posted June 22, 2014 03:51 PM            

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Originally posted by ariestaurus:
My Progressed Venus square Saturn aspect just went out of orb. It was hard, but there is a light at the end of the tunnel! Hang in there.

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Oh, thanks, sweetheart.

posted June 22, 2014 03:57 PM            

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Originally posted by I'm so cappy:
Lol, do I look like a Pisces?

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posted June 22, 2014 03:59 PM            

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Originally posted by ariestaurus:
My Progressed Venus square Saturn aspect just went out of orb. It was hard, but there is a light at the end of the tunnel! Hang in there.

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I have progressed venus square pluto, progressed venus in pisces trine progressed scorpio asc. Progressed pluto in 1st house. Come at me, psycopaths.

posted June 22, 2014 04:01 PM            

Wait a few years and you'll start feeling that feeling or aloneness and separation.

Not trying to be mean, just realistic.

posted June 22, 2014 04:06 PM            

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Originally posted by Doux Rêve:
Let's talk in a few years...
Right now you're young...

Wait a few years and you'll start feeling that feeling or aloneness and separation.

Not trying to be mean, just realistic.

Unless you're an alien, of course. Aliens don't always have feelings.

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posted June 22, 2014 04:36 PM            

..but why wait? That person is out there trying to figure out where you are. You don't want everyone, you want that one. The trick is figuring out how to find that person.

posted June 22, 2014 06:48 PM            

Anyway sorry for the tangent. Basically just use this as a good time to look deep within yourself and see what will make YOU happy. Being single is a great time to pick up a new hobby you've been interested in or getting to all of those books you've been wanting to read. It's like you said you don't have to worry about fulfilling someone else's selfish desires while having to ignore your own.

posted June 22, 2014 06:56 PM            

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Originally posted by Gemini Blues:
Just wait til you turn 50 and find someone that makes you feel 20...

..but why wait? That person is out there trying to figure out where you are. You don't want everyone, you want that one. The trick is figuring out how to find that person.

Never give up. Never give in.

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Yeah, its not like i have difficulty in finding someone to partner with (Venus trine jupiter) i have the sea at my feet and i can catch a "fish" whenever i like, its just that i dont want to settle for less in life. I could just settle down and do the same crap over and over again with someone, but im an aqua venus with alot of uranus in my chart. Not sure if i beleive in "the one" but i beleive soulmates do exist. I want something different.

Also my vertex is in the 8th house.
Vertex in the 8th house: In many cases the sentimental life of these people seems rather temultuous and torturous without any routine or domestic warmth. These people have a rather idiosynchratic approach to these joys because their ideal relationship is definitely unusual and non alligned with what is traditionally considered necessary and satisfying for a couple. These people are attracted by “different” partners something unusual, intriguing that would allow a relationship full of surprises and drama. It is the transit of Chiron to act as a stimulator. To bring into the lives of these people the partner able to satisfy their intelligence and curiosity.

posted June 23, 2014 12:13 AM            

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Has anyone given up on love?

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posted June 23, 2014 03:38 AM            

Have you ever been rejected from a Dinner party? Or a trip out somewhere with two other couples. What about going to the Cinema with your two best friends and their partners?

Society has impressed upon people the idea that being single is bad. The vast majority of adverts depict either a family or couple.

It is perfectly okay to be single, and it is perfectly okay to not find love. Those people who say, "don't worry it will happen!" Are wrong, for some people it never happens. Sometimes, people will go through life and never find someone to settle down with. That doesn't mean they won't have relationships here and there, or a rich and fulfilling life, but there is so much more than finding a life partner.

Most of my friends who are with long term partners, I'll be generous and say 2 years, although really I think anything over a year is heading towards long term, don't do too much with their free time. Maybe that's their interests and character, but people who are coupled up, in my opinion tend to spend less time doing things for themselves.

The vast majority are unable to make decisions by themselves, which I can understand, your decisions affect two people now, so it is at least polite to check.

What I really don't understand though, is the phone calls. You must call your significant other at least once per day? Even though you've only gone away for a 3 day weekend? I mean what is going to happen in those 3 days that you won't be able catch up on when you get back? Maybe it's based on insecurity;

"Why are you calling them?"
"Cause otherwise they'll be upset."
"Why will they be upset?"
"Because I didn't call."
"Why would not calling upset them?"
"..." (The look)

Of course it's equally probable that people would consider me a cold hearted emotionless vacuum for not understanding.

When it comes down to it, to me, there seems to be an inherent divide between mariagedom and singledom. Where each group has some sort of distrust and fear of each other. Despite the fact that at some point all married people were single people, and that at least half of all single people will currently get married. I think the marriage rate is around 49%-52% or so. Country dependent of course.

posted June 23, 2014 07:14 AM            

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Originally posted by Swift Freeze:
Don't let other people tell you that you should be in a relationship. There are a lot of scenarios and examples, where people demonise and make being single into a negative thing.

