posted August 24, 2018 09:46 PM            

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Originally posted by Aries Eagle:
Taurus.. so its venus

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posted August 25, 2018 12:49 AM            

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Originally posted by missblyss:
I know I totally feel like the odd one out because I asked like 50 people and every single person told me they loved violent sex and being choked and bit and whatnot

I was literally the only one who doesn't like it and it made me even wonder if there is something wrong with me! But, honestly I dunno if I have some past life **** or if I just really like a super spiritual non aggressive type of sex... I would just be really really upset and bothered if my husband tried to choke me, I am so about wanting him to respect, honor... worship me. That would feel to me like he wasn't valuing me or my body.

My mars is in Gemini In the 11th

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posted August 25, 2018 02:22 AM            

Some pain combined with an element of shock delivered the right way equals pleasure...like when he bites me it hurts for a second but then right after you feel a rush of pleasure that gives you this amazing high.

When I get spanked really hard I don't feel pain, I feel pleasure, it feels good and exciting hence why I like it. Perhaps is bc of this "is a tender zone that, when smacked just right, rouses the neighboring genitals in both men and women."

posted August 25, 2018 12:12 PM            

The guy I am seeing that is truly his thing, he likes been dominant and being in control, it comes off very authentic, he is a Capricorn with Pluto conjunct AC in Scorpio but afterwards he is Teddy bear who loves to cuddle.

posted August 25, 2018 03:21 PM            

That's exactly it! You put it so well. It's actually LESS satisfying when we're acting like our sex style is something that it isn't or doing something we just don't like naturally.

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Originally posted by hypatia238:

What is truly violent sex anyways? I don't think I have had "violent" sex either, violent sounds like you are in danger.

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posted August 25, 2018 10:19 PM            

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Originally posted by Lalafortunaea:
[b] Could be a language thing. In the other language I speak, violent can be used for anything extremely rough. Can even say someone walks violently :P But I just mean really rough with some pain.

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posted August 26, 2018 10:20 AM            

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Originally posted by hypatia238:
I would not describe my sex life as really rough though. It has an aggressive dimension yes since I met this guy that I am enjoying a lot but is not really rough or violent. I guess is all perception but you know how guys wrestle to show affection to each other? (e.g. well research supports that guys wrestleling is a way they show affection to each other instead of hugging)...Well it feels like a sexual version of that, he does NOT hurt me so it doesn't feel at all like he is been violent, his intention is not to be violent, he does it in a playful affectionate way that enhances pleasure, that is how it feels to me and how I receive it. If I tell him I don't want to do something, he will respect it and not push it at all.

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posted August 26, 2018 01:51 PM            

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Originally posted by Lalafortunaea:
I see what you mean, and I wouldn't really call that genuinely violent either. There's regular hard sex and playful roughhousing. Then there are people who like it quite violent, and it's a particular taste, to like that intent. And some people will enjoy the edge of danger. I don't know if you see what I mean here. Perhaps I am not explaining myself well. Hate sex (they call it a hatef***) would be more extreme I think, and that's not what I mean. It's the place between love and hate. Everybody has their own taste, and some people do like it extreme in a very rough way. But when it's super violent and the other person doesn't want it, I think then it becomes a problem. But some people really like that fine line. And some like to cross it and have it crossed.

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I definitely don't do hate sex I read people with Venus in leo cannot separate sex from love, add it falls in my 8th, yes it conjuncts my mars but my Venus/Mars sextiles Pluto and trines Neptune. He has Pluto conjunct AC opposite Mars forming a tsquare with my Venus conjunct Mars which is at the midpoint of his opposition.

WE do playful roughhousing and there is an aggressive dimension (I always bruise,I bruise easily) but not to the level of violent at all but there is more to it than that, he is dominant and there are a few rules and I am submissive and follow orders, although I am not that great at it but I like the dynamics of it lol, I think bc I am rebellious by nature and my mars in Leo in the 8th likes the guy to be in control and in charge, add my sun conjuncts the MC (interesting he is capricorn with Pluto conjunct AC in scorpio and Pluto square Jupiter in Leo). One rule is that I take off all my clothes as soon as I arrive.

I do enjoy the edge of danger, I think that can be an 8th/pluto meets mars thing, he has mars opposite pluto and I have mars in the 8th sextile pluto and trine neptune. I put myself in situations and have been in situations were I am flirting with disaster, I am a thrill seeker, I know this about myself and have accepted it.But there are boundaries I don't cross and edges that I will only very cautiously flirt with.

posted November 08, 2020 01:21 AM            

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Originally posted by hypatia238:
What is your mars placement and aspects?

