posted July 02, 2015 03:42 AM            

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Originally posted by polkadotstars:
I'm a Venus Aries (conjunct Mars!) woman and when I like someone I like to pursue them. It's very hard for me to just stay back and let them pursue me. Because I have learned that a guy needs to have the chase in order to stay interested in someone. Unless they are a Venus Aries man of course

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Couldn't that be because of the aspect to Mars(Conjunction)?

Mars/Pluto aspects tend to bring out the "aggressor" in us all.

posted July 02, 2015 03:50 AM            

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Originally posted by Odette:
It also depends on culture ^.

But astrologically speaking.. other than Aries Venus men... those who have compatible Venus signs: Gemini, Aquarius, Leo, Sagittarius - will not care either way.
They won't mind being chased. They don't actively *want* to be chased... but they wouldn't be put off by your forward/fiery approach.

You'd definitely feel these positive aspects ^ if they are within an orb of 3 or so... 5 at most.
The connection won't be as strong if your Venus is at 2' Aries.. and their Venus is at 16' Aquarius, for instance. The closer, the better!

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Hi Odette ,

I think that the reason that I immediately thought of Venus in exalted/home signs was because of the very "lax" attitude these people tend to have IME.

Venus on the Asc/Dsc axis tends towards having the person behave in a more "passive" way also.

posted July 02, 2015 12:20 PM            

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Originally posted by LexusVirgo:
My first love was a venus in gemini he did not like to be chased he did not like anything. He liked to be ignored then he would come running. He routinely fell in love with women who treated him badly and hurt the ones who cared for him..

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He was a good prom date, a gentleman...so I give him a lot of credit for that.

At some point I let go of the idea of been with him and a year later out of the blue contacted him and then he was receptive but I was no longer interested at all.

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It seems maybe they think to much or avoid thinking about it and just react automatically by keeping their distance. I think they have fear of intensity or losing their freedom or of their life been altered in a way that may later proof to be inconvenient or the prospect of perceived future drama kind of paralyze them and their automatic response is avoidance but catch them a year later and they will be more receptive lol....

posted July 02, 2015 12:23 PM            

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Originally posted by Odette:
That's not an easy question lol
I have an Aries Sun myself. Aries Suns are generally confident people.. or more confident than the average person.
So they are not normally 'shy' in this department. But that's not to say they necessarily 'chase'.
You'd still have to look at the Mars sign. An Aries guy with a Taurus or Cancer Mars - will be pretty laid back and too loving of his comfort zone to make a move.

An Aries guy with Scorpio Mars - could be extremely decisive and likely to chase (regardless of Venus).
The only difference is .. if he had *both* Venus and Mars in Martian signs - e.g. Aries Venus/Scorpio mars... he would both *be* the chaser.. and also, be attracted to a woman who is just as intense and fiery as he is. So he would like a scenario where they chase each other.

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I have enjoyed a lot your input throughout this discussion! Thanks.

posted July 02, 2015 12:37 PM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
Hi Odette ,

I think that the reason that I immediately thought of Venus in exalted/home signs was because of the very "lax" attitude these people tend to have IME.

Venus on the Asc/Dsc axis tends towards having the person behave in a more "passive" way also.

In fact, Venus contacts to the big 3 also evoke this "let me attract rather than pursue" vibe about the person.

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posted July 02, 2015 12:39 PM            

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Originally posted by VirgoAquaSag:
Venus in Aries men for sure.

My boyfriend has this and I have Mars in Aries. I definitely am more of a go-getter than him and I usually do the chasing. But they don't also just sit still and do nothing either. They will initiate some kind of action so you are intrigued.

Think of it like a little boy who would pull your hair or tap on your shoulder to get your attention then run away expecting you to run after him. If you do, he will like it. If you don't, he might consider you a challenge but will lose interest in the long run.

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posted July 02, 2015 12:42 PM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
Couldn't that be because of the aspect to Mars(Conjunction)?

Mars/Pluto aspects tend to bring out the "aggressor" in us all.

Where is this conjunction?

