criticism. I expect too much of people then disappointed that they dont meet my needs.

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posted October 21, 2013 04:55 PM            

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Originally posted by Kerosene:
Lol in asia they pressure you to get married.... to someone you don't even know!!!!!

be happy we're in the west.

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I didn't say the West was a terrible place to live, just that our culture is very much invested in make-believe romance and "happily ever after," and it lets a lot of people down because that's not realistic.

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posted October 21, 2013 05:21 PM            

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I didn't say the West was a terrible place to live, just that our culture is very much invested in make-believe romance and "happily ever after," and it lets a lot of people down because that's not realistic.

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That sounds like venus - neptune folks :P

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posted October 21, 2013 05:26 PM            

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Originally posted by NeptunianSag:
That sounds like venus - neptune folks :P

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Yeah yeah, I got that too. :P

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posted October 21, 2013 05:30 PM            

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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
I didn't say the West was a terrible place to live, just that our culture is very much invested in make-believe romance and "happily ever after," and it lets a lot of people down because that's not realistic.

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True but those people are just silly! lol
I don't take them seriously...

If anything people are looking for security not love.
We associate partners and marriage with security!
Another issue is codependency.

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posted October 21, 2013 05:40 PM            

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Technically I have Saturn conjunct Venus but by 12 degrees and it's out of sign, so obviously it's not strong. I feel for you guys though, I've been having tSaturn square Venus and Jupiter, and basically it's been terrible. Usually I'm a pretty confident person and like to keep a healthy amount of fun and romance in my life (5th house moon) even if I'm not looking for a commitment or know it's not going to be the real thing... But that changed pretty fast. tJupiter had just trined my Venus before this transit started so I went from having what seemed like an endless number of prospects to basically 0 and all I could focus on were my flaws and all the reasons no one would want to be with me...

Anyway, as always with Saturn, I really think even if it takes longer those of you who have it natally will end up with the happiest relationships in the end when you do finally decide to commit, at least that's what I've noticed. You might be more lonely than most sometimes, but at least you know what you want and won't settle for something that isn't real. And I would think after years of being so hard on yourselves eventually you'd just stop giving a f*** what other people think lol

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posted October 21, 2013 07:42 PM            

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I have the conjunction, cap saturn conjunct cap venus (saturn is also my chart ruler). It kinda depends on my moods, but yah I don't think I've ever felt "ugly as sin". LOL I'm a bit vain even. This aspect plays out as criticism from other people, I get judged on my physical appearance a lot.

My s.o has the sextile, and he's confident with his looks.

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posted October 22, 2013 05:38 PM            

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Do you (and the other poster you replied to, I didn't get a chance to catch their name) live in the US? I only ask because Western society has always been over invested in the outcomes of social traditions. I'm 24 and a virgin and have never had a committed boyfriend, but there's so much more to experience in life. Love is nice, but it's not the end all and it's not like it is in the movies. Besides, even without someone adoring on you I"m sure you're both loved by people who know you. I know I am and for now that's great.

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I have Sun, Mercury, Venus square Saturn. It inhibits me, but doesn't slow me down. It's just something I'm always having to consciously remind myself. Once I push through the initial anxiety, I'm okay.

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posted October 22, 2013 05:45 PM            

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I have Venus trine Saturn and have never been comfortable with my appearance. I don't think it has anything to do with astrology, I just wish I looked different.

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posted October 22, 2013 06:14 PM            

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Conjunction here

I like my appearance. But I do undervalue myself at times. No problems with romantic relationships either, but I don't like being in one. It takes work getting use to having a partner. And as always, quality over quantity.

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posted October 22, 2013 08:29 PM            

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do you have a religious background?

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Me? Not a very disciplined one unless you count astrology as a religion since religion and astrology both depend on beliefs, somewhat. I'm interested in Buddhism, but I've been the most consistent with astrology. When I was younger I went to a private catholic school for a year, and before that was made to go to church a lot but it never took to me. Even from a young age I found the whole "Don't say this because it's bad and causes bad things to happen" theme hokey. Why? Were you going to perhaps bring up that religion is why a lot of people want to get married?

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posted November 09, 2013 12:00 PM            

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It looks like a conjunction really can tame even a theoretically very flighty Venus! I just remembered my sister has her Sagittarius Venus conjunct Saturn and she's even more rigid than me when it comes to romance. The orb is twice as tight as mine though.

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posted November 09, 2013 02:06 PM            

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I have the trine and I can relate to most of the descriptions of the hard aspects - but that's probably because I have Saturn opp. Moon and square Sun, Mars and Pluto.

I'd rather have Saturn than Uranus though. Uranus seems to be really bad when it comes to the relationship department (and unfortunately for me, I tend to be attracted to Uranian types who only reinforce my issues. Gotta work on that.).

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