posted September 01, 2016 01:10 PM            

The unusual nature of this post is due to me meeting someone who has an aspect in their chart that I didn't do very well with in the last relationships I was in.

They were not really relationships in the strict sense of the word. As much as they were friendships.

Both broke our connection off very suddenly (and without warning). And left me reeling for months thereafter i,e "what went wrong?", "what did I say?", "Did I hurt them?" etc.

When I was healing from all that, one of them appeared and then the other.Both asking for forgiveness which I was open to.But decided to keep both of them at a distance.

Lately I met someone with whom I had an immediate buzz with.We hit it off big time and there was a lot of chemistry between us

Only problem is,I feel like I have been here before and wonder if I am judging someone unfairly due to the terrible experiences I have had in my past.

This person also has the dreaded aspect, this time in opposition. And the aspect in question is Venus-Uranus hard aspect.

The two initial friends had Venus-Uranus square and conjunct respectively. And this one has the opposition.

Its too early to tell the symptoms. But when I looked at the new person's chart, a feeling of despair overtook me.

I wonder if this knowledge of the aspect is actually a blessing in disguize; so as to prevent any hurt?

But I also think that it can put people in a sort of "box" where because of the aspect, i expect the worst. And perhaps therefore end up getting it?

Would you guys soldier on with an individual that has a similar/type of aspects that proved painful the last you interacted with it?

posted September 01, 2016 05:20 PM            

I did remove an ex after a long time of him not initiating conversation with me. He added me back a year later so I attempted to talk to him then, but he hasn't really been very talkative. So, I've just let him sit in my contact list without any interaction with him since.

After being called "clingy" by someone in the past I made an effort to not be so needy in the future. At first I thought that perhaps there was something wrong with my behavior since my exes all responded in the same way. Strangely, I'm starting to see evidence that maybe I just picked a handful of bad men.

The only time I actually used an aspect against someone was when he started showing evidence of potentially being capable of acting out one of the aspects in our synastry. The person in question is my brother and because of his bad temper I am going to hold everything I can against him if there's enough astrology suggesting that my feelings are legitimate.

It's not like I'm doing it randomly and out-of-the-blue. I noticed the synastry before and went "Eh, whatever." This is even after researching what I could of the aspect.

Overall though I just consider the rest of the chart and my experience with that person before I form an opinion on whether a natal aspect is definitely going to be a problem.

posted September 01, 2016 05:38 PM            

In the past, no, but then my thinking matured. People who are the same sun sign (for example) will all have threads of behavior in common, but their differences come with how their Sun is actually aspected, and moreso based on houses and signs. Finally, there's that pesky thing called free will.

posted September 02, 2016 01:21 AM            

I mean it is kinda silly to think in such a lateral way .
Yes, there is a thing called free will. But i do remember how each of those friendships started: pure chemistry, electric, exciting and sizzling. Then suddenly......lights out!

What bugged me was how easy it was for both of them to just walk away without looking back. That was really not nice.

Well this one has Sun/Mars square my Pluto, Sun/Mars conjunct my Ic. Moon square my natal Sun.Mercury trine my Asc,Sun,Neptune and Jupiter .

And natally they have Moon/Neptune square and i find that the people i have met with this aspect, are quite nice

Ooh but that Venus/Uranus opposition in mutable Gemini/Sag though

Oddly, I have Jupiter and Mars reacting with both. Jupiter opposes their Venus, their Jupiter squares my Venus.

Whilst my Mars trines their Venus(which i believe is why they are so damn awesome right off the bat) and their Mars trines my Venus(by sign) or rather more aptly squares my Dsc angle and Juno very tightly.

My Saturn squares their Jupiter. And their Saturn conjuncts my Venus . Both Venus and Jupiter are benefics in synastry ime and their interaction here could prove interesting.

posted September 02, 2016 02:20 AM            

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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
[B]"Would you guys soldier on with an individual that has a similar/type of aspects that proved painful the last you interacted with it?"

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The reason you attract venus/uranus people is probably because your own sun or mars make an aspect to uranus.

Relationships are our own reflections and mirrors through which we look at ourselves and see our own strengths and weaknesses.

Uranus aspects ask us to be more detached, and it is for the growth of our own soul.

If you get "hurt" by the way things suddenly end, maybe this is part of your journey to focus more on trying to be less emotionally dependent on others, and stop needing others to need you.

posted September 02, 2016 02:45 AM            

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Originally posted by girlwiththerainysoul:
The reason you attract venus/uranus people is probably because your own sun or mars make an aspect to uranus.

Relationships are our own reflections and mirrors through which we look at ourselves and see our own strengths and weaknesses.

Uranus aspects ask us to be more detached, and it is for the growth of our own soul.

If you get "hurt" by the way things suddenly end, maybe this is part of your journey to focus more on trying to be less emotionally dependent on others, and stop needing others to need you.

