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Topic: The Aries need to talk about themselves (some of them)
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Cynnared
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posted October 29, 2013 12:15 PM
  
I hate this quirk! Drives me totally bonkers. The thing is why is it that some Aries has to bring things about themselves or hijack conversations? Friend - Oh, I'm flying to the GTA Aries - Have a great time. I've never been there. Friend - I have been to the airport a few times there but not visiting the city. Aries - I have only flown over the city to go to NS. Have you been to the comedy club there. I have......and goes on about their experience about that comedy club. What I am trying to understand about having Sun in Aries...... IP: Logged |
LovelyAries86
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posted October 29, 2013 02:07 PM
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Originally posted by Cynnared:
I hate this quirk! Drives me totally bonkers. The thing is why is it that some Aries has to bring things about themselves or hijack conversations? Friend - Oh, I'm flying to the GTA Aries - Have a great time. I've never been there. Friend - I have been to the airport a few times there but not visiting the city. Aries - I have only flown over the city to go to NS. Have you been to the comedy club there. I have......and goes on about their experience about that comedy club. What I am trying to understand about having Sun in Aries......
I'm a bit confused. What exactly is so awful about this particular conversation? Did this person ask you any more follow-up questions? Or did they just talk over you? Conversation is about the BOTH of you, not just you or them. A person mentioning a shared experience with you is NOT being self-absored. Now if they don't EVER include you in the conversation...they are an a-hole that you need not speak to again! IP: Logged |
vickymadness
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posted October 29, 2013 02:20 PM
I can't see anything wrong with the conversation either. The person is trying to keep it up. duh.
Actually the Aries I know, don't talk about themselves. They crack jokes all the time.IP: Logged |
LovelyAries86
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posted October 29, 2013 02:24 PM
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Originally posted by vickymadness:
I can't see anything wrong with the conversation either. The person is trying to keep it up. duh.
Actually the Aries I know, don't talk about themselves. They crack jokes all the time.
Apparently, everyone is allowed to talk about themselves EXCEPT an Aries. IP: Logged |
vickymadness
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posted October 29, 2013 02:25 PM
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Originally posted by LovelyAries86:
Apparently, everyone is allowed to talk about themselves EXCEPT an Aries.
lol yes. Sometimes I feel people are frustrated they weren't born an aries ... well I don't blame them. Opps we're hijacking her thread again. HAHA!  IP: Logged |
LovelyAries86
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posted October 29, 2013 02:31 PM
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Originally posted by vickymadness:
lol yes. Sometimes I feel people are frustrated they weren't born an aries ... well I don't blame them. Opps we're hijacking her thread again. HAHA!
Oh well. Aries people usually know exactly what they want to say...how & when they want to say it. The great "I Am" of course!  An immature Aries may be an arrogant a$$hole who talks over people. Yeah. But the average Aries who is mature will want to hear ALL that other people have to say! We love to hear new things, learn & share experiences. And that is far from being selfish!! IP: Logged |
vickymadness
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posted October 29, 2013 02:35 PM
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Originally posted by LovelyAries86:
But the average Aries who is mature will want to hear ALL that other people have to say! We love to hear new things, learn & share experiences. And that is far from being selfish!!
I can NOT agree more.
People accuse me of being mysterious and all because I don't give much input. I just like to observe what they say, how they say it and whether they're lying or not , faking it or not ... and so on. I think we should stop talking before that (some of them) right up in the title is changed to " goddammit ALL OF THE ARIES CLAN!"  IP: Logged |
LovelyAries86
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posted October 29, 2013 02:39 PM
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Originally posted by vickymadness:
I can NOT agree more.
People accuse me of being mysterious and all because I don't give much input. I just like to observe what they say, how they say it and whether they're lying or not , faking it or not ... and so on.I think we should stop talking before that (some of them) right up in the title is changed to " goddammit ALL OF THE ARIES CLAN!"
Haha exactly! IP: Logged |
anno_lucis
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posted October 29, 2013 02:40 PM
i'd hate to think what i'd be like if i was an extrovert hahaha "tell em don't waste my time!" IP: Logged |
sword lily
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posted October 29, 2013 02:41 PM
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4lifephrases
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posted October 29, 2013 08:29 PM
Sorry my Aries moon couldn't resist your thread. I think as an Aries Moon I tend to personalize everything and it isn't always good. I do not think your friend realizes this. It is wrong if he is trying upmanshiping which he probably not but as far as I understand most conversations are like that intentionally or unintentionally.People would think of an idea or word and all would come up with some different point of view and then think of something else when they wouldn't have anything else to say. Just like your conversation. Do you yourself get threatened by him then it is your problem.
