posted February 04, 2015 03:18 PM            

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Originally posted by Gemini30:
Why would a Saturn influence BDSM or Taboo? Saturn just sucks the life force out of everything lol.

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Actually, I think Mars-Saturn, particularly the hard aspects, is more accurate.

posted February 04, 2015 03:24 PM            

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Originally posted by Koniucha:
I will say Mars in Virgo can be quite freaky.

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In Virgo? Is Uranus or Pluto aspecting Mars? That sounds more like it. Any planets in the 8H?

posted February 04, 2015 03:30 PM            

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Originally posted by lilting:

Oh I didn't know spanking wasn't traditionally BDSM. I'll admit I like bondage and being submissive although I think being submissive has to do with mars falling in the 12th and the placement of my moon.

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posted February 04, 2015 05:12 PM            

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Originally posted by Koniucha:
My Mars is in Sag and in the 12th house. I am submissive.

I would love to know how to release stress and deal with the anger thing. I will hold it in and then explode

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posted February 04, 2015 05:17 PM            

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Originally posted by lilting:
12th house leo mars with venus trine mars & pluto square mars.

And if it means anything it makes minor aspects to the moon, neptune and uranus.

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My girlfriend has almost same thing except no venus aspect to Mars :O

posted February 04, 2015 05:25 PM            

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Originally posted by Venusincap89:
I was told that yoga helps a lot, but I can't say this too confidently, given that there is no personal experience or evidence/consensus to it

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I've done yoga. No physical activity has helped me personally. Not even breathing exercises.
Only music and escaping into my mind.

posted February 04, 2015 06:19 PM            

i don't like violence or anger. but i do like pain. carefully, artistically and knowledgeably applied, and only on the receiving end for me. i like to be submissive in role play. but it is just that, play. nothing more and it doesn't go outside the bedroom. i also love bondage. i fantasize about it a lot.

i think the heavy gemini/sag axis in my chart enables me to be open to new ideas, exploring and experimenting.
with my sun, merc and chiron on in the 12th, i'm very attracted to the deep and dark psychological aspects of bdsm. perhaps with chiron in particular, i feel like i've had some very healing experiences with bdsm.

i also have venus square pluto, one of the aforementioned aspects.

thinking that lilith trine mars may also play a role in my love for the artistry and how feminine i can feel while participating in certain play.

posted February 04, 2015 07:41 PM            

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Originally posted by Venusincap89:
My girlfriend has almost same thing except no venus aspect to Mars :O

Do you also have North Node in 2nd House?
or... Could you by any chance post your natal chart? Please excuse my curiosity

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Lol I don't mind. Let me know what's up I'm curious about what you're thinking.

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posted February 04, 2015 08:22 PM            

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Originally posted by unforgiven_soul:
Lilting why do you think Mars in the 12th house is submissive? I 'm really interested on this one since my new bf has Mars conjunct Pluto in the 12th in Scorpio... Haven't seen a submissive behavior so far. He likes to lead.

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I don't think it makes me a submissive person necessarily, but as far as preference in the boudoir I think it might have something to do with it. I like to be impressed by a lover as if they're working for my submissiveness lol As far as leading I wouldn't describe myself as a leader, but I've heard more than once that there's a line people feel they won't cross with me? I'm more intense than aggressive and I seeth rather than explode with anger.

posted February 04, 2015 08:58 PM            

I will say right now that I'm no longer surprised that 90% plus of women in BDSM are submissives while nearly 75% of men are dominant...as long as they're straight. Once outside of heterosexuality the numbers change to about 50% for both genders in BDSM and I know why (it's not biological).

posted February 05, 2015 09:12 AM            

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Originally posted by peony:
In Virgo? Is Uranus or Pluto aspecting Mars? That sounds more like it. Any planets in the 8H?

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posted February 05, 2015 09:29 AM            

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Originally posted by peony:
In Virgo? Is Uranus or Pluto aspecting Mars? That sounds more like it. Any planets in the 8H?

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He has mars square Uranus. No planets in the 8th.

posted February 05, 2015 04:48 PM            

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Originally posted by lilting:
Thank you! Did you find what you were looking for in my chart?

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Yes, so many familiar placements!!

Virgo chiron in first house

Neptune Uranus in 5th house

Saturn in 7th house I hate and love this placement

As for submissiveness, I came to the assumption that it's Mars trine neptune or Uranus that does it

Btw, do you relate to North node in 3rd house more? or 2nd house more?

posted February 05, 2015 05:15 PM            

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Originally posted by Orange:
Most of my partners attracted me because they looked masculine, riggid and dominant. I like strong men to throw me around (Pisces rising).
Each one of them later begged me to dominate them, and i hate that sh*t. Ugh.
Guess my senseless Mars/Saturn exact square shows up to them.

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Generally speaking those who look the part rarely act it because they never had to and may even work to fight their image (this is especially the case when a guy is especially big who can also be very gentle--they don't HAVE to act up to get what they want, most people do it just to stay on their good side) and like it when they can just relax without people (including women) acting somewhat intimidated. It's the ones who don't look the part who are more likely to act it because they have to (and some can become secure in that rather than hyperdefensive).

Men generally don't go out of their way to advertise themselves via appearances to the same length women do.

I'm not sure how often it's true (some say it's a silly stereotype though a stereotype some in the BDSM subculture say is true often enough) is that big and powerful men tend to prefer the giving up of power, perhaps because they get sick of being the one looked up to all the time which can be tiring (and also because it's exotic for them whereas other men not so big and powerful are sick of being without it and thus perhaps seeks a more dominant role).

posted February 05, 2015 06:26 PM            

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...With this position, we easily crack under imagined pressures, and we are too often in a hurry for fear that our freedom will be curtailed if we stop long enough to gather facts and consider the details of everyday life...

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posted February 05, 2015 07:23 PM            

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Originally posted by lilting:
@venusincap89 Aw saturn in the seventh isn't so bad. What bothers you?

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No, it's actually really good. Come to think of it, I'd rather have saturn to be in 7th than anywhere else xD well I lied, actually 11th house. Other than that, yes 7th!!
But i do think, saturn in 7th people really gotta be careful with who they date. Gotta choose really spiritual and mature partner. And also, they gotta realize that they must work on their craft of the romantic or business partnership, sooner the better

I really love how Saturn in 7th house people take relationships seriously and don't give up on their partners! It is really rough out there these days in the dating zone!!

But, in my case, I am dating a saturn in 7th house person, who never had a relationship before me aha xD
so lack of efforts to relate to the romantic partner and business partners, can be a little frustrating at times, but I really love the stability

(obviously all these depends, but this is what I observed from pisces saturn in 7th house trine moon person, who is in her first relationship so far xD)