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Topic: Signs and casual sex.
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RunAroundScreaming
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posted January 19, 2014 06:11 PM
  
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
[QUOTE]Originally posted by RunAroundScreaming:
[b] That's ridiculous. Men have casual sex for validation just like women do. Society doesnt consider men men unless they have had lots of sexual partners. Unfortunately it ruin's most men's ability to have a healthy relationship. One reason among many being that who can trust a sl ut? Which is why women get called neurotic, insecure, and hypersensitive. Other reasons is that they end up demanding sex way too much, often becoming a slave to their desires...and ruining the sensitivity and romance in the relationship, making the woman feel used. It is easy to see a woman as a sexual object because they focus so much on their appearance to attract males. The other thing is that sex often gets in the way of getting closer to someone, if you are focusing on sex as something other than a deeper expression of love and affection that is built over time.
Anyone who says that casual sex does not affect men emotionally is promoting society's encouragement of men to practice self-destructive behaviors. Which is why men's biggest threat in life is heart disease (when their heart says hey buddy you just can't keep treating yourself this way...alcohol..unhealthy eating..being a slob..casual sex...etc) and a woman's biggest threat in life is a man...for physical abuse, emotional abuse, or other...
Saying that it is normal for men to spread their seed is despicable, and is part of what promotes the behaviors that already destroy the family structure, and encourage men to further emotionally damage themselves, as well as to continue seeing women as objects they can use for their gratification and to treat women as less than them in general. Yes casual sex does affect men, I have many male friends who have told me that it does affect them emotionally.
I think most men can have casual sex without getting emotionally involved.[/B][/QUOTE]yes because they are seeing the woman as an object. Who would emotionally get attached to someone they are not seeing as a full human being?
But, like watching porn, you may be having fun in the moment, but after you are done watching that porn video you do feel bad. Same with casual sex...it feels good in the moment...but the long-term effects make you unhappy and ashamed.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xf22ke_pOl8
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1IAhDGYlpqY
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summerlite
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posted January 19, 2014 06:23 PM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
I think most men can have casual sex without getting emotionally involved.
That's such an Aquarius thing to say. IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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posted January 19, 2014 06:54 PM
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Originally posted by RunAroundScreaming:
yes because they are seeing the woman as an object. Who would emotionally get attached to someone they are not seeing as a full human being?
But, like watching porn, you may be having fun in the moment, but after you are done watching that porn video you do feel bad. Same with casual sex...it feels good in the moment...but the long-term effects make you unhappy and ashamed.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xf22ke_pOl8
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1IAhDGYlpqY
That's the way it has to be. And porn doesn't make me feel bad. I enjoy it lol IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways
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posted January 19, 2014 06:58 PM
Just watch out for poison ivy in those gardens your are plowing through to seed. However, You seem to know how to rake through weeds with a hoe. IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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posted January 19, 2014 07:00 PM
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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
In the absence of a committed relationship, there's a physiological and psychological need. If its consensual, is it that terrible? Aquaguy sure knows a lot about prostitution. Sure you're not a pimp, Aquaguy? Lol. How else would you know how the women feel? Or you may be a customer. Since you're broke, it could be the habit. Hahaha. Just kidding. I was the epitome of promiscuity. Not proud of it.
I'm not gonna lie I looked into it and seriously thought about it but haven't done it yet.
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YoursTrulyAlways
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posted January 19, 2014 07:20 PM
Why would want to pay for something of low quality where conceptually the equivalent of much higher quality csn be sourced for free?As it is, I can't stand having sex with frigid passionless women with whom I'm in a relationship. I cannot begin to imagine having sex with someone who behaves like the register cashier at the DMV. Steak house with quality food made by passionate chefs or McDs with food from the microwave made by unenthusiastic employees. Tough choice there. I'm sorry. Most of them are unattractive. Those that are attractive want thousands of dollars. Even if I were single and desperate, I'll date Mary Palm and her five sisters while fantasizing about what to do with that thousand dollars. I'm a man and I'm genetically inclined to be a cheap ass. Thank you. IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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posted January 19, 2014 07:37 PM
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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
Why would want to pay for something of low quality where conceptually the equivalent of much higher quality csn be sourced for free?As it is, I can't stand having sex with frigid passionless women with whom I'm in a relationship. I cannot begin to imagine having sex with someone who behaves like the register cashier at the DMV. Steak house with quality food made by passionate chefs or McDs with food from the microwave made by unenthusiastic employees. Tough choice there.
You assume that the women are low quality. The fact is you can get very attractive women if you are willing to shell out a few hundred. Also you have to consider that sex is rarely truly free. What about the dinner and a movie? The flowers and jewelry you buy her? All that stuff adds up real quick. That isn't even taking into account the most important thing, the time you spend on the whole dating ritual. I'm not bashing that at all, but if a guy just wants to get laid seeing an escort is probably a good option. IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways
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posted January 19, 2014 07:39 PM
A few hundred would buy me a set of tires or a set of rims. Those turn me on a whole lot more than a trashily dressed female. Hahahaha IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways
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posted January 19, 2014 07:46 PM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
I'm not bashing that at all, but if a guy just wants to get laid seeing an escort is probably a good option.