I didn't like been choked at first either, I think our survival instincts kick in with that one, now I don't mind it...But the shocking thing is more about altering your senses to create a physiological response that enhances pleasure or orgasm but yes is a bit odd I agree.

I am more into other expressions of aggression though like biting that leaves a bruise or been grabbed strongly and firmly, man handled, been spanked hard/spanking, scratched/scratching, I see it as evidence of passion, some pushing each other agaisnt the wall or bed...to me that is my Mars in Leo in the 8th but this conjuncts Venus by less than 1d and that is the part of me that needs sex to involve romantic feelings and be meaningful and that wants to surrender her soul to the other, then my moon in pisces ruling the 8th reinforces this desire to feel vulnerable and surrender to the other and give them my entire heart and soul.

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You hit the nail on the head. I was reading their 8th house Aries likes and couldn’t identify.

I have an Aries 8th house with Mars in Scorpio sextile Venus/Uranus exact.

I like all kinds of sex - passionate love-making, erotic, playful and rough aggressive sex. No preference on gender or any other physical “requirements” (Venus conjunct Uranus). As long as there is variety (Mars/Uranus) I’m happy. If my partner has kinks, let’s play! I like BDSM, I prefer to be the dom, but don’t mind being sub. from time-to-time. Choking, pegging...anything goes for me except group sex as I am a selfish lover. I’m very aggressive once I’m interested and emotionally invested (Eros/Moon) in someone. It takes me quite awhile to warm up (5th house Capricorn), but once I do I have a ravenous appetite. I also love the chase, if you hand me yourself on a platter I’m not interested. I will do anything to get who I want and become very impatient if I have to wait too long. Dirty talk is my forte (Mars in 3rd), words (and intellect) in general turn me on.

posted November 09, 2020 04:21 AM            

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Originally posted by Somna7H:
Neptune Conjunct Juno in Sag 8th H.
I don't like to discuss my Sex Style in public. Though I have no sex life. Lol I said it... 😂

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Sorry forgot to mention that I also have South Node in 8th House Capricorn (Tropical zodiac Placidus).

posted November 18, 2020 01:07 PM            

I am a roller coaster, more or less.

posted November 18, 2020 08:47 PM            

I have Uranus and Neptune in my 8th house and both are stationary rx I believe.

posted November 19, 2020 01:35 AM            

In somewhat recent times, I've been putting up energetic barriers between a twin soul and myself. It's been starting to work--been thinking and more importantly feeling about her less and less. It's like the line from a Zeppelin song, "its fading away, can't feel you anymore."

Anyways, what's been interesting is along with that, my sex drive/focus has gone way down. It's gone from semi-typical guy my age with healthy/normal levels of T, to almost non existent. This is odd, because I only usually experience the latter when I'm meditating deeply and consistently (and I haven't done that in a while).Difference in the latter case is that it becomes truly and fully non existent whereas now, I still have a little bit currently.

I get the sense there is a connection between maintaining these energetic barriers and disconnecting from her energy (at least on an earthly plane sense, in a Spirit sense we're still strongly connected), and this noticeable drop in sexual desire and focus.

Why, because she is a lot more focused in her first 3 centers than I am, A LOT more (she has very strong Aries, Taurus, Scorpio, Pluto combo), and I think our strong energetic connection was starting to resonate me some in those areas more than I normally would be.

I've also gone from being/feeling somewhat angry and resentful feeling at times in relation to her, to even though I've been putting into place energetic barriers, of late, I've softened and just sincerely wish her happiness and healing. This also, is more like my more normal and typical self. With combination of very strong Jupiter, strong Neptune, and angular Pisces SN, I tend to be rather Piscean like in my overall attunement and expression, especially since my Chart ruler, the Sun, has major aspects with both Jupiter and Neptune, and the rulers of my Sun and Moon Signs to Neptune (and ASC is trine Neptune).

posted November 19, 2020 04:31 AM            

Im game over, the one that gets women mad

But like the turkman say, I sin, because I dont do them

Like there is something not been trigeret yet

I had a session with a terapist once, she said my stress in relationships is 100%

posted November 20, 2020 05:30 AM            

So I guess you could consider me a prude if you like.

But it's an empty house thought so it has marginal effect.

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posted December 01, 2020 02:31 PM            

I like kissing, a lot. It is a huge turn on for me. I also enjoy dirty talk and I love to laugh and crack jokes with my partner while we're going at it lool

I love making my partner feel safe, confident and secure. I love spontaneous sex where we kinda just jump into it because we felt like it. I'm open to kinky stuff but I draw the line at pain and hardcore SM. I noticed that I enjoy being the more dominant partner but I don't go overboard with it.

I also don't sleep with people outside of relationships. I can't stand sleeping with strangers. I need genuine, emotional connection to my partners.