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Topic: How to flirt with stoic capricorns?
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12muddy
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posted November 08, 2015 07:54 PM
  
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Originally posted by DopGang:
I don't vary TOO much in my approach to people or how I show interest, which has worked well for me.
It seems to be fairly universal that people like a genuine person. That's not to say boring but someone who seems to show GENUINE interest in them. Someone who's compliments are genuine and from the heart. Someone who's playfulness is genuine and not forced.
People of all kinds tend to like a person showing personal interest in them. Granted, there are people who are very private and etc but no matter who it is if you come across friendly, approachable, and genuine it goes a long way. It has for me.
I recommend this and think this is very good advice. At least from my conversations and observations of my male cap friends, this is the best route to go. I'd say use your own brand of flirting. I'm not sure about the pisces placement. Coz pisces ime is hard to pin down. The cap placements, on the other hand, may love a challenge/a good back and forth. Just don't be pushy and imposing. IP: Logged |
theunknown
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posted November 09, 2015 12:07 AM
a venus-mars conjunct person, regardless of signs, will make his/her intention quite clear. Any man who is interested in you would make his intention clear too, just with different manners/tactics.Now, I don't think it's good to be too excited with a venus-mars in pisces, as they tend to idealize their love interests and then figure out later that the person they meet aren't what they want. Pisces placements are very forgiving and non-judgemental so I'd assume he can be quite open to lots of possibilities. The lack in air/fire can be compensated with all that conjunction (in terms of focus and drives). Just take things slow, get to know him as a person ... Pisceans like things to be a little bit mystical IP: Logged |
Gemini Blues
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posted November 09, 2015 01:07 AM
People. Don't overthink this.Capricorn. Biggest fear is they're not good enough to be loved Show them that they are, in a way that doesn't make them feel used or cheap. Then kiss them. If you're paying attention, you'll know when. Cardnal earth. They'll take it from there. IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted November 09, 2015 01:24 AM
What I'll say about Capricorn... is... on the inside he is responding like any other man who is attracted to you (if he is *indeed* attracted) - but on the outside he can always - maybe even when you're officially dating - appear stoic.This appearance thing is deceptive with Capricorn.. They can have a natural poker face, even when there is no intention on their part to "hide". It takes some getting used to...
It doesn't actually mean anything negative though, so please don't take it the wrong way. Depending on the rest of their chart, Capricorn won't always know "how to" be emotionally demonstrative. So even if they feel all kinds of emotions towards you - it won't show outwardly. ^ The way their emotions do "show" is through their actions and deeds... because they will always - take care- of those they really like and want in their lives.
So if he cares, he will show you in his own way and in his own time (because they don't rush into things). They can be introverts - but they are actually not all that shy. Capricorn is pretty confident sign! Be patient and friendly (not very forward).
If you get no signals *at all* from him in the next few months - then I'm sorry, but the answer is : He's not that into you.
Because being a cardinal sign and ruled by Saturn - he is confident enough to make moves - when he is *into* someone.
Pisces is more "soft" - that's true... but having the Venus/Mars conjunction in Pisces is still pretty -assertive-... because he feels good about himself and about his appearance. So he is not an insecure person. IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted November 09, 2015 01:29 AM
Also... if you are not a very patient person, by nature... then Capricorn might not be the right match for you.People who are in a rush in life.. and impatient can be driven up a wall by Capricorn. I have Capricorn Moon and Mars - and men who have more fast-moving placements get very frustrated with me. This is just the way we are - not trying to be a "challenge"...
Capricorn is always surprised when others describe them as a "challenge".. or "hard to get"...
They kind of snicker to themselves thinking: "Really? I was just working... not avoiding you... How odd." IP: Logged |
7ate9
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posted November 09, 2015 02:23 AM
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Originally posted by Gemini Blues:
People. Don't overthink this.Capricorn. Biggest fear is they're not good enough to be loved Show them that they are, in a way that doesn't make them feel used or cheap. Then kiss them. If you're paying attention, you'll know when. Cardnal earth. They'll take it from there.
