posted March 01, 2016 10:19 PM            

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Originally posted by Faith:
On an astrology site, it's data.

Hey why should single people dwell on the past either? It can also potentially confuse them.

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posted March 01, 2016 10:29 PM            

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Originally posted by DopGang:
Kind of along the lines that Faith said.

On the surface, I might agree with you. However, everyone is different. I assure you, 1,000%, if I'm talking about an ex, there is zero feeling there. There's no emotional attachment lingering on. It doesn't even need to be a matter of I'm just that cold (though many would probably say yes), but when I'm done with a relationship and I put in the work to properly leave it all behind. It's gone. I've killed it. Nada.
I had an ex try to get back with me.

We both talk about ex's to each other when it's an appropriate example to illustrate a point or whatever. We don't do it much, but neither really give it a second thought that the other is talking about a past relationship. We both are secure in that we live in the here and now, not the past.

I leave feelings all behind. [b]All of them and I have never gone back to anyone or desired it. They are matter of fact experiences. It took a little while but I think we both have gotten to a place that mentioning an ex for use of example is not worthy of raising an eyebrow. The past is the past, but as long as we remember the past for the lessons that it's taught us then we can hopefully be closer to who we want to be in the future. Learn from your "mistakes", don't pretend that they never happened. Though mistakes is perhaps the wrong word. Even if they weren't pleasant experiences, they each at least had enormous value in my personal growth. I can be thankful for that.
In fact, it strengthens my relationship because it gives me some contrast. It reminds me to be so thankful for her. A reminder not to take her for granted. Those kinds of things. Sort of like when you see neighbors that fight all of the time or watch a few episodes of "Divorce Court". (I love that show) Sometimes you think, "Wow. I really have it goooood! I'm so lucky." It really just depends on your mindset while talking about the past. It can be a positive thing for sure. If you have negative feelings lingering on or you just have a general negative view on past relationships as if it's some blasphemy then you'll gain nothing but negativity from reflection. It's all in your mind. [/B]

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posted March 02, 2016 02:11 AM            

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Originally posted by 12muddy:
I remember thinking vaguely "Ohh, a Libra again huh, heh heh ~"for a moment. It made me smile a bit as I looked at his dimpled smiles and the way he acted. Lol astro tidbits are fun aren't they.

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@DS,
Also, I suppose everyone, married or single, speculates about their past. No matter how things turned out, the people you've been with were a part of your life. Can't just erase that. The speculation may be wistful, or bitter, or neutral or simply contemplative...either way, in itself it's not cause for alarm. Especially if you're secure in your current relationship and confident of yourself and the S.O. I'd be more suspicious of people who claim they never think about their past. Deep down, everybody does - at least people who acknowledge it, are being honest.

posted March 02, 2016 08:10 AM            

I have to admit if someone tells me on a first date that they are an Aries or a Gemini I just kind of know we're going to work better as friends.

I am still wonderign what my "fantasy" match's chart would look like but funnily enough I think some of the elements I think wouldn't work for me are actually the ones I need most.

Meaning someone with perfect synasty maybe might not offer me any challenge?

I do like man who falls in love with the same intensity as me though!

posted March 02, 2016 08:23 AM              

I don't use astrology to look for partners though, I use it to answer why i feel drawn to someone. I have a really good innate instinct for being drawn to men i have abnormally good, eerie synastry with . I found out who my twin was recently , that way .i was just drawn to him and the synastry confirmed it .

posted March 02, 2016 09:24 AM            

@Elysia - Perfectly said!

@Vajra - About remaining friends with exes...that was important to me, too. In fact, it would be nice to see most of those guys again, like at a reunion, because I know we'd hug and have a friendly conversation...same as I would with the girls I was friends with. Almost the exact same.

posted March 02, 2016 11:30 AM            

When I was single I would look up a bunch of new guys. I added on FB.

One dude I started hooking up with also had a water moon sign and Mars in Leo which is opposite of my Mars sign. We both agreed that it wasn't going anywhere relationship wise. And I told him I could only do this so long. Maybe that's why we have so much sex in short period of time.

I looked up one dude I met at a party. We had some type of chemistry. That was very different. I later found out that his Venus sign is the polar opposite of mine. To even the same degree as mine! I'm not gonna lie, I was curious to know more about our polar opposite Venus sign synastry.
It's been going good, we are all official now. We have known each other for almost a year now.
I never thought I would be in a serious relationship with someone who's moon sign is not in water or earth. Since I'm a Scorpio Moon. My bf has Gemini Moon.

I am a loyal person, but I can be insanely attracted to people, instantly. Single or not. Sometimes it's like geez, I'm sure people know you are starring at them a certain way.
I was eyeballing a guy on the weekend, and I just said to my friend he's cute or something. And my friend was like "yeah, I saw you starring at him, keep it in your pants girl!" I was guy crazy ever since I was a little girl. No matter how reserved or repressed I try to be, I think it will always be part of who I am.

So when I was newly single in 2015, after being loyal to the same person for almost three years, I was ready to have some fun, after grieving the old relationship for a few months.

Anyways I try not to overthink synastry too much. Cause I did that with my ex, our synastry was "Nearly perfect" and I would convince myself all the time that he was the one. So I try not to do that because of astrology anymore. This relationship also made me realize that having similar spiritual beliefs and the same political beliefs is not what makes a relationship last.

Bf now is liberal, I'm libertarian. He thinks organic non GMO, alternative health is BS. He is atheist so he most definitely does not want to put of with me shoving astrology down his throat.
We have fun debating with each other sometimes. All that matters is that we are on the same page about being together.

I'm a Gemini Rising, Aries Sun, Scorpio Moon, Venus Pisces, Aquarius Mars.

Of all my serious relationships

Mr. Gemini: I learned not to move in with someone I've only known for two months. And that having the same taste in music does not make a relationship successful. Or someone that asks me out like "she moved on from me, so...wanna be my GF?" I said yes at the time, but later blew up at him for asking me out that way.

Mr. Scorpio: We had a lot in common, we had a lot of Mercury stuff going on in our synastry. An element of friendship. We use to message each other essays on FB, and over text each other, all the time. But he was one of those guys who pulls the line "I don't believe in labels." At first I was like okay whatever, but later realized I was in this trap, where I had this guy who treated and acted like a boyfriend to me. Though I tried to convince my self that this relationship was right, I also told myself, if this doesn't work out, I am never being with a label phobe again. Cause I'm telling you it does feel crappy, no matter how much time you spend, no matter how much he takes you out to eat, no matter how many pictures he posts of you two together. No matter how much he calls and texts. This person has an issue with it, and I let this person degrade me like this for almost 3 years.

So I came out of that relationship done with games like that. I gained more respect for myself and said that I would not commit to anyone who does not commit to me. And when it was over though I was very sad, but was also like hey, now I can be with someone who actually wants to call me their girlfriend.
Another thing, Mr. Scorpio told me what he likes in the bedroom, and I was very willing to try it all. But when it came to what I wanted he was not comfortable with it. So I would sometimes tell my self. "If this is the person I am suppose to be with, am I really suppose to go the rest of my life with out getting my needs in the bedroom met??" So I also wanted someone willing to meet my needs that way.