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Topic: Have you ever 'Iced' someone out of your life?
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ash20
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posted June 06, 2015 08:47 PM
 
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Originally posted by Southern Sun:
I can never really close the door on somebody--I tend to be too hopeful and forgiving. it's probably that pesky Sag moon in 12th 
Same here. Sag moon too. I tend to give people too many chances but recently I've had to cut off a bestfriend who for years I felt took me for granted and just wasn't supportive, even after talking to him about it.IP: Logged |
Randall
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posted June 08, 2015 07:33 PM
Triple Cappy here, so of course not! That was sarcasm.IP: Logged |
jupitersgirl
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posted June 09, 2015 04:59 AM
I've iced out some people. I think icing someone out is about Uranus influence. Uranus is the planet of surprises and abrupt changes. I have sun conj uranus, square moon. Also I have aqua Mars. Normally even when I'm upset with someone I give them many chances because empathy comes easy to me (pisces moon), BUT I have my limits and if someone crosses the line, especially when I see insincerity in any form I ice that person out. It's like I don't even bother to hate them I feel completely neutral about them, they become 0 to me as if I never met that
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Belba
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posted June 09, 2015 05:41 AM
Oh, I have. Some of my girlfriends and men that were expecting something of me. With friends for me it was a natural continuation of myself growing distant and the relationship going awry. It might have been a logical thing for me to do, but I can see that some did not expect it and it might have hurt them. There weren't a lot of times it was without explanation, because they usually claim it, but I'd rather them to be angry at me than to be upset and hurt because of something I said. I don't like saying; oh hey, I don't like hanging out with you no more, because I've outgrown you, I despise that and that characteristic in you, I have changed, you haven't changed a bit, which gets a bit frustrating etc. With me it's mutable energy, if I feel like I'm not going anywhere with the person it's over. And I also get rid of (such a cruel phrase to use!  ) the emotional drama queens, the more demanding, possessive kinds of friends, that is probably my Uranus to Sun and Moon. Also Sag MC and Aqua Ascendant, I have no problems attracting people in my life, although my Virgo self only wants the best of the best...
I've cut a lot long term friends since my Moon progressed to Scorpio. They just don't do anymore... My personality has changed profoundly, I don't see them eye to eye anymore. IP: Logged |
teasel
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posted June 09, 2015 05:58 AM
I also have Uranus opposed Sun, also aspecting just about everything. I only cut people, if I manage it, if they keep trying to make trouble. I'm not going to fault someone for being emotional.IP: Logged |
Aries23Degrees
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posted June 10, 2015 03:16 PM
Yes.I have the sensitive Moon/Mars square to deal with and with the current Pluto transit skirting around it, some relationships will just end. I can feel it. IP: Logged |
mirage29
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posted June 10, 2015 07:58 PM
Soooo hard to decide sometimes. Every person feels so valuable to me. I cherish each one. So unique, each in their own way~~ and to be admired and understood as such. Though I admit sometimes, I want to use that proverbial "ten or 50-foot spacer-beam" inbetween! O My! ~  But it's true... as you say, Aries23Degrees. ~~ Some partings are really meant to be! People leave can leave your life for reasons that are beyond the immediate understanding. Maybe they were trying to hold you back, in some way?... I know that the times of progressed sign changes seems to 'change the flavors' for a bit, especially when you're already in a committed partnership. But if you are, and you DO 'stay'~~ from what I've experienced myself, and saw in another situ-- there can come corresponding shifts that happen within a parallel window of time where other things come to balance it-- I'm talking about people who have been together for a long time. (Especially in those midlife crisis years... I've read that if you can resist the 'impulsive' moves for change, and ride it out whatever way you can, then that can actually work to both's benefits, in the longer range.) Teasel.... LOL!  Feelings and corresponding emotions can be a gracious and GOOD healthy thing to have! They can work *for* us when we learn the secret of harnessing that power and transmuting.... (AND, I'm a life-long enrolled student in that school of hard-knocks! I can feel like such a baby there sometimes~~ depends on what it is!, so I'm just 'coming alongside you, on that one.) Don't lose your flair, nor forget that it has power that can ADD to your life! Think up, not downwards. In flight school, that's called Having Attitude. Let it work for you. (You're a Beautiful awesome Being...{{ }}) IP: Logged |
DopGang
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posted June 15, 2015 07:26 PM
It's the story of my life!
It's not in what we think to be a Scorpio way. I may harbor hard feelings but as a form of justice.
I have "codes", sort of like laws and when people break the laws of our relationship, or they act flaky, they are assigned the punishment of being "iced out".
It also happens by association. A person may receive my coldness because they are strongly associated with another person that has displayed sketchy behavior. IP: Logged |
Zira_2015
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posted June 15, 2015 10:44 PM
Oh yeah, I have. Mainly in extreme circumstances. The "icing" is not necessarily cut them out completely, but there are new boundaries for the person and the chances of them breaking the new boundaries is likely never. Sun Aries, Moon Libra, Ascendent Libra IP: Logged |
blindpainter
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posted June 15, 2015 10:55 PM
Ive never done that i am more the type to break it off immediatly but im a leo.