Have you ever been rejected from a Dinner party? Or a trip out somewhere with two other couples. What about going to the Cinema with your two best friends and their partners?

Society has impressed upon people the idea that being single is bad. The vast majority of adverts depict either a family or couple.

It is perfectly okay to be single, and it is perfectly okay to not find love. Those people who say, "don't worry it will happen!" Are wrong, for some people it never happens. Sometimes, people will go through life and never find someone to settle down with. That doesn't mean they won't have relationships here and there, or a rich and fulfilling life, but there is so much more than finding a life partner.

Most of my friends who are with long term partners, I'll be generous and say 2 years, although really I think anything over a year is heading towards long term, don't do too much with their free time. Maybe that's their interests and character, but people who are coupled up, in my opinion tend to spend less time doing things for themselves.

The vast majority are unable to make decisions by themselves, which I can understand, your decisions affect two people now, so it is at least polite to check.

What I really don't understand though, is the phone calls. You must call your significant other at least once per day? Even though you've only gone away for a 3 day weekend? I mean what is going to happen in those 3 days that you won't be able catch up on when you get back? Maybe it's based on insecurity;

"Why are you calling them?"
"Cause otherwise they'll be upset."
"Why will they be upset?"
"Because I didn't call."
"Why would not calling upset them?"
"..." (The look)

Of course it's equally probable that people would consider me a cold hearted emotionless vacuum for not understanding.

When it comes down to it, to me, there seems to be an inherent divide between mariagedom and singledom. Where each group has some sort of distrust and fear of each other. Despite the fact that at some point all married people were single people, and that at least half of all single people will currently get married. I think the marriage rate is around 49%-52% or so. Country dependent of course.

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Good post. Many people go into relationships for the sake of it, because it gives them this idealistic image of being worthy and loveable, but really it's just to fulfill their insecurities because they are scared of being alone, not because they truly love the person. There are some relationships that are not superficial though. But I think relationships, people need to look at them more logically rather than emotionally. I think the emotional "please love me, am I worthy enough for you?" attitude in society sucks, the media encourages out insecurities of this. If people loved themselves I think everyone would be happy and relationships would be a choice not a nessecity to life. You should only give to others when you love yourself. I hate society's views on love, because it isn't actually about love, it's about peoples own insecurities and denying themselves of self love, we are taught we need approval by others, but that is impossible to please everyone, and trying to gain approval from people you dont know is only going to cause pain. Once you love yourself, you feel the love of everything else, and things just feel natural.

posted June 23, 2014 08:00 AM            

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I equate romantic love with chemical brain reactions.

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I think feelings never last...

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posted June 23, 2014 12:47 PM            

Love is Creation, it is the Life force.

And when you feel love towards yourself... You want to share it with someone else, you want to share it with everyone and everything. But a special other becomes a strong desire, a fire burning in your soul.

That's because love is closely tied to faith and hope. When you work on love you automatically become more faithful and more hopeful; doubt and fear are removed, and really, isn't it obvious that it is fear that drives away love?

The people who say that when you love yourself, you don't want nor need love from others... are wrong... because love isn't about GETTING, it's about giving... So when your cup is full, you can't help but want to share it. It overflows, and it feels good.

Now call me an idealist or naive, I don't care.

*ducks tomatoes and rocks*

posted June 23, 2014 01:11 PM            

I have Saturn squares, and Taurus moon (interesting we both have one of our love planets in a "fixed" sign. Maybe that has something to do with it?)

posted June 23, 2014 01:20 PM            

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Originally posted by Doux Rêve:
Love... is the meaning of life.
Without it, you are nothing. I am nothing. There is no sense without Love.

Love is Creation, it is the Life force.

And when you feel love towards yourself... You want to share it with someone else, you want to share it with everyone and everything. But a special other becomes a strong desire, a fire burning in your soul.

That's because love is closely tied to faith and hope. When you work on love you automatically become more faithful and more hopeful; doubt and fear are removed, and really, isn't it obvious that it is fear that drives away love?

The people who say that when you love yourself, you don't want nor need love from others... are wrong... because love isn't about GETTING, it's about giving... So when your cup is full, you can't help but want to share it. It overflows, and it feels good.

Now call me an idealist or naive, I don't care.

*ducks tomatoes and rocks*

On this note: Don't click if you're jaded

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posted June 23, 2014 01:34 PM            

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Originally posted by I'm so cappy:
Hmmm. Currently there's no human I love in any way and it may never change. I won this thread

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