posted January 01, 2017 02:14 PM            

"The cold Capricorn season reminds us how far we are from where we'd like to be...." I've had the sense that where I'd like to be is soooo close, just behind a thin veil or something. On the other side of a curtain in this very room, and actually the room is much larger than it looked.

I've just been reading a self-help book that I wanted to share with this thread....the Big Sky moon article made me think of it. It's called "Sacred Choices: Thinking Outside the Tribe to Heal Your Spirit" by Christel Nani. It doesn't talk about astrology, but it resonated a LOT with the work I'm doing now astrologically, especially with my NN and SN--the premise is that to live vibrationally, in accordance with your spirit, you just ask yourself (about things, people, situations), "Does this raise or lower my vibration? Does this make my spirit sing?" If it doesn't, it means you're operating based on an internalized belief from your family of origin that doesn't serve you and isn't in line with your spirit. What's in line with your spirit is DIFFERENT for everyone!!! You'll know something is in line with your spirit if it uplifts you and brings joy and good energy and you get a "yes"---otherwise you're just burdening yourself because of old family (interpreted loosely) crap.

She tells you how to rewrite those "tribal beliefs" in a gentle way that you will believe and you can work with (example, "Nothing is worthwhile without hard work" becomes, "It is reasonable to believe that some worthwhile things come effortlessly and easily"---I made up that example, but, she has a bunch of them)

It really helped me a LOT, because some of the advice I've gotten from friends or self-help books just doesn't help me, and in fact has ended up feeling like its opposite!! for someone like me, with 7th house Cancer and 8th house Leo lunar and solar stellia and a VERY third-quadrant chart in general, the relationship advice that raises my vibration and is in line with my spirit and greatest good might be very different than for my Gemini/Aries/Taurus friend with a heavy 2nd quadrant chart. What I'm looking for might be different....the skills I have might be different.

My family line on my mom's side is all these powerful women with kind of treacherous, insidious beliefs that can end up very passive-aggressive and self-sabotaging. The powerful---but tricky---belief that we vibrationally create our own realities, for example, is true on some levels, but has been extremely pernicious to me in the way it's played out in the family mythology. It somehow warps and morphs into this other thing: "Everything that happens is your ['you' being the woman] fault, created by you, especially created by your emotions!!! BUT [conversely, paradoxically, and really toxically] you can never ever change anyone else. You have to take care of everything yourself. And even though you create the ENTIRE reality---like you got cancer because you failed to express your anger in the exactly perfect way, your relationship is bad because you're 'giving away your power' [meanwhile, in this mythology 'taking back your power' means having to leave the relationship and be on your own even if you don't want to, meeting all your needs for yourself, after all no one can love you unless you love yourself first blah blah......meanwhile, though, after leaving the relationship, the next relationship becomes equally loveless and impossible and the family mythology contains ZERO information about having a positive rekationship IN the actual rekationship)....and even though you are SO powerful that your imperfect emotional self-regulation is responsible for EVERYTHING, somehow [paradoxically and perniciously] your male partner/husband/dad/stepdad is a fixed object, like a rock or mountain, and nothing you ever do, say, want, feel, or express will ever affect him in any way....even though your vibes and emotions are so all-powerful they're responsible for everything."

The self-help culture in some ways reiterates my family mythology. And some of the messages and lessons go against my spirit and make me feel trapped....because actually, with my 7h Cancer Venus and Cancer Moon-Saturn on my DC, my cosmic imperative ISN'T to meet all my own emotional needs! It's to be in a nurturing partnership, whether with family, lover, daughter, or business associates.

Here are some of my "tribal/societal belief" rewrites:

-you have to fulfilled on your own before you can be happy in a relationship WITH it is reasonable to believe that some people thrive more in relationships and are able to mutually learn, love and grow in that context

-you can't change anyone WITH it is reasonable to believe that some of the other people in the world are like me, changing and adjusting together within relationships, and It is reasonable to believe that I profoundly affect others, just like they profoundly affect me

-you create your own reality based on your emotions and vibes, and attract what you put out WITH It is reasonable to believe that the beautiful deities in this vast universe are always available to bring me love, abundance, help and happiness EVEN IF my Cancer Moon-Saturn and I get weepy, cranky, negative, or untrusting

-if you don't get what you want, you didn't send out the right vibe/didn't really want it/blocked it with negative energy WITH it is reasonable to believe that there are many ways fulfillment arrives, and in this vast and complicated and fascinating universe, there are many possibilities of how things might work

posted January 01, 2017 07:37 PM            

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Originally posted by Elysia:
@teasel,

Hi

I messaged you over at Sweet Peas.
How are you doing?

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I'm no different, but we rang in the New Year at the movies, watching Star Wars. I've never been out in New Year's Eve before, so that was another bucket list item crossed off.

posted January 02, 2017 11:29 PM            

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Originally posted by teasel:

Hi. Sorry, Aries has to pull out all the stops with the hearts.

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Originally posted by teasel:
I'm no different, but we rang in the New Year at the movies, watching Star Wars. I've never been out in New Year's Eve before, so that was another bucket list item crossed off.

It's nice to see you. I wish we had private messages here. I'm not on my computer, and hadn't seen your posts until now.

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