I think this is great advice. As little as I'd like to admit we really feel really insecure about our worth of being loved. IP: Logged |
lalalinda
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posted November 09, 2015 04:15 AM
Hello maggie! Welcome to LL  ------------------
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Cappi112
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posted November 09, 2015 04:34 AM
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Originally posted by maggie:
So there's this capricorn guy I work with, he also has mercury in capricorn, double cap! Oh my... he's funny but so stoic and cool. I need some ideas on how to flirt with him. He's so hard to read.
Be friends first. Don't come on strong. Be careful with being too aggressive. I am a cap, and two out of three of my serious relationships have been caps (current is a cap). They took the lead. They are not the types of men who find you attractive physically and therefore make a move. They'll take note that you're beautiful, but that is not enough for them to act on unless they're literally only going to for the night. Each time, the comment on how beautiful I was came after the first move. The first move came from him. (each cap). And it came after enough conversation to know we had things in common and that I was a real person, grounded, down to earth, kind, etc. Both cap guys I've been involved with had huge scorp influences, so maybe this part has to do with that, but: they worry more about the type of person you are at heart than any kind of physical attraction. So if you've butted heads already, they've logged that away as information on you. Most caps really don't like confrontation like that - we will do it, but it will make us a little wary. So just be careful with that and be aware that a fight with a cap can be REALLY deal-breakery, so maybe a relationship with him will be tricky. IP: Logged |
Cappi112
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posted November 09, 2015 04:37 AM
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Originally posted by 7ate9:
I think this is great advice. As little as I'd like to admit we really feel really insecure about our worth of being loved.
Yep. Pretty much hits the nail on the head. IP: Logged |
12muddy
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posted November 09, 2015 04:44 AM
^ Funny my experiences have been opposite. We do want to get to the core of our romantic interests, and that's why we don't dislike butting heads. I guess we want to see the ugly, the anger, the less than pretty sides of them. How they would react, what they would do when their beliefs are challenged, when they are in discomfort, a rough situation, when they're angry, or upset and on edge...etc...Information will be lodged away, but that's not always bad. Having such information is good for a lot of things, like seeing how compatible we are with our romantic interests. Or how to deal with/accommodate them. quote:
Originally posted by Odette:
They can be introverts - but they are actually not all that shy.
I agree with this. One of the worst things to do is to imply that they're shy because they don't respond positively to romantic advances. I personally think that it's arrogant and pompous to assume such things. Idk what kind of fantasy they have in their heads, like they're the shining knight who gonna sweep little me off my feet and I'd swoon and be eternally flattered or s.t.
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bansheequeen
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posted November 09, 2015 05:04 AM
Eveyone has great points. They need to respect a woman first of all, and they love feminine women. No ditzy girls or the type that will throw herself at a man. But they need to feel wanted and accepted. They might seem cold but they just dont feel like they can let themselves be open. If you get any positive feedback from a cap, its like a glacier, waayy more going on below the surface.IP: Logged |
Koniucha
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posted November 09, 2015 06:54 AM
There is a sexy Cap director at work.I just stare at him a lot. I notice him checking me out sometimes, but that's it. IP: Logged |
DopGang
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posted November 09, 2015 07:28 AM
I'm convinced that cap sun men are the most desired. At least on the whole. 
It's almost comical. IP: Logged |
theunknown
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posted November 09, 2015 12:09 PM
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Originally posted by DopGang:
I'm convinced that cap sun men are the most desired. At least on the whole.
It's almost comical.
Really .... Lol. I disagree. I think Virgo 
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DopGang
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posted November 09, 2015 12:21 PM
Yeah Virgo also! IP: Logged |
Faith
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posted November 09, 2015 12:26 PM
Ooooo did I hear the magic word?IP: Logged |
DopGang
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posted November 09, 2015 12:35 PM
There's a magic word?
