posted June 04, 2016 05:19 PM            

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Originally posted by Electro DGX:
I find it funny that this thread was made, since there's someone lurking on the forums that is a master at this. One won't even realize what they've done wrong when they've recieved it.

But as for Aquarius, I tend to get away from people due to a need for space. With Mars Conjunct Ascendant exact, you shouldn't expect me to not be upfront and to the point. I do need to get away from people, but if I am mad I usually display it more than hide it; it makes me feel better

Mars in Cancer is a good one. Even my teacher with MiC has admitted to doing this herself, which confirms it even more. I also know a Taurus with a Libra Ascendant that does this after an argument, which is surprising because of her first house Mars (it is retrograde though).

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Do you mean a member, or someone you know offline?

posted June 04, 2016 05:22 PM            

I would honestly rather have someone let me know why they were upset rather than trying to hide it away from me and give me "the silent treatment". Somehow it just annoys me.

posted June 04, 2016 05:27 PM            

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Originally posted by Electro DGX:
I mean an actual member of this forum, which is why I thought that this topic was interesting. It's not you teasel, don't worry about it lol

I would honestly rather have someone let me know why they were upset rather than trying to hide it away from me and give me "the silent treatment". Somehow it just annoys me.

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I didn't think so, but I briefly wondered if I'd ignored you accidentally.

posted June 04, 2016 05:29 PM            

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Originally posted by teasel:
I didn't think so, but I briefly wondered if I'd ignored you accidentally.

I know what you mean. I finally just ask what the problem is, but I've had someone do it to me when I hadn't done anything - they were just in a mood, and I was around at the wrong time.

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After reading what you said, I'm wondering if people may perceive me giving the silent treatment due to my Saturn-Ascendant opposition. People always think I'm angry or something lol.

But yeah, ignoring me once is nowhere near enough to upset me. I mean this person does it so much that they've built a reputation for doing it

posted June 04, 2016 06:35 PM            

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Originally posted by Electro DGX:
But as for Aquarius, I tend to get away from people due to a need for space. With Mars Conjunct Ascendant exact, you shouldn't expect me to not be upfront and to the point. I do need to get away from people, but if I am mad I usually display it more than hide it; it makes me feel better

Mars in Cancer is a good one. Even my teacher with MiC has admitted to doing this herself, which confirms it even more. I also know a Taurus with a Libra Ascendant that does this after an argument, which is surprising because of her first house Mars (it is retrograde though).

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Well what can I say? As a Capricorn Mars conjunct MC I tend to confrontation. Too much so, I've learned when to insist and when to leave things the way they are and ignore them in order to be more beneficial for me.

posted June 04, 2016 07:08 PM            

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Originally posted by diamondbaby:
I can't believe some people said fire signs. Fire signs are known for being direct and straight forward. If we have a problem with you, we tell it right to your face. I'm fire dominant and I'm not passive aggressive and never given anyone the silent treatment.

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posted June 04, 2016 08:59 PM            

Furthermore, the silent treatment is intended as punishment, and should not be confused with say when someone goes off alone or otherwise waits to calm down before they address something. This isn't done as punishment, but trying to be able to communicate clearly with minimal chances of saying something that one regrets later, and perhaps doing some mental exercises to make sure the one's self isn't the problem with distorted thinking. If anything, they're trying to make sure they don't hurt the other person, whereas the silent treatment is all about hurting the other person.

Freezing someone out, on the other hand, is different in that the person given the "silent treatment" will NEVER be part of that person's life again. (Leo and Scorpio are both well known for this, btw.) Ideally, they won't see or have any contact with them, but if they work together or frequent the same sites or places, then it will translate as shunning. In any case, the bridge between them isn't momentarily closed off as in the silent treatment, but rather burned and walked away from.

posted June 04, 2016 09:53 PM            

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Originally posted by PixieJane:
To me, the silent treatment is where you let someone stew awhile, letting them know you're mad or upset, but refusing to talk about it even though you're right next to them. It can also be in the childish way where a person uses someone to convey a message (even as the person hears the message being said in a tone full of scorn), like in this way shown in Harry Potter. But at the same time, they expect to be part of that person's life.

Furthermore, the silent treatment is intended as punishment, and should not be confused with say when someone goes off alone or otherwise waits to calm down before they address something. This isn't done as punishment, but trying to be able to communicate clearly with minimal chances of saying something that one regrets later, and perhaps doing some mental exercises to make sure the one's self isn't the problem with distorted thinking. If anything, they're trying to make sure they don't hurt the other person, whereas the silent treatment is all about hurting the other person.

