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Topic: Apologized to an Aries, no response
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Odette
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posted November 01, 2015 07:37 PM
  
Sigh....Soltze.... It is very wide for a Pluto aspect! Maybe if you take into account composite - in the sense that it might affect both of them because of the overall vibe in the relationship. But in that case, it's not just one person playing "Pluto". I'm sorry I didn't mention you directly, but my comments weren't personal at all.
I was worried that - the info posted - would only perpetuate caligal's impression that this Aries person is a control freak (and was out to get her). ^ And I feel like this impression (or perception) she has, is actually not very good for her - and it will not help her overcome the problem ... but that's just my two cents. IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted November 01, 2015 07:38 PM
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Originally posted by caligal2015:
Odette, thanks for your input. I just wanted to reply to Teasel to explain how darn confusing this is. My hubby and friends and I had a great time last night for Halloween. I'm sure when this is completely behind me, I'm gonna look back on it and say "that was freaking weird!!" I did make mistakes and need to take away the lessons learned.
This is great. The more you go out and have fun with people - who are true friends... the more this will fade to a grey area!
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Odette
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posted November 01, 2015 07:39 PM
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Originally posted by Isa:
I AM crying, guys. So much libra hate 
I Libras.. Don't worry! Libra is one of the most loved and least criticised signs!
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athenaia
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posted November 01, 2015 07:41 PM
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Originally posted by Isa:
I AM crying, guys. So much libra hate
Aw this was definitely not supposed to be bashing thread.. especially not on my part. I love Libras, truthfully. I think me and Selenite could relate all too well to the narrative at hand but from the other side of the mirror. IP: Logged |
Soltze
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posted November 01, 2015 07:59 PM
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Originally posted by Odette:
Sigh....Soltze.... It is very wide for a Pluto aspect! Maybe if you take into account composite - in the sense that it might affect both of them because of the overall vibe in the relationship. But in that case, it's not just one person playing "Pluto". I'm sorry I didn't mention you directly, but my comments weren't personal at all.
I was worried that - the info posted - would only perpetuate caligal's impression that this Aries person is a control freak (and was out to get her). ^ And I feel like this impression (or perception) she has, is actually not very good for her - and it will not help her overcome the problem ... but that's just my two cents.
Ok. Yes, she needs to focus on her life and being relaxed, enjoying herself... I see from the placements the other person isn't controling per se. But synastry can make people act slightly out of character. I also agree that the composites can clarify things, synastry doesn't alone. Especially with the aspect being wide. I won't ignore the DW though. But it doesn't matter. I read your post Odette, and I understand your reasons. Well, sorry for the off-topic.
It's no good to emphasize the friend situation anymore. Also, it's better to focus on self-knowledge or giving astrology a break when things are too tense. To gain distance. I mean this in general for anyone who might be Reading. I used to obssess a bit over things like these when I started to get into astrology IP: Logged |
caligal2015
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posted November 01, 2015 08:15 PM
It's like you guys are speaking a foreign language to me. Lol. IP: Logged |
teasel
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posted November 01, 2015 09:01 PM
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Originally posted by Isa:
I AM crying, guys. So much libra hate
No Libra hate here! And I only dislike one Capricorn. (Offline.)
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jupitersgirl
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posted November 03, 2015 04:04 AM
I think you've spoiled her too much caligal and now she is trying to make you crawl to her. Just let her go. And I'm sure that she does care but she just wants to satisfy her ego. She's not worth your sincere apology ( which was unnecessary imo)...IP: Logged |
caligal2015
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posted November 04, 2015 05:11 PM
Thank you Jupitersgirl. I read your reply to my husband and he said "I agree 100%"On Monday evening, I basically closed up shop with her. I e-mailed her that I get her silence is her answer, that I meant everything I said and wished things could be different. On Monday night, she again accidentally liked something on my facebook. On Tuesday morning, she must have accidentally liked a recent video on my husband's profile, because he rec'd a text message alert but when he went to his Facebook page, there was no alert. I do not think she's doing that on purpose. I am sure it's completely accidental.
I really don't understand why, though. You've iced me out completely. You have not said ONE WORD to me since you unfriended me.