Are you sure that you want to be giving away secrets like that? LOLIP: Logged |
Faith
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posted November 09, 2015 12:38 PM
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Originally posted by Violets:
I'm just going to throw this in for fun.  Here is one awesome Capricorn guy (Jemaine Clement from Flight of the Conchords)
!!! Love those songs. My favorite of theirs so far is Bret You've Got It Going On   IP: Logged |
Faith
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posted November 09, 2015 12:46 PM
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Originally posted by DopGang:
There's a magic word?
Are you sure that you want to be giving away secrets like that? LOL
 I meant "Virgo"....is a magic word.  And I was going to tell you, no, I'm not one of these girls who fawns all over Cap men, not me. 'Til I remembered........  Yeah Yeah I guess you're right. LOL IP: Logged |
DopGang
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posted November 09, 2015 01:04 PM
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Faith
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posted November 09, 2015 01:09 PM
^  quote:
Originally posted by hannaramaa:
I vote he's totally a fixer and wants a woman (Moon Ven in Pisces) who molds to his expectations (Mercury in Cap). He probably won't make the first move as a Mars in Pisces, and it will probably be a lot of guessing and you feeling like you're not making progress. I notice Pisces placements love to be in an "I don't know" state which drives someone as Cardinal as myself CRAZY.
Yes to the "I don't know" state especially. I have always been really sensitive to the energy of a particular moment...a lot of times I ended up dating men I had been just friends with, but then circumstances all fell together to make "a moment." It wasn't planned or even a strong wish of mine until it happened. I just liked for things to come together organically, not contrived in any way. Things are what they are, and Pisces would rather go with the flow. IP: Logged |
Violets
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posted November 09, 2015 01:46 PM
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Originally posted by Faith:
!!!Love those songs. My favorite of theirs so far is Bret You've Got It Going On
That one was hilarious as well. Those two will probably always be funny (and attractive) to me.  IP: Logged |
DopGang
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posted November 09, 2015 01:48 PM
I remember one.
"They cut his body off!""Don't you mean they cut his penis off?" "No. They held his penis and cut his body off!" IP: Logged |
Aries23Degrees
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posted November 09, 2015 02:04 PM
If you want a Cap to burn for you, you must seem stoic, asexual and "restricted" in some way.Don't flirt in the open manner that you would with an Aries. That will seem "corny" to them. Instead, switch between serious talk and comic relief; never overplay the latter however. Most times they are impressed by people who seem more preoccupied with career direction. That is sexy to most. If you want to have them hot and bothered. Wear formal clothes; as both men and women have a thing with clothes that are tight and outline the ample parts of the physique- the chest area, the shoulders, legs, butt etc. And lastly; avoid getting personal all the time. Talk about work scenarios and situations that were tricky to get out of. But you ended up succeeding. These people can be awkward in superficial social situations and often find them uncomfortable. But if you talk about something that they are familiar with. An avenue in which they partake(career is usually tops), then you will have them laughing and smiling from ear to ear. It may take a while for the Cap to get romantic however. As always,they tend to postpone love affairs and such for "later" in life. But if you start off as an admirable work mate that is climbing the same ladder,you are in a better position to hold their attention than most. All this advice is from a Venus-Saturn conjunct individual. IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted November 09, 2015 03:52 PM
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Originally posted by Faith:
^ Yes to the "I don't know" state especially. I have always been really sensitive to the energy of a particular moment...a lot of times I ended up dating men I had been just friends with, but then circumstances all fell together to make "a moment." It wasn't planned or even a strong wish of mine until it happened. I just liked for things to come together organically, not contrived in any way. Things are what they are, and Pisces would rather go with the flow.
Yay I got quoted! That's not the point, okay, moving on...agreeed! Pisces seem to like the energy feeling light hearted until it moves i to that moment. +1 Faith 😊 IP: Logged |
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