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posted July 02, 2015 02:19 PM            

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Originally posted by hypatia238:
OMG the guy that I was crushing on had sun/moon/Mars in cancer square Pluto and yes he brought out the 'I want to pursue you' in me big time. Haha, great point. As for synastry his stellium squared my Singleton Pluto by 3 degrees! That is why I felt a bit obsessed, he reminded of my ex even though they are nothing alike, is that Pluto energy.

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Yes. pluto energy is very strong.

I met a random stranger with Moon/Mars in cardinal signs forming aspects to my T-square as well as aspecting my Pluto(out of sign) by 6 Degrees.

I din't like him, then I liked him. Then I put him down, then I was shy around him. All sorts of emotions. And I was definitely the aggressor- very unlike me.

posted July 03, 2015 07:52 AM            

In an ideal world, I'd definitely want both of us to do half of the "chasing" (maybe Juno Libra in the 1st is at play here lol).

posted July 03, 2015 08:49 AM              

I never could understand the connection with that with my Scorpio stellium and strong pluto/ saturn theme blazing through my chart, but I do have an early mars in sagittarius on my 7th house cusp and it's badly afflicted. Aries also rules my 12th house.

Hmm. I would definitely say strong Aries placements.

posted July 03, 2015 12:52 PM            

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Originally posted by Yanmorg:
Now that we're on the subject, I do attract A TON of men with Aries Ascendants'.

I never could understand the connection with that with my Scorpio stellium and strong Pluto/ Saturn theme blazing through my chart, but I do have an early mars in Sagittarius on my 7th house cusp and it's badly afflicted. Aries also rules my 12th house.

Hmm. I would definitely say strong Aries placements.

I also dated a double Taurus Sun/Moon with Venus/ Mars in cancer, [b]mercury in Aries. His mercury was already badly afflicted and barely aspected, but when we dated, he sort of wanted me to reach out to him when it came to communication. He never wanted to make the first move.[/B]

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posted July 03, 2015 03:22 PM              

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Originally posted by NeptunianSag:
Mars in cancer, because I cant assert myself for crap.

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posted July 03, 2015 05:01 PM              

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
Where is your Ascendant?

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posted July 04, 2015 01:10 PM            

Often times, the Asc in Taurus attracts people who have very strong emotions, psychically sensitive and more psychologically inclined-Scorpio Dsc.

These people often bring a lot of psychological baggage and/or issues with them that Taurus finds that they are involved in "easing"; abandonment issues, betrayal,trust issues etc.

These people are often difficult/complex and tend towards playing hard to get.

Now with your Mars in 7th, this sort of lends credit to the above 7th house description(as Mars/Pluto-ruler of 7th, have much in common).

You tend to attract partners who are emotionally very "raw" and open; There is no hiding anything; emotions, feelings, misunderstanding etc. All are out on the table.

If you look at the Moon in Aries and study its "gist" of expression. These are the types of lovers that you may attract to you for partnership:They wear their emotions on their sleeve.

With the ruler of the 12th(hidden identity) in the 7th house, they may also be prone towards being sensitive to psychic experiences and "other worldly" things.

I would say that they may respond intrinsically to the undercurrents of emotions and be motivated to act accordingly. But this also comes with some frustration on their part(12th)

I wouldn't say that they are that stable; more like people who often leave in the "ecstasy" of feelings as they are easily stimulated.

You yourself can find that much of impulsive feelings you suppress(Mars rules your 12th and falls in the 7th); anger, rage,lust etc are evoked with them(7th).

They make you more "animalistic", emotional in your interaction with them. And you often find that you peace -loving , beauty creating Venus-ruled Taurus Asc is wondering WTF?

But then again, with Scorpio as your stellium. Perhaps the question should be "Why not?"

posted July 04, 2015 01:35 PM            

Yes I am the more intense one, have the higher sex drive and don't hold anything back, all is out on the table but he is the one with abandonment issues that need to be eased and I am the therapist, my Pluto is not afflicted and is strong.

