posted November 27, 2013 07:10 PM            

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Originally posted by I'm so cappy:
Are you suggesting that not having a boyfriend means not living???

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If you feel like it's not living... then yes.

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Your Saturn return won't be awful unless you meet me

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posted November 27, 2013 07:20 PM            

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If you feel like it's not living... then yes.

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Come one, you should know my opinion already

posted November 27, 2013 08:05 PM            

muddy, thanks for posting that weird info lol.

posted November 27, 2013 08:20 PM            

Anyhoo, my Saturn return did indeed suck. Really badly. My life was a mess though, so...if you have your sh*t together, it might not be so bad.

My Saturn is in my 11th, and square Pluto (and, as you may know, at the apex of my Yod).

I was in a really dysfunctional relationship when it came around, and that relationship ended quite abruptly and unexpectedly (at least from my perspective). Yet it dragged on, but I won't get into that stupid scenario.

At the end of it I had lost my job and got back together with the jerk I was with, but ended up starting a new career that I LOVED with every fiber of my being when it was all said and done.

A few years later, Pluto squared my Venus and I ditched the jerk.
During that time (Saturn in 11th) I was really cut off from my old friends, and completely severed a lot of ties but made new ones.

My thoughts are that if it's in your 5th, you may start to reexamine your own childhood and attitudes towards relationships based on that. I don't know that I would automatically assume that a new relationship would develop at that time, but maybe when the return is over?
I mean, it could, who knows...but when I think of the 5th I often think of our own childhoods and how we see them. Also, creativity. You may find new outlets for that, who knows?

posted November 27, 2013 08:36 PM            

BUT. I didn't give up or give in, and I kept trudging through the loneliness and really hard financial stuff, and I got to where I needed to be.

posted November 27, 2013 08:38 PM            

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Originally posted by DialecticLady:
I'm going through more or less the same situations you've passed in your SR Violet. It's a relief to know that in the end everything ends well. Thanks for sharing!

*Cappy sorry for invading your thread

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Oh, good (not that you're going through it, but that I was able to offer up something not horribly depressing).

posted November 27, 2013 08:43 PM            

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Originally posted by Violets:
Oh, good (not that you're going through it, but that I was able to offer up something not horribly depressing).

I am so much happier due to the changes that occurred during my Saturn return, as hard as they were at the time.

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posted November 27, 2013 08:45 PM            

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Originally posted by DialecticLady:
Violets, I'm kind of used with saturn energy because it hit all my angular houses and luminaries someway and it's strong (10th house) BUT I never could imagine that despite all this placements I have, my SR would be sooo hard.

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posted November 27, 2013 08:52 PM            

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Originally posted by Violets:
I'm sorry that you're having to go through that right now. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other, and there should be a light at the end of the tunnel.
My two cents.

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posted November 27, 2013 08:53 PM            

Violets, thanks for sharing. I've had enough of analyzing my childhood and any other stuff related to my family so I hope you're wrong about this part Creativity? I'm planning to get the party started much earlier

posted November 27, 2013 09:14 PM            

Anyway, that caused me to leave Alaska in early November and go back home to Dallas. I met my now ex husband 5 months later, got engaged almost 2 years later, and was pregnant 2 months after the engagement. Divorce came 5 years later.

Why the hell did that Saturn Return seem like Pluto & Uranus had a hand in all that?

Anyway, my point is, pay attention to the grown up stuff. Take a very brutally honest assessment of your life.

posted November 27, 2013 11:26 PM            

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posted November 28, 2013 12:30 AM            

I could go into detail about the absurdities in my life during that time, but for now I'll just spare everyone.

Cappy, I remember some of your earlier posts about your creative contemplations. Maybe you'll just experience a lot of added responsibilities in that area that will help open new doors when the transit is over?

I wish you all grace and strength for those times.
(And, if you don't mind, send some of the same to me, haha. I'll have Saturn coming around to transit over my NN and Neptune, activating my T-square with Sun/Moon in a year or so, so...yikes.)

