posted February 28, 2016 03:39 PM            

I am currently back on the dating market and being a Scorpio, it takes me so long to feel attraction to a person that "dating" is sometimes a struggle as I don't feel connected to new people - hence find feeling attraction very difficult.

I am Scorpio sun & venus, Pisces moon with Virgo rising and I think I am very typically Scorpio in most of my traits!

In terms of the loves of my life there have been three so far:

Mr Aquarius: with a Leo moon, Merc Pisces, Venus in Cap, Mars in Taurus and I loved him to BITS but his lack of drive would have driven me crazy over time as well as the fact he was never quite able to understand my dark moods!

Mr Taurus: with a Scorp moon, Merc Taurus, Venus in Aries and I was very much in love with his calm stability and passionate way of loving me and expressing emotions but AGAIN he definitely lacked some sort of deep sense of burning passion and soul level connection in me!

Mr Scorpio: with a Cap moon, Merc Scorp, Venus in Scorp and Virgo rising like me. This guy was the FIREWORKS. Total passion like crazy and proably would have been together if we met at a different time.

So when dating (especially Scorpio ladies who mayeb like me crave that soul level connection)...

What are you looking for?

Which elements are not negotiable?

Is there a perfect combination of passion and stability?

posted February 28, 2016 04:18 PM              

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Or do you think none of it matters if someone feels right?

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posted February 28, 2016 04:49 PM            

I think I am very picky as well (virgo sun) but without actually finding anything nice lol (emotional pisces moon falls easily in love (with the wrong people))

For an example I have been with way too many air people, although I know that I dont fit with them... I need someone very intense, passionate and calm (and emotional stabile!) But what you get with air people is just fun, fun and insecurity...

So I'll force myself from now on, to not fall in love with more air people... And with air I mean someone dominated by air, and having at least 1 air planet on the sun, moon, venus or mars. Air mercury is fine... but besides from that I dont want a lot of air on the personal planets... an air singleton is okay, but not if it's the moon. I have just really tried it too many times so it's a dealbreaker!

Besides that, I don't mind fire, and I would love to get an earth sign with some scorpio or cancer! Pisces is also a handful I must admit, being a pisces moon myself... they are so very cute, but just very insecure and unstable.
I just went out of a very long relaltionship with a pisces moon guy, and I really thought he was the one... they are so cute and I always fall hard in love with pisces people... but in a relationship it gets hard, because we get too emotional (because of my own pisces moon)

So its like the chances to find a guy is surprisingly low

posted February 29, 2016 10:31 AM            

Libra can get along with just about anybody
But I personally have raised my standards recently
So that's good

My favorite loves ever were a lot. I can't pick which one. My favorite personality of some of them were Aries, Aquarius and Capricorn

All of those three people had chart signs compatible to mine

posted February 29, 2016 03:53 PM            

- Look at synastry
- Keep in mind what I found.
- proceed as usual
- see if I notice the astrology playing out

posted February 29, 2016 05:09 PM            

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Originally posted by Dancing Maenad:
Let's put it this way, you could have a perfect synastry with a serial killer and yes, I know they have fans, but it's not exactly an ideal situation, is it? That's why common sense is the gold standard here.

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posted February 29, 2016 05:18 PM            

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Originally posted by misspriss:

Mr Aquarius: with a Leo moon, Merc Pisces, Venus in Cap, Mars in Taurus and I loved him to BITS but his lack of drive would have driven me crazy over time as well as the fact he was never quite able to understand my dark moods!

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posted February 29, 2016 05:40 PM            

Otherwise I am WAY too prone to dating someone just to make them feel better or whatnot.

posted March 01, 2016 05:26 AM            

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Originally posted by Faith:

Otherwise I am WAY too prone to dating someone just to make them feel better or whatnot.

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#PiscesMoonProblems

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Originally posted by Faith:

Also I have gotten squeamish with water signs in the past and bolted out pretty fast; if I had to do it all over again I would probably force myself to try to let things cultivate..

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posted March 01, 2016 05:37 AM            

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Originally posted by misspriss:

Is there a perfect combination of passion and stability?

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That's the jackpot, right?

So far, I've only ever done after-the-fact analysis. More recently, am drawing up their charts and synastry to see how it plays out for real.

posted March 01, 2016 08:58 AM            

My first boyfriend was an Aries moon Loved him! He really didn't fit the negative Aries moon stereotype. We never fought & he was never selfish or obnoxious. He did join the Marines fresh out of high school, though. 'Had a big military tattoo when I dated him again in college. That's Aries moonish.

