posted September 13, 2014 05:07 AM            

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Originally posted by Faith:
What, without any words of affirmation? No "Good job Faith, I knew you'd get the swing of this, you smart cookie you." ???

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posted September 13, 2014 05:17 AM            

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Originally posted by PixieJane:
10 Quality Time
8 Words of Affirmation
7 Physical Touch
3 Receiving Gifts
2 Acts of Service

Yeah, I guess "quality time" is required, though not constant, that is quality over quantity (in fact, trying to be my shadow is a good way to drive me away). That said, I prefer to give acts of service and sometimes have to be careful not to spoil rotten (and possibly why I'm so adaptable in how I relate to someone). And I really do treasure gifts when they have deep meaning (and these are the types I prefer to give to someone close), including hand made, but it's not "required."

3H Libra (Scorpio cusp) venus in stellium, 5H Sag Mars in stellium.

I should throw in that a lot of this stuff is true of friends, family I'm close to, even pets.

Heh, I just remembered my comment on a YT vid on "how to know if he's into you" by a love guru many gush praises on (for women to get the man of their dreams) where he essentially said, "If he notices you exist and doesn't flee in disgust then he's into you." I joked that I was worried because now I knew my cousin was into me. By all the thumbs up I got many appreciated my humor that time.

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Too much of a good thing is never good. I think the idea here was so that your partner does these acts when not "programmed" to.

Taking a long walk around the neighborhood after work eating ice cream and talking about your day. That's quality time.

Asking you every 3 hours(or in a predictable sequence) how your day has been is not "quality time", it's a ritual and it is ANNOYING.

posted September 13, 2014 05:37 AM            

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Originally posted by sweet-scorpion:
Anyone else with Mars in Scorpio and/or Mars-Pluto struggle with not being too into the sexual side of a relationship so the other facets of the relationship don't suffer? It's a real struggle for me, always has been, and I'm not sure as to how I can get out of this cycle.

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I think the emphasis here is wanting that "intimacy".And one who specifically has Sun/Moon/Venus/Mars in water can grow very addicted to that.

To "quell" this, I often want unrestricted "access" to my BF. So I am free to kiss, touch and hug them spontaneously.Without it leading to sex.

I think water positions have a higher than average need for complete intimacy. It makes them feel very loved when someone connects with them

My BF and I both have water Moons and the other day I was taking a nap and he was watching TV.

Next thing he walks into the room and rests alongside me. I asked him "what's wrong?" and he replied "nothing". After-which we just looked at each other in complete silence- stroking each others necks, eyes and lips.

posted September 13, 2014 05:53 AM            

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Originally posted by margym0o:
Off topic but please share your wisdom on how to please a Libra Mars with me errrr us because it would be good to know

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My take,

1.Be decisive. This is #1 for a reason (the others are in no particular order). Save yourself the many headaches that will follow if you're not. Confidence, confidence.

2.Nail them to something concrete if you think they might flake out on you. Your hunches are probably correct.

3.Indulge their need to put romance on a pedestal from time to time. If you don't they'll end up thinking you're some kind of wayward cretin; it'll be a bad mark against you for eternity. This includes a lot of chit-chat about pretty insignificant stuff in the scheme of things. They secretly imagine themselves speaking with you on some prime-time relationship talk-show, where all the intricacies of relating are discussed. Good time to practice patience.

4.You can also avoid a headache by refusing to go shopping with them, but they may want to bring you along anyways. They like to be in 2's.

5.Which brings me to the fact that they think it's quite romantic to involve you in their indecisive chaos. Indulge sporadically. See point 1. Don't let them get too comfortable with you being too comfortable with that idea. Keeping em on a tight leash in this regard is where they belong.

6.They're flirts but it's not always to achieve some romantic/sexual end. A lot of the time they just like the chit chat and fun convos they can have with lots of different people. So it's a good idea to not duct tape their mouths until after they're dead. And they're not the ideal partner for someone who really struggles with jealousy. The upside is that you can be friendly (read: bordering on flirty) with the preferential sex too, unless you have a backwards idiot on your hands...just don't spend too much time on any one person. Keep it *light.*

7.Know how to work a room. It makes em feel like that room, regardless of where it's located, is a nightclub, and that they are on the dance floor showing off their moves. I mean their partner. You should see the excitement that erupts on their faces. It just helps them get into the swing of things, and gives them more chances to meet new and interesting people. And if you're smart you'd make sure that you 2 are more often than not attached at the hip. Keep that leash at the ready and employ as needed. You're not dealing with Sagittarians here, these are people who, more often than not, actually want to be attached. They just sometimes get lost along the way and slip into someone else's arms.

posted September 13, 2014 05:21 PM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
Where is your Moon?

