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Topic: Aspects that would lead to constant disappointment in relationships
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ariestaurus
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posted June 19, 2014 11:22 AM
  
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Originally posted by bansheequeen:
I totally know what you mean when you say you'd rather sabotage it. It's like id rather be the one doing the hurting than be hurt myself. It's so messed up but I feel like I can't truly trust anyone so before I get hurt I bail. I have a boyfriend but we've had so many issues becaus of this lol. Every time I feel he might get away from me I try to just walk out before he has a chance to do anything. Which.. Is probably making things worse for the long run. Whyyyy am I so nuts.I think we should be able to give someone our all instead of having to hold back in fear of being hurt. But all my past experiences say that I will end up getting hurt no matter what. I feel like maybe something's wrong with me too. Like why can't I have someone be loyal to me and love me as much as I need to be loved. I don't know what's so wrong with me that I can never get that. It seems like all the other girls have that from men but I never do. Maybe it's all in my head! I think maybe I just can't get enough love. I don't even know anymore lol. Looks like we're all struggling with the same kind of thing. Just wanna say I feel you x.x
You sound so much like my Scorp bf- what are your other placements? I saw you have Cancer moon, venus in cap, and? Do you have any advice for someone who wants to win you over?
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Doux Rêve
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posted June 19, 2014 11:31 AM
How is he even your boyfriend?What's your relationship like? Is it really unstable? IP: Logged |
Nicole401
Knowflake Posts: 422
From: CA, USA
Registered: Jun 2011
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posted June 19, 2014 01:25 PM
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Originally posted by Doux Rêve:
^ I'm not sure...What's the condition of your Mars? And Sun?
Those stand for men in women's charts, so. Mine are both afflicted by Saturn (from the 11H, obviously) which could explain the shyness/insecurity around males. It did get better with time, in good ol' Saturn fashion!
I think they may be affected by saturn too, because they're (widely) conjunct in the same house (11th), in the same sign Aries). Saturn is on the Aries point, mars is at 11 degrees and sun is at 19 degrees. It did start to get better around the time saturn hit Scorpio, for some reason. And now I'd say it's much much better, though I'm still a little uncomfortable around certain males or make groups. IP: Logged |
Doux Rêve
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posted June 19, 2014 01:56 PM
Ah yes, that makes some sense.Same here. I'm not completely over its influence, haha. IP: Logged |
bansheequeen
Knowflake Posts: 221
From: Beachville, USA
Registered: Jan 2012
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posted June 21, 2014 05:34 AM
Ariestaurus - I'm actually an Aquarius sun. Taurus Mars. It's in the 8th house which could be making me like this. Well. If I'm doing that push pull thing I've been won over pretty much lol. As in he's got my heart. Though when something's amiss I'll have the urge to take off to protect myself. I don't really know what to tell you if you're dealing with someone acting like me. Except be patient and know that even if he pulls away or says he doesn't want to be with you, he wants you bad and he's dying inside. In some way, even if it's a way unknown to you, you've hurt him or made him feel insecure in the relationship.Doux reve: me? Well he's a super accepting guy. He's very emotional too and insecure so I think we like burn eachother out. And he understands that I don't actually want to leave I'm just throwing a fit lol. And I can't control my tears so they're always a dead giveaway I can't be without him lol. It's pretty unstable. Even though we make long term plans together it's like the littlest things upset the balance. It's a weird bond. I don't understand it. Honestly I think sometimes we just stir up drama so we can make up and really tap into that raw side of each other and feel secure about the others feelings. It's unhealthy I know but it's also weird how he's so like me in this way. IP: Logged |
maira
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posted June 21, 2014 10:52 AM
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Originally posted by Nicole401:
THIS was very much well needed. I know it wasn't directed at me, but I've been going through something quite similar for a while now, and that's possibly the best advice I've read or been given (though it wasn't for me LOL). Thank you!!
Oh, wow, I am really glad that it helped! You're welcome!!  IP: Logged |
maira
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posted June 21, 2014 10:58 AM
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Originally posted by Yanmorg:
I am definitely going to check these out!I'm sure they'll be very entertaining and eye-opening at the same time. How did they help you?
It shifted my perspective. I used to be really insecure, constantly wondering "does he love me", "did I do well, is he having a good time" and it changed to "am I having a good time, do I love him" and to how I perceived the relationship in general, how did the person make me feel as opposed to how did I make him feel. It was a real eye opener (the b*tch one lol). IP: Logged |
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