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posted June 03, 2015 02:58 PM            

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I have a tendancy to 'Ice' people out of my life If i think they are going to be toxic or a problem, I completely ignore all their communications and if they still dont get the message im not interested I usually delete them by contact ect.

It's strange because I heard this is a scorpio thing to do, but I dont have many scorpio/harsh pluto aspects. I think i'm putting it down to Venus conjunct saturn because I hate problems in relationships and feel I have to set boundaries.

I have a progressed scorp asc + pluto in the 1st though. Also venus-pluto square progressed.

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posted June 03, 2015 03:04 PM            

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Leo can do it as well.

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posted June 03, 2015 03:16 PM              

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Yes, I`ve done it (though very very very rarely).
But if I feel the need to do it, then just because I feel they are truely toxic to my life and there is no way of resolving the difficulties.

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posted June 03, 2015 03:16 PM              

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Yes, I`ve done it (though very very very rarely).
But if I feel the need to do it, then just because I feel they are truely toxic to my life and there is no way of resolving the difficulties.

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posted June 03, 2015 03:29 PM            

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yes and with military efficiency.

cap and scorpio stellium. the moment i realise someone's not good for me they're out. i usually ice them out completely but if they confront me and ask me why i just bluntly state why.

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posted June 03, 2015 03:33 PM            

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Scorpio Stellium here (Sun, Venus, Mercury, Pluto).

Absolutely. I cut people off and never go back. That's how I've always been.

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posted June 03, 2015 03:43 PM              

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Its pretty much my specialty. Like if I'm throwing a tantrum with you that means I trust you and I'm not going anywhere. With guys I date or I'm not into I have said what I need to to sever ties and I always delete them after. Some say that's immature but if you're not in my REAL life there's no reason for you to have access to what I'm up to. The only one I haven't done that to is a guy I went on one date with and that's because he wasn't an ******* to me, and nothing serious/intense happened.

I have Moon opposition Pluto and Moon trine Saturn, Venus square Saturn. I've gotten too good at keeping people out, I need to learn how to make it work I think. We should also look at who iced someone out because, as Odette said, there was nothing left or did you ice them out because you were disappointed? I ice people out when I'm disappointed in them and need to heal, but I still wish them well overall. Most of the time.

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posted June 03, 2015 03:50 PM            

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posted June 03, 2015 03:57 PM            

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I've only done it to a few people, but it was because they had bad intentions or meant to do harm. Betrayal I have no tolerance for.

Although, I do think I am a bit more forgiving than other Venus Scorpios. I'm sure everyone has done something in their life they've regretted. If I think you deserve a second chance, I'll give it to you.

Libra Sun/Moon/Mars, Scorpio Venus/Mercury/Pluto

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posted June 03, 2015 03:58 PM            

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Originally posted by PixieJane:
Leo can do it as well.

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So true. I have a Scorpio ASC as well.

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posted June 03, 2015 04:00 PM            

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Generally aspects such as

Sun/Moon/Mercury/Venus to Saturn/Pluto (Signs of a more conservative/extreme i.e Cap/Sco)

Allow people to place lids ontop of others so, they cannot get any higher than usual. This allows you to 'ice' them out of your life. But I generally thing it comes down to the emotional character of the person and how stable they are with people.

Saturn declutters and Pluto destroys, which can explain why you can ice people out and not worry about missing them, because they don't mean anything to you.

I agree with someofyou guys, youknow why have people in your life who don't play a role, only have the people who mean the most to you, stay in your life

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posted June 03, 2015 05:16 PM            

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Actually there aren't many I haven't iced haha - Capricorn Moon.

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posted June 03, 2015 05:22 PM            

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I haven't been iced out by any scorpios... this is more a capricorn/aqua/libra thing to do I would think.

I don't ice people out myself on purpose. But I've lost contact with many old friends, more so because they moved, got new interests, got new friends, or because THEY iced me out. It's the worst feeling ever, and people should really stop doing that. Just tell it as it is, tell people why you ice them out before you do it, cause to sit back there and wonder why some old friend never call you anymore is really fu*** you up. /virgo sun with scorpio venus

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posted June 03, 2015 05:22 PM            

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Cancer Moon is classic for it

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posted June 03, 2015 05:26 PM            

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I can never really close the door on somebody--I tend to be too hopeful and forgiving. it's probably that pesky Sag moon in 12th

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posted June 03, 2015 05:35 PM            

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Very, very rarely. And all of these times, it remained an attempt, honestly. Eventually, when we keep crossing paths, I just try to keep up small contact. To be fair, I haven't really met that many people I wanted to cut out of my life cold. I'm much more often the one who gets iced out (which is the worst feeling ever, whether you know someone's doing it or not - like next to Neptune said). Just... boundary problems. If I had to really stop talking, I said it instead of just ignoring and making up all of these excuses like "ohh, no, I'm just busy!". And again, I can count the number of times that happened on one hand. I'm just not that good at letting people go and prefer to keep on neutral terms with someone.

When someone meant a lot to me, I can't just switch off my feelings overnight and walk away, never to look back again. These people will still cross my mind quite a bit.