Physical touch is a big thing for Taurus Mars.

I would have guessed "Acts of Service"/Words of affirmation for the Cap Venus.Hmmm

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Cancer moon.

Yeah I think in a relationship my Taurus Mars overtakes a lot of things haha. While quality time makes me feel more loved than physical touch does, I still need a lot of it.

posted September 13, 2014 10:40 PM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
I think the idea is to find one/two that are ESSENTIAL. Without which, you would feel the need to terminate the relationship.

Like if someone said "you are so special to me" and you had lots of physical touching. Would that be enough if we were to cancel out Acts of service and One on one time spent together?

Say the person didn't do you any favours nor spent time alone with you but gave you all the others. Would you still be happy?

It makes sense that you and your lover scored high on "acts of service".

I personally think earth Venus/Mars people are practical in showing their affections and will bring "evidence" so that you can see that they care.

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I like a mix of everything, but if I absolutely have to choose, I think I might be able to go without some aspect(s) if the other person gives me plenty of the other(s). I'd let go of "Gifts" more easily since I don't value it as much as the other 4.

posted September 14, 2014 05:32 AM            

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Originally posted by bansheequeen:
Cancer moon.

Yeah I think in a relationship my Taurus Mars overtakes a lot of things haha. While quality time makes me feel more loved than physical touch does, I still need a lot of it.

I think words of affirmation might be third on the list for me. Though acts of service of kinda blah for me. Weirdly, I do acts of service because I love my boyfriend but I don't really expect it back, and I don't really feel more loved because of it. So it's kind of a one way street for me on that one.

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Cancer Moon here too. I am the same, the same,the same.

I do random acts of service-without expecting them to be reciprocated(sometimes unconsciously).

My Scorpio Venus loves "quality time" spent together though.It breathes on that.

After retaking the test and seeing the way that I interact with my BF, it seems that "words of affirmation" is also high up there.

I tend to say nice things casually(and also took those for granted) with text messages and even some random "whisper into my ear" activity.

posted September 14, 2014 05:39 AM            

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Originally posted by 12muddy:
I like a mix of everything, but if I absolutely have to choose, I think I might be able to go without some aspect(s) if the other person gives me plenty of the other(s). I'd let go of "Gifts" more easily since I don't value it as much as the other 4.

However I agree that when I show my affection I do tend to prove it by bringing "evidence". My s.o is sort of the same.

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Just to expand on the arth signs and "evidence" thing.

My mother and I had a disagreement the other day on how our father was never there for us. To which she argued and listed many things that he had "done" for us.But I couldn't recall.

When I dropped the phone,I realized that both my Mom and Dad have earth Moons. But my mother had a water Mars to understand the "emotional" aspect of her children.

My Dad had Moon/Venus in Cap/Virgo respectively and a Cancer Sun disguised very well by the the Cap Moon to a point that we thought that he had no feelings whatsoever.

He thought he was showing us he cared through giving us gifts and "doing" things for us.

We-on the other hand- were always waiting for him to speak our love language. Which he never knew.

posted September 14, 2014 06:09 AM            

Throughout my childhood they showed that they cared by providing financial stability. I craved guidance, communication, encouraging words (I have a 3rd house fire moon). Can't blame them though, that kind of parenting style wasn't the norm (and still isn't).

posted September 16, 2014 01:48 AM            

-Acts of Service
-Quality Time

ACTIONS are important to me - don't just talk, please back it up. SHOW me that you appreciate me. That's what I need! And don't take the love I give to you for granted!

posted September 16, 2014 02:10 AM            

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Originally posted by la_mer:
there is a test here: http://www.5lovelanguages.com/profile/

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I just took the test! Everything I said is confirmed.

8 Acts of Service
7 Quality Time
6 Physical Touch
6 Words of Affirmation
3 Receiving Gifts

posted September 20, 2014 04:47 PM            

9 acts of service
9 physical touch
7 words of affirmation
5 quality time
0 receiving gifts

Sag Moon, Virgo Venus and Gemini Mars.
Earth wins, all the way