Do you feel sorry for him that you both aren't equal ?
Do you feel you are competing with each other ? See this
http://www.cracked.com/blog/5-ways-youre-accidentally-making-everyone-hate-you/ As for your dilemma I think you are just frustrated that you aren't getting talk as much as you would like to. The only thing you could do like one of my husband's colleague does is say "let me ...let me finish this." If you both are Aries then you both are getting impatient so need to calm down. BTW my husband is Aries and even though he talks quiet a bit he always complains that he doesn't get a say but truth is not that I don't let him. Infact, I spend lot of time silent and nothing would come off his mouth and when I make really good points in arguments as he would have nothing else to say he would say. "You do not let me talk." I guess Listen and Speak.Do both. Isn't that's what communication is ? I once had a problem with a Libra who wouldn't shut up. I gave him MP3 player as a reminder he needs to listen. I guess sometimes people who are too sure about who they are and get so focused on what they know or want. They do not listen to others and that time you either need to elbow them (maybe mentally gag them) or you could just say things like " OK " ... like English do. pause
tilt your head
Long OK
pause
give them disbelief and impatient look
Cross your arms
Go on look at your watch
Ignore speaker completely
Do something else Hinting that you have spoken too much and you are wasting my time. Shut the **** up ! IP: Logged |
CatKeeper
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posted October 29, 2013 08:43 PM
I often have people with a lot of Aries in their charts as friends and acquaintances, but they have usually always have something *interesting* to say.With Libra moon and planets in the 12th though I was "Born to Listen." I've really gotta get that on a t-shirt someday IP: Logged |
RunAroundScreaming
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posted October 29, 2013 09:04 PM
I know exactly what you mean.
I have also read it being said many times about aries ppl on plcaes like yahoo answersAnd there is a reason why aries' quote is "I am" ------------------
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hannaramaa
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posted October 29, 2013 10:41 PM
I get what Cynnared is talking about. They (we?) personalize conversations instead of being objective. Instead of talking about their experience at the comedy club, they could simply say "Oh yeah, there's a cool comedy club there you should check out. Here's why… etc." It's just a matter of phrasing. It gets annoying because eventually you just feel like we're trying to steal the spotlight or be the center of attention, but really it's just our natural way of relating to people.IP: Logged |
PlutoSurvivor
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posted October 29, 2013 11:38 PM
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Originally posted by vickymadness:
I can't see anything wrong with the conversation either. The person is trying to keep it up. duh.
Actually the Aries I know, don't talk about themselves. They crack jokes all the time.
Ha love it. Every sign has its own endearing quirks. Ever notice how Aries loves to laugh at their own jokes? The whole room would be silent and then Aries would be laughing out loud because his/her joke is funny only to himself/herself, but everybody is listening because the delivery is funny, and then all of a sudden the entire room is laughing. Great starter-uppers, those Aries folks. IP: Logged |
arcturiann
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posted October 30, 2013 12:10 AM
From my experience with aries it is less that they feel the need to talk about themselves but more the competitive nature that many of them have that make it seem this way.I know some aries and aries mooners who when they feel as though you have beat them in something they start to talk about their own accomplishments relating to the subjects.
Of course this tends to be a trait i see in more immature or "unevolved" arian types who have ego issues that they feel that they have to constantly prove to be on the top.Another Example: Person 1 - I got an A on my biology test! omg i spend so many all nighters studying for that Aries - Oh biology? That class was so easy, I barely studied for any of the tests and I got A's on each one. I showed up like 40 minutes late to the second test and still finished in the top 5% in my class. Or Person 2 - Did you hear Jessica and David are going to Maui for their honeymoon? How romantic Aries - Pff, Maui is unoriginal. Everyone goes to Hawaii for honeymoons. Now Cape Town, South Africa, that was an amazing trip, very unique and the beaches were so much clearer than any in Hawaii (even though hasnt been to hawaii before).
When it comes to just always relating the subject back to themselves id say it tends to be more leos and leo influenced people that do that lol. Its like they almost get bored when someone else is in the spotlight or are talking about something that doesnt relate to them.