But you are going on both of our Facebook pages? And why my husband? So odd. Maybe she's seeing if I've blocked her, like I did before. I don't get why though, I mean, she's ignored me so hard I've questioned my own existence. LOL. And my husband did say that he thinks she probably wants me to beg. quote:
Originally posted by jupitersgirl:
I think you've spoiled her too much caligal and now she is trying to make you crawl to her. Just let her go. And I'm sure that she does care but she just wants to satisfy her ego. She's not worth your sincere apology ( which was unnecessary imo)...
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hannaramaa
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posted November 04, 2015 06:35 PM
Sounds like a game to me...c'mon. "Accidentally" liking three or four things? And then taking the time to REMOVE your like? Totally a Mars in Gemini thing to do because we're neurotic like that. I feel like she knows you get those alerts and its to remind you she's around. ...child's play! I bet she'd say something to you if you deleted her...but I didn't suggest that.IP: Logged |
caligal2015
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posted November 04, 2015 06:41 PM
We arent friends on facebook. My husband and I have the following button enabled, which allows anyone to like our posts. Not just friends. I dont think she is doing it on purpose, last she knew we discussed how my hubby and I had taken the app off of our phones. Plus she's kinda airheady and had done that a few times before- even when we were friends...she'd like and then unlike a post and then I would ask her if she saw said post. "No, didn't see it. I really don't go on facebook too much." That happened a few times, which leads me to believe that's still the case. Obviously, she's still on our profiles either way. Even though im dead to her. IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted November 04, 2015 06:53 PM
I would bet otherwise honestly. Like why would you be on someone's profile if you didn't like them? I wouldn't be (I'm triple Aries though and I didn't see what else she had in her chart). You sound like a very trusting person. For someone who's clicking around a lot (her) I wouldn't believe anything she says. It probably sounds weird but I just know.IP: Logged |
caligal2015
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posted November 04, 2015 07:07 PM
Yes Hanna, I agree. Accidental or not, she's still on both of our profiles even though she's iced me out. I don't think I'd do the same. Yes, I'm very trusting. Lol. IP: Logged |
jupitersgirl
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posted November 05, 2015 04:17 AM
I'm sure it was accidental and I'm sure it's because she's not cool about this situation at all.She is trying to make you feel as if you mean nothing to her but she has failed to do so lol. She is waiting impatiently for you to continue chasing her. She has a very fragile ego that can be hurt very easily. She is probably calling this "pride" but it's actually pure insecurity. You don't need toxic, manipulative people in your life, you are way too kind for this person. And you've done nothing wrong.IP: Logged |
caligal2015
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posted June 19, 2016 09:48 AM
Just wanted to update. IP: Logged |
caligal2015
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posted June 19, 2016 09:51 AM
Soltze,You ended up being right. She did come back...after 8 months of the silent treatment. You're right, there was w toxic element involved as this was a karmic friendship. I had remembered that someone called this on here and I wanted to come back and give you kudos. She ended up being controlling and calculating and everyone on here is right, we just weren't a good fit. Very interesting to read this thread now. quote:
Originally posted by Soltze:
She probably want's to see if you're affected by the distance and the fight. That's why she looked at your facebook. She want's to know stuff while at the same you two aren't getting along.In my opinion she is the most controlling since it's her Pluto conjunct your Sun. I don't wan't to be radical but I feel in my gut there's a toxic dynamic going on here. Trust me she will come back and you will still hear from her. But I would cut her off if I were you. It sounds like you have other friends who already warned you. For me this has nothing to do with her Aries placements. Aries people are very straightforward and I love it.
The Pisces placements she has make her a sensitive person. It's just that you two aren't very compatible. Sun square her Mars/Saturn can be a source of irritation as well
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hannaramaa
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posted June 19, 2016 11:51 PM
Thanks for the update! Glad to see you came to terms with it, you sound very level headed which is why you guy were subconsciously attracted to each other as friends in the first place. Wishing her well too, life is hard with that kind of mindset.IP: Logged |
Sulkyarcher
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posted June 20, 2016 12:11 AM
You two don't sound like you have much in common, at all.IP: Logged |
caligal2015
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posted June 20, 2016 02:08 AM
Yes, I wished her well, too. Although it was painful, I learned many lessons and grew from it. quote:
Originally posted by hannaramaa:
Thanks for the update! Glad to see you came to terms with it, you sound very level headed which is why you guy were subconsciously attracted to each other as friends in the first place. Wishing her well too, life is hard with that kind of mindset.
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