posted October 28, 2015 01:48 PM            

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Originally posted by PixieJane:
I used the term "older" sloppily. Really, it's guys of all ages, though I find it notable that guys my age and older are gonna stare at teen girls, but then they do a lot.

Not EVERY one, of course. Not necessarily you. But a lot. Of all ages. (ETA: I don't even consider most of it offensive or worrisome, btw. It depends on HOW they do it.)

That said, your seeing the FACT pointed out that plenty of men stare, including older ones, mean that therefore we're saying that you're out drooling like some old obvious pervert who can't do anything else (like be on LL) is absurd. You're the one with the victim mentality, and yes, you should leave the thread if you can't handle it. I'm tired of always having to check my words because of people like you coming to some absurd conclusion that it's all about them personally. A general statement isn't a specific statement about you. I even stopped making joke threads on LL because too many were finding a way to find "passive aggressive insults" hidden in them, like the only reason I wanted to share a laugh was so I could be nasty to them personally when I wasn't even thinking of them.

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Please.
As if you never post links to random definitions of personality/sexual types in order to make a clear distinction and correct someone.

posted October 28, 2015 02:19 PM            

Sometimes people look dreamy when they stare at me.

posted October 28, 2015 02:47 PM            

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Originally posted by NYCdodger:
A lot of us younger guys in our 20s prefer women your age

I still have a crush on Rosie Perez and Stacey Dash

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Aww, you young guys do provide one helluva boost to the ego when we mid-lifers are going through our 'crisis'.

Astrologically, I've read that the sign on your 8th house cusp can indicate what you naturally attract to yourself. Aquarius rules my 8th, so younger people do seem to just like me in general. My husband is even a few years younger than me.

Back on the thread subject... I think whenever we are getting a LOT of stares, like an unusual amount, to the point where it makes us wonder, "What in the world is going on here?", then we should check our transits. A really strong or tight transit to our AC can make us stand out like crazy. Other people will often notice an 'energy' or 'aura' about us that is typified by whichever planet or asteroid happens to be hitting our AC exactly.

posted October 29, 2015 08:09 AM            

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Originally posted by Wild Horses:
Aww, you young guys do provide one helluva boost to the ego when we mid-lifers are going through our 'crisis'.

Astrologically, I've read that the sign on your 8th house cusp can indicate what you naturally attract to yourself. Aquarius rules my 8th, so younger people do seem to just like me in general. My husband is even a few years younger than me.

Back on the thread subject... I think whenever we are getting a LOT of stares, like an unusual amount, to the point where it makes us wonder, "What in the world is going on here?", then we should check our transits. A really strong or tight transit to our AC can make us stand out like crazy. Other people will often notice an 'energy' or 'aura' about us that is typified by whichever planet or asteroid happens to be hitting our AC exactly.

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My 8th cusp is Virgo

posted October 29, 2015 03:38 PM            

I think a lot of it has to do with the fact that I LOOK sweet and innocent thanks to my Pisces Sun/Taurus Moon, but my energy/aura is on FIRE. And Pluto enhances most of it in some way. Actually, it's easier to list what it DOESN'T aspect; Moon, Merc, NN, MC/IC axis (but Pluto is in my 4th) and the widest aspect is 4 degrees for the square to my Leo Asc. Sooooo much Pluto haha. Something I found interesting: the co-rulers of my Sun, Jupiter & Neptune that form a YOD with my ASC, are the only planets that Pluto forms easy aspects with. Trine and sextile respectively.

All the fire influence and Pluto intensity mixed with the perceived Pisces mystery/ethereal vibe is a weird combination for people to try to wrap their head around. It's okay. I get that... But sometimes I want to tell people to take a picture because feeling their eyes on me can make my skin crawl sometimes.

I try to take it as a compliment usually. When I was younger it made me self-conscious. Now, I make eye contact and smile to let them know I see them seeing me. Some look away, embarrassed, some smile back. With my Leo Asc, I used to think that was the culprit and it was making me feel like I was always in the spotlight or always being watched. Then I noticed it was actually happening lol

Look at it this way, for the brief time that you are in that person's line of site, you are the center of their attention. How can that not make you feel good?

posted October 29, 2015 04:24 PM            

So ... perhaps consider the possibility that people are staring at you not because of your irresistible charisma or because you are a vision of perfection and beauty, but because you are wanting that attention and making sure you get it using some bizarre combination of body language and clothing.

Nothing wrong with doing this, but don't play innocent about it. You know exactly what you are doing.

posted October 29, 2015 07:20 PM            

Does not apply to me, nor the teen girl I mentioned. I doubt it applies to the vast majority...and if that woman you described said something, I'd have said something.

posted October 29, 2015 07:25 PM            

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Originally posted by Taineberry:
This thread gave me a little chuckle as it reminds me of a girl i used to work with years ago. In a tone of breathless innocence she would tell me "Oh, you know I went for a walk at lunch time and EVERYONE on the street was just STARING at me. So AMAZING, I just can't figure out why". I would nod and agree it was a true mystery. After all it could not have anything to do with her ultra short mini skirt, fishnet stockings and mile high red platform shoes worn at midday. Or perhaps her amplified bum wiggle and tendency to gaze deeply into the eyes of passing strangers ... etc.

So ... perhaps consider the possibility that people are staring at you not because of your irresistible charisma or because you are a vision of perfection and beauty, but because you are wanting that attention and making sure you get it using some bizarre combination of body language and clothing.

Nothing wrong with doing this, but don't play innocent about it. You know exactly what you are doing.