&Lol at all the defensive aries popping up on this thread. It is impossible for any aries to have a fault because they will try to rationalize it into some advantage instead OR they will just attack you about your perceived flaws instead of owning up to mistakes/problems. IP: Logged |
sword lily
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posted October 30, 2013 03:42 AM
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arcturiann
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posted October 30, 2013 04:42 AM
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Originally posted by sword lily:
& then lol some more at all the hypocrites who tell you to be true to yourself with all your faults and flaws and then try to change you 
hahaha that is just encouragement for people who are down and hard on themselves. I think people should take a good hard look at their flaws, acknowledge them, accept them, and either move on or try to improve upon these perceived flaws. This is where I find astrology to be an excellent tool for self discovery and improvement, so long as one is self aware lol. IP: Logged |
LovelyAries86
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posted October 30, 2013 08:55 AM
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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
I get what Cynnared is talking about. They (we?) personalize conversations instead of being objective. Instead of talking about their experience at the comedy club, they could simply say "Oh yeah, there's a cool comedy club there you should check out. Here's why… etc." It's just a matter of phrasing. It gets annoying because eventually you just feel like we're trying to steal the spotlight or be the center of attention, but really it's just our natural way of relating to people.
^^This. It's NEVER about sttealing someone's spotlight for me.
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Cynnared
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posted October 30, 2013 11:14 AM
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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
I get what Cynnared is talking about. They (we?) personalize conversations instead of being objective. Instead of talking about their experience at the comedy club, they could simply say "Oh yeah, there's a cool comedy club there you should check out. Here's why… etc." It's just a matter of phrasing. It gets annoying because eventually you just feel like we're trying to steal the spotlight or be the center of attention, but really it's just our natural way of relating to people.
Spot on! Personalizing the other person's story with their own story.....talking over the other person! I'm trying to focus now on things about what they say instead of bringing myself up. Where this comes from I'm not sure but I'm starting to notice and correct myself when it does happen...... Clearly, maybe some Aries needs an outlet to talk about themselves. maybe time to reignite my stand up career or something.... IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted October 30, 2013 11:20 AM
It's just Aries instinct to think about how they, personally, relate to the topic. I think it's the way they try to empathize and connect. It's our way of saying "Hey we have this in common!" At least, that's why I do it.IP: Logged |
Cynnared
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posted October 30, 2013 11:21 AM
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Originally posted by Cynnared:
I hate this quirk! Drives me totally bonkers. The thing is why is it that some Aries has to bring things about themselves or hijack conversations? Friend - Oh, I'm flying to the GTA Aries - Have a great time. I've never been there. Friend - I have been to the airport a few times there but not visiting the city. Aries - I have only flown over the city to go to NS. Have you been to the comedy club there. I have......and goes on about their experience about that comedy club. What I am trying to understand about having Sun in Aries......
Time to do a detailed anaylsis of this post and now point things out. So the friend starts talking about going to the GTA and the Aries starts injecting stuff about THEIR experiences, some not related to the GTA therefore personalizing and overtalking the friend.
"Aries - I have only flown over the city to go to NS. Have you been to the comedy club there. I have......and goes on about their experience about that comedy club." This is where the Aries took over, instead of focussing and listening to what the friend was saying about the upcoming trip...
Life skills 101 - to listen and be present with the person and not to make things about ME!
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Cynnared
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posted October 30, 2013 11:23 AM
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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
It's just Aries instinct to think about how they, personally, relate to the topic. I think it's the way they try to empathize and connect. It's our way of saying "Hey we have this in common!" At least, that's why I do it.
I can be like that to - trying to find something is what somebody is saying that I can relate to. If I can't then I'm one very quiet introvert. I love it when I can actually talk about stuff instead of me. IP: Logged |
teasel
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posted October 30, 2013 04:20 PM
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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
It's just Aries instinct to think about how they, personally, relate to the topic. I think it's the way they try to empathize and connect. It's our way of saying "Hey we have this in common!" At least, that's why I do it.
Yep, same here. I used to be called "mysterious" and can be very shy. IP: Logged |
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posted October 30, 2013 04:28 PM
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Originally posted by Cynnared:
Time to do a detailed anaylsis of this post and now point things out.So the friend starts talking about going to the GTA and the Aries starts injecting stuff about THEIR experiences, some not related to the GTA therefore personalizing and overtalking the friend.
"Aries - I have only flown over the city to go to NS. Have you been to the comedy club there. I have......and goes on about their experience about that comedy club." This is where the Aries took over, instead of focussing and listening to what the friend was saying about the upcoming trip...
Life skills 101 - to listen and be present with the person and not to make things about ME!
That's nothing particularly Arian, though.
If I had to assign that kind of behavior astrologically, I would say heavy water was more responsible. IP: Logged |
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