I have a golden yod involving Pluto, Chiron and the moon which rules my 8th and falls in the 4th, interestingly I provide mental health counseling including family therapy in people's home. I also have Horus conjunct sun exact in the 10th house in Virgo which I feel all aligns nicely with mental health counseling.

My partner has moon square sun and Chiron in the 12th inconjunct Neptune in the 8th, his parents divorced when he was a kid and then his dad who he was closer to and felt accepted by died a year or two later and he never had the chance to mourn properly. His body has physical reactions when the topic of death comes up and has issues with sleep which often lead to migraines, he has poor emotional regulation and I conclude he has ptsd stemming from the trauma of losing his father, the divorce and the emotional neglect from mother who kept sending him away to school to another state from a young age so she can focus on career and her love life, she married 3 times. Trauma changes your brain but grey matter can be rebuilt by meditating regularly.

posted July 05, 2015 03:48 PM              

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Taurus Ascendants have Venus as the ruler of the 1st- there is often a concrete need to create beauty and form ; either externally or internally.

Often times, the Asc in Taurus attracts people who have very strong emotions, psychically sensitive and more psychologically inclined-Scorpio Dsc.

These people often bring a lot of psychological baggage and/or issues with them that Taurus finds that they are involved in "easing"; abandonment issues, betrayal,trust issues etc.

These people are often difficult/complex and tend towards playing hard to get.

Now with your Mars in 7th, this sort of lends credit to the above 7th house description(as Mars/Pluto-ruler of 7th, have much in common).

You tend to attract partners who are emotionally very "raw" and open; There is no hiding anything; emotions, feelings, misunderstanding etc. All are out on the table.

If you look at the Moon in Aries and study its "gist" of expression. These are the types of lovers that you may attract to you for partnership:They wear their emotions on their sleeve.

With the ruler of the 12th(hidden identity) in the 7th house, they may also be prone towards being sensitive to psychic experiences and "other worldly" things.

I would say that they may respond intrinsically to the undercurrents of emotions and be motivated to act accordingly. But this also comes with some frustration on their part(12th)

I wouldn't say that they are that stable; more like people who often leave in the "ecstasy" of feelings as they are easily stimulated.

You yourself can find that much of impulsive feelings you suppress(Mars rules your 12th and falls in the 7th); anger, rage,lust etc are evoked with them(7th).

They make you more "animalistic", emotional in your interaction with them. And you often find that you peace -loving , beauty creating Venus-ruled Taurus Asc is wondering WTF?

But then again, with Scorpio as your stellium. Perhaps the question should be "Why not?"

Where is your Venus?

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My Venus is in the 6th. & Wow! That's so true. Every word.

posted July 08, 2015 10:16 PM            

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Originally posted by ail221:
I prefer to be pursued I don't like the phrase "chased". On the other-hand if I am approached while I am going about my day you're likely to get the bulls horns. I really prefer things to just naturally unfold and catch me off guard.
I've had a guy chase me for nearly nine years befriended my mother and everything and with each passing year I become more and more annoyed. Chasing a person for years is disturbing.
Venus in Gemini 1st/2nd
Mars in Taurus 12th

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posted July 09, 2015 03:23 PM            

Venus in Gemini doesn't like to be chased as much as they like to think about possible relationships. I have Venus in Gemini in the first and I'll tell a dude what's up on the first day...if he asks! If I see someone attractive, I think about them for a while in a flirtatious and passionate way, but I want something that is solid so I skip the games and seek for the truth.

Leos love being chased, from what I've observed. The ones I know get off on all their crushes and followers.

Some Scorpio males chase, but the chase can get intense and the runner might fall and get a scrape on the knee. But it's as if the damage to the hunted triggers compassion in the Scorpio's heart and they become the healer instead of the creator of the game.

posted July 12, 2015 01:40 PM            

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Originally posted by whaaat:
Not speaking from any experience but I still have a preference:
Venus in Taurus cunjunct Sun, opposition Pluto.
My vain Leo/Taurus influinced Venus wants to be 'chased' just to feel admired. But then the Pluto opposition kicks in and wants to take complete control.

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