Just sayin'

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posted October 29, 2015 08:28 PM            

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Originally posted by Taineberry:
This thread gave me a little chuckle as it reminds me of a girl i used to work with years ago. In a tone of breathless innocence she would tell me "Oh, you know I went for a walk at lunch time and EVERYONE on the street was just STARING at me. So AMAZING, I just can't figure out why". I would nod and agree it was a true mystery. After all it could not have anything to do with her ultra short mini skirt, fishnet stockings and mile high red platform shoes worn at midday. Or perhaps her amplified bum wiggle and tendency to gaze deeply into the eyes of passing strangers ... etc.

So ... perhaps consider the possibility that people are staring at you not because of your irresistible charisma or because you are a vision of perfection and beauty, but because you are wanting that attention and making sure you get it using some bizarre combination of body language and clothing.

Nothing wrong with doing this, but don't play innocent about it. You know exactly what you are doing.

Just sayin'

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And your explanation for those who don't wear revealing clothing is....?

posted October 29, 2015 08:40 PM            

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Originally posted by wheresthemoon:
It's not outside of the realm of possibility that people are looking at each other because they look nice lol.

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Or ugly. Or scary. Or freakish. Or of a class or subculture that provokes strong reactions (good or bad). Or even just to read what's on someone's shirt. Or maybe admire those shoes. Or just because the one looking is bored, and maybe their eyes instinctively turned to motion and even as they look at you s/he is also thinking of a later appointment at the same time so even as they look they're not fully engaged in what they're seeing...

posted October 29, 2015 08:44 PM            

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Originally posted by PixieJane:
Or ugly. Or scary. Or freakish. Or of a class or subculture that provokes strong reactions (good or bad). Or even just to read what's on someone's shirt. Or maybe admire those shoes. Or just because the one looking is bored, and maybe their eyes instinctively turned to motion and even as they look at you s/he is also thinking of a later appointment at the same time so even as they look they're not fully engaged in what they're seeing...

Just pointing this out for fun (though I consider it true), please don't feel like I'm giving you a hard time.

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You're absolutely right. There are a million reasons someone might be looking. I never make assumptions when someone blankly looks at me. But there is a marked difference when they are admiring😂

posted October 29, 2015 09:05 PM            

I remember watching a YouTube video and we actually have a gland somewhere in ...maybe.. our frontal lobe (the pineal gland maybe?!) that controls our sixth sense and ultimately is what's responsible for us just automatically knowing someone's looking at us.

posted October 29, 2015 09:08 PM            

"I mostly look for the purpose of trying to read people and I try to read everyone.
In fact, I'll be making eye contact and forget that I'm doing it or nearly miss what they're saying because I'm so caught up in it.
Unless their eyes start sending signals. Like if I get the "hey baby" eyes then I may look away not out of shyness but because I didn't really mean to send that signal. LOL
Sometimes I don't care. It's fun."

I'm a people watcher. I like to figure them out or should I say, catch them in moments when they think no one is watching, etc etc. I might watch men's faces as an attractive woman walks past so that I can have a little chuckle to myself as they try to hide where their eyes go. I'm the guy that sits along the edge of the room and just watches.
One, that I don't want to be watched myself.
But also that I like to see those fleeting moments for spilt seconds when someone drops the mask and you see that the friendly person is feeling sad, or irritated. Maybe their cheeks flush from frustration that they are trying not to expose. That tiny moment when their face relaxes and you can see how they really felt about what someone said to them. Lots of times it's just in the eyes. Sometimes it happens for just a tiny moment and you have to be watching. Like when someone quickly flickers the light to a dark room. It's very brief but you can remember that image and know what the view is.

This is, for the most part, why one might catch me staring.
If I'm actually "checking someone out" because they are attractive it's almost a guarantee that they'll never see it.

We all make mistakes (that's my way of acknowledging that I'm anything but perfect, I know!) But I feel with the crap that we see on television and the news that we become conditioned. Good example, someone I know Met their husband online and at first their mom was buying into this catfishing and serial killer stuff. No, now they're married with a beautiful child. We tend to think the worst.
I've seen people who wish they had children or a person that reminds them of their child or grandchild, which would cause staring.

posted October 29, 2015 09:18 PM            

Libra suns tend to dress very well. There's a Libra sun male at work that I catch myself looking at. Simply because I admire that he has such a great body (Not in a personally sexually attractive way but his "nearness" to perfection. An admiration of the dedication to hard work to have it. His body speaks of his drive and discipline. Which is admirable to me.

posted October 29, 2015 09:23 PM            

I personally know of several men, (work, friends, friends of friends) aged 30-60 who look at every young woman that they cross paths with.
My personal reasons, 9/10 are the "light flicker".

I'm sorry about yesterday, BUT, you'll see me post tune and time again that I HATE, hate being misunderstood and feeling that assumptions are being made because of that misunderstanding. Even if I'm wrong, there's a good chance I'll get snappy if that's how I feel. Which is why I was different with RoseLily. She first made sure to clear up possible misunderstanding, which did clear things up and all was well.

posted October 29, 2015 09:30 PM            

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Originally posted by Faith:
Oh I thought this thread was going to be about having spiritual entities staring you down, making your skin crawl, making you act weird in public as you tried to avoid "them."

Now I'm disappointed...

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Been a while since I typed "lol" and meant it literally! TY Faith!

posted October 30, 2015 06:02 AM            

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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
And your explanation for those who don't wear revealing clothing is....?

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