But my ex bestfriend who was a scorpio did what youre talking about to me. The biiiiiiiitchIP: Logged |
rabidtalker
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posted June 16, 2015 01:42 AM
I have yes.When I was younger I never iced anyone but as I've gotten older I've learned that the sooner I can identify who to ice out, the happier I am.
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blindpainter
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posted June 16, 2015 03:10 AM
Ive never done that i am more the type to break it off immediatly but im a leo.
But my ex bestfriend who was a scorpio did what youre talking about to me. The biiiiiiiitchIP: Logged |
StarlightSmileSupreme
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posted June 17, 2015 02:37 AM
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Originally posted by NeptunianSag:
I have a tendancy to 'Ice' people out of my life If i think they are going to be toxic or a problem, I completely ignore all their communications and if they still dont get the message im not interested I usually delete them by contact ect. It's strange because I heard this is a scorpio thing to do, but I dont have many scorpio/harsh pluto aspects. I think i'm putting it down to Venus conjunct saturn because I hate problems in relationships and feel I have to set boundaries. I have a progressed scorp asc + pluto in the 1st though. Also venus-pluto square progressed.
I do this.
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ballerina
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posted April 30, 2019 01:38 AM
Ice ice ice...------------------
All my love, with all my Heart
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charlie
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posted April 30, 2019 02:32 AM
When I was younger I “loved everybody” and was extremely accepting of “faults”. I was everyone’s “sun”.
Now that I’m older I tend to lean more on my Cap Moon ie you do me wrong? I’ll do you wrong and don’t come begging for forgiveness! IP: Logged |
ballerina
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posted April 30, 2019 02:49 AM
Ice ice ice------------------
All my love, with all my Heart
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kani
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posted April 30, 2019 05:32 AM
I've done that a couple of times with people who crossed the line. I have no interest in their whereabouts after that whatsoever.
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Leo-Cancer98
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posted November 29, 2022 08:24 PM
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Originally posted by Southern Sun:
I can never really close the door on somebody--I tend to be too hopeful and forgiving. it's probably that pesky Sag moon in 12th
How is your Sagittarius Moon aspected? IP: Logged |
Leo-Cancer98
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posted November 29, 2022 08:42 PM
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Originally posted by jupitersgirl:
I've iced out some people. I think icing someone out is about Uranus influence. Uranus is the planet of surprises and abrupt changes. I have sun conj uranus, square moon. Also I have aqua Mars. Normally even when I'm upset with someone I give them many chances because empathy comes easy to me (pisces moon), BUT I have my limits and if someone crosses the line, especially when I see insincerity in any form I ice that person out. It's like I don't even bother to hate them I feel completely neutral about them, they become 0 to me as if I never met that
person and there's no going back.
Saame. I've only done this to 1 person thus far, my cousin. ------------------
Cancer Rising
2nd House Leo Sun
3rd House Leo Mercury
6th House Sagittarius Moon & Pluto
1st House Cancer Venus & Mars
9th House Pisces Jupiter conjunct MC. IP: Logged |
Leo-Cancer98
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posted November 29, 2022 10:54 PM
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Originally posted by lisalisa:
I never do it, probably my gemini moon and libra sun
I have venus and pluto conjunct my ascendant in scorpio
Is Venus closer to your Ascending degree than Pluto? IP: Logged |
girlwiththerainysoul
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posted November 30, 2022 12:50 AM
I easily ice out others. I would describe myself as indifferent and impulsive when doing so. I have sun in the 10th, Saturn very close to DC. Pluto and Uranus are all over my chart too aspecting my inner planets as well as my sun, and they sextile each other. My Pisces moon also helps because I can turn off emotions as I am icing. I used to even research plants like ashwaganda that are known to kill emotions. Now what becomes problematic is when my Cancer Venus, Mars, south node and Chiron hit all of the sudden and become nostalgic for that person. This pattern continues to cause a lot of inner drama and turmoil for me. IP: Logged |
Arcana
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posted November 30, 2022 06:11 AM
Yes, though I wasn't like this when I was younger, I have done this mostly with some family members and some friends.I can easily "ice" or rather cut ties with others if they have done me wrong. Even more so if I don't have a special bond; made me feel loathing for myself or tired, have hurt my loved ones or have no like interests/heart as me. Even during fights I tend to put away any affection for them and shut them out for a bit because I have learnt being overemotional doesn't help all the time and can be used to manipulate me. The way I make a bond is usually unique as well and it is rare, sure there is emotion and love but the way they manifest is intellectually? or not as attached? So perhaps that is why it is easy to become indifferent for me? though there have been exceptions but that is if there is sentimental connection or bond, if so the relationship just transforms. ----------------------------------
ASC Sagittarius
Sun in 4H Pisces conjunct Mars
Moon in Leo 8H oppose Mercury 3H Aqua
IC in Aqua
Pluto conjunct ASC in 12H cusp Scorpio
Uranus in Aqua 3H conjunct Neptune in 2H & square Venus in 5H
Chiron in Libra 11H conjunct NN exact IP: Logged |
Randall
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posted December 06, 2022 05:08 PM
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