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Gemini30
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posted August 08, 2015 05:26 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Gemini30     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hello!

Just wondering, the folks here who have venus/uranus aspects and/or moon/uranus aspects. I have a question for you!

How do you feel about Casual sex? Like one night stands, friends with benefits, booty-calls, etc.

Do you practice it? Do you condone it? Or Do you find it degrading and/or repulsive? Or do you accept it but find it's not for you?

Also if you could state your MARS SIGN that would be great!!

(conducting my own research and analysis here)

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DopGang
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posted August 08, 2015 06:04 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for DopGang     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Moon/Uranus
Virgo mars.

It's always been more fantasy than anything. Even when presented with opportunity, it wasn't for me.
But it's always been fun to think about.

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SDragon
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posted August 08, 2015 06:37 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for SDragon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Moon trine Uranus
Mars in Taurus

Not really for me either.

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posted August 08, 2015 06:41 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for NYCdodger     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I have Venus opposite Uranus and casual sex isn't really my thing. When i lost my virginity I was doing it a lot, but after a while i began to find it pointless to try to get laid by random females I didn't know. Could be a maturity thing.

Mars in Taurus

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Julz87
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posted August 08, 2015 06:57 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Moon quincux Uranus
Moon square Venus
Venus Sextile Uranus
Mars Square Uranus
Mars in Virgo

Its not for me, I don't condone it to each their own.

Plus I think its frowned upon more so on women than males and I think that's unfair, both genders are allowed to be promiscuous.

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12muddy
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posted August 08, 2015 08:03 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for 12muddy     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
venus conj uranus. moon square uranus

I don't think there's anything wrong with it. But it's not for me.

taurus mars

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Odette
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posted August 08, 2015 08:12 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Odette     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
The person I know with Venus conj Jupiter in Aquarius - sextile Uranus, and Moon in Pisces - square Uranus is repulsed by casual sex. Very seriously repulsed!
His Mars is in Sag, conjunct Saturn.

I have Sun and Venus in the 11th (no Uranus aspects) -plus- Mars conj Neptune - and I think everyone should have the freedom to make their choices in life, as long as they're happy - and not harming anyone, including themselves.
I'm asexual though so I have no desire for this. I've never experienced a sexual attraction in a casual context in my entire life.

My Aqua ex who I just mentioned, was very openly against it though... He had several philosophical/spiritual reasons why he took issue with it. I think this suits his Mars/Saturn more than his Uranus aspects.

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ail221
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posted August 08, 2015 09:00 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ail221     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Venus opposite Uranus.
Mars in Taurus.

No casual sex is not my thing. In regards to other people it's really not my business for me to condone or not to condone someone else's sexual prerogative. I don't find it degrading or repulsive everyone just has different sex needs, I need real intimacy which I know personally I wouldn't be able to find by having casual sex or one night stands.

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posted August 08, 2015 09:39 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Geeky     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I have Uranus 11 degrees from Venus, both in Scorpio (and my Scorpio Venus is conjunct with my Libra Mars). I have a 3rd house stellium with Pluto, Mars, Venus & Uranus all hanging out together.

Before I was married, I had all kinds of relationships.

I had a poly relationship where we were each seeing other people separately (he was a real boyfriend, it was a real relationship, but we had others on the side). We're friends still and he'd still be my boyfriend if my husband would allow it (I'm working on that).

I had a few spontaneous one night affairs with acquaintances that I thought were hot. Not like close friends, but dudes I knew well enough to know they probably wouldn't be rapists or murderers. I knew they were great dudes, but I knew that we wouldn't have a good relationship.

I had a couple of very sweet friendships that would occasionally cross into sexual encounters.

I have had sexting and naked skype with long-distance friends.

I also had a 7 year marriage where I was completely faithful in every way -- sexually and emotionally -- but unfortunately, he wasn't.

I've had sex in parking lots, on the shoulder of the freeway, in a private parking garage, pools, the Atlantic ocean, kitchen tables, stairs, inflatable camping beds, in the middle of a the street in a dark neighborhood, kitchen countertops, bathroom countertops, at work behind counters or in walk in storage areas, showers... you name it. I am VERY spontaneous in that way.

I like sex, I like porn, etc. and while my physical relations have pretty much been with men, I actually do not have a gender preference. I have been attracted to and would have dated females and transsexuals in addition to men, had the timing been right.

I definitely feel the influence of Uranus.

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posted August 08, 2015 09:49 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Geeky     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I forgot to mention that my Libra Mars *REALLY* wants fairness. That's why my ex-husband's cheating bugged me. It wasn't that he was getting sex elsewhere -- it's that he was lying about it and I wasn't allowed to.

As long as everything is honest/fair, my current husband could do pretty much whatever he wants and I have given him a free pass to do so. He could have 3 girls on the side and I would be cool, just as long as I could be dating at least 3 other people too (lol).

