posted September 04, 2016 10:58 PM            

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Originally posted by aquagembaby:
I understand where you're coming from, but it's only one single aspect. If it was multiple aspects then maybe you should be worried.

Also, maybe there is a lesson that can be learned from all of these people? We attract people for a reason, and even though it makes your life difficult, there's something among these people that you can take away from and there's a part of yourself that needs to be developed.

I wish you the best

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posted September 05, 2016 01:25 AM            

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Originally posted by Belage:
Aries23Degrees, I know exactly what you mean. I refuse to date people with whom I share Venus/Uranus square or opposition. Too much of a rollercoaster.

I went on a couple of dates last month with someone who when I checked out his birth date turned to have his Venus exactly opposite my Uranus. He was very much into me, but I said nope, I am not doing this again, and I emailed him to tell him I was not really interested in going on anymore dates. I don't care what anyone says, I am not going to go through that mess again.

I have Uranus exactly sextile my moon and sextile my Venus, so I am no stranger to the Uranus/Venus energy, but the hard aspects are something else.

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You take no risks.

I think its because it is clear to you that you just dont enjoy the rollercoaster ride. That is fair.

But the poor person with this aspect whom perhaps is not even consciously aware of their modus operandi,may be very disappointed that they are losing out on you.

I found it interesting that when these two people re-emerged into my life,the one with Venus-Uranus conjunct (during a very heated "lets clear the air and start over" conversation with me) said : "People have disappeared on me all the time.So i dont know why it would be so personal to you?"

I think that because it was a conjunct aspect in his case, it was like he felt that it was the "normal" thing to do. Not something that he did out of spite, but a character expression etc.

I just told him that i will keep my distance from here on so that i can give him the "freedom" he says he so desperately cant live without (i am a Sag after all).

That we can still hang out and all. But there are no strings attached and he can come and go whenever he pleases. No problem.

In the subsequent 2 months that followed, i kept my word and during the time(even now) i have never received so many text messages and invitations from him. You'd swear that i was about to die of some terrible disease soon with all the attention he is giving

posted September 05, 2016 01:36 AM            

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Originally posted by cottonball:
Moon squ/opp Venus. Means what a man wants in a wife is at odds with what he wants in a lover. You can be one or the other but never both. It feels like a futile mission unless both planets made a conjunction with my chart and I could play both women, but it still feels exhausting.

Venus-Uranus is fine if you're weird. Then you'll satisfy his weirdo Venus needs lol.

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Weird they definitely are

Venus-Uranus weirdo needs are satisfied until they haphazardly decide that the fun is over. Without telling you

No doubt i have a grand old time. But i think its the ending that i find not nice.

True that all things come to an end eventually. But i take issue with how they have ended things in the past.

The "Houdini" effect is not nice and solicits no applause on my end.So i am wondering if the new friend will do the same?

posted September 05, 2016 01:51 AM            

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Originally posted by Kannon McAfee:
It is always best to avoid using astrology to support prejudice -- pre-judging someone, or to serve as personal doom trigger. I understand the reaction, however.

Consider it a chance to consider that maybe -- maybe -- Venus/Uranus aspects indicate `detached friendship` for you rather than a total red light.

Also look at the planet-to-planet synastry aspects you have with each person. Count them up for each relationship. Synastries that don`t have a clear majority of positives over negative aspects will present more problems. If the synastry with the current person exceeds the previous two in positives vs negatives, then consider that a relationship with this one has a basis for a more positive function/outcome.

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Practical approach here. One which i may have overlooked really.

But all in all i guess there is no sure-fire way to tell the outcome of any friendship.

We could have some major squares between us that glue us together or some major sextile and trines that fizzle the friendship out naturally.

One would think that it would be the latter that is succesfull. But not always.

Well, so far its been hood(and yes, i meant that as i spelt it lol).So the idea of the detached friendship with regards to Venus-Uranus i can do.

Just the other day, we organized with some other friends and he to go to a colour festival. And guess who decides not to show? And this is after planning for a week

My other friends were really annoyed with him. And i on the other hand thought "ok, this is what detachment feels like. No expectations, no disappointments. Its all good"

The problem or issue may come when i find it hard to depend on them on the small stuff. Because it will mean that i really cant count on their support for the big things.

I do hope to keep it up. As i tend to want to bond with friends and want that reciprocation. So if it is not consistant on his end, i wonder if the "detached" approach will serve us long?

posted September 05, 2016 01:58 AM            

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Originally posted by aquagembaby:
I understand where you're coming from, but it's only one single aspect. If it was multiple aspects then maybe you should be worried.

Also, maybe there is a lesson that can be learned from all of these people? We attract people for a reason, and even though it makes your life difficult, there's something among these people that you can take away from and there's a part of yourself that needs to be developed.

I wish you the best

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Oh, cant just everyone i meet just fit into my nice,neat box and have my life lived out in a picturesque beautiful way ?

posted September 05, 2016 02:02 AM            

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Originally posted by CosmiqPhuz:
Don't know if I'd ever flat out refuse someone or dismiss them due to aspects, but I may be more cautious.

Venus square Mars in someone makes me step back a little and tell myself "let's be careful here". Not saying every person I've known with this aspect channeled it negatively, though. From what I've experienced, it's more complex and less defined than the interpretations tend to claim.

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Weirdly, i mostly form stable relations with people that have Venus/Mars aspects. Even the had ones....hmmm

posted September 05, 2016 11:27 AM            

It helps me out in real-life applications of such because for one, I know what I'm going to expect and two, I'll be ready for anything that comes my way.