Freezing someone out, on the other hand, is different in that the person given the "silent treatment" will NEVER be part of that person's life again. (Leo and Scorpio are both well known for this, btw.) Ideally, they won't see or have any contact with them, but if they work together or frequent the same sites or places, then it will translate as shunning. In any case, the bridge between them isn't momentarily closed off as in the silent treatment, but rather burned and walked away from.

On the internet, most boards allow an "ignore" feature, and those people end up on the ignored (which means their posts and sometimes even threads can't be seen at all, nor can they be messaged) but on a site like LL then that has to be "manual." But also typical on the internet, these people typically aren't close before one puts the other on Ignore, unlike in real life (at least in real life you--or at least I--won't notice if someone you don't know that well freezes you out, and even if I notice it then I'm unlikely to take it personally and will probably forget it fast.)

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i agree with you and i loved what you said PIXIE i hated a silent treatment for a year a half and it was the WORST year and a half and i realized that i had enough of silent treatments. Yes it is intended as a complete punishment it is abuse IMO. My ex was a triple AQUARIUS in the 5th house. She was a Virgo Rising. Sun/moon square pluto.She was always giving me the silent treatment and she did it to **** me off.

posted June 04, 2016 11:01 PM            

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Originally posted by misspriss:

I am also dating a Cancer with Leo Mars and he is the king of giving me the silent treatment if he is hurt.

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That's me!

posted June 05, 2016 01:25 AM            

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Originally posted by Readytochill:
That's me!

Nothing to be proud of but I just can't help but give silent treatments. I'm trying to be better with that though.

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posted June 05, 2016 11:06 PM            

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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
As someone who does it, what do you get out of it? Why do you do it? What if you get MORE consequences as a result of being silent?

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It saves me from exploding and releasing shrapnel that can impale or slice someone. But while I calm down while this silent treatment is going on, I can really think about both sides of an argument then better explain my point of view while still taking the other person's opinion into consideration.

Instead of going silent and off the grid, I try to remember to tell the person that I need time alone. The only consequence that have come from my silent treatments is the other person getting frustrated during the whole thing but then they calm down after a while. I know that it could be worse which is one of the reasons as to why I've been trying to be better about voicing my need to be alone for a bit.

posted June 06, 2016 12:10 AM            

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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
You don't represent the whole of fire signs.

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posted June 06, 2016 12:36 AM            

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Originally posted by diamondbaby:
Umm, who said I did?

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posted June 06, 2016 11:13 AM            

Once in a while I freeze out my kids for a few minutes at a time, while I get my bearings.

I never give anyone else the silent treatment...though I'm pretty shy and reclusive in general, and often lapse into silence. It's like my burrow. Currently I owe some friends emails and cannot muster the energy to write because I am stuck at a crossroads on the issues I'm discussing with them. One friend gets upset if people don't write to her in a timely way, so what I'm doing to her now might hurt her except I've done it so many times before, and explained before, so she trusts it now. It's like she keeps me on a very long leash.

Usually it's like, the deeper I get with people, the less I actually want to talk, because it's harder to convert the deeper feelings into words. Which makes email conversations tricky...better to see them in person. I've been told so many times that my eyes are uncommonly expressive. Maybe that's why conversations are so much better in real life, I don't have to say, "I'm so sad for you about that" or whatever...you can just see it on my face. (As a side note, that's probably why I can meet a person for the first time and often they will tell me their life story. It's clear from my face that I'm just accepting.)

And I think all this is a function of my 8H Pisces moon.

posted June 06, 2016 11:31 AM            

freeze out to gather your thoughts/feelings etc. is way different than giving silent treatment to invalidate the other's feelings.

freeze out - you get back to them communicating with them again. give me some rest and i'll be back...

posted June 06, 2016 11:46 AM            

I'll mention what I posted earlier, just not quite in as much detail.
I do it all.

posted June 06, 2016 12:01 PM            

I'd rather just not deal with it so I ignore people when they're being too emotional/needy/angry, etc.

posted June 09, 2016 06:48 AM            

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Originally posted by -Chelsey-:
Guilty... Aqua Sun

I'd rather just not deal with it so I ignore people when they're being too emotional/needy/angry, etc.

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