That probably sounds crazy to some of you, but in spite of my adventurous nature, there are things he wants to do in bed (bondage & rope play) that I am totally unwilling to do and other things that I don't really enjoy, but he does. I would love for him to be able to have those experiences and still keep the woman he loves (me) so he can be totally fulfilled. And in my dream world, I would have my romances... I am such a lover, addicted to the thrill of falling in love.

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posted August 08, 2015 10:10 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Aquarian Moon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
7H Venus conjunct Uranus in Scorpio
4H Leo Mars

To each their own. I'm not one to judge if two consenting adults have sex and take precautions, health-wise.

I rather have sex with the person I love. I have tried being carefree for one year in my twenties and I became too attached to people.

I am very pro-sex, otherwise.

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posted August 09, 2015 01:05 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for ScorpAqua     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Moon square Uranus
Venus sextile Uranus.

I prefer casual sex over monogamy. In fact, I don't even believe in monogamy! I even have a booty call phone. I'm not ashamed of my sexual expression and generally don't care what others think.

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posted August 09, 2015 01:08 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for ScorpAqua     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I should add that my Mars in Aries is at the 29th degree, in hard opposition to Uranus in Libra. It also squares my moon which is at 1 degrees Aquarius.

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themischievousone
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posted August 09, 2015 01:33 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for themischievousone     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Venus sextile Uranus
Moon opposite Uranus

Capricorn Mars

I don't see anything wrong with it, but it is definitely not my thing. I have tried friends with benefits once and that ended up turning a relationship.

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teasel
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posted August 09, 2015 01:57 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for teasel     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I have both. Never had casual sex.

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Rosalind
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posted August 09, 2015 02:02 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Rosalind     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Given the fact my personal planets make only squares with outer planets I never like the idea of casual sex, FWB etc. Maybe Saturn in 1st house and Mars in Capricorn in 3rd house stopped me of having such thoughts.

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posted August 09, 2015 03:23 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for PixieJane     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Libra Venus (in stellium most on the Scorpio cusp including sun and Pluto) sextile Sag Uranus (also in a stellium that includes moon, Mars and the asteroid Eros).

I once explored my sexuality and indulged my curiosity and I did not need or even want it to be "special" I just wanted to experiment. I was careful (probably my Cappie Lilith at work) but I did it with no regret. I don't do it anymore because there's no point, I've already been there, done that.

I can see how love, sex, and marriage are not one and the same, though ideally they can mix, and I've also read up on societies that understood how these things were actually separate from some Celts and Japanese. Even Christian Europe sometimes marked a difference, at least for the upper classes, to marry out of duty/obligation and perhaps even produce an heir yet both spouses kept their own lovers outside of marriage and a husband would support his wife's boytoy and a wife could become close friends with her husband's mistress (I read of one wife who took her husband's mistress side against her husband as the two women had become such close friends), and such a mistress could be respectable, as say Madame de Pompaour who was judged more harshly for being born a commoner than being a chief mistress, aka prostitute to rich and powerful sugar daddies.

I don't see anything wrong with it for those who want to practice it though of course one should exercise some caution and common sense (or not cry about the spilled milk if they don't) and that integrity is used. That is no leading people on, lying that you're after a relationship when you know you're not, cheating on someone else (note, this doesn't preclude polyamory or open relationships, at least not necessarily), lying about your health or really anything. As long as both (or all sides) give informed consent (and that there is no coercion or exploitation involved, that is no metaphorically twisting an arm to get that "consent") then pretty much anything goes and I don't look down on them nor do I consider it degrading. Of course a person should be aware of why they've made such a choice rather than not knowing why they do it and if they hate themselves for it and/or they're doing it out of spinelessness, fear of being rejected, and so on then something is wrong but the root of the problem is mental/emotional rather than sexual.

All the above also applies to those who are very cautious about sex or practice celibacy. As long as they're honest then it's all good, but I'd be concerned if done out of self-loathing, fears of being rejected by others, lying to others, etc.

My mom uses sex (among many other methods) to manipulate and hurt people. I condemn the deceit, manipulation, and other hurtful behavior but not the sex itself. (I also don't have any respect for most of the men she uses as they're stupid and/or weak who should know she's poison, though that doesn't make what she does right. One lawyer even turned it around back on her but he was vile and I was glad when Mom ruined him even if he was as cruel to her as she's been to many others. But then if someone murdered my mom for her bitter Scorpio sting I wouldn't hold it against them despite grieving my mother's passing. Perhaps if I knew more about that lawyer's life as I do Mom's--and how she became the person she is today--then I'd have the same limited understanding for him that I do for her, don't know.)

My dad, having been hurt really bad by my mom, is now a sugar daddy, and sex is all business with no lifelong loyalty promised. I think it's sad but I understand why and since he's completely honest about it to the women he gets into such a relationship with (and to my knowledge does nothing to stop them from leaving if they choose) then it's ethical and okay in my book and I don't look down on him or the women he makes a deal with (including one who got herself through college that way before she left Dad). And when he complained of one getting all upset because she couldn't make him fall in love with her like some cheesy romance story I looked down on the woman for being stupid rather than my dad for being cold and businesslike about it as he fired her and found a new woman since he told her what she was getting into but she thought she could somehow manipulate him into changing his mind. But had Dad led her on and promised marriage, etc, then that would be different and I'd look down on him instead. (That said, I do avoid thinking of my dad engaged in it. )

The sex itself (or lack thereof) is irrelevant to me, it's the behavior around it that is important to me (that is the ethics matter but the sexual behavior itself does not). And they don't have to be like me. That is I'm not going to cast judgment on others because they have more or less sex than me or in different ways from me. Yeah, I know this is pretty radical.

