posted March 17, 2014 05:03 AM            

i wanted to update y'all again on the new series of happenings with my mystery girl...

after i sent that last text to her, i got no reply and suffered in obsession, annoyance, anxiety for a couple weeks. i literally had to talk it through with my therapist to move past it. so i did. i went back to focusing on my life, my job, my hobbies and projects... and i had pretty much moved past it... until this week.

i see her again three days ago at work. i played it cool, acted neutral and professional; i don't flirt, and i avoid prolonged eye contact. she is still sending me some interesting signals of interest... fixing her hair whenever i'm looking in her direction, laughing at all my dumb jokes (even when i'm in another room talking to someone else), and at one point even saying "I've been listening to your CD."

Even though I'm crazy attracted to this girl, I'm honestly feeling exhausted already just trying to figure out what to do. If she was really interested, I think she should have just responded to my text. I am probably going to continue playing it cool and won't be initiating anything in the interim because I think we're both adults and should act like it...if she wants to hang out, she can just ask. But I can already feel the Pluto in our composite seeping in, and we haven't even hung out 1:1 yet. The mind games, the mixed signals, and more pointedly, the OBSESSION.

posted March 17, 2014 07:34 AM            

Sure, we had a great intense flirt thing and dated for a few months. But then it just fizzled out. He texted me a few times after and now I just get polite replies if I message him. Finally I've stopped.

Not that I'm saying nothing will happen with your girl. Just saying you can have great synastry that may lead to nothing.

Maybe she's a slow burn.

Since you met her at (I think) in a social environment with a bunch of other people, maybe you need to get her back in a social environment with a bunch of other people again. Then get to know each other socially, as friends (hopefully) and take it from there. Maybe she has a girl friend or some think else that is keeping her from wanting to date? Who knows.

Good luck though! I know this Pluto connection one way "obsession thing". (or should I say :eek

posted March 17, 2014 11:22 AM            

And also please post your compatibility for lovers report from Grupovenus.com !!!

I can give u an interp!!! But only after you do those 2 things!

There you will see the description for venus mutually aspecting pluto, hun. (That is, in other words.. a venus-pluto double whammy). The description says it is lifechanging and you will experience the extremes of emotion in love. It'll take you to the depths, of both despair and fulfilment. You will probably experience both in a matter of weeks. But i experienced it Three times and i never ACTUALLY dated the guys.....and i certainly recommend it to anyone..id never felt so strongly for anyone in my life.....
Just crushing on them literally made me not able to sleep, eat, i felt lightheaded at one point when one guy started taking really long to my texts. Two were guys i found online, one was a female friend, and the other one was a guy i actually knew in person, (all the same birthdate) so i can only comment on the one i knew in person. Basically, he was always nervous around me. And would text me a LOT..once a week. We became like best friends right away. He would yell out my name and run to me whenever he would see me..he couldnt contain his excitement lol. He would stand with his group of friends and be turned around looking at me instead. I once ignored him because i was tired of his games and he sat alone apart from his friends looking like he was going to cry all night and trying to talk to me and get my attention . But when hed try to talk to me he looked like he was about to start crying (( looked so sad. I felt terrible after that night. We had tremendous power over each other. He would laugh at my jokes like nobody else ever has, like it caused him clear absolute joy ......He would treat me soo sweetly, hed talk to me as if he raised his voice i might break or something. The physical attraction was off the charts. We would stare at each other from accross the room and stand directly facing each other across the room hesitating on whether to approach each other. One time he hugged me, slid his hands slowly around my waist and just stood there silently and it was soooo consuming! Amazing feeling.
But he kept saying he didnt like me.
He would walk me to my car. Hed always text me to make sure i got home ok and if i didnt answer hed call. On his bday when we were with his friends he Saw i was cold and asked me if i wanted a sweater from his car and he LEFT his own bday to walk to the parking lot to get it. And i was only a little cold. All i did was rub my arm.
There was a race difference..his family was racist, and so was mine. He kept telling me he didnt like me and i didnt believe him.....I still think he liked me just as much. Maybe venus pluto double whammies (we also had a love stellium like you) are so intense that one of the people just gets scared it may be too much. I mean THE OBSESSION. And right after our camping trip was over he was trying to make sure he got my number and my facebook...but he was sooo shy when asking. You could tell i had a clear effect on him and made him visibly shake. Id assume this is why he wanted to stay away. Maybe he felt it had TOO much power over him?

posted March 17, 2014 01:38 PM            

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Originally posted by RunAroundScreaming:
Why dont you post the result from http://reallovecalc.com ?