Lol and I'm a Cap Moon with Moon conjunct Saturn, you'd think I'd be an expert on doing this, but I just don't have the heart for it, I know what it's like when someone you cared about, and thought you had a good relationship with, suddenly cuts you out.

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posted June 03, 2015 08:28 PM              

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Oh God, I'm notorious for doing this (with men).

I'll only do it with women who turn out to be fake (liars or manipulators).

It's weird with men because it's like the ice after the fire. It really bothers me during the separation part and I'm like some wild inferno (Leo mars/venus) but then I go ice cold on them as soon as I'm over it all (Pluto/Uranus/Mercury conjunct in Virgo which widely conjuncts my Virgo sun. It confuses them really, the change in attitude. I'm not good dating material tbh.

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posted June 03, 2015 08:35 PM            

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Originally posted by next to neptune:
I haven't been iced out by any scorpios... this is more a capricorn/aqua/libra thing to do I would think.

I don't ice people out myself on purpose. But I've lost contact with many old friends, more so because they moved, got new interests, got new friends, or because THEY iced me out. It's the worst feeling ever, and people should really stop doing that. Just tell it as it is, tell people why you ice them out before you do it, cause to sit back there and wonder why some old friend never call you anymore is really fu*** you up. /virgo sun with scorpio venus

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Amen!

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posted June 03, 2015 09:11 PM              

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^^Agreed.

I was iced out a few times by Scorpio guys, one quite recently who was all over me at one point in the past year. Guess he got fed up, maybe I wasn't giving him what he wanted! The other guy was equally as icy but then I'm Virgo and I go stone cold on them too. Virgo stoniness and Scorpio iciness.... not much hope there really!

Ooh and I remember one of my first loves back in my late teens (another Scorpio) who I could have quite happily married at one point. Once he phoned me and I could just tell he was trying say he loved me but couldn't spit it out. A few months later he phoned me and this time I could tell he was trying to dump me and couldn't spit that out either!

Cancer men excel at the icy treatment too, in my experience.

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posted June 03, 2015 09:21 PM            

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Things end. It's a part of life.

Do you find 'death' mean?

I don't think it's mean to cut contact, mainly if things are clearly over and there is nothing left. To me that's like trying to bring something -dead- back to life... or trying to make the world spin backwards.
I am talking about all relationships, not just romantic ones.

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posted June 03, 2015 09:39 PM            

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Yes, lol. I tend to disappear on everyone once in awhile. I need my space. Moon conjunct saturn.

I find Scorpios really easy to deal with. I'm never too keen on them, so they always come back. If I sense they have ulterior motives I turn them into acquaintances and then 'disappear'.

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posted June 03, 2015 10:15 PM            

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Originally posted by Odette:
Things end. It's a part of life.

Do you find 'death' mean?

I don't think it's mean to cut contact, mainly if things are clearly over and there is nothing left. To me that's like trying to bring something -dead- back to life... or trying to make the world spin backwards.
I am talking about all relationships, not just romantic ones.

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Oh, absolutely! Of course things end, most relationships do. It's the "icing" out thing that bugs me. Unless you're actually being treated bad, I think you should at least have a conversation with the other person about it. It would just be plain mean not to, especially if the other person was still interested in whatever relationship you had with them.

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posted June 03, 2015 10:41 PM            

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Oh ok...I see what you mean.
Usually I have several conversations before I reach the point where I am done for good.

And I also communicate to them that I'm done. So I don't just randomly disappear.

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Absolutely! Of course things end, most relationships do. It's the "icing" out thing that bugs me.

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Hmm... But an ending without "icing out" is more like a transformation, than an ending.
I've stayed friends with my ex for instance... but that was a transformation of romantic love to friendship.
It was not a true "ending".

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posted June 03, 2015 10:51 PM            

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I have done this at least once or twice - very seldom. The couple times I have, I've usually felt somewhat bad afterwards. The one instance that stands out the most was someone whom, after getting to know for about a year via internet, I grew tired of and pretty much felt nothing on my end for that person. So I 'iced' them out of my life. They tried to keep contact a few times, and I did eventually attempt to give a reasonable explanation, though quite difficult as I felt pretty bad about doing it, and it's just never easy to do so when you know you've probably hurt that person.

So I don't do it often because I really hate hurting people, especially without giving an explanation. I've had it done to me before and it is not pretty. But if I really have to, honestly, I will. If I don't feel much of anything, romantic-wise or not, and you keep bugging me, big chance I will completely ignore you after awhile.

It's just too hard to do sometimes though when you already have an established connection. I would probably never not feel some level of guilt.

For reference, no Scorpio placements (except Pluto) but Leo Sun/Mercury, and Virgo Venus/Jupiter. I am Mercury dominant with Gemini Moon/Mars, and since Gemini energy has the tendency to flit back and forth between things and lose interest in the things around them very quickly, I wouldn't discount that either as a possible factor. I had a friend who iced me out a few times here and there and he was a Gemini Sun and Mercury, I believe.

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posted June 03, 2015 11:09 PM            

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I have a lot of trouble doing that. I've had it done to me, and it's horrible, although I prefer knowing where I stand. I can confidently say that you don't always want to hear what someone has to say before they do it, though - even if they aren't on point with what they're saying, it still hurts.

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