It's rather ironic in that I care a lot less about sex yet have less hangups about it, I guess because it doesn't have such power over me. Though what really baffles me is why those so eager to get laid (even if they hold off on it) are so easily icked out by the messes involved and such. I guess all the sweating from my athletic lifestyle and spending so much time on farms and such helped me to accept (and make peace with) that life is dirty, messy, and sometimes filthy. It doesn't mean I roll or bask in filth but I don't freak out over it, fight revulsion, or worry about it the way many others with much stronger sex drives do.

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Gemmi
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posted August 09, 2015 03:31 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Gemmi     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I have Venus square Uranus and Moon opposite Uranus and this is NOT my kind of thing.

But that’s maybe because I have Sun, ASC and Venus in Virgo.
Plus Venus is in the 12th house, trine Neptune and I have Pisces on the DSC. I am very idealistic when it comes to love, romance, sex etc..
Ps. My Mars is in Scorpio and it conjunct Uranus

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Moon (Aries) Square Uranus (Capricorn) (6 degrees, it's abit wide)
Venus (Taurus) Sesquisquare Uranus (Capricorn)
Mars (Aries) conjunct Moon (Aries)
Mars (Aries) square Uranus (Capricorn)

I have nothing against casual sex between people who know what it is and have clearly spoken about this and agree to the relevant terms and conditions.

However, I can't say that I'm personally a fan of one night stands or casual sex, but I definitely think that people should be allowed to do what they want provided that they are well informed.

For me personally, I feel more comfortable with a situation that is set up 'more than a sex buddy, less than a relationship' - however, this situation is often hard to manage and keep under control. So that's why a lot of my relationships seem to die, getting on the same page is difficult. Either I want more than I initially made out, or they do it's a surprise to the other person.

I think sex is great (and experimenting with someone you trust is also great - it's also important for me to be with someone who is willing to try things within reason.) However, this is always easier to do this when you have a connection to the person i.e. a solid history/relationship and it's amazing!

Without the connection/relationship, it's still ok to me theoretically but, it doesn't fulfil the my heart's need to BOND and really CONNECT (Scorpio Ascendant). So I often excuse myself from situations where that is likely to be the case.

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posted August 09, 2015 07:50 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for next to neptune     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I got both aspect... lol!

Well, now I have a boyfriend and I'm not free on the market, but once I was single I really enjoyed flirting and not exactly just sleeping with everyone, but I liked to flirt with people I found interesting and not having to take everything that seriously.

I think thats also how I ended up with my current boyfriend back in the days, cause we are both very uranian and not especially stable, but together we make a really strong union I think Maybe it's because of all the saturn in our synastry lol!

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posted August 09, 2015 09:01 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for wheresthemoon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I have Venus trine Uranus and Venus in 11H with Mars in Cancer.

Casual sex is not something I ever thought I would be interested in, but over the past month I've developed a friends with benefits type "relationship" with a guy. Due to my Mars in Cancer, it was rough at first. I had never been with someone physically who didn't have strong feelings for me, and I started developing feelings. Since I squashed those out, it's been a nice little arrangement, although I find sex with someone you love deeply to be much more fulfilling. And a lot less scary.

To sum up, I wouldn't sleep around, but I kind of like the whole friends with benefits deal, aside from the emotional complications.

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posted August 09, 2015 01:08 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Meatballzzzzzz     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Moon/Uranus
Taurus Mars.

I've never liked it.

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posted August 09, 2015 01:25 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Moon/Uranus
Mars in Gemini

I like it for now but it isn't a lifestyle I could see myself living out forever.

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posted August 09, 2015 01:47 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for teasel     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Pixie, I think the "ew" feeling goes away when you're really attracted to someone. When I was younger, I really wanted to act on feelings, but didn't like what I'd heard about it.

I know someone online, who met an escort that he fell in love with, and asked her to be his sugar baby. He kept trying to woo her, but she finally ended things, because she was finished with school, and was getting serious with her previously non-committal younger boyfriend. He's now using a sugar baby site, to find more dates, so that he isn't reduced to dating women his own age - who he continues to put down, but praises young women because he can buy affection from some of them. I don't have his birth information.

I have gone through a few periods where I thought about just having flings. One time was when Uranus was conjunct my Mars, square Moon/Venus, but I really wanted a boyfriend, not to sleep with strangers.

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Doux RÍve
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posted August 09, 2015 02:07 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Doux RÍve     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Notice how most of you that say 'not my thing' have an Earth Mars. It's quite astounding.

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