If you work on achieving a balance with your own uranus aspects, and start liking and respecting that detached part of yourself, you will in return be rewarded by attracting companions who have achieved a balance within their own uranus/venus or moon aspects.
This way you can both form an interesting relationship which can even be charitable and beneficial to others too, besides the two people in it. You can shape a relationship which is fed by so much originality and creativity and one where neither of you gets bored.

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Interesting point. And i have also considered that.

The closest friend i have has Uranus in aspect to Moon/Merc/Mars in conjunct and Aquarius Sun. So i really cant be aroud all of that and still not like it.

If relationships are truly a reflection of whom we are, then the attraction to Uranus types cannot be that unusual if i see myself as Uranian.

The issue however is that i dont have Uranus on the angle nor making any serious aspects to my natal planets.Because even by declination, it has no alarming aspects.

posted September 02, 2016 03:18 AM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:

The issue however is that i dont have Uranus on the angle nor making any serious aspects to my natal planets.Because even by declination, it has no alarming aspects.

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personally I believe no aspect is "minor". all aspects matter.
If you're not aquaius ascendant, check to see whether if your sun/mars is in the aquarius duad, or check you 9th and 11th harmonic to see if uranus makes any aspect to sun/mars.

posted September 02, 2016 03:41 AM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
Oh yes, that chart i did do once;

And yes, i did find Moon in Aquarius duad. Is it really that powerful? Because Venus/Mars is in slow moving and steadiness seeking Taurus.

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in my experience duads are very powerful. they are usually the answer to the attractions that seem to have no other explanation.

posted September 02, 2016 04:50 AM            

In mine Sun,Neptune, Pluto are conjunct in Scorpio and oppose Mars in Taurus.

Jupiter in Virgo is in the 7th house of my duad Asc in Pisces.

I think perhaps the Moon in Aquarius is enough to explain a probable attraction to those Uranian types. As duad Uranus makes no real aspects to any of my personal duad placements.

Suffice it to say that what you said there in relation to the attractions one feels to being a reflection of the self etc. I like that. And i think that that could be valid.

posted September 02, 2016 12:20 PM            

More than anything I'll reflect on my past experiences and think, "okay this method and this method didn't work with those people, maybe I won't implement them this time around and see if we can avoid all that conflict..." stuff like that.

posted September 02, 2016 02:14 PM            

Gemini Moon
Cancer Moon
Pisces Moon
Libra Moon

I'll think twice.

posted September 02, 2016 04:10 PM            

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Originally posted by starmoon:
if i know there is an aspect or planet that i can't work with, i don't go any further, be it friends or otherwise. why bother? isn't that the whole point of having a belief in astrology?? the belief that this works and therefore, that aspect will play out similarly again. i know the aspect i cannot handle in someone, and have given it enough 'tests' to know that when i encounter it in someone, i just walk off. no two people will be the same, of course not, but that aspect will somehow surface.

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posted September 02, 2016 04:30 PM            

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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
I'm not attacking this (or not trying to anyway) but what about facing the aspect anyway and choosing to grow through it until you CAN handle it?

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posted September 02, 2016 04:45 PM            

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Originally posted by starmoon:
i did say, in the original post that i had 'tested' it several times. how many times do you put yourself through something before you need to learn a lesson?? for me, 7 is sufficient, and it is :-) bye bye to that aspect and any future people who have it

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posted September 02, 2016 04:52 PM            

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Originally posted by starmoon:
i did say, in the original post that i had 'tested' it several times. how many times do you put yourself through something before you need to learn a lesson?? for me, 7 is sufficient, and it is :-) bye bye to that aspect and any future people who have it

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posted September 02, 2016 05:09 PM            

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Originally posted by theunknown:
7 is not a big number and you change as a person too.., to assume you don't like a placement is one thing but how you interact with it reflects who you are. Just because you don't interact with something well doesn't mean it's bad....

And how a placement fits in a chart is different. A libra with a Capricorn moon will face the inner tension that a sag with a calricorn moon will not.

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posted September 02, 2016 07:56 PM            

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Originally posted by athenaia:
This response is wildly out of line. She doesn't have to disclose abuse as a rationale as to why she doesn't like certain placements, and she was calm in her previous responses when someone questioned her reasoning. She was probably triggered by what she felt was interrogation at a certain point and responded emotionally as a result. This is basic empathy 101.

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You're right. I realize that I did react strongly and so I'm sorry to starmoon for that. I'm not myself right now and my mental health is very bad, and I realize that's not an excuse for reacting to someone on a sensitive matter such as this. I was being single-minded and responded wrongly. I'm sorry. Out of all people, I should know how easily it is to be emotionally triggered and react strongly because of such, but I was being stupid and impulsive. Please don't take what I said personal for it's a lack of judgement on my part.