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"You & ____ are:
88% Compatible
See what the stars have in store for all your relationships at Moonit.com »
Call the PDA Police

Come on, Huggy and Smootchy; we don't want to have to call in the PDA Police again. It's actually kind of cute that you guys can't keep your hands off each other, but do us a favor - break the lip lock and come up for air once in a while, okay? In all honesty, we think it's refreshing to see two people who genuinely dig each other so much and complement each other so well. For instance, your whole game is actually not having game, expressing your interests passively. And this tends to work well since she's pretty assertive. Not only are you physically and emotionally synched, but you have the potential to create a fun, affectionate world for each other. Even though it weirds us out a little, we wouldn't put it past you to make Valentine's Day cards for each other or even design your own personalized wedding bands (at some point)...and speaking of the big "M," if you're just dating, holy matrimony is probably just around the corner. In fact, you've got so much love to go around, kids would be a great idea for you guys; you're natural-born parents. Since you tend to collaborate well together on all fronts, you'd also make terrific partners on a joint project. But if you decide to go the professional route, we'll issue a challenge: we dare you to keep your office make-out free."

posted March 18, 2014 03:20 PM            

Her's Sun in Pisces and Me's Sun in Gemini

Both of you are very open-minded, adaptable and flexible people, who are receptive to many different points of view and ideas. You are both also quite changeable and fluid and sometimes inconsistent. If you are looking for a steadying hand or a rock of Gibraltar, look elsewhere.

Me approaches situations or problems in a more cerebral, rational manner, while Her relies more on intuition and feelings. Me may sometimes try to force Her to directly discuss an issue, which can be futile. Her may not be able to articulate ideas in as convincing a way as Me, but Her tends to draw upon a level of wisdom and sensitivity that is very deep, though difficult to formulate clearly in words. Me is more factual, like a reporter, and Her is more of a poet. You both must remember that there is truth in both ways of understanding the world. Me finds Her ineffable and enigmatic at times. Her find Me's nervous energy and hectic pace rather unnerving.

Her's Moon in Virgo and Me's Moon in Cancer

Both of you have the emotional habits of worry, anxiety, and over-concern about loved ones or life in general. You are both caring and supportive, but you express this in different ways. Me is more emotional, compassionate and tender, and appears more sympathetic than Her, who wants to help but may seem unemotional and critical at the same time. Her's support is often shown by doing something practical, taking care of something concrete and tangible (running errands, doing the shopping, take care of business, etc.) while Me empathizes with others' feelings and personal experiences far more easily.

posted March 18, 2014 03:21 PM            

It is difficult for you to resist one another. You are charmed by one another and see much in each other that is beautiful, desirable, and attractive. Yours is a warm, affectionate relationship. Quite simply, you make one another happy!

Sun Mutually Aspects Uranus

Excitement, upsets, and unpredictability are major themes in your relationship. If either of you is looking for a stable, secure, predictable, conservative relationship, then you will be very disappointed. Be prepared for an unusual relationship that does not fit any of your stereotypes. You need to also give each other a lot of freedom and independence; if you try to 'own' each other, you will both become extremely uncomfortable, eventually causing the relationship to explode apart. You spur each other to be more creative, inventive, and original. You inspire each other to be less inhibited, to experiment more, and explore new possibilities. This is a relationship that will never be boring! The constant excitement and changes may leave one, or both, of you feeling a bit frazzled and disoriented.

Her's Mercury conjunct Me's Jupiter orb 0° 4'

Your conversations frequently turn to philosophical, religious, or political areas. Your discussions often move more towards the forest than the trees. You help each other get a broader perspective of your situation and you are likely to find yourselves traveling, exploring, and, in many ways, broadening your horizons. Me believes in and encourages Her's ideas, plans, and intellect.

Her's Mars opposition Me's Moon orb 2° 47'

This is a 'hot' relationship. Sexual and physical attraction is strong, tending to lead to hot pursuit of each other. Subtlety is lacking and one, or both, of you may feel your approach to sexuality is too aggressive or insensitive. You also enjoy competing with each other and working hard together. Competitive sports, games, and outdoor activities are good outlets. You must strive to avoid conflict because the aggressive quality of your relationship can easily flare into anger and hostility.

Her's Mars opposition Me's Mars orb 0° 37'

You enjoy challenging each other and competing against each other. You could easily become rivals or foes, as you tend to oppose one another and to spark one another's fighting instincts. There is an aggressive quality between you which can give your interactions an energetic and lively, but rather combative tone.

Her's Saturn opposition Me's Moon orb 2° 51'

Although you both strive to be responsible, respectful, and dedicated to each other, there is a strong tendency for this relationship to focus TOO MUCH on responsibilities and commitments. Me is likely to feel unjustly criticized, frustrated by Her's moral and ethical attitudes, and eventually resent the limitations and responsibilities imposed by this relationship. Emotional distance, coolness, indifference to feelings, and a sense of loneliness or oppression can develop between you. To make this relationship work, you both must avoid the tendency to let your sense of responsibility and concern for the other person cause you to try to control your partner's life.