@Elysia

Two different guys. But holy smokes I just looked at the Cancer's chart: Cancer sun conjunct Venus and Mercury, Scorpio moon! How did I date a Scorpio moon and not know it?? LOL But that explains a lot, actually.

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nor would I auto-approve someone with supposedly great synastry with me.

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posted March 01, 2016 10:05 AM            

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Originally posted by misspriss:
Or do you think none of it matters if someone feels right?

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Yeah, as long as it feels right. If s.o tickles my fancy, that's good enough lol.

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Hmm I didn't use astrology in "dating". I used it after I got together with my s.o. It has been quite beneficial for us. Overall, I think that as long as we don't get crazy obsessed over it, it'll be fine.

My s.o and I both know chinese astrology, so at the beginning we were aware of each other's signs and what not. But it was only used to make jokes and teasing/flirting at that time. He gave me a short face/physical appearance reading, most of his guesses were right. I was impressed when he guessed correctly that my chinese astro chart would be fire and wood dominated.

But yeah, like he said, such knowledge is something that we keep at the back of our minds, it shouldn't be used excessively, lest it turn into some kind of self-fulfilling prophecies.

posted March 01, 2016 04:02 PM            

I'm single . Not that it matters. I have now replaced ****** love relationships with male friends that I am not having sex with and it is letting me see my values more and realize what I truly want out of a love relationship. Wanting companionship is the last route you should go if you're looking for a love relationship. Wanting someone who is your ideal is the way to do it.

There's a **** load of ppl and I don't want to settle. I want to get what I deserve .

What else.. HMMM
I also don't really believe I'm Astrology other than my fascination with the signs and aspects , house placements etc itself BECAUSE that is what seems to be true

Cancers acting like Gemini
Scorpios like Sagittarians
Libras like Pisces
Aquarians like Cancers

At this point I'm like "f*uck it"

At the same time there is to consider that our birth chart is a general idea of our overall self throughout our ENTIRE life.. So who knows,.. Maybe I'm just meeting every single person at the wrong time? I know there's transits but there's also the natal which comes first and some people I have known my entire life don't even match up. It's insane

But besides my disbelief
And enormous derailing of this topic

posted March 01, 2016 04:03 PM            

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Originally posted by Dancing Maenad:
This. And I say it after mixing astrology and dating for the last 9-10 years. Bollocks! It messes with your head, so stop stressing about aspects, use common sense. Let's put it this way, you could have a perfect synastry with a serial killer and yes, I know they have fans, but it's not exactly an ideal situation, is it? That's why common sense is the gold standard here. Use it in large amounts! I have numerous examples of guys I dated because I did like them, but I liked the synastry or the composite way more or sometimes used astrology backwards, trying to justify my romantic choices when they were clearly unfitted (and they all fulfilled the Soulmate checklist of rules and I was very resourceful in finding more and more double whammies and asteroid links and other maddening techniques). Point is one day I have had it and decided to go to a first date with someone I thought I would never date, so I never bothered to ask for a birth date or even his sign. He's my current boyfriend and quite likely a keeper (it's still recent, we're on probation lol). But not checking astrology was the best decision I ever took and it was great! Brought back fun and excitement into the dating ring instead of just checking placements/aspects/whatever from a list. It's very easy to get obsessed and fixated on these things, don't let them rule your love life.

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posted March 01, 2016 06:19 PM            

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Originally posted by Desiring Shadows:
I feel like married people shouldn't talk and think about the single life or past relationships so much. It distracts from the now and can confuse or disillusion them.

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On an astrology site, it's data.

Hey why should single people dwell on the past either? It can also potentially confuse them.

posted March 01, 2016 07:12 PM            

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Originally posted by Desiring Shadows:
I feel like married people shouldn't talk and think about the single life or past relationships so much. It distracts from the now and can confuse or disillusion them.

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Kind of along the lines that Faith said.

On the surface, I might agree with you. However, everyone is different. I assure you, 1,000%, if I'm talking about an ex, there is zero feeling there. There's no emotional attachment lingering on. It doesn't even need to be a matter of I'm just that cold (though many would probably say yes), but when I'm done with a relationship and I put in the work to properly leave it all behind. It's gone. I've killed it. Nada.
I had an ex try to get back with me.

We both talk about ex's to each other when it's an appropriate example to illustrate a point or whatever. We don't do it much, but neither really give it a second thought that the other is talking about a past relationship. We both are secure in that we live in the here and now, not the past.

posted March 01, 2016 07:28 PM            

I don't pine away for any ex. If given the choice, I would talk to one of them, once, to clear up whatever happened at the end.