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Topic: Apologized to an Aries, no response
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caligal2015
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From: California
Registered: Oct 2015
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posted November 01, 2015 01:16 AM
  
I apologized to my Aries former friend my my part in transgressions in our friendship. That was last week and I haven't heard a word from her. I felt I was sincere, apologized, and said I was interested in starting fresh. Now, not a word and it's been a week. Am I experiencing the Aries ice. My friends, knowing the entire story, aren't too happy with her because they don't think I had much to apologize for and having read my apology to her, they said that as a wife and mother and how genuine I was, common decency would be to say something...even to tell me to get lost. How should I proceed? If I haven't heard from this Aries after a week, is she icing me out? Should I just go on posting pics with other friends on my facebook page? The weird thing is, she must have got on my facebook page because she accidentally liked one of my pics the day after I sent her the email apology. So you're going on my page, but not saying a word and icing me out? I read Aries hate to be pursued, so I won't be contacting her again. The silence hurts me though. I'd rather she just say "no chance" than nothing at all. IP: Logged |
LaceyLeigh
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posted November 01, 2015 01:20 AM
Could you post the synastry from astro.com? But, I completely agree with your friends, based on what you're telling us, you have very little to be sorry about. However, you did your part, maybe even a little more, Aries hate to be CONSISTENTLY pursued, so I'd back off. Stereotypically, Aries individuals tend to get over things quickly, but depending on her signs/the synastry between you two, she could be a grudge holder. I knew a Pisces moon like that, she wouldn't add me on her social media pages, but she would like my friends' pictures of me and comment on them. It was weird. IP: Logged |
caligal2015
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posted November 01, 2015 01:27 AM
Hi Lacey,Thank you. I don't have any issues with any friends and I absolutely loathe losing connections. I never understood her. I still don't. I don't know if she is taking her time to reply, because she always did from day #1.
She seems very masculine, although she looks feminine so I don't know how to approach this. Not saying anything is leaving this so ambiguous. She's 41, a wife, a mother...I wish she would say something to provide closure. This is a woman I deeply admired. She was everything I wanted to be (now, not so much). Honestly, I haven't been ignored like this since I was a teenager. I will do that. IP: Logged |
caligal2015
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posted November 01, 2015 01:52 AM
I had to guess a time of birth, as I have no idea. Could the difference in time make her an Aries moon instead of a Pisces moon?  IP: Logged |
caligal2015
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posted November 01, 2015 02:02 AM
The biggest efforts she made is when I was no longer interested in the friendship. Is that typical of an Aries?
When it was apparent I was staying in the friendship, she didn't make much of an effort. Felt very hot and cold and bordering on a relationship. Like something a man would do. IP: Logged |
missblyss
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posted November 01, 2015 02:41 AM
I would take it as she is either undecided or has maybe pushed it to the back of her subconscious and hasn't really thought too much about it. In my experience with Aries is that they usually tend to tell you one way or the other. I suppose you will find out eventually! I do feel like she may reply in timeIP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted November 01, 2015 03:16 AM
Hmmm no response is tricky. I would honestly take it like she's indifferent. She's not mad enough to tell you to get lost...an Aries shows you through action and sadly no message is also a message.IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted November 01, 2015 03:17 AM
Her Mars is even in Gemini like mine and this guy (another Aries I really liked!) Mars in Gemini enjoys arguing so if she wanted to tell you off then that would've happened.IP: Logged |
caligal2015
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From: California
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posted November 01, 2015 03:26 AM
I guess I just don't understand why get on my Facebook page and, I presume, accidentally like a pic. IP: Logged |
caligal2015
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From: California
Registered: Oct 2015
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posted November 01, 2015 03:28 AM
She never even provided me with an answer as to why she unfriended me on facebook. It constantly felt like we were in a tug of war. She would never stick her neck out for me. I had to invite her places. "Want to see me? Invite me somewhere" is what she said. She held all the control. On the final day of speaking, she had just given me a time to hang out. I didn't like how she dictated things to me and later that day, I cancelled our hang-out, asking her to hit me up when she had more time for a traditional friendship (was tired of everything being on her terms). 20 minutes later she unfriends me w/o saying ONE WORD and hasn't uttered anything since giving me that time to meet her. So I apologized for the things I felt I did wrong, but still, nothing. Yet the day after I email the apology, you visit my Facebook page. IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted November 01, 2015 03:32 AM
You don't have compatible Mercuries.
I know that you keep bringing up her Sun sign, but that has little to do with her style of communication.