That's the point. That logic works for a guy who is into emotionless and passionless activity. You just want to get laid. I want passion. I want love. I want the nine yards. IP: Logged |
RunAroundScreaming
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posted January 19, 2014 07:56 PM
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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
That's the point. That logic works for a guy who is into emotionless and passionless activity. You just want to get laid. I want passion. I want love. I want the nine yards.
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YoursTrulyAlways
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posted January 19, 2014 07:59 PM
It's in a woman's kiss. Have a woman who truly loves you more than anything else kiss you. The warmth and passion will melt an iceberg. That's where sex becomes beyond magical and enchanting. You'll see fireworks and rainbows in the air while you embrace and kiss. IP: Logged |
StarlightSmileSupreme
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posted January 19, 2014 08:06 PM
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Originally posted by RunAroundScreaming:
yes because they are seeing the woman as an object. Who would emotionally get attached to someone they are not seeing as a full human being?
But, like watching porn, you may be having fun in the moment, but after you are done watching that porn video you do feel bad. Same with casual sex...it feels good in the moment...but the long-term effects make you unhappy and ashamed.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xf22ke_pOl8
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1IAhDGYlpqY
Then it is our duty as women to see the man as an object, too. IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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posted January 19, 2014 08:12 PM
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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
That's the point. That logic works for a guy who is into emotionless and passionless activity. You just want to get laid. I want passion. I want love. I want the nine yards.
I used to be of that mindset but not anymore. IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways
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posted January 19, 2014 08:48 PM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
Also you have to consider that sex is rarely truly free. What about the dinner and a movie? The flowers and jewelry you buy her? All that stuff adds up real quick. That isn't even taking into account the most important thing, the time you spend on the whole dating ritual.
You can't get a woman to love you, truly love you, without you also loving the woman. If you truly love her, resources spent wouldn't be viewed as an expenditure. The payoff isn't getting laid. It's much more wonderful than that.
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aquaguy91
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posted January 19, 2014 09:18 PM
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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
You can't get a woman to love you, truly love you, without you also loving the woman. If you truly love her, resources spent wouldn't be viewed as an expenditure. The payoff isn't getting laid. It's much more wonderful than that.
I used to feel the same way but that guy is long gone. IP: Logged |
StarlightSmileSupreme
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posted January 19, 2014 09:22 PM
When people get used an abused it's hard to keep that altruistic attitude. Some people take advantage of those who are nice and giving. There's the cliche don't cast your pearls before the swine.Find someone you know is going to appreciate affection and shower it on them but don't waste it on ingrates who don't care. IP: Logged |
lalalinda
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posted January 20, 2014 12:33 AM
RunAroundScreaming~~One thing I try to avoid is being ridiculous  If you understand the difference between Venus and Mars you will realize that Women respond to what they hear...and
Men respond to what they see ------------------ "For all those who believe, expect a miracle.”
Linda Goodman 1925-1995 IP: Logged |
theunknown
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posted January 20, 2014 01:18 AM
Wow cap sun highest and cap mars lowest?And damn, virgo mars!!! IP: Logged |
lilting
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posted January 20, 2014 02:04 PM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
I used to be of that mindset but not anymore.
Was your heart broken? 
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lilting
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posted January 20, 2014 02:16 PM
I think I place to much feeling on it I don't have the heart for casual sex lol maybe it's having my moon in Pisces, I'm an Aquarius.IP: Logged |
filleaspirant
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posted January 20, 2014 03:03 PM
I'm a Virgo with Leo Venus and Aries Mars and I can't even kiss or hug someone casually. It has to mean something, has to have a sentiment behind the action before I can initiate or receive physical contact from any person. I sometimes joke that I was born in the wrong century because I'm too romantic about love, sex and relationships.IP: Logged |
charlie
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posted January 20, 2014 03:04 PM
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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
Just watch out for poison ivy in those gardens your are plowing through to seed. However, You seem to know how to rake through weeds with a hoe.
LOL Nice IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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posted January 20, 2014 05:32 PM
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Originally posted by lilting:
Was your heart broken?
No.. It's more like I saw the world for what it really is..love and romance don't exist anymore... IP: Logged |
lilting
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posted January 20, 2014 09:20 PM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
No.. It's more like I saw the world for what it really is..love and romance don't exist anymore...
Why do you say that?
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YoursTrulyAlways
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posted January 20, 2014 09:25 PM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
No.. It's more like I saw the world for what it really is..love and romance don't exist anymore...
That's a real cynical point of view. IP: Logged |
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