posted April 25, 2016 06:27 PM            

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Originally posted by Violets:
Jeez, you guys...

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My tone was meant to be lighthearted, hence the " " Sorry if that wasn't clear.

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Originally posted by Violets:
I'm not looking for readings, lol. Just experience, to a degree.

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I wasn't thinking about you at all, Violets.
I don't remember seeing you at IA.

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Originally posted by Violets:
If I were required to respond to someone else's thread just to be able to post a topic in there, I would absolutely never post in there.

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Well, Personal Readings doesn't have that requirement, but there is like a tacit understanding that you don't ask for readings unless you give readings.

Most of the threads are "exchanges."

I wonder if that would work at IA.

Not that it's a huge problem, having tons of people asking for readings and hardly any people answering. Obviously people are finding a way around the problem (posting elsewhere or giving up.)

posted April 25, 2016 06:45 PM            

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I wasn't thinking about you at all, Violets.
I don't remember seeing you at IA.

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I rarely post there, lol. Primarily due to the fact that my threads don't get many responses.

I hadn't thought that you would specifically have me in mind, but I would hazard a guess that I'm not the only person who would like to post in IA who is not looking for a reading from anyone.

I see that "exchange" is often required in threads in Personal Readings, so I likewise do not post often in there. I have no exchanges to offer, sorry. Does that mean I shouldn't post in the forum?

I think it's good for people to be able to learn, ask questions, etc. without feeling obligated to somehow chime in on topics they may not know much about.

That is actually one of the primary reasons I come to LL exclusively, and not to astro.com. I find their stipulations and unspoken rules of forum etiquette to be a complete turn off.

posted April 25, 2016 06:54 PM            

I didn't want to say it (although Mars hitting my luminaries is certainly opening my mouth quite a bit lately), but yes. I agree with this, and it's a fine reason that I often don't respond to other threads in there.

I sometimes fret about synastry with my son (and future son), so I may also qualify a bit there, but I completely understand what you're saying.

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So all in all I often find somewhat naive and desperate ppl in AI (MY young self included).

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posted April 25, 2016 06:57 PM            

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Originally posted by Ceridwen:

I sometimes get the feeling as if people in interpersonal astrology expect a few "experts" to give them all the answers or full readings, but in my opinion that is not how it works. We are all students of astrology at different stages of the learning process obviously.

Learning is most successful in trying to apply one`s own thoughts and knowledge to a chart and then get into an exchange of thoughts.

So if you think there are too little answered posts, respond to other people`s posts, and I am pretty sure they will get into exchange with you.

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posted April 25, 2016 06:58 PM            

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I would hazard a guess that I'm not the only person who would like to post in IA who is not looking for a reading from anyone.

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It's nice when general topics come up, the kind that anyone can participate in.

posted April 25, 2016 07:01 PM            

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But I think most of the IA threads contain charts and are asking for readings.

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Personally, I respond to thread topics that I feel somewhat qualified to participate in, and I don't pay any attention whatsoever to whether or not the OP participates in other people's threads. It's of no consequence to me, honestly. So I suppose I simply don't understand that particular issue.

posted April 25, 2016 07:18 PM            

So yeah, I'm still not understanding the major issue, but that is probably because I'm not inclined to give out free readings while simultaneously expecting something in return. At least not without specifying that I expect something in return, which I believe should be a personal choice and not a forum stipulation. And, realistically, it might just be better to charge people, because that just makes it less nebulous and confusing to everyone involved.

But that's just my way of seeing things, so whatever works.

posted April 25, 2016 07:26 PM            

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Originally posted by Faith:
That's nice, if you have done a lot of readings and never get annoyed that people complain they didn't get a reading.

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Sorry, I don't think I read this completely the first time.

Are you referring to the IA forum?

I mean, I think I'm personally getting confused, because the thread is about the IA forum, and numerous people have stated that they don't get responses when they post there (not to be confused with getting a free, in-depth reading from someone).

Clearly, I don't post in the forum often, but I'm not sure how free readings got introduced into the subject.

I thought we were just talking about a forum, and people either responding or not.

Edit.
Anyway, I'm clearly tired, lol.
I'll have to come back to this after I've had some food and rest.

But, on that note...
Maybe we need an "exchange" forum, so that it's quite clear what people are expecting from each other, although it seems to work in Personal Readings when people specify as much in the thread title.

posted April 25, 2016 08:01 PM            

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I mean, I think I'm personally getting confused, because the thread is about the IA forum, and numerous people have stated that they don't get responses when they post there (not to be confused with getting a free, in-depth reading from someone).

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Well the IA forum has that problem, where a lot of threads get no replies (even if it appears to be getting replies, often they are just bumps.)

I think that happens because people don't click on threads, because probably at least half the time, someone is asking a question that would require a full reading to answer competently. Maybe they are not asking for a full reading....but they don't understand it would take a full reading to answer the question.

So the inundation of reading requests at IA is sorta jamming up the works.

And when I refer to people complaining about not getting a reading, I'm not talking about what is happening on this thread.

I'm talking about people who post relationship charts at IA and then seem exasperated that no one answered (usually expressed within their thread.)

Rest easy

posted April 25, 2016 08:11 PM            

Maybe those threads should be moved to Personal Readings, lol.

I would chime in if someone were asking about a specific synastry aspect (or two) that I had some personal experience with, as I do in this forum when someone posts about something I know a little about.

I guess I'm failing to understand why the IA forum doesn't operate the way that this forum does, with people chiming in, and you just sort of take everything with a grain of salt?

posted April 25, 2016 08:12 PM            

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ETA: Oh I see you already got your food and rest! Nevermind...I mean....not unless you want to rest easy again.

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posted April 25, 2016 08:13 PM            

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I guess I'm failing to understand why the IA forum doesn't operate the way that this forum does, with people chiming in, and you just sort of take everything with a grain of salt?

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It DOES operate that way, for the most part.

But it's true there is a lot of dead air at IA.

Which is why people post here instead.

Which is why Lotis created this thread.

And people are saying (I think) that they still don't want to post in IA.

posted April 25, 2016 08:22 PM            

No, seriously, I don't know.

posted April 25, 2016 08:22 PM            

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Originally posted by Violets:
If people are posting charts, why aren't their threads moved to Personal Readings?

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posted April 26, 2016 12:29 AM            

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Originally posted by theunknown:
Practically speaking, maybe Personal Readibg should be a place for both and there should be a sticky thread on what to post and how to post.

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