An Aries with Taurus or Pisces Mercury would be much more polite.There is a sharp contrast between how nice and polite you can be (Libra Mercury) and how straight forward and blunt she can be (Aries Mercury). The other thing is you have opposites ACs as well as Sun signs and Mercuries... and your Moons are quincunx. This stuff doesn't bode too well for a female-to-female friendship. There is just such a big contrast between your personalities. Please don't feel bad. Just try to let this go.. I remember your first thread and I know you're very upset. But some things are just not meant to be. You tried your best to be nice and sort things out.
But you guys are simply *too* different. IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted November 01, 2015 03:48 AM
If you met an Aries person with a more compatible Moon sign like Gemini or Sagittarius, and a fellow Venusian Mercury in Taurus - you would get along much better!Please don't think this is just an Aries-thing... Or that you would have issues with *all* Aries.
It's her whole chart that's the problem. Because she is overall extremely different to you - personality wise. IP: Logged |
teasel
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posted November 01, 2015 04:48 AM
Aries Mercury can be polite.I miss responses to things and can be terrible with things like email. I also don't associate Aries with ice. I have trouble freezing people out. I'll look at the chart when I'm on a computer. IP: Logged |
DopGang
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posted November 01, 2015 05:08 AM
I was thinking Pisces moon and Venus.
They don't hold grudges but perhaps whatever happened, still hurts. IP: Logged |
Soltze
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posted November 01, 2015 06:08 AM
Off course she want's to be in control. Her Pluto is conjunct your Sun. I've seen this aspect in real life. Are you willing to be her entrance mat? Maybe not.Plus it's kind of a double whammy since your Pluto is opposite her Sun. This is heavy. You will be struggling with each other. I'm wary of Pluto-Sun hard aspects. These two have opposite natures. Pluto doesn't like the Sun shining on it's depths and inner motives. Pluto will try to grab the Sun's energy and shine to enhance its power. There is clearly misunderstanding going on. Your Neptune square her Pisces Moon isn't good. She feels confused on your intentions. Her Neptune trine your Moon is interesting, I mean this friendship started well, didn't it? You both were at ease with other? I see you're Libra Sun. Just keep in mind you don't have to be friends with everyone. If she doesn't want to continue...it's her loss. IP: Logged |
theunknown
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posted November 01, 2015 06:29 AM
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Originally posted by DopGang:
I was thinking Pisces moon and Venus.
They don't hold grudges but perhaps whatever happened, still hurts.
I agree. This is probably not an Aries moon. She has gem Mars but it conjunct Saturn. Pisces Venus conjunct Jupiter. Sun opposing Pluto natally... This is someone who is very controlled of her emotions and in cases of difficulties do not want to deal with problems heads on. She has trust issues and likes to escape. I don't think she's good for you. You two are having very different expectations. You've done your part. Just move on with your life... IP: Logged |
caligal2015
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Registered: Oct 2015
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posted November 01, 2015 09:09 AM
Thank you for that. Very informative. Yes I felt like a mat. Who is the one who doesn't want their inner motives/depths shown? She's the outer person, I think. I'm very very honest and she seemed to be somewhat secretive. Yes, it started well. We do get along quite well in person. quote:
Originally posted by Soltze:
Off course she want's to be in control. Her Pluto is conjunct your Sun. I've seen this aspect in real life. Are you willing to be her entrance mat? Maybe not.Plus it's kind of a double whammy since your Pluto is opposite her Sun. This is heavy. You will be struggling with each other. I'm wary of Pluto-Sun hard aspects. These two have opposite natures. Pluto doesn't like the Sun shining on it's depths and inner motives. Pluto will try to grab the Sun's energy and shine to enhance its power. There is clearly misunderstanding going on. Your Neptune square her Pisces Moon isn't good. She feels confused on your intentions. Her Neptune trine your Moon is interesting, I mean this friendship started well, didn't it? You both were at ease with other? I see you're Libra Sun. Just keep in mind you don't have to be friends with everyone. If she doesn't want to continue...it's her loss.
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caligal2015
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posted November 01, 2015 09:14 AM
I have to say this astrology is very interesting because she was very controlling of her emotions and seemingly of mine. I had unfriended her on facebook (then she reeled me back in) and said something like "next time I'll talk to you before doing that" and she became visibly uncomfortable and sorta snapped at me. Then went right back to being her.
It was very strange to watch. It's like any emotion that she wasnt expecting and wasn't apart of the script, was hated by her. I mean she became uncomfortable and even shook her head like she was shaking it off.