Her's Uranus opposition Me's Sun orb 2° 53'

This relationship changes course suddenly and unexpectedly. There is a great deal of unpredictability to the relationship. At best, your relationship is exciting and unconventional, and at worst it leaves Me frustrated by Her's unwillingness to be more committed and devoted to the relationship. The unpredictable nature of the relationship and the lack of constancy and security may cause either, or both, of you to feel very uncomfortable.

Her's Neptune opposition Me's Mercury orb 1° 14'

You are inclined to conversations on imaginative areas like art, theater, music, psychology, and religion. Discussions of very practical and mundane affairs (for example, your annual tax forms) are inclined to be fraught with misunderstandings so strive to be very careful to be clear and precise when discussing important details.

Her's Pluto opposition Me's Venus orb 0° 22'

Sexual attraction to each other, at times, is extremely intense. These sexual feelings tend to be irresistible or obsessive, and difficult to control or even comprehend. Me, especially, feels magnetically attracted or mesmerized by Her. Powerful subconscious emotional drives come into play, and you may become exceedingly attached to one another, as well as very jealous and manipulative at times.

Her's Sun trine Me's Mercury orb 2° 26'

The mental rapport that you two share is a big reason why you enjoy each other's company and are good friends. Communication is open and harmonious. You work together very well on practical affairs, daily chores, problem-solving, and business activities.

Her's Sun sextile Me's Venus orb 1° 21'

Yours is a loving friendship, with much mutual appreciation, affection, and respect. This may grow into a very warm, affectionate love relationship as well.

Her's Sun square Me's Uranus orb 2° 1'

Your relationship is exciting, unpredictable, and stimulating. However, it tends to be explosive too, and there is the strong possibility that you will come together suddenly and unexpectedly, and will break up just as suddenly. If either of you is looking for a very stable, quiet, traditional, uneventful marriage with security, commitment, dependability, and predictability, then this is not the relationship for you! Together you will explore new possibilities and interests and break away from traditional, long-held beliefs and assumptions. Your sexual life, like other aspects of your lives, is exciting but not predictable and likely to vary from ecstatic to unsatisfying. You must be willing to be flexible and adaptable in all areas of life. Be wary, also, of letting your love for freedom and independence become a euphemism for being neglectful and inconsiderate of each other.

Her's Moon square Me's Uranus orb 0° 12'

Although there is a great deal of fascination, curiosity, and attraction between you, there is also a lack of stability and peace. You react to each other very impulsively. Your feelings for each other blow hot and cold. It may seem like you are either making love or arguing with each other, going from one extreme to another. This relationship could easily turn into a love/hate relationship, where you simultaneously feel irresistibly drawn to each other, but you also irritate each other and make each other feel very uncomfortable. To make this relationship work, you both must be very flexible, tolerant of shortcomings in each other, adaptable to the constant changes and upsets, and enjoy excitement, novelty, and surprises. In this relationship there is never a dull moment!

Her's Mercury sextile Me's Uranus orb 1° 5'

You spark each other's wit and imagination, and you probably enjoy joking with each other. You bring out creative, inventive ideas in each other, and you develop original and creative ideas together.

Her's Venus sextile Me's Sun orb 0° 38'

Yours is a loving friendship, with much mutual appreciation, affection, and respect. This may grow into a very warm, affectionate love relationship as well.

Her's Jupiter sextile Me's Sun orb 1° 17'

Your relationship has an upbeat, friendly positive quality that makes it fun to be with each other. You help each other laugh and take life less seriously. It is not unusual for the two of you to have a great deal of fun playing games or even while engaging in daily activities such as shopping, etc. You allow each other considerable freedom; you respect each other's independence, and are more interested in enjoying a good time together rather than dominating or smothering each other. This astrological influence is a positive one that helps enormously when the more stressful and difficult influences described elsewhere in this report make themselves felt.

Her's Neptune trine Me's Venus orb 2° 19'

You evoke in each other a greater sensitivity to music, art, and poetry, as well as feelings of compassion and sympathy. You find each other fascinating and interesting and you love exploring new dimensions of feeling and sensitivity through music, art, poetry, or religion. There is also a dreamy, romantic quality to the love that you have for each other.

Her's Pluto trine Me's Mercury orb 1° 27'

Your conversations are deep and probing. You understand each other at a very deep level, and you may find yourselves revealing things about yourself that you have not mentioned to anyone else. You also make a good research team or investigators.

Her's Sun square Me's Ascendant orb 1° 15'

Although the two of you are strongly attracted to each other, you often 'rub each other the wrong way'. Your personal tastes and interests are frequently different. If you try to convince each other that your life style, tastes, and interests are better than your partner's, then you will frustrate each other and fail to appreciate and really understand each other. You must accept the fact that the two of you are different people with your own unique qualities. Don't try to force each other to adopt your own tastes, hobbies, and interests, as it will only make matters worse.

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