posted May 30, 2016 03:30 AM            

Though I must admit that in general I like assertive and ambitious guys, but they don't have to be bossy or controlling -that puts me off.

posted May 30, 2016 08:15 AM            

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Originally posted by Solar_Leo_Queen:
What aspects or placements would make for a woman to abhor passiveness and unassertiveness in a man? I believe Mars has something to do with it, but what else?
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Mars In Cancer Male here.
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Saturn Scorpio sextile Capricorn Ascendant.

Above all else I think its an age thing for the males.

I use to be very passive thanks to my Mars In Cancer.

But, I have other aspects to compensate and
as I've gotten older my more assertive placements have come out.

Its more about the guy if he has other placements that help establish himself.

If he lacks that then he will always be unassertive, whats always been my hindrance is my Venus in Cancer Mom that's always wanting to "Mommy me" instead of letting me do things.

But, I'm a year from being an Engineer and I've embraced the competitive and aggressive spirit of one without shortcoming to the god mentality of one. Doctors and Engineers have god-like mentalities and want to make themselves stand out.

Guys are like wine, it depends if they "age and ferment well" if they do they can become a fine wine.

Otherwise if they don't have other placements to establish themselves they will never "ferment", lol.

@ Solar_Leo_Queen

Lol, I actually had a Leo I worked with unsure of my intention.

I was just trying to be nice and friendly, since she had other things going on in her life, She assumed I wanted more.

She's a Cancer Venus just like my mom, so I assumed she wanted someone to sweep her of her feat and take care of her.

I know Leos can't stand fickleness. I'm sure I was direct, she didn't want to accept I wasn't interested.