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Originally posted by theunknown:
I agree. This is probably not an Aries moon.She has gem Mars but it conjunct Saturn. Pisces Venus conjunct Jupiter. Sun opposing Pluto natally... This is someone who is very controlled of her emotions and in cases of difficulties do not want to deal with problems heads on. She has trust issues and likes to escape. I don't think she's good for you. You two are having very different expectations. You've done your part. Just move on with your life...
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caligal2015
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posted November 01, 2015 09:23 AM
You guys so rock!! It's sad that I have to come for answers because of the situation but this is informative and interesting. My question is, why get on my page after I emailed you the apology? Is she just being nosy? Semi-interested? Etc.? I guess I wouldn't go on anyone's Facebook page if I didn't even feel they were worth saying ONE WORD to. IP: Logged |
teasel
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posted November 01, 2015 09:32 AM
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Originally posted by caligal2015:
I have to say this astrology is very interesting because she was very controlling of her emotions and seemingly of mine. I had unfriended her on facebook (then she reeled me back in) and said something like "next time I'll talk to you before doing that" and she became visibly uncomfortable and sorta snapped at me. Then went right back to being her.
It was very strange to watch. It's like any emotion that she wasnt expecting and wasn't apart of the script, was hated by her. I mean she became uncomfortable and even shook her head like she was shaking it off.
You were telling her that it would happen again. I can remember when a "friend" made it sound like we might have trouble one day, all because I'm an Aries. I felt kind of "on guard" after that, and we did have problems later on, because she suddenly got angry and basically dumped me when I was already in hell. She was nice, later on, but I couldn't get past that. I'm currently concerned about an Aries friend, and am also very depressed, so I wouldn't jump to the conclusion that she's just controlling. IP: Logged |
caligal2015
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posted November 01, 2015 10:11 AM
Teasel, I'm sorry im replying on my phone. The full statement of mine was basically if I had any issues down the road, would talk to her first rather than assuming. Maybe that's the same thing. Just wanted to clarify. IP: Logged |
teasel
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posted November 01, 2015 10:41 AM
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Originally posted by caligal2015:
Teasel, I'm sorry im replying on my phone. The full statement of mine was basically if I had any issues down the road, would talk to her first rather than assuming. Maybe that's the same thing. Just wanted to clarify.
No, that sounds better than what I was talking about. But the other things I said might still apply. She might also have been hurt enough to delete you at the time, by the comment you made to her, and then realized that she'd been too quick to do that herself. I don't know your friend, so all I can do is assume things based on what you've shared.
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Ami Anne
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posted November 01, 2015 11:53 AM
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Soltze
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posted November 01, 2015 12:13 PM
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Originally posted by caligal2015:
You guys so rock!! It's sad that I have to come for answers because of the situation but this is informative and interesting. My question is, why get on my page after I emailed you the apology? Is she just being nosy? Semi-interested? Etc.? I guess I wouldn't go on anyone's Facebook page if I didn't even feel they were worth saying ONE WORD to.
She probably want's to see if you're affected by the distance and the fight. That's why she looked at your facebook. She want's to know stuff while at the same you two aren't getting along. In my opinion she is the most controlling since it's her Pluto conjunct your Sun. I don't wan't to be radical but I feel in my gut there's a toxic dynamic going on here. Trust me she will come back and you will still hear from her. But I would cut her off if I were you. It sounds like you have other friends who already warned you. For me this has nothing to do with her Aries placements. Aries people are very straightforward and I love it.
The Pisces placements she has make her a sensitive person. It's just that you two aren't very compatible. Sun square her Mars/Saturn can be a source of irritation as well IP: Logged |
Selenite
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posted November 01, 2015 01:49 PM
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Originally posted by theunknown:
I agree. This is probably not an Aries moon.
I dunno, I have iced someone out recently. And it *was* indifference on my part. I felt drained and used constantly and there was too much misunderstanding between us, to the point where it was only exhausting for me to continue to try to be close to this person.
It seems like a similar situation to yours, our moons were quincunx too, and she was a Libra, and she *did* tell the rest of my friends (who I introduced her to), that I stopped talking to her, which I also find to be inappropriate and unnecessary. We were close for years, but I actually never felt like she understood me, and it took its toll over time. So in this sense it's not personal to her, I just don't have any hope that there will be any understanding between us, and would rather not focus on it. Sorry on her behalf. Try not to take it personally.  Edit: Oops, sorry I see you said you told 'your friends' not 'your mutual friends,' sorry, still kind of *peeved about that in my case  . Man, everyone thinks Aries moons don't do the grudge thing, but we totally do! (Or maybe it's the Scorpio Venus?) IP: Logged |
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