Anyhoo, don't mean to get sidetracked (but I will anyway, because I'm Neptunian like that).

posted November 28, 2013 10:28 AM            

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Come one, you should know my opinion already

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posted November 28, 2013 11:10 AM            

Violets, thank you. I do count on being super creative during that time

posted November 28, 2013 11:30 AM            

But you're human just like most people on here (lol) so it's pretty fair to assume that a part of you does want a relationship - or more precisely, someone who'd care about you and love you just the way you are, and vice versa.

posted November 28, 2013 12:35 PM            

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Originally posted by Doux Rêve:
My Saturn return scares the lights outta me.
I can just tell it's gonna be effin' awful, lmao.

I can't even handle it sitting on my Sun... so I can only imagine what it's gonna be like when it will cross my natal position and trigger all the squares + opp.

Don't be so optimistic and do things now! Don't wait for the big bad wolf to make its return to start living... (I totally need to apply this advice to myself).

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As someone who got prompted to check when their Saturn return was and what happened at the time, I appear to have pulled a major "Fabulous timing, good going, you" move for the precise date. I appear to have posted a "Good gods you people are young! How can you be so young when I'm still 18?! Rly I am. Or was just yesterday, for sure" type of a thing where I also then claimed that people some 10-15 years older than me were surely about the age that people five years older than me were supposed to be, if actually counting the years. "Come on, they're not 45, they're 34 or something at most."

My Saturn is in 12H, top of a generational T-square. Other things discussed that day included allusions to the Shadow side in psychology, in relation to some fandom things. On the whole I wouldn't say Saturn return was bad, but if you look at that entire year for me, I in the spring had to come back from another country where I'd loved staying the past couple of years, only to then feel like I'd go crazy if I didn't get back there by December. Staying there didn't last and I haven't been back there since then, stuck here if you like and only able to go back now (meant to be arranging flights as we speak). Transiting Saturn doesn't trine mine yet, but it'll hit my NN and trine itself a degree after that in the coming months, so that should be interesting if nothing else.

Not an ideal year and I don't know how much of anything it started or didn't start at my end, but I don't consider it having been anywhere near as bad as some people say they can get. I can see how young I was at the time still though, so no, not particularly impressed with a pre-Saturn Return person preaching at people about what it does or doesn't do as if judgemental Saturn impersonified, but never mind that anymore I guess.

Saturn is in Cancer square 4H Uranus, Moon in 8H Pisces, Pluto in 4H Libra near the IC, DC Aquarius. No thoughts to marriage at the time for sure. No thoughts of marriage ever really, but that's more for never meeting anyone I'd fit in with more so. Rather alone than with something not wanted.

posted November 28, 2013 12:46 PM            

What if aliens have feelings, too?

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Keela,

Interesting, thanks for sharing your experience.
I'm nowhere near having my Saturn return (pheww) but I know the clock is ticking.

posted November 28, 2013 01:00 PM            

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Originally posted by I'm so cappy:
A serious relationship. Do you think it's a good time for it? I have a feeling it might happen to me and I don't know what to think about it.

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posted November 28, 2013 01:38 PM            

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Originally posted by Rosalind:
Happens to all. Listen to your gut. But don't waste your energy thinking that a relationship is the only thing that will happen to you. Everything is gonna change for you. You only need to think if you ready to take what Saturn is giving you. You need ro be prepare yourself for everything. If you are now in a bad relationship, you will end it. If you hate your job, you will quit and start a new one, if you want to move outside your country, you will, if you want a relationship you will get it but you will see that relationship in a different way. A more mature one. How? Simple: You wont settle for less and you won't make any compromises. Its gonna be all or nothing. Otherwise you will feel like something is missing.
SR effects last for three years like any other outer planet transit. Best of luck and cheer up. Saturn is a good guy.

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I agree with you. I'm 26 now, somehow I'm feeling more and more "adult". Sure, my SR will start in the end of 2016, but now I'm not afraid anymore. This year for me showed me a lot of things I wouldn't before.

Cappy, as myself a late bloomer, I wish you a very happy SR. As a Saturn child, I guess you will survive better than others (I have a little more difficult, but not.. I'm Pluto's daughter... I NEED to transform.. heheheh)